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My sister is 11 years old. Believe me, she isn't a child anymore. She knows more than I do tbh.
And she's been so closed up lately and quiet. I know her as a happy kid always smiling. But today I found out she wants to be like those way to skinny models. My mother once had to take laxative. And she used that too today...my mum hid it though. I found it in her room. I don't know what to do I'm actually really worried and panicked. She always says she isn't hungry and skips meals
She needs help :(
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You should talk to your parents. Tell them what's going on and what you've seen. They could get her the help she needs before it gets worse.
She is way too young to be trying to get skinny. She can do that a healthy way. Be supportive, don't yell at her or criticize her, just be there to help her and let her know you love her.
But make sure to tell your parents. If this keeps going on, she can get really hurt or end up killing herself even if it's unintentional.
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its been far too long since me and my ex broke up, a year.. and i still haven't moved on, i don't understand why? i obviously can't forget him, and i know he probably doesn't even care anymore.
That feeling is still there.. theres moments i just think of him constantly, I don't know if its the memories that im in love with stil or? , I miss the old him but i know you can never go back and fix something that is broken now.
A few weeks ago everything was going good, our conversations were really good like the old times as friends, and now he ignores me or he replies cold.. I think hes found someone or likes someone?
I go out, ive met other people but i still can't move on and i really wanttt to :/
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If you're still talking to the guy, you're not allowing yourself to move on.
I was with this guy a couple years ago. I continued talking to him but I was also seeing other people. I was wondering why I couldn't get over him. Once I cut contact from him, I was able to move on. Of course I still think about him and the memories but the feelings are gone.
I think you're still hoping for more but you actually realized it won't happen so you do want to move on.
So if you seriously do want to move on, don't talk to him anymore. Don't have him as a friend on facebook, delete his number, ect.
It will take awhile to get over him, but it'll be ten times easier when you're not still talking to him.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months but we've been friends for 2 years. we live in 2 different cities and i only get to seem him once a week. Were both highschool students, and we depend on your parents for rides. when we do hangout we go to the movies or i go to his house. I'm scared that he's going to get tired of us not being together and he'll leave me for someone that he'll be able to see everyday and i feel like he see's me as a friend or something, because sometimes he'll cancel or reschedule to hangout with his bestfriend. He's also made it clear to me that he isn't very affectionate and he doesn't like being loveydovey but it makes me really insecure. i'm not asking him to tell me he loves me.. but to show that he's still interested everyonce in a while. When i do bring that issue up he'll change for that moment and be sweet but then it'll go back to normal back to a simple conversation, ughh he's a simple texter which i hate! he mostly only uses one words.. like "cool" "nice" or "yup", im always the one trying to keep the conversation interesting. i feel like he doesn't care what im talking about. he doesn't even call ..we only text. im always the one asking him to come over and hangout or if im by his house to meet up but sometimes he'll make up an excuse that he can't go out or he doesn't have a ride, it gets me fustrated because i try so hard, i always go over there but he acts like its whatevers.. i even get i arguement with my parents because they tell me to stop looking for him and begging him and that if he really cared he would come over instead of me going over there.. i always ask him if he likes me or if hes bored of our relationship but he says everything is fine, sometimes he'll even get upset when i ask! i want to be honest with him and tell him but i don't want him to think im being dramatic or controlling..
dont get me wrong when we do hangout its an amazing time and i have alot of fun but idk what's going on.. it's more interesting in person than in text. i know he's not cheating, there is some-what trust but i just don't know..
is he tired of not being able to see me? is he tired of this long distance? should i move on?
his last girlfriend cheated on him.. or is he scared of commiting?
i've read all these articales about how to keep him interested and they say to ignore him and make him chase after me but this situation i think if i gave him the cold shoulder he would leave me, (link)
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This is a somewhat complicated situation. Honestly, I think he's not the type of guy you need. I'm sure he's a great and fun guy but he can't give you what you want even when you've tried to talk about it.
So these are the options that I can see..
You could try talking to him again. Don't start accusing him of doing anything wrong but just state how you're feeling. Just tell him that it would make you so much happier if he could call you every once in awhile or hang out at your house.
