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My BF is cheating
A couple of months ago my BF started acting weird and he would zone out. We live together and he never cleans up his messes. I am pregnant and I need him to help out. But last week he called me from work and told me he was going out with another girl. We broke up, and I am terrified. I needed him and now he's gone. I am alone and I need help. My friend told me to get another BF ad by the time my baby is born, I'll have a father. The only other person in my life is my ex(a different one) but he is a sex addict and I can't have sex!
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The single most important thing that you understand right now is that you're going to be a mother and you're baby needs YOU. Not some bum off the street, or some random guy you met at a bar, or that jerk who left you. You're baby needs YOU. Its ideal to have your life in order before you create another life, but sometimes it happens out of order and in the end you appreciate more. You'll be okay. You'll pull yourself together enough to raise a baby that you're gonna fall in love with as soon as you stare at it's tiny little face. Thats when you'll have your answers. It's gonna be hard, and terrifying, but you'll know whats best for your child.
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Your baby's father can't palm off his responsibilities by telling you to find another boyfriend to be the baby's father. The law is on your side here. As the father he is financially responsible for this child now until the day it reaches 18 years of age. He can claim not to be the father. All that will do is have the court order a paternity test. Once the results of that test are received and he is proved to be the father, the courts will order financial responsibility.
This includes monthly child support payments, life insurance to cover those payments through the child's 18th birthday, keeping up health insurance for the child and any other things children need while growing up.
What I suggest is you seek the help of a family law attorney. IF you can't afford one go to the legal aid society in your town for help. They will draw up the legal papers needed and represent you in court if it comes to that.
Do this now while they can still find him and garnish his wages. If they cannot garnish his wages they garnish any tax return he may have coming to settle what he owes in child support.
No parent can walk away from their responsibilities to a child; the courts will not allow this. So see a lawyer of your choosing or seek the help of your local legal aid society but have the proper paperwork done to force the father to provide what he is required to provide.
As the saying goes; He had the fun, now it's time to take responsibility for the results.
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This is an unfortunate situation. It will become only 10 times worse if you go out seeking another guy or any guy because you are lonely and want the baby to have a father.
Don't get involved with anyone right now as your head and thinking aren't in a level-headed zone at present.
Instead of panic realize one thing that you have parents and family who will certainly help you. You need to tell your parents that you got involved with an absolute schmuck who is cheating and got you pregnant and won't act responsible.
They will know how to legally make him financially and responsible in other ways. They will be able to provide you with a lot of support.
When it comes to the child having a father it will happen eventually but believe me you want it to be the right man and not just anyone introduced into his or her life who may fade out of it easily.
If anything this should make you really cautious in sizing up suitors and that's a good thing. You can't afford another A-hole like this guy in your life.
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