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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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how long do you need to go to college to be a pediatric nurse? and are there any good colleges in new york that are good and easy to get into, and not THAT much money? moneys a little tight at my house

The best person to help you is your school guidance councilor. A part of their job is to help you in all ways possible to further your education in your chosen field.

You have to decide what level of nurse you want to be. LPN, RN, Nurse Practitioner, etc. All of these levels take different amounts of years of schooling, Practitioner being the longest, since they can treat and diagnose like a doctor. Pediatrics would be your chosen field, but you still need to decide on what level of nursing you want to be at.

The councilor will research and tell you how many years, your college options in your area, and financing.
Even if it costs a lot of money, you can get financial aide, student loans, and student grants (most of which don't have to be repaid). These things can be pretty tricky to apply for, but your councilor will help you with the applications for finance AND for the colleges.

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Hello Again,
I am from India.
Oceanseven, I have an issue with a friend. In this particular instance three people are involved. Myself, Person B, Person C.Person B & C happen to be my close friends. They are my school friends. Due to some misunderstandings Person b& c do not talk to each other that much. Couple of weeks back person b phoned me. Person B told me not to tell person C about the phone call. The reason was person b was badmouthing person c. Since it is matter of friendship, i thought it is best to leave the matter alone. On Thursday person c called me and asked me about person b's phone call. I told her that, i promised person b not to tell and i am very sorry. Now person C said to me " How can she ever trust me?".My questions are:
1. Did i betray Person C's trust?
2. If i betrayed person c's trust, how did betray her trust?
3. I am confused and feeling guilty. How can i let go of the guilt?
Thanks,
Oceanseven

1. I don't think you did unless you were badmouthing person C. If you would have told C what B said in the phone call, then you would have betrayed B. You did what you could do. I would have done the same.

3. You need to tell B & C that you are both of their friends, and you will not be put in the middle any longer. Tell B that you don't want to hear badmouthing of C, and tell the same to C.

They shouldn't put you in the middle of their problems with one another.

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hey, 15/f. sophomore in Highschool.

So, I really liked this guy named Josh. He had asked me out last year, I said yes, then changed my mind. I felt horrible, believe me. This year I began to like him again, and told him. He stares at me in lunch a lot, and tries to catch my eye, and then some days, he just doesn't. He's also been kind of a jerk lately. I don't talk to him often.
Then, there is Duston. He's cute, sweet, funny. I like him a lot now, but part of my heart is still hung up on Josh. Anyways, Duston and I don't talk often either, but when we do, he's SO nice. And I actually invited him to my Halloween party, he thinks he can go for sure. Perfect, right? Wrong. My very good friend Cassie likes him as well... but her and I both agreed that he will like who he likes and that's it. We don't want to 'compete' for a guy, but it's still a bit unsteady between us because I'm afraid they'll be together and I'll be upset, or I'll be with him and SHE'LL be upset.

So what guy should I go with? What should I do?


Thanks in advance and SO sorry its so long!

Well, of course you don't want to compete with your friend, but you can't set your own happiness aside in this life for the sake of others.
Between the two guys, if Duston likes you, I would go for him over the other guy, simply because the other guy is being a jerk and he is not.

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15/F
My boyfriend's birthday is next week
and i have no idea what to get him. He's not really into sports, well he does bmx. He's really into rock music, and he plays guitar. We haven't even been going out that long. I asked him what he wanted, but he just said "Oh you don't need to get me anything."

So does anyone have any suggestions?

I agree with the other columnist- all guys like food.
Since you haven't been going out long, you don't want to go all out on a gift. Something small that shows you are thinking of him on his day is plenty.
Maybe a super cool looking guitar pick? Maybe some gloves to wear while biking?

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Well I have a huge problem this guy I liked last year liked me to.Are best friend is the same person! Toward the end of last years school year she new he liked me and I liked him. But I new any day he would ask me to go out with him. Plus he kind of isn't the most trustworthy guy around. He was going to a different next year(present day this year)and he finally asked me the last day of that school year I told him no I wouldn't that I wouldn't really see him that much(he might go out with another girl).Today I just called him after talking to my best friend we talked and I think I like him again.How do I tell my bestfriend that,should I just remain friends with him,and how do I have a conversation with him just to see if he likes me?