If he blows it off again, then you should probably reconsider the relationship.
You could try not talking to him for awhile and see if he tries talking to you.
But consequences of that is that he might just not give a crap and he won't be interested.
As for your questions..
Is he tired of not being able to see you? I'm not sure. If he was, it would make sense of him to try a little harder. You'd be the one being tired of not being able to see him.
Same for the long distance.
Should you move on? I'd say if he doesn't do anything differently, yes.
Is he scared of committing? Maybe, maybe not. It really depends on him. But it's affecting your relationship and that's not right of him to bring the past into his current relationship.
In my opinion, I'd try talking to him again. Sit him down and tell him that this is important to you. Even write him a note if that makes any difference.
He might just not be the guy for you.
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can you get pregeant from having humping your pillow (link)
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No...
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do girls have three holes?
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Yes, there are three.
The urethra
The vagina
The anus/rectum
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I am a 15 year old girl and I am currently in a "relationship" with a guy who is the same age. We met from one of our classes, and he never talked to me, but a couple of months ago he messaged me on facebook, and things got pretty intense. We talked 24/7 and he said the most amazing sweet things. He's really deep and we had this crazy connection on facebook, we had tons in common, and shared a lot of personal things. However, we didn't talk at all in person; we were too nervous. But finally we got over it a little bit and decided to be officially dating about a week or so ago. But whenever we talk I'm always carrying the whole conversation because he doesn't say anything, he's really tense and awkward even though he is a REALLY outgoing guy with everyone else. Guys mess around and flirt with me all the time and for the most part, it can be pretty fun, and that's what I want from him. It's like in person the only guy that doesn't make me laugh is my boyfriend. So I've sort of been avoiding him for a few days because I don't really like our relationship, but then he sent me this:
"Being around youis like being a man who just won the lottery twice, it's like when you wake up and the sun is shining through your window and you know it is gonna be a great day, it's like a warm cup of cider on a chilly day. But then I realize that I haven't won the lottery, or any of that, but that I am with you and I think, I am so much luckier than a man who won the lottery. I have noticed that until we met, I wasn't happy. I tricked myself into believing I was, but the happiness I am feeling now that I have you is more than one could ever ask for. Your beauty is so overwhelming I honestly feel like I'm under some sort of spell when I'm with you. Your shyness is really adorable and you are just amazing. I am glad you are mine"
This is a pretty usual thing with him, so it makes it really hard to break up with someone who feels this way about me. I still do really like him, and I want to continue talking to him, but I don't think we work as a couple, the pressure is making him more nervous and every time we are together its painfully awkward. I just think its more stress than it's worth. So my question is, how do I end things and still keep a friendship with him? (link)
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If you don't like the relationship, you need to tell him. You need to tell him things are getting awkward in person and tell him that you guys should talk as just friends until you get more comfortable around each other.
A lot of young couples just start dating when they hardly know each other. You guys knew each other but you hardly hung out in person and that's a better way to build a friendship. So tell him that.
He'll most likely understand.
If you're saying you want to break up with him and you don't ever want to get back together with him, then just tell him that you'd rather be friends because of the awkwardness between the two of you. But friends is kind of a big word when there is feelings involved.
Because being friends means being ok with it even when you guys decide to date other people. You both will have to handle hearing about other people. So you'll have to be ok with the fact that he might need time with that.
So if you're ending it for good, don't expect it to go back to how it used to be. But eventually you'll be able to talk normally. So give it time because you guys seemed to click great as friends.
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Can a woman become preganant if her boyfriend stuck his dick in her butt and ejaculated in her butt? Is it possibble to be pregnant? (link)
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You can't get pregnant unless you have actual intercourse.
You could get STD's but not pregnant that way.
