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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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i'm 14/f/freshman, going to be 15 in february and i was thinking about asking to get my tongue pierced. it's something different and i read up on it, so even if i don't like it i could take it out and it could heal in days. what are some pros and cons of getting it done?

Your tounge will swell. Mine did for about a week. They use a long bar bell for the swelling period, so your mouth will feel all full of tounge and metal. This is why you want to avoid solid foods until the swelling goes down.

Also, you have to deal with the misery of that ball rubbing on the tender tissue beneath your tounge. It takes a week or so to toughen up.

If you don't like it, the hole can actually shrink away in a matter of hours. That happened to me 2 years after I had mine done when my plastic bar bell broke. (AVOID PLASTIC BAR BELLS)

Follow ALL care instructions they give you. The last place you need an infection is anywhere in your head. (Yes, this includes in your mouth...)

Before you plan to do this, make sure you can actually get it done at 15. I live in Kansas, and they won't even let you walk in the door, parent or no parent, until you are 16.

Like the other person said, there really are no pros. It is a personal preference.

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does anyone know any quotes about you and your boyfriend on the phone, and he falls asleep, or you both fall asleep?


thanks!!

I don't know any quotes of the sort, but I can make one up...

How about "We talked ourselves to sleep"?

Ok, that's kinda silly. ;)

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I have a problem. So yesturday to take a break with my boyfriend of a lil over 7 months. My reason was that I need to have time to myself and figure stuff out. My boyfriend wasn't too bad with that said. He couldn't understand where this came from and what he did wrong. Alot of little things got to me recently and I became annoyed with everything. We don't go out much so we are usually at my house doing nothing because he's broke and what not. I mean yeah, he has a job, but that's toward his car and gas. So he doesn't get to spend much and I don't expect him, but my mom is getting irritated and irritated as months pass. He comes here and eats and stuff and my mom gets mad that he doesn't take me out. She is more irritated now then before because my sister had a similar boyfriend who's parent's didn't support him so he was over here alot.Anyways.. I don't know what to do. I feel as though that my boyfriend became dependent on me and I'm trying to get some time alone and concentrate on school and stuff. It's hard to see him trying more and more not to irritate me, but that makes it worse. Maybe i'm too hard to please. I just don't know what to do. I like this guy, it's just I can't keep doing the same thing every day when i AM not busy because I usually have softball on the weekends but recently I haven't. Anyone know what I should do?

I don't know if this will help, but maybe you could look at it in a different light-
He is being responsible by paying for his car and gas. When you have bills to pay, you have less money to go out and do things. But if you go out and do things, you can't pay your bills, and then where does that leave you?
So at least you know he is a guy who will put responsibilities first.
Maybe you could have him come over and hang out before or after dinner so he is eating at home and not at your house.
There are things to go and do that don't cost money, such as hanging out at a nice park or at a lake, for example. That is at least going out and doing SOMETHING.

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What is this brand of cellphone?

http://www.oopshi.com/images/pink%20mobile%20oopshi%20com.jpg

specifically? not just company name but model or whatever?

I looked and looked.
All I can tell you is the wallpaper on the phone looks like what I had on my old Cinglair phone. I searched the AT&T site for similar phones to no avail.
Maybe you can print the picture and take it into your nearest AT&T cell phone store and show the clerk. They may be able to give you the model.

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I am caught in a dilemma: do I go to graduate school, or work for a year before making the decision to apply?
I recently graduated from the university, with a B.A. in International Relations. I realized that my main interest is to write for either a magazine or newspaper (print or online).
My main concern, however, is that I have no journalistic experience. I understand that some Journalism programs accept some students who have little to no background, but I would like to gain some experience, either through a job, or internship (which is more likely).
I do not know if it is better to gain experience beforehand, or just go straight to a graduate program, in order to gain that experience. I am pretty stumped...
I am now leaning more toward waiting a year before applying, to gain job experience (pretty much any field) and to do freelance or paid writing. At the same time, I don't want to think back and wonder why I hadn't applied earlier.
What do you think- to wait, or not?

I agree with the other columnist.
It's hard to get back into school once you start your life. It's too easy to make excuses to yourself to not go back.

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In the United States, if a girl has anorexia & she is under the age of 18, what is her rights?? Does she have to be admitted or can she choose?? any info on this?? ideas/opinions?? thanks!

I may be wrong, but I think in a case like that, even if the girl is over 18, the parents can have her proved mentally unfit and make such choices for her.
Why? Because it is really a mental disorder. A person with anorexia is honestly killing themselves and can't even see it.
Under 18, said girl is still a minor child, so the parents make those decisions.

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I am pretty sure I have OCD. I have a high amount of the symptoms of OCD. This is not a problem for me. I have a very mild condition, and often simply perform miscellaneous acts, like closing doors on my way down halls, subconsciously straightening books, desks, etc. I have not been officially diagnosed with OCD, though. The problem is, I get great anxiety on whether I have OCD or not. I stress constantly, and check every day to check symptoms, compare my symptoms with other anxiety disorders, and so on. I often get like this, checking over and over again for things like making sure my alarm clock is set, and check maybe 5 times a night. I can deal with this myself, but having to check to see if I actually have something wrong with me?

