Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

im 14 years old(male) and i keep cutting myself. I've tried to stop but i keep doing it. I ve talked with my friends to see if they could help me out and one of them started to cut too! i really dont know what to do please help me out.

Try having your friends and yourself go to a consuler. Either a school one or one out of school. They can give you methods to stop and mediciane if needed. Threapy will help you. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I recently signed up for an online DVD rental membership. The envelope seals have been opened on the past 5 DVDs I have recived. Should I contact the rental company, or should I contact to post office, or try to catch my mailman. It's just too much of a coincidence that they have all comed opened. But I am not sure who to talk to. Is someone looking at the movies? I have a locked mailbox.

Try asking both the post office and the rental company. I suggest trying to reach your post office first. They probably opened it to check it. It's getting annoying, the mail people always checking you packages. Contact both just to make sure. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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i wanna get fatter but ma matabalism is way to high and everyone thinks im anorexic or baliemic and they yell at me when i skip luch cuz i dont got ne money and they think i just say that to get them away so what do i do help me plz. i want to get muscular a fatter ne one kno how to do this

Try asking a doctor. There are medicanes to help you. My friend had this problem also. She joined track and it helped her get bigger muscles. But ask your doctor if gaining weight is right. And do not use HGH defficence (sp?) pills unless you have HGH defficence. If you don't and take the pill its like using steriods. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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im bored any site suggestions for a 14/f?

bored.com
miniclip.com
albnioblacksheep.com
jibjab.com
launch.yahoo.com
addictinggames.com (not sure if there is one g or two)
There are a lot more. If you don't like any of these try searching on google. If you want journal websites try livejournal.com. But I'm not sure how old you have to be to join. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Hi!
Okay, I have babysat before many times but it is always for the same people and i want to start getting more people to know about me...
I dont live in a little town where everyone knows everyone, i live in a big city and i dont even really know my neighbors...so i can i get it out there that i am an exprienced babysitter and i am 16 and i have a car so i dont need rides...
If anyone can help in any way, please let me know!
Thanks!

Try posting flyers around. Or ask the people you usually babysit for if they can try to give recommendaditions (sp?) for you. Also ask your parents to tell people about you at work. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I want to stop biting my nails but I don't know how to. I've tried before and it never seems to work out. My mom tells me to sit on my hands but that doesn't work. I've tried chewing gum and yet I still bite them and my nails are too short to paint. I've even got my nails done before and when I take the fake nails off and my real ones are long they just break off. Any suggestions?

Try putting something on your fingers that tastes terrible. Make sure it's not toxic though. Or give your self a reward whenever you don't bite ypur nails for a whole day. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I know this isn't a question relating to "advice", but I'm going to ask it anyways. I was wondering, does anyone know any sites that you can go on to listen to music without downloading? (You just look up your song and your able to listen to it!)

http://www.launch.yahoo.com
You can search for the song here. However, it only has songs that have music videos unless you listen to launch radio. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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does anyone know foods that have no carbs or sugar??

Water. Everything has carbs/sugar. If it doesn't there is a change you will get a brain tumer from it. Cut down on pasta, breads, ect if you're on a low carb diet. Or if you want to snack the low sugar/carb candies are really good. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Last night my friends and I went to McDonald's and one of my friends got an oreo McFlurry... Well i was driving my dad's car and apparently she spilled it all over the backseat and now there is black oreo stuff all over and I have no idea how to get it out! My dad will be so mad if he sees it! So if you have any ideas about stuff i could use that i wouldp probably have sitting around the house i would really appreciate it!

Is it leather? If it is shoe polish should get it out. If it's that fuzzy stuff then try vaccuming it. However, if you can your best bet is to go to a car cleaner. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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OK I see a lot of those "About me" things in people's profiles. I really want one in mine but don't know where to get one. I have seen many different ones, liek the one with the alphabet going down and you fill in [A]ge___ anyone heard of those? If anyoen has some or knows where to find one let me know!! Please and thanks.

You don't find them anywhere. You basically make them up yourself. I had one on my AIM profile. You keep stuff like age but if you can't think of something for that letter than you mnake something up. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Hey, I know your subjects aren't computers, but I'm sure you'll know the answer, I'm really sorry to bug you, but I noticed on your page you have background music and stuff, I went to the website where you got it, and I know the music I want, I know how to copy it, but where exactly do I paste it on advicenators, like on column settings, profile settings? I'd really appreciate it if you'd get back to me on it and help me, thank you.

You pate it on profile settings. Where it says tytpe your profile here or whatever. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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There was no Funky Light category, so Random Weirdos will work.

About 5 days ago, i bought myself a lava lamp. On the package, it stated that i should let it go for 4-6 hours the first time i use it. I've done that and all, but now everytime i use it, it still takes 40-55 minutes to actually get going with the lava.