I'm only going to answer one question. Should you just remain friends with him? Yes.
If he is so untrustworthy, why do you want to subject yourself to that grief and heartache?
Trust me. You don't want to.

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so recently the ipod classic 6th generation came out and imone of those people who have to have the new ipod when it comes out...but it says that the ipod works on macs and then it says oit works on windows XP .....does that mean that itonly works on windows XP..cause i only have windows 2000 and my ipod 5th generation works on it...so if i bought the new one would it work on my computer........and when i mean on my computer i mean to like hook it up to charge it and use it on itunes

Well, I would assume it would work, but that is only assumption.
Best bet? What I would do if I were in your shoes, is buy it from a store like Best Buy where they have customer support staff working in that department. Ask the staff member your questions, because they will know what you need to make this work.
They won't sell it to you if you can't even use it on your computer. At Best Buy, the sales staff don't make commission on the products they sell.
Well, either that, or it's only the Best Buy in my area that is concerned with my needs more than the sale.

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Well, this guy, Alex, really hates me. I am not exaggerating. He would do anything to ruin my reputation. I have never been affiliated with him as friends or lovers, and have never spread rumors about him or anything. I did ask out his best friend last year,who declined, but that is totally in the past, and besides, I can't see why he would hate me so much for it anyway. I just don't know why he hates me so much.

Some people are just assholes without reason other than just being that way.
The only person who knows why he hates you is him, and you can ask him, but would he really say or would he just say something hurtful? I'm sure it would be the latter of the two.

You need to realize that some jerk's opinion shouldn't mean anything to you. Why should what he thinks of you affect your life?

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Well last year, a guy asked me out, and I said no because I was super nervous. I felt really bad since he tried to get me for like a month. Well, now I sort of regret it, and would totally go out with him if he asked again. I can't help thinking about it every time I see him, and what it would've been like if I had agreed to go out with him, but it seems like he's totally moved on. What should I do? I don't want to seem sappy or anything.

Well, I don't think it would hurt to ask him if he is still interested.
Explain to him that you were just too nervous to accept when he asked.
Worst thing he can say is no, and you will be no worse off than you are now.

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16/f - myself
18/m - the guy

Recently, I met a guy, and we saw eachother 6 times over the course of 5 weeks. Things were going great and on the 6th time we hung out, we watched a movie at his house. I thought it was good, and I was quite sure he was interested in me. Later that night he removed the "looking for" section of his facebook (A Relationship, Dating & Friendship).

The next day he was supposed to come over to my house, but he forgot he was supposed to have a guys party and watch a hockey game, so he broke off plans with me. I tried to be understanding, so everything went okay.

After that point he has not been talking to me. We briefly talked over MSN but he seemed uninterested. I messaged him asking how things were going, and why I wasn't getting messages anymore. No reply from him. It has been a week since this problem began, so I asked him why he had stopped talking to me.

His reply?
He didn`t know, he just had nothing to say.

I feel like that's a lie, but clearly we are done seeing eachother. Why might he have stopped talking? I don't think he met another girl, and I don't want to harass him by asking again. It's his loss, I am just curious.

Thanks for the insight! =)

Honestly, the only person who can answer your question is him. Seems he doesn't have the balls to answer it, so you just have to forget him and move on.
You are very right. It's his loss.

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I have never been made fun of in my entire life. I am pretty popular, and am I what I would consider very nice. Well, recently, this girl, Alyise, decided it would be funny if she sort of made fun of me. I am shocked and rather pissed, since this is the 1st time I have gotten like jabbed at. It's not like I want to be friends with her, but I would really like her to stop. I don't want to look bitchy, or super sensitive, which I am, but don't really show it all the time. I don't know why she would do this, since I have never really talked to her or anything. What should I do?

Welcome to the real world, kid. Some people are just assholes, usually for no reason other than making themselves feel better by cutting others down.

What do you do? Ignore her. Trust me, a veteran of having people make fun of me all the time as a kid. She wants you to give her the satisfaction of knowing she is getting under your skin. If she realizes that she can't get the better of you, she will soon grow bored and move on to some other poor soul.