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My bf of 5 months is kind of difficult to date. I'm not saying I dont have problems cause everyone does but heres the deal.. he's the eccentric type, 'punk style'. He cares about his appearance more than his relationship, and would rather play video games than cuddle with his gf. He tells me he's not into being romantic, though he does buy me flowers the odd time, holds my hand in public and kisses me on the neck when having sex. I find that I'm the one always making the plans to hang out, text first, take time off my schedule etc. I hate that I am the one to always initiate things because it makes me feel like he doesn't care... or try. And when I confront him about these things, he tells me everythings fine and that he doesn't want to end up breaking up with me. He tells me I should 'relax' I guess, but I feel like I cant cuz I feel like our relationship isn't stable anymore and he knows it. So I guess my questions are: how can I fix this 'distance' I feel between us, how can I get him to be more involved in us without making it sound like he isnt trying? And how do i know he isnt interested in someone else? A little background info: I'm 21, he's 24. He's been cheated on in the past. I know he tells his friends good and bad things about me. He has some adhd and a bit of attention deficit disorder (he told me). He's supposed to take meds but told me they make him 'have no feelings' so he doesn't. Hence his 'eccentric' personality. He works hard and has good intentions, but I just feel like he doesn't care about me as his 'gf' even though he says he loves me... help? (link)
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It's really hard to have someone treat you differently when they don't want to.
You've already talked to him and he's just telling you to relax. I think you guys are just too different. He might be a totally great guy but some people's personalities just don't click like they should.
Because you've been doing your part in the relationship, he needs to put in his part in order to keep you around. He isn't doing that so he's not taking the relationship as seriously.
You can try talking to him one more time. Tell him that you want to meet him half way.
I mean he's not going to do everything the next day but if it starts slowly and he sees how much this means to you, maybe he'll gradually put in a little more effort for you.
If he still telling you to relax, then maybe reconsider the relationship? I mean maybe he needs a girl who is more relaxed and doesn't care if he doesn't initiate things. Maybe you need a guy who is more romantic and isn't all into his image more than you.
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Wassup? I'm 16/m and I have to tell a g at my school how I really feel about her. I love her. For 2 years. Nobody else. Just her. I love everything about her. She's perfect. We're pretty good friends and I jst don't wanna stay friends and I gotta get this foshiznt off my chest. How do I tell her wiout sounding weird? (link)
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Maybe find a time when she isn't around her friends or go up and ask if he can talk to her.
Then tell her that you have feelings for her. Don't say you love her though, that would most likely just freak her out. Just tell her you like her and you wanted to know if she wanted to go out sometime.
If she agrees, then take her to a movie or bowling..or whatever is in your area.
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I have been with my fiancé for quiet some time now and she just dosnt trust me. Like yesterday for instance I left my house like at 520pm I got to my parents house like at 550 pm and well I don't live with them anymore so I stayed a while besides my dad was helping me fix some things in the car . So it got pretty late like 9pm got home like at 930 and well like all this morning she's been giving me the silent treatment I mean I don't think that's right or even normal or what don't guys think
Advice please thanks
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Well, obviously the relationship won't work without trust. Since you've been together for so long, she should be able to trust you unless you have given her a reason not to.
So assuming you guys are generally happy together, talk to her. Sit down and talk to her. Don't start accusing her of doing something wrong. Just try to work with her. Ask her why she doesn't trust you. If she gives a legitimate reason, then find a way to fix it and work with it.
Maybe she was upset because you didn't call and tell her you'd be out late? It's not right of her to give you the silent treatment and not explain why she's unhappy.
So talk to her, find out why she feels the way she does and try to work with it. Don't fight, argue, or point fingers, just talk it out.
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im 15 ,and im really fustrated with my parents ,mainly my mom because i already know my dad wont buy me nothing , even if his job was high paying , but my issue is that im really into fashion and like shoes , because where i live theres alot of people that are nicely dressed , and have alot of "shoegame" , and everytime i go ask my mom for like the latest pair of jordans that comes out , she alway gives the same excuse like your grades , or your room not clean , or you have an attitude ... the little stuff like that , that i easily can improve , but still doesnt buy me anything . i explain myself to her like everyday how its important to be dressed nice or youll get picked on , or something like that , she just doesnt understand , ontop of that she thinks paying the bills is giving stuff to me , okay but what about the other moms they pay the bills and buy thier children thier wants and need , i look at things like it could be worse , but i also look at things like it can be better , so its a win,loose situation . idk , i just want some things..u know , and my mom gets mad if i ask other relatives for stuff , but doesnt want to buy it anyways ,wow ..pathectic , hun ?
