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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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I really need to put videos I have taken on my digital camera onto DVDs, and I have no idea how to do it!!! Can anybody help me??

I have a Kodak Easy Share Digital Camera, and I use the Easy Share software to put the videos on my computer. I use Quicktime Player to view the videos, if this information is useful.

Thanks!!

Do you have Windows XP? If not, then disregard.
I have it, and here is what I do:

In Easy Share- Right click the video clips, go to "Send To" then click "My Documents". It will say it can't hold that type of file- click OK. Do this with each individual file clip until you have all sent to My Docs. Don't worry, it just sends a copy.

From My Documents- Drag each clip into your "My Videos" folder.

Convert to an AVI file. I downloaded a good program to do this. Here is the link:
http://www.radgametools.com/bnkdown.htm
On the left click "The RAD Video Tools [1.2 MB]" to download.

Once done with that, open RAD (under Bink and Smacker file in "All Programs" under Start menu.)
Select to look in My videos, click on a Quicktime video. Don't hit PLAY... On the bottom there is a box that says "Convert a File"- click that.
Next, make click "Output Type" and ensure there is a check mark next to AVI.
On the right, click "Convert". I always select "Full Frames (Uncompressed)" in the next box that pops up.
Now, done with that. You now have it under My Videos as both a Quicktime and an AVI.

OK, now I open Windows Movie Maker- Select "Import Video" and do just that, drag the clips down to the time line, when done with that, "Save to DVD".

I'm sure there is an easier way to do this, but I'm fond of WMM where I can add titles, subtitles, background music, transitions, etc. I find it nice to add my own personal touch to that sort of stuff.
You can also add pictures, but you don't have to convert the format of pictures.

Sorry so long, and hope that was more helpful than confusing.

ygs-29/f

Ok, so my left breast has been hurting really really bad for the past week. I know i probably dont, but im freaking out that i might have breast cancer.
Could anyone tell me what the symptoms are? And should i tell anyone? Who?
Im 14/f and still going through puberty, but its never hurt this badly and for this long before.
Thanks for any and everything!!

The only way you will know if you have breast cancer is to have a biopsy done. For that you need to go to the doctor for an exam, and they have to decide if you are even in need of a biopsy.

ygs-29/f

a friend of mine send me a pic of him on his phone almost naked by accident
it was supposed to go to someone else
he claims it was a girl but im not sure
i think he mite be gay but im not sure is there any sign or indication that a person is gay because he would never admit it to me

There is no way of being able to tell someone's sexual orientation by looking at them.
The only way you will know is if he tells you he is.
Why should it matter anyway? If you are a true friend you accept him as he is.

ygs-29/f

hey ive been hookin up with this kid and like im starting to like him alot...the problem is that hes my like ex hookups best friend. we both argreed for now to keep it quiet. im just afraid that im going to start falling for him and not be able to have anything with him. what should i do?

Why would you not be able to have anything with him if you end up falling for each other? Because of your ex "hook-up?"
Falling for someone and starting a relationship with someone holds more importance than what an ex hook-up has to say.
I mean, seriously, a hook-up is ONLY a hook-up.

ygs-29/f

i was on my period and me and my boyfriend had sex and he stayed inside me.

we did that five times.

and after that we did it fifteen times with him pulling out when i was off my period.

do you think i am pregnant?

There is a chance. There is never a time that is a 'safe' time for you to have unprotected sex without the risk of getting pregnant.
The pull out method is ineffective birth control. Anyone who says it works is spouting myth.
You need to ALWAYS use condoms. Even if you take birth control. Condoms are the only thing to protect you from STDs. It is a good habit to start now in order to protect yourself from disease.

ygs-29/f

So around the end of last summer i met this girl and we have been liek BEST friends ever since like... inseperable, we spend every weekend together no matter what

well lately ive become like dependant on her.. its weird like i can tell her anything and i mean anything but im not happy when im with any other friend

i alwasy tell her that if im to clingy just tell me but she never says anything about it

im worried that im too clingy but shes my true best friend

i really dont knwo what to do

i dont want her to get "fed up" with me even though shes never said anythgin about it

If she is your true best friend she will let you know if and when she needs space.
If she is your true best friend, she won't think you are too clingy.
Since you are inseparable and spend every weekend together, then she probably feels the same way about you that you feel about her.

ygs-29/f

Tomorrow I have a class with him and we usually sit around on the floor.. it's rug. :)

I'm always around girls so I sit next to a best friend and like a sister. (she's not really my sister, but she's cool like that)

He sits like on the opposite side.. Should I sit where he is? How could I do that?