Besides, why should you care what some asshole thinks of you? Is her opinion of you really THAT important? No.

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My friend Meg is totally vain. Whenever she sees me in the same place she is, she gets all mad and calls me a "leech" who follows her around. She is only like this in certain occasions, and I don't want to stop being friends with her since she is nice and friendly when she isn't all mean. I get terribly offended by these names (puppy dog, leech, tick, etc.) since it isn't true. We have the same friends, and I see her and talk to her, but I don't "follow" her around. Trust me, I would be aware of it if I did. What should I do?

Uh. Wait a minute. You are telling me that just because she is nice and friendly sometimes, you still consider her a friend when she is so rude to you?
Come on, kiddo. That is NOT a friend. Friends don't do that to one another.

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I know I'll get scolded for what I'm about to ask..
But..
15/f..
I met a guy online. Let's call him S. Now, S is a nice guy. And I've made 1000000000000000 % sure that he's not some 76 year old pedophile masturbating to pictures of young girls. Trust me, he's not.

Now..I've known him for a year. And he's 3 and a half years older than me. He lives on this continent (U.S) but way, WAY up north in another country (get ittt? :)) Anyways...We've been communicating on and off for a year and stuff..and he always asks me for pictures. And I give him pictures. And he asks for more...and..uhm okay..here're more pictures. And of course..I don't ask him for pictures. It would be too awkward. I only ask him once in a while. But he says things like "You have me curious..I wanna see if your pictures are bad." And he just teases me on and off...and OBVIOUSLY ASKS for bad pictures. I never send them to him. WTF? Why would I do that? And whenever I don't send him some, he gets mad and pissed.
I don't know what to do. He creeps me out. But I can't block him because I [usually] like talking to him. Help? =/

You need to tell him that this makes you feel uncomfortable.
If he is going to get pissed because you don't send pictures, then he sounds pretty selfish.
Personally, I would block him even if I usually liked talking to him. Why? Having someone to talk to isn't worth it if the guy is creeping you out.

But that decision is ultimately up to you.

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alright so my boyfriend and i just broke up ( he did it) i think his older sister ( who hates me for no reason ) talked him into all this, bc i sent her a message about a week ago that said...Hi:]
i heard you're in town for a little bit, maybe me you n [bfs name]could like go to a movie or eat or something, its been like a year now and ive never really talked to you, itd be cool to get to know you some time. ttyl

and after he broke up with me ( which he had no real reason to do) she replied with... :-D
...or not

and she commented him before with " i hope you considered what we talked about". and he like looks up to her. well i want to know how i can make him guilty or realize hes wrong for listening to her, without being super obvious. any suggestions? thanks :] i really love him and if this is her doing i want it to be fixed and i dont know how.

Listen, if he is going to be more than willing to allow his sister to dictate who he dates and who he doesn't, (you know, running his life for him) then no matter what you say, no matter what you do, he is going to go to HER for advice. If she convinced him to break up with you, then she will convince him to stay away.

Listen, I know you say you really love the guy, but in order to keep your heart from getting stomped on any further, you need to consider moving on with a guy who is man enough to live his own life as he sees fit.
I mean, that is what you deserve.

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so i was hurt a while ago. I didnt know that if you werent raped that its still abuse and your still effected by it. I need help talking to someone i trust alot about this i talked to her once. she went thru some of the same stuff i did probley more. and she was effected more by it because it was her dad. but i need help opening up to her agian i did once but im scared to talk to her agian i feel like she doesnt have enogh time to. the first time i talked to her about this i felt so free. and i felt like i would always feel comfortable around her, but i dont anymore cus i feel like she doesnt want to talk about it. even tho she said i could when ever i needed. i dont know what to do...

You know what? She WILL have time enough to talk to you.
She may not want to talk about what happened to her, but that doesn't mean she doesn't want to listen to you. She knows how you feel, and she knows the importance of being able to relate to someone who can help.
You need to just go talk to her about it. She said whenever you needed, and she surely meant that.

