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What are some reasons why a man would stay in a bad marriage? A friend of mine is married to an older woman who is mentally and financially abusive to him. She tries to control his friendships and won't let him talk on his phone to some of his friends. She has also isolated him from his family. She is a very bitter, jealous, vindictive woman. She is extremely unnatrractive because she's been smoking since she was 12. Her teeth are stained and her face is all wrinkled. She looks 20 years older than her real age (54). That part shouldnt matter except her personality is just as ugly. They have no children together, but she has two grown kids from her first marriage. They are both heroin addicts, and have stolen in total 6000 dollars from my friends credit card.
They use to run a cafe together and lost customers because they fought like cats and dogs. I heard they would scream at each other. I don't think he loves her, atleast not anymore. He's even admitted to customers that he hated having to put up with working with her everyday. I doupt they even have sex anymore. So my question is why do you think they are still together? Do you think he's afraid of what she might do to him if he left?

He could be very set in his wedding vows as said before OR he may be having a self-image problem. He may not be able to admit to himself that he is a battered husband. The very thought of it may make him feel like less of a man. He probably puts up with it because it is the "man" thing to do. Try to get him to see a relationship counselor or other professional. Preferably without his wife. He really needs to get out of that situation! Good luck!

I was wondering if there was anyway to find out someones email address just from their AIM name? I already looked at their directory info and they dont have any and it isnt an aol name...

Nope. There's privacy issues involved. If the person doesn't want their screenname disclosed, then it's not.

I do believe, however, that you can e-mail their screenname. I've never done it before and, personally, I think it's kind of dumb, but if that's something you wanna do the more power to you. I guess it's a good way to send someone something if they're not online and you don't know any of their other contact information. The address should be their screenname at aim.com. So for example for the screenname sweetNcutebaby05, the e-mail address would be sweetncutebaby05@aim.com. I've never tried it so if it doesn't work sorry.

You can always just ask the person for their e-mail address though. I'm sure they would give it to you :)

Good luck!

hey!!
basically i can't help but flirt with any boy!! seriously! but the thing is it works; most boys that i flirt with end up liking me (they tell me) but usually they're the wrong 1s. but when they tell me i usually pity them and say that i like them back (but half the time i don't!!)
help im only 13!!

This is very normal. Lots of people are the flirty type and even more go through a phase when they are like this. It's not necessarily a bad thing and flirting is lots of fun, but it can bring some unwanted attention your way. It's hard to tell guys that you don't like the truth because then they'll stop flirting with you, but if they get too attached it can get ugly. Hard or no, it's something that is best that you do. If they tell you that they like you, you need to tell them the truth. If you don't, they could end up waiting around for something that will never happen and miss out on a great relationship with someone else. Do it for their sake as well as for yours. Don't worry, there are guys out there that like to flirt for fun too that you most likely won't have to let down. I wish you strength and luck. Happy flirting!

OK, so me and my boyfriend had sex for like 2 minutes at the most!!! He didnt ejaculate or anything but i need to know if theres a chance i could still get pregnant!!! Please help, its urgernt!!!

Yes you can! It's a small chance, but any chance isn't worth taking when it comes to possibly getting pregnant. Get a day after pill as soon as you can. It's effective up to 72 hours after the incident and might still work after 120. So, basically, you have 3 days. It's available over the counter in, I believe 6 US states, California being one of them, just recently New York, and in some other countries. If you don't live in one of these places, you will need to go to either a health clinic, a college campus health center, or a hospital. It's not that hard to get. I'm sure if you go to a drug store, if it's not available there they will tell you where it is closest to you. It's very important that you do this. I'm sure you'd rather your parents found out about this than having to tell them that you're pregnant or have to pay for an abortion. If you can, get a friend, a trusted family member, or your boyfriend to take you. Emergency contraception is not an abortion and will not kill an already living embryo. It just prevents one from forming, so if you're against abortions, you've got nothing to worry about. Lastly, I hope that this really teaches you a valuable life lesson. Make SURE that you use some form of protection next time and know what you're getting into before you do it. It's easy to get caught up in the moment, but you need to be smart about it and be able to control yourself a little better. That said, I wish you luck.

Oh, and it shouldn't cost you more than $20.

