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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I really messed up. My friend told me that my crush, let's call him J, said that i need to leave him alone and to never talk to him again. I did the wrong thing and told him that he was a jerk without confirming that he indeed said what my friend said J said. When he messaged me back, he sounded really mad and ready to press harrassment charges on me if i wrote back. I wrote back saying sorry and that i am misunderstood at home and mistreated at school and i dont think that he will believe me.

What can i do now?

You need to explain to J why you acted the way you did.

You cannot blame it on the way you're treated as that has nothing to do with anything.

Okay, So I'm 15 years old,a girl. Sophomore soon to be Junior this fall. I met this guy in theatre awhile ago. We'll call him A. He's 20 years old now. I have liked him for so long and I've had a feeling he liked me too. So one night he came over for dinner and my parents really like him. He also asked me to the movies before then, but my dad was not going for it. So we talk on the phone occasionally text alot. Then the other night we kind of told eachother how we felt. He actually likes me too. We just know this age thing isn't going to workout. Also, he's transferring to another college in the state in late August. So I was wondering what I should do. I mean the next day after we talked. We hung out. We kissed. Alot. So I'm just wondering how I should go about this. I've never fell for a guy this hard. This sweet and such. I just don't want to be more hurt when he leaves then I would have if nothing happened at all.[BTW he's not like a pedaphile or anything. I know he's old and all but nothing like that.]
Thanks for any help you can give me.

I believe the whole 'Age is just a #' thing, BUT I don't think it's safe to be dating someone who's 20 when you're 15. While I've done it, I don't recommend it.

If anyone was to find out, it could get this guy into trouble since you're a minor & he is an adult. Kissing you is illegal. He may not be a pedophile, but that doesn't mean what he's doing isn't illegal because it is.

If you really like this guy, you'll leave him alone until you're 18 because you can get him into trouble. Obviously if you like him, you don't want that to happen.

today i let my friend borrow my mascara.
later today she went home sick and has a sinus infection
could i get sick from letting her use my mascara?

Yes, you can. I suggest you either let her keep your mascara, or throw it away & buy a new tube.

Me and my boyfriend were trying for a baby. We split up and i am now going out with someone who i love very much. Problem is i think i could be pregnant with my ex's baby. I know this because i haven't slept with my current boyfriend. If i am pregnant i dont think i would want to keep the baby because i dont feel i am ready to have a child at the moment. I am still rather young. But i dont really agree to termination? So what do i do if i am pregnant?

I would carry the baby to term & then give it up for adoption. There are people who will love your baby when you cannot. You can look here:

www.adoption.com

Most will pay the hospital fees and anything else if you're looking for any other types of compensation. You can also have an open adoption which is where the family you give the baby to keeps you updated with pictures and/or visits. :)

It's a very good solution, and most people don't look into it enough. I hope things work out. :)

random question. do guys like girls to have fake nails because they look pretty? or do they prefer them not to because it makes them seem high maintenance?

guys answers would be appreciated. thanks!

I've had previous boyfriends in the past that liked it when I got my nails done because it looked nice. My current boyfriend is the same way. I don't get them done very often, but he loves when I do get them done.

I don't think guys really notice it too much. If they think it makes you look high maintenance, then they're stupid. Having fake nails doesn't make anyone seem high maintenance at all. It just means someone wants to look nice. There's nothing wrong with that.

Continue to get your nails done. :) You're fine.

ok so when i shave down there, i can get to everything like theres some hairs that are noticable but they're kinda short. do guys care about that like everything else is clean and shaved all the way down

17/femalllle.

No. If they're stupid enough to care, then they should be on their own.

Im 18/f almost 19. and my boyfriend is 22/m. I dont know why but lately i've really wanted to have a baby. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he said he wants one to just not now. Maybe like in 2 years or so he suggested. We've been together for almost a year, and are really in love. Is it normal to want a baby this bad? I'm on birth control, and my boyfriend when we have sex he cums in me. I know birth control isnt 100% effective but is it normal to sometimes secretly wish you were part of that .1% that get pregnant? I know babies are alot of responsibility and money and such. I dont need that lecture. Can somebody please just give me some advice? Thanks alot!

I honestly think you're a little young to be getting pregnant. It's normal to want children, but I don't find it normal that you would hope your birth control fails.

If you're looking for someone to love you, stick with your boyfriend & your family. While babies do provide love, they need a lot of love back & they are a lot of work. Babies cannot fix problems within a relationship (even if you don't think your relationship is problematic) and they should not be used as a band-aid.

