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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

I was sorta in a relationshp for a few months in my high school freshman year. Well really we flirted, chatted on the phone till about midenight, and i kissed him and we hung out at his job. Over the summer he faded away and this year suddenly we are in the same class, he's a senior and im a sophmore, and he's always starring at me and talking and joking with me. I don't know if he wants a relationship or what.

But now i suddenly like this new guy who has a girlfriend at another school and he's really nice to me and were in theatre together. But now knowing he has a gf i don't know what to do! I don't even know if the guy in my class likes me like he did last year. Anyone ever go through somethin like this? please help!!!!

Well, either way, the guy with a girlfriend is not available. Even if he makes himself available to you, you don't want a guy who would cheat on his girlfriend.

As for the other guy, just ask him if he wants to spark it back up, if that is what you want.

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15/f

hi. im feeling like i am worth the same amount as a pile of dog poo. My really good friends are no longer speaking to me because of god knows why, i went from being a straight A student to basically all D's and F's, my digestion issues keep getting worse and worse to the point where i can literally only eat 20 food items...all of which are highly disgusting and boring, my body has gone from "modelesque" to disgustingly flabby and body fat rolls, i used to be really outgoing, talkative, but now i can barely find things to say even to my parents (we're REALLY close), i haven't had my period in practically 2 1/2 months (REALLY ANNOYING) and im ALWAYS sick. I think i have chromes disease (always having an AWFUL upset stomach and diarrhea and basically feeling icky--o, and there's NO meds or cures). i really want my life to change, but i just can't. I feel as if my life should end, because i just want to be happy, but i know suicide isn't a good thing at all (not even a consideration for me) but i just don't know how to overcome this. Please help me. i honestly don't know what to do. O and please don't suggest therapy because 1)we don't have enough money for sessions, and 2) i HATE spilling my guts, even this is hard for me. i hate showing emotions in front of people, especially ones i don't really know.

if you could help me out, w/o telling//advising me to go into therapy, u might just change my life from disastrously depressing, to happy for once

thanks

You don't have to go to therapy to feel better about yourself. It is suggested because sometimes it helps, but if you don't feel it helps, then it won't help.
HOWEVER. You THINK you have Crohn's Disease. Is this something diagnosed by a doctor? If not, it needs to be, because there IS medicine to help you. There may be no medicinal cure for it, but there is medicine to alleviate symptoms.

This link shows treatments:
http://www.webmd.com/ibd-crohns-disease/crohns-disease/tc/crohns-disease-treatment-overview

Just getting your body back on track and your digestion working better would probably make YOU feel better.

Or at least it's a damn good start.

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im not sure whatdo u and i cant get her number cause my parents wouldnt allow that but will alow email they wont let my have a gf and i told her that but i said we can still talk and be gf bf in school is that a stupid thing to say please give me some signs how a shy girl and regularsings that hse likes me cause i dont know?? anything

Well, I can't give you signs. I wish I could, but I can't.
As for email, if you can't talk on the phone then by all means ask her for her email.
Since you told her you can't have a girlfriend, she may be looking for a boyfriend other than just at school.
Just ask her for her email and see how that goes. It will tell you right then and there if she is even interested.

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I want to download some new songs onto my iPod, and I don't know any more really good songs. Like really really good ones. Any suggestions are welcome.

Ok, what I think is really good and what you think is really good are surely two different ballparks, but I'll try.

Toxicity by System of a Down
Ugly by the Exies
Hey Yah by Outkast

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When I have a big test or something...I can NOT stop eating.. Like, I'll search my refrigerator inside and out for something to eat. How can I stop this?

This link may be useful:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2077525_stop-stress-eating.html

When you are stressing, try meditating or other relaxation techniques. Of course, I think it does say that in the article.

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K.. so i want to join this gym... Planet Fitness in Danvers, MA. They have a package that offers unlimited tanning but I'm only 16 and a half. I was just wondering if I needed parental consent for that? (my mom probably wouldn't sign it)

Because some people say I do, but I go tanning at this other tanning salon in Massachusetts and they don't require parental consent.

**Don't answer if you are just going to tell me I'm getting cancer. I tan for other benefits than just comestic, but my parents just still object**

The only thing I can find on it is this:
"Minnesota and Massachusetts require parental permission, for persons younger than 16 or 18 years of age, respectively, for indoor tanning."