Iam going to babysit my cousin during my spring break vacation from school a whole week and he's Autistic.what kind of activities could I do with him while his mom's at collage?what if he has a seizer while iam baby sitting?what should I do?

Just wondering, but why did you give me a 2? Isn't that a little excessive? Not to be vain or anything, but I thought I answered your question quite well considering I've babysat for and worked with lots of autistic children and adults before. Wow, I'm really in shock.

Oh, sorry I didn't see your additional information. When I said aunt I was referring to your autistic cousin's parents. Again, sorry about that. :)

Find out what he likes. If you have a bunch of activities planned, he may not want to do any of them and be miserable the whole time. You can ask your aunt or your cousin himself about what kind of things you should do. He may want to watch a lot of TV, or just play with toys, listen to music, or do puzzles. Like with any child, he will like different things. All autistic kids are different. Seisures. It's really an awful thing to experience, but you always have to be prepared. First, move things away from him that he could hurt himself on, like tables and stuff. Don't move him. If there's something you can't move out of the way, just put a pillow over it or something. If he starts thrashing around try to hold him still as best you can. Put a cold washcloth on his forehead and use it to wipe off his mouth if you have too. Turn him sideways if he throws up. If it lasts for more than a minute you need to call 911 and get him to a hospital. Just be really strong and try not to get scared. It seems like it lasts forever, but it should all be over very soon and the chances of having to call for help are very small. Afterwards keep a very close eye on him. He'll be disoriented and my talk nonsense or accidentally hurt himself. Basically, he'll act similarly to if he were extremely drunk. After everything is over and you're sure he's alright call your aunt and let her know what happened. Stress the fact that everything is okay so that she doesn't get worried, but she does need to know. That's been my experience, but if your aunt tells you anything different listen to her. Ask her what to do too because, again, all autistic kids are different and have different needs. I know that all that probably scared you, but there's nothing to be scared about. I have a cousin with epilepsy and I used to babysit her all the time. She never had a seisure and it was a really great and rewarding experience for me to have so much contact with her. I learned a lot from her and we always had such a great time together. I wish you the best of luck and remember to ask your aunt these questions.

Hi there ive had a problem for awhile now and i need some help!
(i am a 19 and my ex is 20)Me and my ex were daten for about a year and a half when he broke up with me 4months ago because he said he didtn love me anymore...well the thing is that he dated a girl right after we broke up and then dumped her cuz he said he couldnt be her bf and my friend at the same time which is lame but anyways...we have hung out and talked on the phone everynite seems they broke up and when we hangout we hold hands a lay together but theres times when we are together that he just looks into my eyes and doesnt look away and i love it. they thing is that i wanna be with him but i dont know how he feels there has been 2 times that i have told him how i feel and both times he just lets me down...about 3weeks ago we were at his house layn together talking bout our lives and stuff and he said that theres no other girl that will take my spot in his heart and that he will never love another girl as mush as me and that when he moves to go to school that he wants us to talk everynite. he said he wants everything stay the same and not change when he moves. when he hugs me he holds on tight and last nite i was over there and theres this guy at the gym that likes me and he knows that and everytime i work out my ex is there to and this guy has asked me out a few times but i dont like him that way and my ex said last nite he wants to beat his a** because hes talking to me...if he didnt like me then y does he want to do that. he has been asked to go to partys with some guys at work and he still hasnt gone...theres girls at work that he thinks are cute and he told his best friend he was going to get there numbers and he has an excuse everytime he doesnt ask for it...im the one girl in his phone that he talks to and he still calls me the cute names he did when we were daten...so im not sure what he wants and what i should do!! please help me!! thank you

He lied to you. He didn't break up with you because he didn't love you. Whether he loves you or not, it's got nothing to do with the breakup. He broke up with you because he is moving. He knows that long distance relationships are hard and he'd rather have a nice breakup than a really sad one. Sure, it's POSSIBLE that you two wouldn't break up, but the chances are small and you'll have to go through a lot of pain and work really hard to stay together especially after being so close for so long. You need to talk to him about this. Tell him that you know he lied to you about why he broke up with you. You two need to talk about the possibility of a long distance relationship and if it is something that you want, tell him that. Things can be worked out between you two if you want them to be. If you'd rather just go your separate ways, you need to start doing that. You can't hang on to him and miss other opportunities around you. Yes, it's okay to talk to him a lot, but no more intimacy. This really is a big decision for you to make and I hope that you are happy in whatever you choose. Good luck!

what does it mean when someone has boyish charm?

lol, this may be random, but someone said this today and i was a bit confused.

