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17.
so.
i'm a lifeguard. there's this girl i work with [let's call her M], and she and i have really hit it off. what she doesn't know is that i have a girlfriend.
i find that i flirt a lot; not on purpose, but i do. especially if the girl a. is gorgeous and
b. likes the same music as me.
i find it hard to resist. i'm good looking [and walking around all day without a shirt on just boosts my ego], and i find it to be a huge ego boost when it's obvious that girls are looking at me, and even more when i know that they're flirting back.
what's happening to me now is the same thing that happened last summer: i have a girlfriend, but i find it increasingly difficult to resist the temptation to leave her and go have some fun all summer. the hardest part is that she's leaving for france in a week and will be gone for three weeks. let me get this straight: i would never cheat; but i don't know what to do. i want to go and have fun and meet a bunch of new people; what i don't want to do is hurt anyone.
i'm scared. i think i'm going to fall into the temptation to cheat if i don't do something about this; but once again, i don't know what to do. i think i love my girlfriend, but at the same time i want to go hang out with M.....
any help would be greatly appreciated.
thanks.
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well im going to start off my saying i love that you have self confidence. i find that very sexy in a guy. and i also understand you when you say you flirt accidentally . because my friends say i do the same. anyways if you want to hangout with your girlfriend wait three weeks! if you cant seem to wait 3 short weeks for the girl you think you love. im pretty sure you don't love her. just be smart. don't hurt someone you care about.
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You just said you think you love your girlfriend. If you THINK you love her, then chances are you don't love her. If you did, you would be absolutely positive of your feelings for her.
If she's going to France and you don't know whether or not you can behave while she's gone, that's a sign to break up. While you said you would never cheat, you already have a temptation to do so, and that's no good.
I would break up. It may hurt, but you're doing the right thing. If you don't break up & you end up cheating, you'll just hurt her more. It's easier to just end the relationship so that you can stop worrying about feelings & whatnot. Do not waste anyone's time.
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It's all a matter of what is more important to you.
Is having a girlfriend that you love more important? Or is hooking up with a girl because she flirts with you more important?
It sounds great to just go have fun all summer. But you do realize that once summer is over, you're going to be alone, right? If you break up with your current girlfriend to go hang out with other girls all summer, she's not going to take you back in the fall (if she has any sense).
If you don't really care and you feel like you want to go hang out with M, go for it.
You also need to realize that M might not be okay with just hanging out and hooking up all summer. She might want something more serious. Then you'll be in the exact same situation as you are now.
I think the best thing for you to do is think of all the reasons you are with your current girlfriend. Is she sweet? Good personality? Trustworthy? Dependable? Supportive? Pretty? Nice? Smart? Understanding?
If you think you want to move on and not have those things in your life anymore, go hang out with M.
Maybe you're just not ready for a committed relationship. How would you feel if your current girlfriend broke up with you when she went to France so she could hang out with cute guys on her trip?
No one wants to be put on the back burner like that. It's not fair to your current girlfriend.
If hanging out with M is more important to you than your girlfriend, then break up with her. But think of how things played out last summer. If you want that again, you should be single for the summer. It's the only fair thing to do.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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The best thing i could tell you, is to maybe take a break with your girlfriend. and chill with M. see who you're more interested in, and go for it.
good luck<3
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