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What are the First Signs to show you that your lover is obsessed about you?
What i want to know is, what are the first signs to show you that your lover is obsessed about you? and What are the sings that shows that your lover is abusive and controlling? Cause where i am, i very puzzled about how things turned up between me and my ex-girlfriend.
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Controlling people tend to act like a boss more like a lover. They want you to call them at all times and let you know where you've been or what you've been doing & who you were with. They are constantly telling you what you can and cannot do.
Abuse can be done in a few ways. There is physical abuse where they hit you, kick you, slap you, bite you, pinch you, scratch you, etc. Physical abuse is more common than any other type of abuse. Emotional abuse occurs when they are constantly degrading you. They can tell you that you're not good enough, that you're ugly, stupid, etc. Anything that is degrading to your character, and your self-esteem is emotional abuse.
Obsessions can be them always calling, or having a lot of pictures of you. They can lurk your social networking sites to see what you've been doing & who you've been with. Some people will go as far to have locks of someone's hair, or a piece of their clothing. Other people will go through someone's trash. It's really disgusting.
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I would give those a serious read. If the behavior continues from the girl, I would change everything. Change your number, change your e-mail, get new social websites, change your screenname if you're a person who chats online, etc. And if it's also needed, contact the police to inquire about a restraining order.
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Many of the things the person below said. If the person calls alll the time and expects you to call just as much. If the person doesn't want you to talk to anyone but her. If the person gets extremely upset if she so much as hears a female's name come out of your mouth. If she expects you to spend every waking moment with her. If she doesn't want you to hang out with your friends. She gets angry if she calls and you don't answer. Even if you have a legitimate reason for not answering. (You were at work/school or sleeping)
She wants to know every single thing about you way too quickly. She accuses you of lying about where you're going or where you've been, even when she has no reason to believe you're lying. If you can never get a break from her in any way, she's probably obsessed. Also, if you try to talk to her about how she's making you feel and she reacts completely irrationally (Crying, threatens suicide, gets violent, hits something, hurts herself, hits/pushes you)
You know your lover is becoming abusive/controlling when you start getting scared of how they're going to react when you're not even doing anything wrong. If you're wanting to go hang out with your guy friends but you're afraid to tell her because of how she might react or you're tired and need to sleep but you can't tell her because she will get too angry/upset.
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obsessions- Non stop callings. Pictures eeverywhere. Always following you. Trying to be with you mor ethan enough. TOO protective. etc.
Abusivie- physically? hitting, throwing things, etc.
controlling- telling you what to do, and where to be when. acting like your parents basically.
hope this helps.
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