I think you should wait a while before you decide to reproduce. Graduate from high-school, get a job & move out on your own. Once you can handle working full time & getting an education & paying for your own things, then you can consider having a baby, but until then I think you should just enjoy your life. Babies can give a lot to you, but they can also take a lot away. Enjoy yourself first. There's no need to be in a rush to grow up. :)

So, my uncle had something called polio when he was a little boy and one of his legs is all small and weird. He has trouble walking because of it and so now that he's aged a bit he is in a motorized wheelchair. I don't want to bring up touchy subjects about the illness or disease so I don't want to ask him but I am curious...

What is polio?
&
Does everyone with polio have one skinny leg and one regular sized leg or was that a freak occurrence?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polio

This site will tell you all about it.

It is 68 outside and 78 in here. Yet I have all the windows open and a fan going (I have no ceiling fans though). I don't understand why it is 10 degrees different outside.

I'm in a 2 bedroom apartment, what can I do to draw cold air in? Thanks.

It's possible the thermostat is turned up. Turn it down, and see what happens.

If that doesn't work, or isn't the case, buy a window fan or two. Those work pretty well. :)

At my school, a famous author came to visit us. My friends saw her talk about various books and authors that she knew well. They told me she was friends with Stephenie Meyer (author Twilight, New Moon, Eclipse, and Breaking Dawn) and that she (Stephenie Meyer) will continue working on the Twilight series (as she currently is, according to this author). Some months ago though parts of Midnight Sun had leaked out and she said she was not going to write any more on that book in the Twilight series?! Do you think Stephenie Meyer is actually going to do it or do you think the author that came to the school didn't know what she was talking about?

P.S. I didn't want to put the actual author's name in this just in case the information is completely false and embarrassing to her later, but this is factual information.

As far as I know, her website says that she is not going to finish writing Midnight Sun. It ended up leaking online, and I guess she now doesn't see a point in continuing the writing process.

Here's where you can read what she has to say:

http://www.stepheniemeyer.com/midnightsun.html

There you go! :) I hope this answers all of your questions. I guess if you have anymore, it'd be best to e-mail her?

How do doctors tell if you're overweight? Is there a guide to go by or something?

They weigh you, determine your BMI, and then tell you.

why's it that when girls cry over a guy he comes back to them? like shouldn't he not because they're showing their weak? idk im still in love with my ex and we broke up like a month and a half ago =/

Crying isn't a weakness, and I hate that people think it is.

Guys don't always come back. Once the relationship is over, that's it. Sobbing will not help to fix the problems the relationship had & the person has to get over it.

ive been dating this guy for 3-4 weeks now. I go on my facebook this morning and he changed his relationship statues to single, and changed his myspace. I called him two times and he didn't answer either. He took me of his tops (i was his number one) and that was yesterday, and now he has some other chick as his top 3. and on his statues it says m.w. (like the girls initials).what is going on? he is like ignoring me, i don't get it. i just didn't think he was like that. can some one please give me advice?

The relationship is over. He obviously doesn't care about you enough to let you know so he decided to do it online, but still not even tell you.

Move on. He's a jerk.

The other day I was on MySpace and saw that the trailer for New Moon (sequel to Twilight) was going to be coming out and it would let people know when New Moon was going to be coming out in theatres. The only reason I even noticed it on MySpace was because I saw a glipse of Bella Swan (Kristen Stewart) and Edward Cullen (Robert Pattinson) and I just totally love them as a couple.

Anyway, I, apparently, missed the new trailer for New Moon (novel book by Stephenie Meyer) on MySpace so can anyone point me in the right direction to view that?

It's all over Youtube.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78vIchP9u9I

Is Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart going out in real life?

Just for reference, Robert Pattinson is Edward Cullen and Kristen Stewart is Bella Swan in the Twilight movie (based on a novel by Stephenie Meyer). I assume both of these people are going to be playing the same roles in the new movie coming out called New Moon (a sequel to Twilight).

No. Robert and Kristen are not going out. Though she has met his parents (they all went out together along with other castmates for Rob's birthday), and there are rumors circling that Rob recently was with Kristen at her parent's place.

As far as I know though, she's still dating Michael Angarano. But, those tabloid magazines are saying that their relationship is fizzling.

It's rude to assume that they're together until they confirm or deny anything. But, they've been denying, so I'm gonna go with no. They're not dating. And yes, they are continuing the roles until the saga of movies is over with. Robert Pattinson recently confirmed he was doing Breaking Dawn which is the last movie in the Twilight Saga.