I think it means when an older man acts younger. He's charming in a young, innocent, cute, refreshing, boyish way. I could be off, but that's how I've always interpreted it.

I'm a junior in highschool. I've taken Biology and Chemistry. I passed Bio with an 89 and I passed Chem with a 96. So next year I have to decide to take physics or bio 2. The physics teacher says there is a lot of math involved. And I'm a strong math student. But I talked to my sister and she said it was really hard(but she's not a strong math student). The physics teacher doesn't have tests in her class and hardly any homework. Then the bio teacher says that her class will better prepare you for college. She says that she helps us with studying and everything. But she said you will have to work your butt off for an A. The bio teacher said that we will have to take bio in college no matter what we want to major in(which I have no clue what I want to do) so I don't know if I should take bio and be more prepared or physics. Any advice?

Take Physics. I didn't find high school physics to be that hard. Depending on what you major in, Physics can be required in college too. It is for me and if I hadn't taken it in high school I would have failed it in a snap. Biology can be required, but you've already taken a Biology course and that will be a sufficient introduction to college Biology. The wider range of things you take in high school, the more prepared you will be for whatever you decide to do in college. Also, talk to your guidance counselor about it before making your final decision. This is what they're for! I hope I helped you and good luck!!

I have a math teacher and theres a bunch of girls that likes him. So I found out that they call him on his cell phone and they talk to him on the internet. I find this very strange
because he is like 25 and he lives with his parents and he's single. Half the girls that has his number is between 12-13. I have a bad feeling about this teacher because he goes to ball games and sits with those girls. Does anyone have any idea's on what to do?

There are a lot of teachers like this, trust me. You just haven't come across any others. There were a lot of them at my high school and nothing bad ever happened. All the things that you are saying that he is letting them do sound very normal to me because I've seen it so much from so many teachers throughout high school and even college. It really isn't that bad, it just seems so because it's the first time you have seen it. It's just a different style of teaching and nothing to worry about.

Whoa, I think everyone needs to calm down a little bit. Young teachers tend to need to be liked by their students. They have more friendlike, fun-loving relationships. Teachers are supposed to give out their phone numbers so that students can reach them if they have any problems. The only thing that I find strange is that they call him all the time and he doesn't get annoyed enough to tell them to stop. I used to call some teachers by just their last names, and even by their FIRST names, so that's not a problem in the slightest. Again, young teachers tend to want the classroom to be more of a fun environment than a formal one. The reason I can vouch for him is because I was a counselor at a camp and we were told that it wasn't that great of an idea to give out our e-mail addresses or our screennames to our campers. I did that and some other things that I shouldn't have, but I won't get into it all haha. None of it did any harm and none of it was inappropriate. It was just stuff that could be interpreted in the wrong way that I was too young and desperate to be liked to even realize this. I was a young, new counselor and wanted to be liked by my campers more than I thought about the consequences of some of the things I did. I wanted to be the cool one and what harm could giving out my screenname really do? Or letting a camper wear one of my t-shirts because she had run out of clothes? I gave all of them my e-mail address and my screenname. After a while they started IMing me. Sure, some of them were cool and I didn't mind. But so many of them got horribly annoying and I didn't have the heart to tell them to stop talking to me. I think he may be in a situation much like this. He hasn't done anything inappropriate so don't jump down his throat. I think he just, being young, made a mistake and is paying for it. I think that a lot of teachers go through this, just like I did. Don't do anything about Mr. Cornett because nobody can do anything unless something actually happens and, honestly, it is very highly unlikely that it will. He's treating all of the girls the same way. It's not like he's doing it to just one girl. The chance of something happening is just the same as with any other teacher. Try not to worry about this so much and try to have fun in his more casual classroom setting. I hope that I helped you and good luck.

I like this guy who is kind of a teacher at my college. Is there a rule against dating the staff?

