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Is age just a number?
Okay, So I'm 15 years old,a girl. Sophomore soon to be Junior this fall. I met this guy in theatre awhile ago. We'll call him A. He's 20 years old now. I have liked him for so long and I've had a feeling he liked me too. So one night he came over for dinner and my parents really like him. He also asked me to the movies before then, but my dad was not going for it. So we talk on the phone occasionally text alot. Then the other night we kind of told eachother how we felt. He actually likes me too. We just know this age thing isn't going to workout. Also, he's transferring to another college in the state in late August. So I was wondering what I should do. I mean the next day after we talked. We hung out. We kissed. Alot. So I'm just wondering how I should go about this. I've never fell for a guy this hard. This sweet and such. I just don't want to be more hurt when he leaves then I would have if nothing happened at all.[BTW he's not like a pedaphile or anything. I know he's old and all but nothing like that.]
Thanks for any help you can give me.
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Age is aonly a number, but you have to keep in mind that its relative, the older youget the less age matters, those of us who have parents that are 8 years apart need to keep in mind taht they more than likelty met when they were older, my parents for example are 9 years apart and they met when they were well into their 20s and 30s respectively. If you like the guy andf he likes you tahts great, but if hes 20 it relfects how immature he really is in wanting to date a 15 year ols (no offense) that would be like me (20) dating my sisters friends (15). You aND HE live in different worlds, 9in a year or less he will be drinking, doubling the illegality of your relationship, sex will still be illegal, and odds are you parents will not look at the whole think to kindly. He will more than likely always want you to stay out late and stuff, wnd while HE may not get in trouble for it, you still are a minor living with your parents, so they still have a great deal of power over you, and if they have a reason not to like him, they could have him arrested easily.
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I believe the whole 'Age is just a #' thing, BUT I don't think it's safe to be dating someone who's 20 when you're 15. While I've done it, I don't recommend it.
If anyone was to find out, it could get this guy into trouble since you're a minor & he is an adult. Kissing you is illegal. He may not be a pedophile, but that doesn't mean what he's doing isn't illegal because it is.
If you really like this guy, you'll leave him alone until you're 18 because you can get him into trouble. Obviously if you like him, you don't want that to happen.
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ok, so he's five years older than you, so what? My parents are eight years apart and they are yelling at me to not date 2 years over. I say age is a state of mind, if you don't state it, we don't mind. If you like him like you say you do, then nothing, no one should hold you back.
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Hey there. I personally feel like age is just a number, it really just depends on how mature he is, or immature he is. Or if your more mature for a 15 year old. When I was 16 I dated a 24 year old, and everyone I knew disagreed with me dating him. He was VERY immature for his age while I was a little bit more mature, so we kinda met in the middle but my parents still thought he was a pedofile and stuff.
Anyways, even though he is going to another college I would still try and see him if you can. Maybe you could go to the movies with a bunch of friends and invite him as well. Your dad may feel a little bit more comfortable since you'll be with a large group rather with just him. Maybe if you invited him over for dinner again sometime soon, you can let your dad know that you are both interested in each other if you're not too embarassed or anything, and maybe he'll be all for yall going to the movies. Just let him know the movie theater you'll be going to, the movie, and set your own time for being home. Say that you'll be home at an early time for the first date, so you're not asking too much and he'll probably say yes.
Good luck and I hope that you both find what you want in this relationship. I'm sure your dad will come around, it's hard for a dad especially to let his daughter start dating, even if he's a few years older then you!!
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