From: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science?_ob=ArticleURL&_udi=B6WM8-4KMYKWJ-3&_user=10&_coverDate=12%2F31%2F2006&_rdoc=1&_fmt=&_orig=search&_sort=d&view=c&_acct=C000050221&_version=1&_urlVersion=0&_userid=10&md5=c4ea130d3a328e73e81bb7bd29d2d056

Best thing you can do is call the gym. They will tell you what you need to know.

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P.S. Out of curiosity, what reason is there to tan other than cosmetic? Not being a jerk, just curious.

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17/f

So, the time has come for us seniors to start applying to colleges. However, I am confused about one thing. I know a lot of times you need letters of recommendation from teachers and counselors to apply, but I am planning on applying to more than a couple places. If they write me one letter of recommendation, can I just make copies of that and use it for all of my applications? Or do I need to have them write more than one? I'm just not sure... Any input would be wonderful!

Thank you!

Have them type out a letter, print the amount of copies you need, then sign each in ink.
That would be the best way of going about it.

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13/F

I have a few friends who keep up with fasion, and guys. They think I'm interested... AS IF! I fucking hate fasion and guys, I don't trust 'em. They're all evil cuz they get to your heart, ask you to kiss, then, leave a bruse on your arm that lasts forever! ANYWAY, i keep telling them, stop guys. Well, one day, my friends backed me up against a wall and started saying, "You need blush and this and that!" Look ,I don't knwo the name of makeup so deal with it. Anyway, one pulls out a case of makeup. i screamed so loud, i pissed them off. They got mad at me and started to open the makeup case. I kind ruined their clothes trying to run away. I'm a tomboy, not a lez or a girly girl. i watch anime, horror films, porn and shit like that. can somebody tell me what to do? I CANNOT SOLVE THIS FUCKING PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!! Thanx

You need to just tell them how much it pisses you off. They need to respect you and not try to mold you into something you are not. They need to either like you for who you are, or they really aren't your friends to begin with.

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Well my boy friend of 2 months is moving back to chicago in 4 months. we had broken up for a couple of weeks but i really love him & were back togeather now. but i dont know if i should stay with him because i noe hes leaving & il probably never see him again. pls help me :( we r just soo in love with eachother & it happend soo fast. should i stay with him or leave em soo its not that hard on me wen he leaves??

Well, it would be harder to stick it out until he goes, but don't you think it would be even harder to see him around and not be with him while he's still there?

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i have this project and we have to make a pun about density.. like as an example my teacher put "what are you made of.." haha anyone got any good puns? im horrible at making up stuff like that haha. thanks.

I don't know if this will help, but it is worth a shot:
http://volweb.utk.edu/Schools/bedford/harrisms/puns.htm

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im a guy im 13. i like this girl alot and i told her last school year on valentines day in a love letter and i dont know if she likes me and i did ask her in the letter if she liked me but never said a thing. i talked to her this year and i asked her if she read it she said yesthen i asked her what she thought she said something but it was realy realy quite it sounded like a hamber siziling then i said say something even if its stupid which now i think was stupid but she laughed then i told her why cause
i didnt want to annoy her then now we hardly talk or never but every time we see ecother i look at her then the looks at me but she doesnt talk to me any more but she talks to this other boy alot but i think their friends cause every one thinks hes not straight and he agreed i think but her friends like sheild her away from me and my friends sorta do the same does me like me or does she hate me but to nice to say that???????????????im also shy and when im near her its cool and shes beautiful smart and everything but i dont know what to say cause she knows i like her but i dont know if she likes me and its hard to tell can you give me signs and tell me what do i think she might be shy toidont know can you u tell if a girl is shy and tell me signs if she is what should i do ?go for it and ask her and ask her for email address or just forget about it

Go for it and ask for her phone number, not her email.
I mean, anybody can write email when you are just talking words on a screen, but if she gives you her phone number, then she wants to actually talk to you, which is what you want.

There really is no sense in beating around the bush- you've already gone that route and got nowhere.

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this boy, i swear doesnt even know i exist. he sits right by the teacher, because he gets introuble. so i always go up there and pretend to ask a question. and he doesnt even watch me walk up. all the other boys do. and then, hes in my lunch period, and i walk right past his lunch table, and all of his friends stop and look at me. but not freaking him. And then, hes in my other class and he doesnt notice me in there either.

how can i get him to notice me?

Well, you have to realize that not every guy in the whole world will stop and look at you (of course it will always likely be the guy you want to look) so you have to get his attention.
Try sitting at his lunch table instead of passing it. Tell him you thought you would try this table today because you like the view, or something of that nature.