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What is your question?
Firstly, you can't convince your mother to buy you everything you want. That's just not going to happen. If you want something, work for it.
You don't get made fun of if you're not wearing the latest fashion. As long as you look nice, decent and cute, you're fine. You're not grasping that.
She shouldn't give the same excuses over and over again, but she does need to tell you that she's not going to buy you every new shoe that comes out.
She is paying the bills and she is giving you your needs. You have clothes, you have food, you have water and a place to live right?
So learn from this now, when you're older you'll see why she didn't buy you everything. You'll end up spoiled.
I would also get mad if I told my children that they couldn't have something and they go off and ask other relatives. It is rude.
So instead of begging people to get you things, earn your own money and then you can buy whatever you want.
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Hello, I'm coming to you guys for advice as I believe that I am falling for my best friend. I am 18, female. He is 19.. obviously male. Last night, I had a party, it was gonna be a bunch of people but I decided I didn't want it to be crazy so I just invited over a few of my girlfriends. I told my guy friend that he could come over but he would be the only guy unless one of my girlfriend's boyfriend came over. He said it didn't matter if he would be the only guy so he came over. He wound up staying the night. We were watching a movie in my living room when he started to fall asleep. I wasn't sleepy, yet so I stayed on the same couch as him. I wound up falling asleep on the same couch as him anyway. We both woke up a lot through the night because it was uncomfortable but neither of us moved to the floor or the other couch. However, it wasn't next to each other on the couch, he was on one side and I was on the other, our legs met in the middle of the couch. I'm not sure if that means that he is just that comfortable with me as friends of if he may want to be with me, too. Everyone at my party was saying that we just need to get together already. We were near each other all night. I was sitting on my freezer, I went into my house to get something and I came back out, he took my spot on the freezer but he moved everything that was on his other side of the freezer and let me sit on the freezer next to him. Anyway, I know it isn't a lot to go off of but I was just wondering your thoughts. Do you think something is there or are we just best friends? Thanks! (link)
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It does seem like he is interested in you as more than a friend. I mean you don't normally spend a lot of time around a girl when you don't like her, I mean there were other girls there too. So unless he sees you as a really, really good friend, then I think he is at least becoming interested in you.
Anyways, I'd talk to him about it. Say something similar to I'm starting to have feelings for you, I was wondering if you were starting to see me that way too.
Good luck!
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Ok so before i talk about my question, i just want to let you all know that im on this website looking for support and advice, not to be criticized. And by the way im sorry this is so long, if you could please take the time to read it i would be so grateful:)
So my boyfriend is 17 and im 16. we have been dating for 10 months. He trusts me and i trust him but i have a problem with him hanging out with girls. Its not him i dont trust, its the fact that i dont want him to start developing feelings for another girl but not telling me or realizing it himself. I know he would never want to hurt me in any way and i know he wouldnt cheat on me, its just that its a natural part of life, developing feelings, you know? So i talked to him about it and i told him that i dont feel comfortable with him hanging out with other girls. I think he understands that but then he told me that i can hang out with my guy friends if i want to. I have a couple of close guy friends that i knew even before me and my boyfriend started dating. So my question is, would it be okay if i hung out with one of my guy friends because he said i could? Or would that be wrong since i told him i didnt want him hanging out with girls? Thank you!, (link)
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Feelings are natural so whether he hangs out with girls or not, he could possibly start having feelings for someone else. It's his decision to act on them.
As for hanging out with other guys because he said it was ok, that's completely up to you. If you feel like it's ok since he told you, then go ahead. If you feel like you're being hypocritical, then don't.
With my boyfriend, we set boundaries. We know it's ok to hang out with the opposite gender but we chose to restrict it. More like, still keeping in touch with them but not hanging out with them a lot. Because if I needed support from friends, I run to my girlfriends, not the guys. Just out of respect for him. I didn't feel the need to have hour long conversations with guys. If I hung out with a guy, I normally had a girl with me or we'd just catch up for a little bit and that's it.