I really need to know how to repel mosquitoes from myself. I heard there were some natural ways involving some sort of vitamins or garlic but I am not exactly sure what the correct information is.

My mom said they made some stuff to spray on you that repels bugs but I don't know what it is called or anything.

Can someone help me? These bugs are eating me alive already and I don't want to get West Nile Virus!!! How do I protect myself from the West Nile Virus when these mosquitoes don't stop biting?!

I'm pretty sure OFF! just came out with this thing that hooks onto your clothing. It has a bug repellant inside of it that lasts for 12 hours & acts as a shield against bugs. It's better because you don't have to spray anything on so there's no mess or feeling gross. :)

I'm not sure what it's called, but I'm sure you could search their website or something. :)

http://www.offprotects.com/

There you go!

What is the best way to prevent sunburn?

I'll be going to the beach and will be out in the sun all day long. I don't want to get older and find out I have skin cancer because I let myself burn too much and didn't take care of my skin. How do I protect myself from the sun rays?

Get waterproof sunscreen.

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so.
i'm a lifeguard. there's this girl i work with [let's call her M], and she and i have really hit it off. what she doesn't know is that i have a girlfriend.

i find that i flirt a lot; not on purpose, but i do. especially if the girl a. is gorgeous and
b. likes the same music as me.

i find it hard to resist. i'm good looking [and walking around all day without a shirt on just boosts my ego], and i find it to be a huge ego boost when it's obvious that girls are looking at me, and even more when i know that they're flirting back.

what's happening to me now is the same thing that happened last summer: i have a girlfriend, but i find it increasingly difficult to resist the temptation to leave her and go have some fun all summer. the hardest part is that she's leaving for france in a week and will be gone for three weeks. let me get this straight: i would never cheat; but i don't know what to do. i want to go and have fun and meet a bunch of new people; what i don't want to do is hurt anyone.

i'm scared. i think i'm going to fall into the temptation to cheat if i don't do something about this; but once again, i don't know what to do. i think i love my girlfriend, but at the same time i want to go hang out with M.....

any help would be greatly appreciated.
thanks.

You just said you think you love your girlfriend. If you THINK you love her, then chances are you don't love her. If you did, you would be absolutely positive of your feelings for her.

If she's going to France and you don't know whether or not you can behave while she's gone, that's a sign to break up. While you said you would never cheat, you already have a temptation to do so, and that's no good.

I would break up. It may hurt, but you're doing the right thing. If you don't break up & you end up cheating, you'll just hurt her more. It's easier to just end the relationship so that you can stop worrying about feelings & whatnot. Do not waste anyone's time.

What i want to know is, what are the first signs to show you that your lover is obsessed about you? and What are the sings that shows that your lover is abusive and controlling? Cause where i am, i very puzzled about how things turned up between me and my ex-girlfriend.

Controlling people tend to act like a boss more like a lover. They want you to call them at all times and let you know where you've been or what you've been doing & who you were with. They are constantly telling you what you can and cannot do.

Abuse can be done in a few ways. There is physical abuse where they hit you, kick you, slap you, bite you, pinch you, scratch you, etc. Physical abuse is more common than any other type of abuse. Emotional abuse occurs when they are constantly degrading you. They can tell you that you're not good enough, that you're ugly, stupid, etc. Anything that is degrading to your character, and your self-esteem is emotional abuse.

Obsessions can be them always calling, or having a lot of pictures of you. They can lurk your social networking sites to see what you've been doing & who you've been with. Some people will go as far to have locks of someone's hair, or a piece of their clothing. Other people will go through someone's trash. It's really disgusting.

You can find out other things here:

http://www.primitive.net/stalking.html

http://www.drirene.com/control.htm

&

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abuse

I would give those a serious read. If the behavior continues from the girl, I would change everything. Change your number, change your e-mail, get new social websites, change your screenname if you're a person who chats online, etc. And if it's also needed, contact the police to inquire about a restraining order.

Can you get AIDS or HIV from oral sex? Like if the person who has it does it to you or something?

Yes, you are very much at risk!

You must always use a condom because AIDS/STDs can be transferred through sex (oral, anal, vaginal). It can also be given to another person by doing drugs that involve needles, and it can also be given by birth. So, if you have AIDS & have a baby, it is possible to transfer the disease to the baby.

Use a condom & birth control pills whenever you get sexually involved with someone. AIDS and STDs are dangerous, and not something someone wants or should take chances with getting. Sex without a condom is not something anyone should dabble in.

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