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Always running back to her
I always end up running back to a girl at my school. I hate it because I don't have a chance with her and she's way to "cool" for me .I've had feelings on and off for her for about 2 years.I'm 14m and she's in my grade,but I want to know how to completely forget about her romantically. I want her as a friend but I want to stop crawling back to her. Any help would me very much appreciated guys! A THOUSAND thanks! :D
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What you have to do is simple. Close your eyes and picture her face. Then, ask yourself what you really think if her. Whatever your first answer is is what you should trust. If this girl is very good looking, make a small list of things you like about her. If your first words are something that describes your crushing on her, or you thought you want to be more than friends, tell her the next time you see her that you are having some technical difficulties at home or whatever and that you need a little time to yourself to sort things out. Then, start spending more time with your other friends until your feelings for her have cooled. When you're ready, tell her you have it under control and want to start hanging out more often. If things heat up again, hang in groups to distract yourself.
Moving on, think about what makes her too cool for you. Does she act like it, or do you think she's cool because of the things she has or things she does? If all her accomplishments and knickknacks where taken away, would she still be cool? If not, don't call her too cool for you, because she's just a regular human like you. Things shouldn't define you.
I'm sorry if you don't like my answer, but hey, I tried. And I'm listening to sad Indian songs, and I'm stressed, and my ribs hurt. Sorry if any of that inched it's way into my mood, ruining this answer, but best of luck!:)
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Honestly, I have been in your exact position so many times. The one single most important thing you need to understand is that there's nothing you can do. You're helpless. Honestly. You can't change what you feel. Distancing never worked for me, because I could go a long time without seeing them, and then the minute I saw them again it was like nothing had changed. You can try to tell yourself all these reasons why you shouldn't like her, and maybe eventually you'll start listening to yourself. I never did. I personally don't believe you can "move on" from anyone. If you like someone, you'll always have that fragment or grain of emotion left inside of you. But you can learn to except change and moving on. I eventually realized that the person I wanted was what was best for me. And that if they didn't want me as much as I wanted them, than in the end i would only be hurting myself. The moment i really got over them, was when I met someone else who saw something in me that the other person in me never couldn. And instantly I had no doubts about "moving on" from the other person. Just take your time in moving on. You'll know when your making some headway. Being young is hard, but very manageable. Good luck!
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Well the best thing for right now is to not talk to her at all.
Then maybe eventually you'll stop thinking about her as much and you'll move on to a new girl. But if you think you're going to go run back to her, don't let yourself. Do something else until that urge passes.
I totally understand how it feels to keep going back to that one person so this is what worked for me and it might work for you too. A lot of people deal with this. So just contact for awhile. Don't have her on facebook, in your phone and then once you're over her, then you can talk to her every once in awhile. If your feelings come back, then you might not be able to handle being just friends with her.
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Maybe for a while you can try not associating with her. If you aren't around her as much and don't talk to her as much your emotions for her romantically will decrease and you will be over your "crush" I would say. Good luck!
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