He's "kind of" a teacher? I'm not sure if you were trying to be delicate or if he really is somehow "kind of" a teacher. Try to be more clear next time. Anyways, yes it's definitely not okay to date a teacher or professor. Plus, it's very common for students to be attracted to their teachers, but if he's not attracted to you, how do you expect to date him? Sure he may like you and be nice to you, but since you like him, you are going to interpret his actions much differently than his actual feelings and intentions. Please reconsider your plans to try to date him. Not only is it not allowed, it's wrong and he could get into a LOT of trouble for it. I hope I helped you and good luck.

I'm a 22 year old girl and my 24 year old boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly 5 years. I wasn't initially attracted to him but when we got talking I noticed he had a different, positive way of thinking which appealed to me. He was only 19 at the time but he had set up his own business at 17, had a strong desire to make money and was full of remarkable ideas. I had never talked to anyone around my own age who was so focused on their future and wanted the same things I did. He gave me a different perspective of looking at the world which then in turn lead to me starting my own business a couple years later. We both enjoy the fine things in life and are set on reaching our goals of being successful and having financial freedom so we can live the 'high life'. The problem is that when we first met we were all over each other at every opportunity, sex was a big part of our lives. We were living together not long after we met but had to move into my mums house for 6 months, 3 years ago when we were both having financial difficulties. Having sex regularly became a bit of an issue but we still got by. When he moved out we lived separately for a while and we found we still didn't have regular sex. I wasn't really as interested anymore as it felt routine and I was too familiar with all his moves. We'd already done most of of the sexual things we'd wanted to do together throughout our relationship so to me it seemed hard to spice up. My boyfriend wasn't bothered by it, he just wanted sex with me in any way, shape or form. We have now gone from having sex a few times every day to once a week then once a month to not at all. In my mind it is because there is no longer any lust. He has given up on initiating sex because he knows I'll reject him. Over the last year he's gained a beer belly and although he has never been overly fashionable I find his constantly casual clothes, never changing hair and carelessness with his appearance is getting to me - although he's not unclean. I'm no longer sexually attracted to him anymore and even though I had thought our personalities complimented each other so much that we were meant to be I now find myself picking on parts of his personality that never bothered me before. I still love him overall but I'm not sure if I was ever inlove with him. We still hug and talk to each other but only give each other a peck on the lips and no longer have sex. I do want sex but with someone who makes me swoon. Someone who is sexy, stylish, artistic and deep - things I think my boyfriend lacks. If we broke up and I found someone with these qualities would I then be satisfied? Or would I be sacrificing a valuable long-term love with someone who treats me like a princess and wants the same future? What if I got my hot guy fix then realised I'd done the wrong thing, would I ruin what I've got. My boyfriend thinks that I'd discover that I can't find my ideal and that we're meant to be but by then he says it would be too late. He'd be with someone who loves him flaws and all and wouldn't want me after I've been with another guy. We live together so it's not an easy decision to make... Perhaps we need a break? Perhaps we should stay together because this is what relationships are like after 5 years or perhaps I should start a new life but is it possible to find long-term happiness with my 'dream guy'? I'm so confused and don't want to hurt my boyfriend because he's also my friend but I need some lust in my life. Help!!!

This will happen with any guy that you are with. After awhile the passion fades in any and all relationships. If you leave this guy and find someone else, the very same thing will happen to you in a few years almost guaranteed. If you keep searching for everlasting lust on your own, this will happen over and over again and you'll go through so many relationships and probably divorces too, never finding someone that you can be happy with. You two need to see a relationship counselor. If he won't go, just go yourself. A counselor can really help you and give you ways to spice up your relationship or cope with and understand the downward slope of passion that you're going through. I really hope that you both go, it will help so much. Good luck!