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I am only 15 years old. and I dont have best friends. Not like my old ones anyway, I failed the 7th grade and all of my older friends moved on without me. It was okay at first but then I sorta moved on but they did. They moved on to high school the next year and they completely just moved on. They said that it would be different once I get into high school. but its not. I just want to be friends with them again. Its not the same with my other friends...

Well, a sad fact of life is sometimes old friends move on and new friends move in.
You can't compare new friendships with past friendships, because that will never work. They aren't the same people.
You just have to let the old friends go and make the best of it with your new friends. I know, that isn't what you want, but believe me when I tell you that your new friends will become your best friends if you give it the chance.
Listen, if your old friends were really friends, they wouldn't have left you in the dust.

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15/f. I'll just get to the point so as not to annoy anyone on here:
So basically, I feel as if no guy will ever like me. I'm smart. Probably one of the smartest kids in my class, and whenever I get the highest grade on something (which is usually..) the guys sitting around me mock and tease me. In a mean way, though. This makes me lose all confidence and think that all guys are like this - Immature. Is this the case? Is there NO guy out there that isn't mean or harsh?

They are probably being mean because they are jealous they don't get grades like you.

YES there are guys out there who aren't like that. I know it seems there are a lot of jerks out there who are mean and make you the butt of their childish jokes, but the world isn't totally full of them.

Don't give them the satisfaction of stripping you of your confidence. If they applied themselves as much as you do, they wouldn't be laughing.

It doesn't matter what they think about you. You have to remember that.

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I am 13 yrs old and terribly embarrassed that I wimper, cry, sob, and sometimes faint when I get a shot. After I get it I feel silly, but when I get the next one, I have panic attacks. Any help please??

Fear of needles is quite common, and you shouldn't feel embarrassed or ashamed.
I don't know how you can stop the panic attacks, but I think you should discuss your fear with your doctor before you get shots. They may be able to do something to make you feel more calm and relaxed.

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how do you know when someone plays notes on the keys if its: do re mi fa sol la ti or do? and you cant see the notes but have to hear it? my pianos outta tune and i dont really get it. all C notes are do. i can differentiate between any of the notes played? maybe i just need to hear the notes more? but i would need to know all octaves or w/e its called.. all res and whatever.

The best way to tune your piano is to get a tuning fork. You can get those at a music store (the kind that sells instruments, not CDs).
Now, you don't have to have one, but it makes it easier if you can't do it by ear alone.

Here is a link to piano tuning supplies so you know what you are looking for, or if you want to order online:
http://www.pianosupplies.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Category_Code=tuningequipment

Check out this site for learning to tune your piano:
http://piano.detwiler.us/

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Okay every birthday of mine or a freinds I have tried to perform a seance; well....guess what it never worked out so well. I've looked it up but never any look. So my question is: How do you perform a seance?

Try this link, if you haven't already:
http://www.newagedirectory.com/sixth/seance.htm

You could go to a book store, such as Barnes and Noble or Hastings, etc and look in the "New Age" selection and browse different books. That will help you find exactly what you are looking for.
Now, the books aren't cheap, but quite informative.

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A few weeks back I met this guy and we became fairly decent friends. We've spent some time together and I honestly believe I've fallen head-over-heels for him. He's pretty darn wonderful but (there's always a catch, right?) he's pretty much taken. He's in love with another woman and I don't see that changing anytime soon. He often talks about her to me and I really think there's not much hope he'd break it off with her and look for someone else.
My question, really, is should I continue to be friends with this man? Should I distance myself and stop going out to lunch with him as often? We've had great times and I'd hate to lose such a friendship but I'm fearful that my other emotional feelings will end up getting the way. I find myself almost jealous over the other lady but realize I am only a friend and nothing more.

Well, that all depends on weather or not you are willing to give up a friendship over this.
Personally? I don't think it is worth losing a friend.
You WILL get over it in time, and if you ditch him as a friend, when you get over it, you will be kicking yourself in the ass.

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Ok well one of my friend likes my other friend so I said go for it and he asked her and now she's mad at me because I told him to ask her out.

And now I feel realyl bad for it and she's so mad for it and I just feel so bad for them and myself. What should I do?

Well, nobody has any reason to be mad at you. Just because you gave a suggestion doesn't mean you twisted his arm into asking her. You need to tell him that.
As for her being mad at him- she'll get over it.

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wat should i be?
13/f
im no good girl
but im not a slut to jus wear fish nexts & a bra

like any good ideas that arent kiddish or slutty?

A witch?
That isn't a good girl, nor a slut costume.

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