-Thanks

Well, you could either ask him to join you and your friend, or you can wait for him to sit and ask if he minds if you sit next to him for class today.

ygs-29/f

My aunt lost two of the men she was engaged to. Then, recently her husband cheated on her with two different people & drove a truck through the wall of her house. So, yeah, she`s had a hard life. She didn`t know who to turn to I guess, so she started drinking & smoking. When you destroy 100,000 dollars worth of things because you`re mad at someone, you know you need help, right? Well, I guess she didn`t pick up on that. She has two kids, the girl is 15 & the boy is 13. My grandparents & parents talked to my earlier & they said that I`m the one that she "adores" more than anyone, more than her own kids. They think I should try talking to her now. The problem is I don`t know what to say to her. I know she (the youngest child) always thought her parents never loved her cause she believes they favored her sister (my mother, the oldest child) & the one person in the family who she thought truely loved her died. All her life, she`s lost the people who have honestly loved her (including both of the men she had been engaged to + her husband leaving her). She won`t listen to anyone else. She`s been drinking for almost twenty years & she`s about 47 now. She`s gone to AA & it still hasn`t helped. She`s gotten a DUI, but finished all of the requirements that she had to do afterwards. She`s very sensitive, yet very stubborn. How am I supposed to tell her to quit drinking without completely ruining our relationship or just flat out making everything worse?

Check out this website about drug/alcohol intervention:
http://www.druginterventions.net/drugandalcohol.htm

"If intervention is done by someone the addict particularly trusts, it has a greater chance of being successful. This can be a family member, a close friend, or anyone concerned enough to help the addict. A professional counselor with good reputation can play an effective role in intervention."
From the above link.

You can even call them and get help and advice on how to handle your special situation and how to go about an intervention.

ygs-29/f

It has nothing to do with love or anything of that matter. I feel like he wants to get to know me too, but he's really shy around me and I hang out with another group usually, and he's always by himself.

I feel like he wants to talk to me, but again he's worried about what I'll think of him. He's teased a lot and I think that's why he doesn't trust me...

How can I show him that he can trust me?

PS: I've given him money, and paper or w/e and he's always repaid me.

Thanks,
AJ

Ok, now I get what you are meaning. I was a bit confused before. Sorry about that. :)

Well, you can invite him to hang around with you and your friends when you hang out with the group so he knows he is welcome to be your friend, and that you are serious about wanting to be friends.

Or, if your group isn't the accepting type (since you say he is teased) then go hang out with him too, so he isn't left to be by himself, and to show him that you don't care what others think of you being friends with him.

When people are teasing him, stick up for him- tell them to back off. Me and my group of friends were the teased outcasts of the school, and we stuck up for each other. Even our friends we had that were of the popular sort stuck up for any of us. That is friendship.
However, don't get out your cape and try to play the hero roll. You don't want him to feel as though you think he can't stick up for himself. Save that for when people are talking behind his back and he isn't there to defend himself.

Do you have common interests? Invite him to go do something after school. You increase your chances of getting to know someone outside of school and in person (not just via internet or phone).
For example: If you both like video games, invite him over to play your new Guitar Hero, or something. If you both like to go to movies, invite him to go along to watch the latest movie at the theater.

As for him being afraid to talk to you, you just have to give him time to realize you are a good guy. He may just come out of his shell a little at a time, but if you show him you mean to be a true friend to him, he will let you into his world in due time.

Trust really isn't something you can show- it is something you earn. You can't earn someone's trust and friendship by giving money, etc, because it's something you can't buy. Not saying that helping someone out isn't a very kind gesture, because it is. There is nothing wrong with helping a guy out when he is out of paper or in need of a few bucks.

I can't tell you how to earn his trust other than to be there for him, and to be his friend no matter what everyone else thinks about it. It takes time to earn trust, but just be patient.

Again, sorry I was confused, but thank you for clearing it up and adding details so I could do more to try and help. :)

ygs-29/f

Today, my dog bit me. (chihuahua) Really badly on my thumb. Like...where the nail and skin meets, he punctured that part and I could see the hole and blood and stuff. (I don't have good experiences with dogs. I got bit on the leg before)

But anyway,
Blood started gushing out. I was home alone so I didn't know what to do. I let some blood come out before I actually treated the wound (I had to lock my dog up)

I treated it with hydrogen peroxide and iodine and then I carefully wrapped it around in a band-aid. A couple of minutes in, I felt really ligtheaded, I nearly fainted.
I was SOO weak, that I couldn't stand up, I felt like the whole world was closing in on me, eveything got dark and I couldn't feel my legs, I just fell. And started crying/panicking.

