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Hello Again,
I am from India.
Oceanseven, I have an issue with a friend. In this particular instance three people are involved. Myself, Person B, Person C.Person B & C happen to be my close friends. They are my school friends. Due to some misunderstandings Person b& c do not talk to each other that much. Couple of weeks back person b phoned me. Person B told me not to tell person C about the phone call. The reason was person b was badmouthing person c. Since it is matter of friendship, i thought it is best to leave the matter alone. On Thursday person c called me and asked me about person b's phone call. I told her that, i promised person b not to tell and i am very sorry. Now person C said to me " How can she ever trust me?".My questions are:
1. Did i betray Person C's trust?
2. If i betrayed person c's trust, how did betray her trust?
3. I am confused and feeling guilty. How can i let go of the guilt?
Thanks,
Oceanseven
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1. I don't think you did unless you were badmouthing person C. If you would have told C what B said in the phone call, then you would have betrayed B. You did what you could do. I would have done the same.
3. You need to tell B & C that you are both of their friends, and you will not be put in the middle any longer. Tell B that you don't want to hear badmouthing of C, and tell the same to C.
They shouldn't put you in the middle of their problems with one another.
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That's a really crappy situation to be put in. One thing I can say is, for future referance, if anybody ever wants to badmouth one of your friends you shouldn't even listen to it. Tell them that you are sorry but "person C" is one of your friends and you don't want to listen to somebody talk badly about them.
For your current situation:
1. Yes
2.You betrayed their trust by listening to someone talk poorly about them.
3. Apologize to this person for having the conversation in the first place and promise that next time somebody wants to talk negatively about them you won't listen.
Gossip is never okay, especially when it hurts somebody. I know it can be hypocritical to say because, let's face it, everyone gossips, it's a form of social capital whether negative or positive. Just be sure to never listen to gossip about anybody. Ask for their forgivness. It may take time to earn it back but I'm sure their friendship is worth it.
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