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ok sooo my school is having a sock hop thing and i dont know what to wear, they have prizes for the best costumes and whatever but like what should i wear? i dont think me and my friends are gonaa win unless we havea really good idea becuase some girls are going as the pink ladies from grease. theres 4 of us, but it can be less or more. but thanks i will rate websites please

Women and girls of the 1950's dressed conservatively. Here is a link that shows patterns of dresses that were popular in that decade.
Poodle skirts, bobby socks, saddle shoes, pony tails, and nylon scarves either tied around the neck or the pony tail were popular among the teens.

http://www.sensibility.com/vintageimages/1950s/

On the link below, scroll down for the real "poodle skirt" fashion.

http://www.fiftiesweb.com/fashion/fashion-ws.htm

In all honesty, if you want to win, you should dress in an actual 50's style outfit.

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i am so confused shes been hanging out with alot of guys lately also

I'm not like everyone else.
I always believe nothing is impossible.
You will never know until you ask.
If you don't ask, 10 years from now you may kick yourself in the ass wondering what might have been.

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Hi I asked a question earlier but I wanted to get another opinion. I'm taking driver's ed & I'm very uncomfortable with my driving teacher. We have to complete a certain amount of driving hours & classroom time. I still have quite a few to go, but I'm too nervous. The last time we went driving, I made a few beginner mistakes, nothing major. I'm a very cautious driver & it seemed like he was getting mad at me. I didn't turn the wheel fast enough & he kept saying "what are you doing!" & getting angry. I'm a nervous driver & female, so this isn't helping me. I came home crying because I was so mad. He cursed a few times actually, not at me though, just to himself. I'm really uncomfortable but my parents paid a lot of money for the course. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't get back in the car. He would keep asking me questions like "why did you do that!" and was really kind of mean. I can't take this sort of pressure while driving, but I don't want to cause any problems either. Any advice?? What would you do in this situation?? Thanks!!

You have to realize that when he shouts "Why did you do that?" you may have made a serious error.
Rather than getting all upset, you should ask him "Did I do something wrong? Is there something I need to work on?" That way you can learn your mistakes as you go along. If he tells you what you did wrong, listen and correct it.

You have to remember, he is teaching you how to drive a ton of metal down the highway. A VERY dangerous ton of metal. A Driver's Ed teacher has to be stern and critical so you learn to do it right.
He knows that if you don't turn the wheel fast enough, or other simple mistakes, then you are potentially endangering your life and the lives of others.

Listen, I know it's hard. I've been there. But you can't let it get you all upset. You are there to learn to safely drive a car, and you can't drive safely if you allow yourself to get all upset and flustered while you are doing so.
Just try to be calm and relaxed. Like I said, rather than getting nervous, ask questions.

You also can't go through this with the idea in your head that you are a nervous female driver. You have to get it in your head, and KEEP it in your head that you need to be a cautious, aware driver, instead. Being female has nothing to do with it.

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Well i went to a football game, and then like i was really cold so this kid that i like gave me his hoodie, but then he was with these two girls, and he just like walked away from them and i gave him a mean look, and he gave me a hug and told me not to be mad at him. Does he like me?

Either he likes you or he was raised to be a gentleman.

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Alright, im 17 years old, and a female. I want to go on the pill...Ive had the same boyfreind for two years and we have had sex. Though we are careful and we use a condom everytime, i would feel better if i was on the pill. however, my mom doesnt think that i should go on the pill, or at least she doesnt want me to until im older. i also want it to help with my period, which is always insane to deal with and its 7 days long every 25 days.
is there any way that i can get birth control without my parents ever knowing?

Yes. So long as you pay for the doctor's visit and the monthly prescription out of your own pocket.
But is it worth hiding this behind your mom's back? What if she finds your prescription? She will surely be fuming mad.

You need to be honest with your mom. Does she know you are sexually active? If not, I'd tell her. I'm sure she would rather you go on the pill now and wait until you are older for kids.

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i dont think my boyfriend likes me anymore. besides i mean he's never around because he's training in california.but occationally he goes online BUT TALKS HAS FULL CONVOS WITH MY SISTER and NOTTT me. he doesnt call anymore or send me sweet stuff like he used to.i think it might be because i told him a kid kissed by complete accident.but what do i do,does he like me or is he just mad?

That is something no one on this site can answer.
You have to ask him what is going on.
However, I do think it is pretty rude of him to have conversations with your sister but not you.

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