A married man who I have known for a couple of years, and used to be friends with him and his wife phoned me up recently and asked me if I wanted to meet him in another city. He was getting his trailer hitched to his truck and said it was going to take a couple of hours. He said if I picked him up, while he was waiting for the trailer to be hitched that he would treat me to lunch and we could go shopping, and he'd pay for my gas. When I picked him up he said that he didnt want me to tell anyone we were doing this. First we went to the mall (remember this is in another city). He walked VERY close to me, we could have been joined at the hip. After when we went to a restaurant for lunch, he never mentioned his wife once, and instead was asking me personal questions about where I was going to meet Mr. Right. He was being very flirtatious, and I caught him staring at me romantically. When we got back into my car for the drive back to the trailer he watched me suck on a sucker from the restaurant and told me I had a "sucker fetish". I felt it was a very sexual thing to say. He was also staring at my lips when I applied lip gloss and looked like he was getting turned on.
So my question is, would this be considered cheating on his wife? Although we never had sex? I'm feeling really guilty.
signed, feeling guilty

Not at all. Neither of you can help if he likes you. That's just the way it is. He's still with his wife and nothing happened between you. It's only cheating if he actually does something. He probably would have tried if he was that type of guy, but he didn't. It's perfectly normal to feel guilty that he likes you, but not because you feel like he cheated. You'll feel better about it with a little time. I hope that I helped you and good luck.

I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?

13/F

Thanks so much !!

Definitely not! If you feel love for him, yes, tell him. Remember that your feelings can always change and just as long as you feel love for him at the time that you tell him then it's perfectly okay. Personally, I don't think that you are too young to love. Yes, it takes some time to understand what love is, but that doesn't mean that you can't feel it. Love is usually different when you're 13 and when you're 31, but it's just different. Good luck!

My boyfriend sort of fingered me last night, it's not the first time. This time he wasn't going into the "hole", he was moving his finger around the top, forcefully. I don't know what he did, but it hurt, and now this morning its extremely sore. The specific part it hurts at is the top of the clit, there is something like a small ball. It hurts to touch. What did he do and is something wrong with it? What should I do?

Well, if your boyfriend is doing something to you that hurts tell him to stop! That is very very important. He doesn't know that it's hurting you, he's not trying to hurt you and it's not going to hurt his feelings if you do say something. I'm kind of afraid for you. You need to stick up for yourself sexually or you're going to end up letting him rape you. If you don't say "no" there's no way for him to know that what he's doing is not okay. I don't think anything was damaged. It's probably a bruise or something. I would wait a few days to see if it gets better. After 2 weeks and it's still really bad, you should see a doctor. It would be best if you didn't make up a story, but I think that it would be okay in this case if you were too embarassed that you would't even go if you had to tell the truth. I hope that I helped you and good luck.

Me and my boyfriend were just talking and stuff (we've been together for a lil over a month) we went out before in the summer and that lasted almost 4 months but anyways he told me im the only girl he ever loved n stuff and how much i mean to him and he told my best friend one of his wishes and its nothing gross or anything but idk is this a weird wish for a guy to want?

he wants to marry me when we are older... like 6-7 years from now.

Is that weird?

It's not weird at all. Neither of you are ready though and you're definitely not close enough yet to be thinking seriously about this sort of thing. It's fun to talk about the future and how it would be if you two did get married, but if it goes a step further and he proposes, or something crazy like that, don't accept just because you feel like you have to or don't want to hurt his feelings. Official engagement is a big thing that you aren't ready for at all judging by your age, the amount of time you've been with him, and the fact that you've already been through a break-up. All you have to do is say that you're not ready to take that step yet, and you want to slow down a little because going this fast is making you uncomfortable. He'll be disappointed for a little while, but you won't end up in the middle of a huge mess. Again though, it's not weird to just think about it or talk about it. Doing it would be not only weird, but wrong. I hope I helped you and good luck!

