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(Sorry about my English. I used Google Translate)
My sister and I both live in our house (We're under 18). She is very disrespectful and I feel so uncomfortable living with her. She says my shows/movies are "gay" (It's rude), she steals my food/things, comes at me with sharp things (She thinks it's a joke. She won't hurt me, but I'm afriad one day she will), and so much more. She has ADHD, too. I'm not sure what to do anymore... I told my mom about the sharp objects thing and she has never believed me once... I'm terrified of her. The friends she hangs out with smoke, they curse, and violent. Whenever she's gone, I think I'm safe at least for a little while. I just don't know... Please help. I now can't even sleep at night. I only sleep for 4 hours a day, sometimes less, because I'm scared she'll do something to me or touch my things. (link)
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Sounds like your sister need to go to boot camp. I had a friend sophomore year whose little sister was the same way. My friend got so fed up with it that she actually left the state to visit family one summer. Honestly there's nothing that you can do. Your mother should be the one taking action. Ya'll are sisters but sadly sometimes that doesn't always mean yall are going to get along. I'd like to say that most of the time it works out and she'll grow out of it, but if that's the way shes acting now, then something very life changing is going to have to happen in order for her to get her act together. Just be the best sister you can, and try to stay alive.
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So I feel that I am losing my bestfriend to her boyfriend. She spends most of her time with him & we are only 14. Is this wrong? Like everytime I try to hangout with her, she's always with him or has plans or the next busy with him. I feel that she is way too involved with him at this age. Like 14 years old you should be having fun with your friends, not making your boyfriend your life & priority. At this age is it wrong to be hanging out with your boyfriend more then your friends? (link)
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You are completely right. You guys are fourteen and in the long run its sisters before misters. HOWEVER, ya'll are fourteen and sometimes that mean having to work on getting your priorities straight. She's confused and she doesn't know what really matters to her the most right now. And if she's any friend worth having, she'll eventually realized how wrong shes been treating you and she'll apologize. If not, then maybe it's not meant to be an eternal friendship. One of the hardest things to accept growing up is that all friendships don't last forever. Just because they end, doesn't mean they weren't great. And true friends will ALWAYS be there for each other, throughout a whole lifetime, but that doesn't mean you guys are going to be side by side forever. Good luck and I hope you can keep your patience and have hope!
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help.... (link)
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It's honestly rare to find real "friends" in high school. Most friendships developed as a kid are mainly out of location and convenience. Ya know, "Oh well, you're here and I'm here, and you're rich and I'm rich, and we're both pretty, so let's be friends." That's not even hardly the definition of a real friend. I never seemed to fit in either. I appeared to have lots of friends, my facebook page was very popular, but when I really thought about it, I still felt completely alone. All of my "friends" wouldn't really go to the ends of the Earth for me or love me unconditionally. And knowing that, makes the journey that much harder, because you don't take any of the relationships in your life serious. You won't know what it is to have a real friend until you have one, and then no one else will measure up. But trust me, being that way can make life a lot more lonely and difficult, but it's also a key sign that you're different. You stand out. You're capable of seeing past your pretty clothes and fancy car. And in the long run, you'll be a well rounded person. So I'm not saying stick your nose out to everyone else because you think you know more, but don't feel discouraged when others won't give you the time of day because, really, it's a friendship that THEY missed out on, not you.
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I hope to become a singer/songwriter in the near future and I'm trying to find a name. I do not like my last name, but I'm willing to work with my first and middle name which is: Jenna Michelle. My genre is contemporary christian, nothing too edgy. I want something that will sound good on a CD and will give people something to notice. (link)
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Jenna Michelle Miller
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I have a bff who is 2 years younger than me. I'm 13 and she's just turned 11. Recently she's been acting obsessed with me and always wants to get her way. I've noticed this, and as you can imagine, it's put me off hanging out with her so much. She's just so judgmental and boring. She'll never do anything fun and new, she just wants to shop and watch boring movies in which are too mature for her, this gives her the idea that she is older than she really is, though she can act like a right old brat at times. I started hanging out with my other friend, who's my age, a lot more, and i love it, it has made me notice how much i hate hanging out with my bff. I need some advise on how to slowly become less attached to the hip with her, in a wat which won't be too obvious to her. Also, what can i do to slyly show her i'm changing? so that she can see we're growing apart. thanks!! (link)
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First you need to make sure that not being friends with her anymore is something you really want.She is going through a very confusing time and so are you. both of you are going to be changing alot in the next five years and you don't want to make a decision now based on this phase that both of you are in. Give it time. you might be right and you may need to move on. But if you aren't you wouldn't want to ruin what could potentially and eventually be one of the most important relationships in your life. Give it time.
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A couple of months ago my BF started acting weird and he would zone out. We live together and he never cleans up his messes. I am pregnant and I need him to help out. But last week he called me from work and told me he was going out with another girl. We broke up, and I am terrified. I needed him and now he's gone. I am alone and I need help. My friend told me to get another BF ad by the time my baby is born, I'll have a father. The only other person in my life is my ex(a different one) but he is a sex addict and I can't have sex! (link)
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The single most important thing that you understand right now is that you're going to be a mother and you're baby needs YOU. Not some bum off the street, or some random guy you met at a bar, or that jerk who left you. You're baby needs YOU. Its ideal to have your life in order before you create another life, but sometimes it happens out of order and in the end you appreciate more. You'll be okay. You'll pull yourself together enough to raise a baby that you're gonna fall in love with as soon as you stare at it's tiny little face. Thats when you'll have your answers. It's gonna be hard, and terrifying, but you'll know whats best for your child.
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Ok, I wont say how young I am but I love masturbating regularly and I can get enough of it... I even have myself a sex master... I feel like a whore and even worse when I'm at school I rub myself with my pens and occasionally finger myself.
Be honest... Am I a slut? (link)
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I have a feeling, if you're bold enough to ask a question like that on the internet, then you're probably pretty young, and that means you are probably pretty hormonal. But how much you enjoy having orgasms has nothing to do with whether or not you're a slut. You're human. you're hormonal. Achieving sexual satisfaction is something every human craves. Some more than others. It's just you're body. It does not mean you're a slut.
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I always end up running back to a girl at my school. I hate it because I don't have a chance with her and she's way to "cool" for me .I've had feelings on and off for her for about 2 years.I'm 14m and she's in my grade,but I want to know how to completely forget about her romantically. I want her as a friend but I want to stop crawling back to her. Any help would me very much appreciated guys! A THOUSAND thanks! :D (link)
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Honestly, I have been in your exact position so many times. The one single most important thing you need to understand is that there's nothing you can do. You're helpless. Honestly. You can't change what you feel. Distancing never worked for me, because I could go a long time without seeing them, and then the minute I saw them again it was like nothing had changed. You can try to tell yourself all these reasons why you shouldn't like her, and maybe eventually you'll start listening to yourself. I never did. I personally don't believe you can "move on" from anyone. If you like someone, you'll always have that fragment or grain of emotion left inside of you. But you can learn to except change and moving on. I eventually realized that the person I wanted was what was best for me. And that if they didn't want me as much as I wanted them, than in the end i would only be hurting myself. The moment i really got over them, was when I met someone else who saw something in me that the other person in me never couldn. And instantly I had no doubts about "moving on" from the other person. Just take your time in moving on. You'll know when your making some headway. Being young is hard, but very manageable. Good luck!
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