My question is, to all of you lava lamp experts, is will the "starting up" time get faster? Is there something i can do to make it go a little faster?

Thanks.

Sorry, but it doesn't get faster. Usually the stuff in there floats around for a while then starts to move and stuff. I'm not sure if you can do anything to make it go faster but that stuff is toxic so don't try! I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Ok, my head hurts really bad. Its not a headache ( I know when I have a headache) and Its kind of a weird feeling, like my head is a melon and everytime I lay down or bend over, my head feels like its goign to fall off. My nose is all stuffy and I have no idea if I am getting sick or what. What do you think this is, the flu? What should I take (over the counter) to help me get better? Thanks

This is some kind of sicknes. You most likely have the a or the flu. I usually get those symptoms when I am sick as well. Try taking some pain killers to ease the pain and take tylonol. You should also try and go to the doctor because this may be an ear infection which needs a perscription. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Hi,
My baby rabbit just died from a heart problem :'( We knew she was gonna die because she was very ill, but we got her anyway because we wanted to give her the best life we could because we knew it would be short!! So, we got another rabbit with her. Now our baby rabbit has died, the other is soo lonley!! My mum wants another rabbit to keep her company but I'm not sure, I don't think I'm ready to have another one in her place just like that. Am I being selfish by not wanting another rabbit even though the other one is lonley? What should I do?

You're not being selfish at all. It's hard to deal with a death, even if it is a pet. Pets are very important to pet owners, so it does take some time to heal. However, sooner or later I think you should get another rabbit. It will make your other one feel less lonely. Don't worry the new one will not replace the old one it will just be another animal to love. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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My dog urinates on my mothers pillow every few weeks I have no idea why. Can you give me any ideas why? Thanks. (PS- we have no other pets)

Is your dog a male or female? If it's a male it probably is trying to send out a sign that the pillow is his. If it's a female I'm not quite sure why. Maybe the same reason? Try asking your vet also. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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hey ok here is the thing i know its a lil confusin but plz try and help..last night 2 of my closest friends one as my best friend and one whom i know and im a lil close with who i saw twice, they both r in 8th then me so there still in the jr. high so i dont know what goes on between them since im in the high school now. well my friend comes on and tells me that my friend slapped him across the face and called him a jack@$$...but then again i dont blame her bc i would have done the same thing most likely...the thing is that i still want to be friends with him but i dont know if i want to, i dont want my BFF to get mad..though we have gotten into a fight over the summer me. vs. her n my X-BFF and anyways we became friends again and all n my X-BFF was ok with that...now i dont know if i could do this because i miss him and i do want to see him again..i just dk where i could go to hang out with him n still be friends bc im not allowed to go to the movies with guys nor can i go to their houses or have them over till im 16...we have gone to the mall twice but she was with us so i dont think the mall would be such a gr8 idea...he said well see how things work out between us and well work from there on where we can see each other or we would just have to wait till next school year to see each other again..which i dont know bc she'll also be in the school with us and i really know what to do...
i know she liked him and i liked him too @ the time but he was in a grade younger so i know i wouldnt be able to see him much till next year...so i just backed off think i may like him...i dk i how that would effect her..i asked them both if they would ever be friends again..she said she didnt know n he said he doubts it...im feel like im stuck in the middle of this and i dont want to take sides..since i was right there on-line in the chat when the whole fight broke out.

btw he is in a grade younger...yet he is 2 months older so he is now 15

You have to tell your best friend that you still want to be friends with this other guy. Talk about how you want to be friends with both of them. Make it clear that you don't want to take sides:furthermore, that you just want to be friends with both of them. If your best friend does not accept this its not worth being friends with her. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I have a math test tomorrow and I really don't understand some of the stuff! We're doing subtraction of postive and negative integers. Some examples are:

3 - (-6)

40 - (-14)

17 - 15

Can anyone please give me the answers to these problems and tell me how you got that answer? PLEASE HELP ME!!! I'll rate 5's!!!

I just took a test on this! For the subtraction problems you make the subtraction sign an addition sign and change the sign of the second number to its oppistie (ie: positve becomes negitive, negitive becomes positive). If you need any more help with this ask me. By the way imagine it as a number line. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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How do you put on a bandana? (I.e. how do you fold it and attach it correctly etc?)

First you fold it in a triangle. A bigger triangle is good so it's easier to fit your head. Then you simply place it on your head and tie it behind your ears. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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So my best friend was having a panic attack today because her mom found out she was homosexual and liked a teacher. Her mom supposedly called her teacher and told her everything. I have done all I can to help, but the thing is that her mother didn't want her to stay at home and so she went to her grandma's, but her mother didn't want her there either. Am I supposed to let her sleep over at my house?

You should let her stay over there for a while. After everything settles down you, your mom, your friend, and your friend's mom need to have a disscousion on what you guys are going to do. But for now your friend needs someone to be there and you could do that for her. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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