So I think you both should talk about it. You don't want it to blow up in your face. You don't want to restrict him to not hanging out with girls at all but you might want to figure out where you feel comfortable. Because if he does end up having feelings for someone, I'm sure he won't act of them.
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So everyone says that your birthday should be one of the happiest days of the year for you. But not for me ever year just gets sadder and sadder and so much harder to deal with. My party was usually just one or two close friends hanging out but this year I couldn't even bare to do that. I mean birthdays are really for celebrating that you have been on the earth for another year. Also it's a point when most people look back on there lives and then look to there future. But both of those parts of a birthday make me feel miserable. The celebrating makes me feel outcasted kind of funny really being the outcast at your own party. Then the looking over of your life makes me realize how horrible my life is and how miserable my future will be. I look back and realize that anyone that I have loved has either left me or has ended up hurting me. Birthdays are really awkward in my family. No one in my family ever celebrates birthdays. I've never had a Birthday where people show up to my house at 12am and me blowing candles or people singing happy birthday around me.Last time I had that birthday was when I was 10. I've had a bad childhood. When I see other people celebrating their bday I just want kill myself. My suicidal thoughts are highest on my bday. (link)
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Do you get help for your suicidal thoughts? If not, then you need to go deal with that right now. You should talk to someone and get help.
Right now, you also need to work on being more positive. So you had a bad childhood, that's your childhood, leave it there. You don't know how your future will look, and that's the good part. You get to control your future. You're choosing your future to be horrible. You can also choose to be happy. I'm sure you have lots of be grateful for and lots of things you can do in the future.
My family doesn't do much for birthdays. I've had 2 birthday parties. I've known people who never had birthday parties too.
Honestly, this is how you are choosing to think.
Your depression is probably getting to the best of you and that's why I think you need to go talk to someone about this. You are in control of your life. If you are choosing to be sad and feel sorry for your life then that's how it's going to be till you decide to stop.
So go talk to someone and get help. If you are getting help, you still need to talk to a counselor or therapist and let them know about this.
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Hey, my boyfriend has been acting distant, doesn't walk next to me in the street, walks ahead.. Stopped sitting next to me at his mams & doesn't go down on me anymore when we are fooling around,, he's also saying he is going to make a lovely night for me but always forgets or gets his friends to come over, he said he wanted to go to the fair with just me & him like a date got me all excited then asked two of his friends to come.. I keep getting angry & going in a huff with him,, I feel like he's pushing me away but he says he loves me more than life itself, we've been together for a year now, got a little girl & moving in together, even talking about getting engaged, he used to be all over me & suddenly changed, we broke up for a few months, isn't our love supposed to be more intense & erotic rather than distant from eachother? I don't know what to do or say anymore I'm scared incase am being silly & just pushing him away.. Please help I don't want to lose him (link)
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It seems normal to have this kind of thing happen in a relationship when you've been together for awhile.
If my boyfriend started doing those things too, I'd start getting frustrated as well.
You should sit down and talk to him. Don't sit him down and start listing off everything he is doing wrong though, because that will push him away. Just tell him you need to talk to him, get everything off your chest and you just want some things to be different. Go one by one. I'd start with him forgetting about him making a lovely night for you and then forgetting. Maybe say you feel like he is pushing you away because of this and then the little things like walking next to you, ect.
Tell him if you don't talk all this out, it's going to bother you.
So let him be honest with you and try to work through the problems. Keeping quiet and letting yourself get bitter over it won't help. But don't argue with him. If he has anything to say about you, let him. I mean nobody is perfect and maybe you do things that bother him too. So just have a time to sit down and let everything out with no fighting.
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Hello,
I do not have sex all the time, however I did last Sunday. Everytime I have sex I get super paranoid. Best thing you'd say is not have sex, but face it we all do it and it's natural. I had sex this past Sunday, and he wore a condom. He mentioned it was tight and I thought omg.. Anyways condom didn't break. I'm still super paranoid!! Could I be pregnant? I took a test and I know it's too early but I'm very anxious. The thing I keep telling myself is not to worry you aren't and quit having sex. Any advice as to not get so anxious about this? Besides possibly be on the pill.. I hope I'm not preg.