I then went over to my bed and felt the same, I crawled under the covers. And I felt SO lightheaded/bad.
What happened to me? Why did this happen? =|

Maybe it was a panic attack? Those are brought on by fears and phobias. For instance, you mentioned you have been bitten by a dog before, AND that you were home alone, so maybe the bite triggered a panic attack.
Don't go by my opinion as being that is exactly what happened, because I wasn't there and I don't really know. It is just a suggestion.
Be sure to show the bite to your parents when they get home. And if you ever get a dog bite (or any other injury) that is severe, you need to seek medical attention. Even if you are home alone and have to call 911.

ygs-29/f

Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.

I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.

He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..

I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.

Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(

So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.

How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..

ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.

Thanks!
-AJ

PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade.

If you are straight, then it sounds to me like a case of hero worship? Something about this guy sure has grabbed your attention, and it seems that you want nothing more in the world to grab his so you can pal around. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's my opinion on it.

I don't really understand what you mean by saying you feel like there is something more when he smiles at you. Are you meaning you are kinda wondering if maybe you like this guy on a completely different level than just a friend? I'm pretty confused on all that, because you say more than once you are straight.

I honestly can't tell you how to make him open up to you and be chit-chatty. All I can tell you is to keep trying to make friendly conversation with him and see if the friendship will grow.

ygs-29/f

how do you take photos of like, say, the moon? is there a special type of film that lets you photograph in the dark? my camera doesnt have bulbs or anything..

Well, it depends on what kind of camera you are using. If it is a digital camera, you have to set it to night time photos.
If you are using a 35mm with the knob to change the F-stop, you need to turn the knob to slow the shutter speed for a good picture.

ygs-29/f

has anyone dyed their hair with kool-aid before? did it work? if you have any suggestions with how not to screw up on the process please tell me. thank you.

p.s. i currently sport black hair. so i may need to bleach it? i dunno.

Kool-aid will doubtfully show up on black hair.

Here is a link with great steps and tips for dying your hair with Kool-aid:
http://www.wikihow.com/Dye-Your-Hair-Using-Kool-Aid

ygs-29/f

How to load film on a developing reel?

http://www.ehow.com/how_2102694_load-film-onto-developing-reel.html

I am particularly confused in step 4. Does anyone know what that step looks like? I can't figure out how the film is inside the canister and what to cut off and all that.

Step Four:
The film will be taped to the center film spool. Use your scissors to cut the spool off as close to the base of the spool as possible. On the other end of the strip of film is the shaped edge that you use to load film into a camera. Cut that edge off so it is squared. You will only need to snip about 1 inch.

Also, I do not understand step 5. I get how the natural curl of the film should follow the shape of the reel, but how do you know if you're loading it in upside down?

Step Five:
Slide one end of the negative into the opening of the reel (approximately 4 inches) while not touching the surface of the negative. Note the “natural” curl of the film should follow the shape of the reel. Do not attempt to load it upside down.

It would be a great help if anyone knew of visual tutorials somewhere. Thanks guys!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vo-Sjkg0YFo&feature=related

This is a different type of spool than what we used back when I was in photography. We had to take the film from the camera, remove it from the canister by pushing one end of it on the table. The little spool of film should pop right out.
Then we would put the end of the film to the developing spool with a piece of tape and roll onto the spool loosely, then develop.

The top of the film is the shiny side. You will know it is going on the right way, because it is curled. By following the natural curl, you will put the film on the developing spool, shiny side up, in the same direction it is curled.

That may sound more confusing than it really is. :( It is much easier to show someone how to do it than explain it with words.

I searched this and went with youtube. There are other links to instruction videos that may be helpful:

ygs-29/f

I downloaded this MMORPG (massive multiplayer online role playing game) called Warrock. It's a bit laggy and I heard that some kind of graphics card can help make it less laggy and maybe improve graphics. Is that true? How much do they cost? Where can I buy one? (are places like BestBuy,Walgreens,CVS,Circuit City good?) And what kind do I need? I have a Windows XP if that helps because I heard the computer has to support a certain type of graphics card.

My husband got an ATI Radeon X1600 pro 512 MB graphics card:
http://www.amazon.com/Radeon-X1600-Express-Video-Card/dp/B000ENORJI

He got it from Best Buy, and it cost about $200. Not cheap, but playing games on the computer is amazing.

If you search online, you can surely find a better deal if this is what you want.

If it helps, we have an HP desktop with Windows XP Media Center edition 2005.

