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Remain friends with a man I've fallen in love with?
A few weeks back I met this guy and we became fairly decent friends. We've spent some time together and I honestly believe I've fallen head-over-heels for him. He's pretty darn wonderful but (there's always a catch, right?) he's pretty much taken. He's in love with another woman and I don't see that changing anytime soon. He often talks about her to me and I really think there's not much hope he'd break it off with her and look for someone else.
My question, really, is should I continue to be friends with this man? Should I distance myself and stop going out to lunch with him as often? We've had great times and I'd hate to lose such a friendship but I'm fearful that my other emotional feelings will end up getting the way. I find myself almost jealous over the other lady but realize I am only a friend and nothing more.
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I don't think we should ever give up friendships.
Good friends are hard to find. It sounds like he enjoys talking to you and having lunch with you.
Unless he is married to this other woman, there is always a chance. If the opportunity comes along
tell him how you feel. It could be he just hasn't thought about you in that way before. Give him something to think about! If you are already friends you are off to a good start already.
If he is really crazy in love with this other woman, there isn't much you can do but continue to be friends. Just let him know how you feel. That way he at least knows why you might want to avoid some situations, like seeing them together. He will know you aren't avoiding him, but avoiding a situation that is just to much for you to handle emotionally right now.
Best of luck! :)
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Don't break the friendship because you feel like you can't be more to him. It's possible that you'll come across someone who you'll be smitten with, and you don't need to sacrifice your friendship in order to get it.
Also, you might not see it changing anytime soon, but it still might change. He might then realize how you've always been at his side, and see you how you want him to see you. More than a friend.
Best of luck. =)
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Im in the same situation right now and im not about to tell you to stop being his friend. I missed my chance to tell her how i feel and now im stuck, dont let this happen to you. Im here and my heart hurts more every day..... you dont wanna go through this...
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Well, that all depends on weather or not you are willing to give up a friendship over this.
Personally? I don't think it is worth losing a friend.
You WILL get over it in time, and if you ditch him as a friend, when you get over it, you will be kicking yourself in the ass.
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