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There is a good chance you're not pregnant since the condom didn't break but since you're so paranoid, just get on birth control. You'll never be able to fully enjoy sex until you are comfortable. You're obviously not comfortable because you start freaking out if something is wrong. So the best thing to ease your mind is to get on birth control.
As for right now, just don't worry about it. Easier said than done but you're probably not pregnant so just take it easy and do other things to keep your mind off it. Then take a test later to make yourself feel better.
Next time, just get on birth control.
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I always end up running back to a girl at my school. I hate it because I don't have a chance with her and she's way to "cool" for me .I've had feelings on and off for her for about 2 years.I'm 14m and she's in my grade,but I want to know how to completely forget about her romantically. I want her as a friend but I want to stop crawling back to her. Any help would me very much appreciated guys! A THOUSAND thanks! :D (link)
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Well the best thing for right now is to not talk to her at all.
Then maybe eventually you'll stop thinking about her as much and you'll move on to a new girl. But if you think you're going to go run back to her, don't let yourself. Do something else until that urge passes.
I totally understand how it feels to keep going back to that one person so this is what worked for me and it might work for you too. A lot of people deal with this. So just contact for awhile. Don't have her on facebook, in your phone and then once you're over her, then you can talk to her every once in awhile. If your feelings come back, then you might not be able to handle being just friends with her.
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Hi! So I'm 14yr guy and at my school, there's a girl in my grade who ALL the guys would DIE to have her alone for 10 minutes. She's absolutely stunning. Let's call her... Maddie So Maddie the other day, was apparently doing something that was turning all o my friends on. And she came over to our table Sat in my lap and started kissing on my neck and ear. I'm not saying I didn't enjoy that, but I have a girlfriend who I (I'm a little young to really call it love) deeply care for. But all the guys at my school tell me i should dump my gf and date Maddie. Now I will , Maddie is prettier then my grade But she's a complete bi#ch (unlike my gf) . So how can I tell her I don like her without upsetting her (I'm NOT gonna be a heartbreaker) and without pissing my friends off? I'm not dumping my GF.
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You just simply tell her that you have a girlfriend and you don't like her like that. You don't have to be mean about it, just talk to her when you're not with your friends and she's not with hers and just tell her nicely that you don't like her like that.
Your friends are guys who don't really care about how you feel about your girlfriend. They think a girl who is hot is better than a girl who is a sweet, good girl.
At least you're smart enough not to do something like that. A girl like Maddie isn't a girl you want to date. Because obviously, she just goes up to guys who are unavailable and kisses them.
If your friends get mad over something this shallow, then their not real friends. They don't control who you date. You get to choose who you date, remember that.
If they give you crap, just say that you like your girlfriend.
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Yep. If a guy likes a girl, there's a good chance he'll talk about her.
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My Sister Let Me HAVE One Of Her Games, And Now She's Wanting It Back. I Already Have A Lot On There And I Really Love That Game. It's $60, But I Found One On eBay (Reliable Seller) For Less... But There's A Problem. I Have No Money. My Parents Don't Let Me Do Chores And They Won't Get It For Me, Either. My Birthday Is Coming Up In 3 Months, And I Asked If They Could Get It For Me For An Early Birthday Present But They Said No. Any Tips On What To Do? I Really Don't Want To Wait, And I Don't Know How To Get Money. (link)
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Well there are other ways to earn money.
You can wash cars for neighbors.
Recycle bottles and cans and you can get some money from that.
Mow lawns
You could try babysitting.
If you know some of your neighbors well, maybe they pay you some money to clean their house.
Rake leaves
If you know any neighbors that are going on vacation, you can house sit for them. Like water their plants and feed their pets.
You could also have a yard sale and sell things you don't really need or want.
Lemonade stands
Bake sales
Sell candy
Maybe you know how to make jewelry or something and you could try to sell some.
On trash days, you can go to your neighbors and ask for a dollar to take their trash to the road.
Anyways, be creative. If you don't want to do anything else, then just be patient. But doing these things will help with earning some money.
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