I don't know if this is what you are looking for, exactly, with the high price tag, but I can tell you this one has worked excellently for us.

ygs-29/f

im a f/16
m/16boyfriend of 4months
christmas gift idea-

Ok well today he said that he likes this expensive sent thats $70 but he doesnt want to spend the money on it.
so i was thinking of getting it for christmas but if i get him that i wont be able to afford anything else.
its CHANEL ALLURE HOMME SPORT Great Sport Set
if that helps at all just thought i might share.

and his parents are prolly gonna be getting him his normal kind so idk if i should still do this :-\

does it sound ok?
or should i do something else
i need to know soon.

I wouldn't if it is going to leave you broke.

Ok, so i'm 19/f and i am strugglin with crack use. i had been smokin crack for 5 years but i stopped. i havent had it in 24 days and its the hardest thing i've done. i havent been able to stop thinkin bout it. i dream bout it...anyway recently i started takin OCs b/c i have been in so much pain. (i have two broken ribs that i havent gone to the doctors for) the thing is my friend found out and she's pissed at me for it now and i dont get why. its not like i'm smokin crack i'm takin pain killas cuz im in pain. i dont get why shes mad at me for this. I'm doin everything i can to just not smoke crack again and now she wants me to just do nothin bout the pain i'm in? Am i wrong or she overreacting?

OCs? What is that? Over the counter? Oxycodone? Oxycotin? If it is either of the last two, they are addictive. Many prescription pain pills are.

There is something you can do about the pain- go to the doctor. Even if you can't afford it, you need to find a way. In your special situation, it is very important you go through a medical professional for medications. Explain to them your situation and they can prescribe you something that has a low risk of addiction.

I imagine she is mad because she is worried. You are struggling with an addiction- it is easy to replace one addiction with another, and pain medicines can be quite addictive. Especially if it makes it easier to deal with the misery of physical and mental withdraws as well as ridding you of pain from broken ribs.

You should talk to her about her feelings on this and ask her if she can do something to help you through this. I highly doubt getting mad at you and turning a cold shoulder your way will help you when you need all the support you can get right now.

ygs-29/f

i had a pregnacy test 2 weeks before my due period cause my doctor suspected my nausea and vomiting and dizzy spells were due to that- it came up negative-since then I still have nausea, very sore breast- even raw and peeling, sore legs and hips lower back pain massive diaharea in the morning frequent urunation and find it hard to eat a full meal without wanting to or actually vomiting I had my period but it was light and normally I clot and have cramps and it lasts 7 days it only lasted a few days. My nipples have gotten larger- the areolas that is and no longer seem pink but more brown than ever-is there any chance based on my symptoms that the test could have been wrong if it was I would be almost 3 months- having had unprotected sex with my then boyfriend who ejaculated in me. If it is not what might it be

Pregnancy tests aren't as reliable as they claim when taken too early. False positives are slim chances, but false negatives are high chances if you take it too soon. You have to wait until your body produces enough pregnancy hormones that enough will show up in your urine for an accurate result.

Your best bet is to wait until your period is late when you go to take a test- one week for adults and two weeks for teens. Two weeks because a teen's menstrual cycle is doubtfully regulated. Even though you had a period, short, light periods can happen early in pregnancy.

You better test again. You could very well be pregnant.
Here is a link to pregnancy symptoms:
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm

ygs-29/f

okay well theres this girl. and shes one of my best friends..like we used to talk on the phone like every day and know everything about eachother and stuff. now it kinda seems like were more distant and stuff. like we always used to invite eachother when we hung out with our other friends. but then today she invited our friend to lunch and the girl she invited was like texting me and she was like did ___ invite you to lunch? and i was like no.. what are you talking about? and we both thought that was weird bc ___ always invites me. i think shes just mad though bc me and the other girl hung out a few days ago without her. but then i texted her jokingly and was like way to invite me to lunch... and she was with our another one of our friends at the time (a different one than the first) and she was being kinda rude. i think she was just trying to show off in front of the other girl (which she does a lot). she seems to always try to put other ppl down and talk about them behind their backs.. usually to me bc im one of her closest friends. but i feel like she might do that to me too..maybe not as much but she definetly does sometimes. what should i do?

Well, chances are if she puts folks down to you, she will likely do it about you to others. Some folks can't help but be a gossip.
As for your friendship changing, you should talk to her about it. Maybe she is just branching out her group of friends.
Or it is possible that you are drifting apart. That does happen sometimes. But you will never know if you don't get it out of her.

ygs-29/f

i lived in nc for a long time then i moved to pa. i recently came back down and all my friend told me how much weight i had lost. i thought it was really strange because i thought i had gained alot of weight. is it just in my head that i project myself as being heavier like when anorexic people look in the mirror and they see someone who's like 100 pounds heavier than they actually are?

You are freaking out.
Like DearAbby said, you probably just grew into your body.

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