I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

For the most part girls tend to me more emotional and guys tend to be more physical when it comes to sex related stuff. It's hard to understand what's going through your guy's mind sometimes and this is one of those times for you. You can't stop him from looking at other girls. It's just not possible. And you CANNOT say that you have never looked at another guy while with him and thought to yourself he's hot. You just can't. You know you have. The fact that he is talking to you about this is a good thing. If he were sneaking around behind your back that's when you should get worried. You are in a good relationship right now, don't mess it up by trying to control him in ways that he can't be controlled. If he doesn't want to be with you he doesn't want to be with you and you can't stop that. Right now that isn't the case. He is trying so hard to make you happy. Relationships need to have a little give and take though. The more controlling you are the more he will be inclined to cheat if he decides that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. He may even do it out of spite to prove that he is a man and can't be controlled by some girl. Cheating is worse than breaking up. If he wants to go to the strip club, yes tell him how you feel about it, but don't tell him that he can't go and don't tell him that he can't get turned on by other women. Because first off, he can and second off, it's his choice. You are acting kind of like a parent that doesn't let their kids go out with their friends or date until they're 18. You're not his parent, you are his equal in a relationship. If you can't tolerate his choices then you shouldn't be with him. There are guys out there that aren't all that into strip clubs and porn. I'm sure you can find one if your current relationship falls apart because of this. Awhile ago I learned to deal with all this from my guy and now, after a bit of time I actually understand it. I think that you should give it a chance. You're going to feel jealous especially at first, but if you really want to be with this guy wait it out some more and see if you can get a better understanding of him. The closer you two get the more exclusive he will be sexually. Definitely voice your opinions, but listen to his too and try to work things out together. Relationships take time. If he's worth it, put the time into it that it needs. Good luck.

My bf came over to my place one day while I went to check my mail. I came back with all my mail, a couple of bills, and one letter that had no return address on it. My bf got very suspicous and asked me who could of wrote it. I said I didnt know, and that it was none of him business. He accused me of cheating on him. I got really mad and told him to leave. He said he wouldnt leave until I opened the letter. I told him no, so he grabbed the letter and opened it. It turned out to be my cousin. I told him we were through.
Is what he did illegal? I heard someone say once that it's illegal to open someone elses mail. Does anyone here know?

Yes it's quite illegal. Don't press charges or anything though, that would be going a little overboard. Plus, a broken heart is suffering enough. It's good that you broke up with him. He needs to trust you a lot more than that for the relationship to work. What he did was really silly and you definitely did the right thing. Good luck!

Okay theres this boy that i like and he likes me too.But he hasent asked me out at all? He sends mix signals and i never know if he truley does like me. I mean i understand if he dosent like me and dosent ask me out. But why would he say he did like me and than not ask me out? Its not like im going to say no, if i said i liked him. Does anyone have the slitest clue on what is going on? Im seriously confused.

Thankss a bunch.

This could be one of two things. He's could be shy about it and doesn't know how to go about asking you out. Maybe he's embarassed about it or is afraid that you would say no. The other thing it could be is that he just isn't sure. Have you ever been entirely sure if you liked someone at first? Give him a little time to sort things out and if he doesn't make a move and you want to date him, YOU can ask him. It's not the guys' responsibility or duty or job to do the asking. It's just as scary for him to do it as for you. The worst he can do is say no and then you just move on. Good luck!

what does the song "konstantine" by something corporate mean?

It's basically about a young couple, the guy is probably a senior in high school, a year out of high school, or a dropout and the girl is considerably younger than him. Probably 16 or so. They recently broke up because they wanted different things in life. They had had a happy relationship for a long time and as they got older they realized that they wanted different things in life and if they stayed together they'd be holding each other back. They had been happy together though and had made lots of memories together. Neither of them have found anyone else yet and they keep holding onto each other because after being together they can't stand not having someone to be with. Alcohol seems to play a pretty big role in it too. They drink and keep getting back together because of the alcohol. The song is more like a poem or a work of art than a story though. There's lots of wordplay and it seems like Something Corporate wanted it to be more emotional and beautiful than interpretable. I think it's supposed to be confusing and open to your own interpretation so that almost anyone can identify with it and like it. I hope I helped and I really love this song too, it's one of my very favorites!

Hey. I asked this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=415956

What I'm trying to do with the pictures are just either making them smaller or bigger. But Infranview has(atleast I think) giving me problems. Everytime I choose a size, go to photobucket & upload it, it turns either smaller or just the size the picture was before I did anything to it. Get it? Well you told me to come back to ask you, so I did. =)

Hopefully you can help me out.

Hmm...I'm really not sure what's wrong, that's definitely weird. I've never had problems with IrfanView before. I was thinking maybe that when you upload pictures to photobucket it automatically resizes them? That is a complete guess, but it does make sense. I have a feeling that I heard that somewhere. I tried looking it up, but didn't find anything. Try uploading your pictures somewhere else like yahoo photos or myspace or something and see if you have the same problem. Otherwise I don't really know what to tell you sorry! I hope that you figure it out and good luck. :)

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