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Getting a boyfriend
I have a serious problem with flirting. Everytime I flirt with a guy,they seem totally turned off. I don't say mean things to them or bore them with stupid one liners. What is the best way to get a guy's attention?
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First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].
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Flirting tips:
1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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The best way to get a guys attention is to look and feel confident. When you look confident you look so approachable, and that can get any guy's attention. Also, don't wear a ton of makeup, less is more remember that!
And smile, when you smile you look confident and happy, and any guy will talk to you, you don't have to hardcore flirt to get a guys attention. Walk up and say hi, thats the best way, you look confident, now its his turn.
Confidence goes along way.
And don;t worry about flirting. You can be playful and laugh with out throwing yourself at him. When you look happy and comfortable in your own skin, that attracts any guy. Your attitude is contagious. Youll have a boyfriend sooner than you can say "look at me"
Best of luck, and be confident!!
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First, look confident. Look like you're bored and then casually flirt with them. Joke around with them, make fun of them in a nice way. Roll your eyes, flip your hair, start talking to other people but casually smile at them.
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hope i helped, let me know.
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