Even though you can deal with this, it wouldn't hurt for you to see a doctor about this. Maybe they can help you deal with it better.
As for anxiety, try meditating. That is a great way to relieve stress and anxiety.

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for swimmimg we were doing stuff with medicine balls and i accidentally caught the ball the wrong way and sprained my finger. (index finger) i put ice on it and taped it up but my finger wont go straight at all even with pushing it with my other fingers. it goes so far then just stops..what did i do? is this just a 1st degree sprain or could i have torn the ligaments?

This is something you need to go to the doctor about.
Only with a medical examination will you find out what is wrong with your finger, and get the right treatment for it to heal.

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havent wanting to live with my family im 14 and i already know what i wantt. i know that i HATEE my family[mom dad sister,17] with a burning passion that cann never be describeed. likee it reallyy wouldnt matter to me if i didnt lived with them anymore. they dont listen to a word i sayy, there always on eachothers siddee, like im neverr everr right, my parents sent me to a catholic high school which i absolutly HATEE ! and they know i dont wanna go there and never did want to, and i have the most amazing friends that i never see besides the weekend. im starting to make friends but i would choose my old friends over everything. i would do annyytthingg for them, and i mean anything. we all feel the same way about eachother. and if i continue to liv with this family and go to catholic school i dont think ill even make it to junior year... watever i just wanna know if theres anyway to have my parents hear me out. on anythingg, on letting me go live with one of my friends, or live anywhere else beisdes here.

oh ps. my parents are divorced but live within a mile of eachother and are SERIOUSLY strict about my grades like if i get lower than an 80-85 theyll flip a shit. they wnat me to be there perfect daughter. and im not like a bad perosn like i hang out with a good group a friends im not underr the influence or anything. ughh i hate them soooooo much. oh and if they hit me, i hit them back cause i could care less.

Well, they won't listen to you if you don't show maturity. I'm sorry, but all this talk about how much you hate your family, hate your school, and not making it to junior year don't sound like very mature ideas at all.
Do you think my parents would have listened to me if I spouted all that crap? That's a big "Hell No."

It isn't going to kill you to get an education and make GOOD grades so you can actually go out into the adult world and make something of yourself. Even though you don't like the school you go to, you need to take advantage of the education you NEED and DESERVE.

You don't get your way all the time, you can't always have what you want, and as a rule, you always have to do things you don't want to do and go places you don't want to go.
It's called the "Real World." That is life, kid.

Hitting your parents is immature and disrepsectful. Just because they hit you, doesn't mean you have to do the same. If you hate them so much, why act like them?

Also, you need to open your eyes to the fact that family is the most important thing in the world. If you hate your family and don't want to be a part of it, no matter how dysfunctional it may be, then you have absolutely NOTHING in this world.

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Whenever I talk to the guy I like I like get so nervous. My hands like shake & everything. I feel SOOOO self conscious when I talk to him. Im like terrified that my hair looks messed up & stupid things like that. Is there any way to relax more?

Well, if you are worried over if you have a hair out of place, then you are worrying needlessly. 9.9 times out of 10, a guy isn't going to notice if your hair looks just so, or your make-up isn't quite it's freshest.

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My School or more specifically my year are going on a educational overnight excursion. We will be staying at "The Comfort Inn Downtown". And i was just wondering how many people are to a room.

If it varies, please if you do know, list all of them!

Thanks in advance!

kronix

Most places they would put 4 in a room, figuring the maximum. 2 double sized beds, 2 people per bed.

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So i have this sister. We never used to fight but lately everything she does pisses me off and visa versa. I talked to my mom about it but all she said was stand up to her whenever she says something mean. She always says, "Im so much faster than you" (we both run) and "Since im better than you i thought you wouldnt care" and i always stand up to her and she always makes me feel like i am ten years younger, when shes only 3 years older than me. What should i do?

Maybe she feels inferior to you in some way that makes her want to cut you down in order to try to feel better about herself?
You say you have talked to your mom about this, but have you tried talking to your sister?
To resolve this sudden issue, she is the one you need to go to.

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16/f. This year, I am taking very hard classes and I'm trying my hardest to do very well in them. This puts a lot of pressure on me- and I've noticed that much of the time I seem very anxious. I can't relax about anything- I can't sleep well, and randomly my heart starts pounding. It's not to the point of racing, and it's not like a medical condition, it's just like the "butterflies in the stomach" thing. The problem is, I don't have butterflies in my stomach... I'm just really stressed out all the time. I eat right, exercise, and I look and feel very healthy. Yet whenever I have a lot of homework to do or anything, when I think about it I start to feel really weird, uncomfortable, and sometimes even shaky, as if I had just chugged an energy drink. Any help? Suggestions on how to calm down?

Meditation is a great way to relax.

http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/4-reasons-you-should-meditate-and-how-to-get-started/

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are you single

No.

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What kind of fruits causes gas?

"Individuals differ in their capacity to metabolize fructose (the main carbohydrate in fruits). If you exceed your body's ability, the excess fructose remains in your large intestine, where it ferments and makes gas. This causes you to feel bloated.

Fruits that are high in fructose include apples, apricots, pears, cherries, plums, prunes and peaches (as well as their juices)."

From: http://health.ivillage.com/digestion/digas/0,,4n9g,00.html

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what does it mean when someone says cut your losses. or something says cut your losses, you've waited long enough.

"cut one's losses

Withdraw from a losing situation, as in They decided to close down the unprofitable branch and cut their losses."

From: http://www.answers.com/cut+your+losses+definition?gwp=11&ver=2.1.1.521&method=3

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im only 13.. and im eating way to much my mom and all my sisters tell me to stop and to lose weight cause ill regret it and so does my dad and brother.. it really hurts you know cause i get hungry all the time.. and ijust dont know what to do.. i wanna lose wieght
im pretty big im tall and i have a belly
well not sooo big but i just wanna lose some weight im like around 50 something kilos.. anyway

what do i do when im hungry?
at home we have like cheese and alot of junk but we have aswell like cucumbers and stuff
anyways please help me im getting out of control. and i watch myself doing it but have no self control
thank u so much if you read this by the way i have a treadmill at home if that helps i used to work out alot but i dont have much time anymore cause i come back from skool at like 3 something
thank u byess!

A good start would be filling up on veggies when you are hungry, just like the celery you mentioned. Veggies are fat free and very healthy. But you know that.
Make time to do 15 or 20 minutes on your tread mill every day.

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okay. i'm going to get right to the point. i have a crush on this guy who is well...not the cutest kid in school, and anyway he asked me out, but i said no because i was afraid of what people would think. am i a horrible person?? what should i do??

Why in the hell are you more concerned about what other people think than what you want?
Who cares what they think. If they don't like it then they can go piss up a rope. Do what makes YOU happy, not the rest of the world.

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I'm 14, 15 in January and my mom and dad divorced when I was 5 and my mom has had this boyfriend since I was 7 and my dad is an alcholic and just in 7th grade he was told he had a week to live becuz the alcohol was killing his liver and so I went to see him for the last time he was alive so he didnt die but he lived until this summer and on August 29th 2007 he was found in his apartment dead! I went to the funer a and I cried when I found out he died and at the funeral but Im not sure I miss him too much but when I think of him I have to make myself cry but I want to cry so i dont feel bad but I do miss him a lot!! I never really saw him tho when he was alive so I didnt know him that well other then the fact that I lived with him for 5 years of my life! I am not sure how to feel and act plzzz help come over this!! sometimes people treat me like shit and it makes me think if only they knew what I was facing!?

I guess I don't understand why you feel crying = missing. It doesn't. Everybody handles grief and loss in different ways. You don't have to cry to know you miss your dad.

I guess I don't understand why people treat you like shit? Because you are concerned that you don't miss your dad it makes you act different?

Listen, it hasn't even been 2 months. I'm quite sure you are still mourning him. You don't realize it if you think that means crying. If people get rude with you just say "Hey, I'm sorry, but I just lost my dad 2 months ago. Sorry if I'm acting strange, I don't mean to."

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I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 20.Yes,I'm a lesbian.We've been together for two yrs now..When we first met,she had just gotten out of a yr and one month relationship with another girl.They were always on and off,but I know that she was in love with her..They cheated on each other all the time.Well,me and my gf,we'll call her N have never broken up once,or cheated on each other.We both had bad reputations with relationships and girls.But we never let it ger in our way..She was my first,for EVERYTHING,physically and emotionally.Our love has been strong..But she still talks about her ex.About the good,or the bad.I want to erase her ex out of her mind!I feel so inferior to her.It's been over 2 yrs since they've been apart and it's been like over a yr since they've stopped talking.The girls has a boyfriend now and they're serious..But I feel inferior,because that girl drives,has a job,and is totally independent..I'm not,yet.I've told N about this,and how I want her to stop talking about her in ANYWAY.But it doesn't get through to her..I feel digusted with myself.My question is,really...What would you do to make yourself feel better?Or something?I have another question..But I'll ask you later.My apologies for this being too long.

Well, you have to get this whole inferiority complex out of your head.

If she feels the need to drone on and on about her ex, that is NOT your fault, and you are in NO WAY inferior to this girl. So what if she is so independent? That doesn't make her any better than you are. So STOP THAT.

Listen, if your girlfriend doesn't want to listen to your feelings about her going on and on about the ex, then maybe you need to give an ultimatum.
Either she puts her past behind her and puts her mind on the girl who is by her side, or you will find someone who respects you enough to A) listen to your feelings B) has respect enough for you to not constantly throw her ex up in your face.

I know that isn't likely the answer you seek, but drastic situations are cause for drastic measures. If she is unaffected by such an ultimatum and still continues on as such, well, do you really want to spend the rest of your life listening to that? I highly doubt it.

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