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13, F

I dont know why, but everytime school starts my stomach hurts. I think its nerves, because im scared ill throw up. That causes it to hurt even more!

I tried medication, but it didnt work. What do I do?!

It's called anxiety.

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So I'm in every 7th grade and i have this group of friends and in the morning of school we have 30 min. In the gym and we sit in the middle of the gym.
I had this friend (aaleah) in the6th grade and she sit with the press.her and i are still friends and my new friend (cypress) got in a fight with her in math. My new friend and i are really close like sisters. So she told me and aaleah said were all getto preppy bitches.
So i asked aaleah if that was true and she said no. Yet cypress said aaleah did say it.
I don't know who to believe.....help!!

Can you elaborate on what a "ghetto preppy bitch" is? Those seem contradicting.

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Is it a sin to eat pussy

According to the religion folk, yes it is. Sodomy is pretty much anything that isn't sex, but is sexual. Also, sex before marriage is a sin. You could either be a religious prude and not enjoy pussy from time to time, or you could not care and enjoy all the pussy you want.

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does anyone know any motivation to keep wanting to go to school. i really dont want to go anymore. i am SICK OF IT! i am a senior in high school. i want to drop out! i hate it ( i cant drop out my parents will kill me & i never would but..) AHH! but some teachers hate me & there my teachers & i have to deal with it for another semester and some days. i want school to end already!! i'm the type of person that HATES SCHOOl!!!!!!! if you didnt know that already haha! (im female by the way hehe:)

Knowing that you could get your high school degree, never go to school again, and manage a McDonald's one day.

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hello i am siddhant i want to do sex with a girl who is my negibhour how can i make him agree for this.

Your question is confusing because you have to have sex with a girl and want to know how to make him agree for it.

You could always just ask, if she and/or her says no, then you cannot have sex with them. That is all.

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I slept with this guy I'm in love with, and when we were together, he was perfect. I now found out that he isn't willing to give love or relationships a shot, but I've fallen for him hopelessly. I don't know what to do. Can someone please tell me how I can get out of this situation?

Don't have sex with him anymore.

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hello im 13f and have struggled with bulimia and want to lose weight the safe way now.im overweight and hate it i also have cut myself burned and bruised myself for years help im so ugly right now i gained 5 pounds over the holiday :(

I weighed 306 pounds in October, and now I weigh 280 and all I did was start a vegan diet. You don't need to throw up, you don't need to cut or burn yourself (shit, that isn't going to do anything anywyas), you just need to learn how to eat right and do some exercising. Just cut out oils, sugars, and avoid meat and other dairy products as much as you can, and try to eat stuff like potatoes, rice, grains, and vegetables.

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I'm 13 and there's this girl i like. I joined the play because she was joining and our characters dance together, but i really don't like to do plays but i still joined. I had to memorize my lines and some songs but i didn't memorize the songs cause i didn't have time. So i just thought i went to the rehearsals without knowing the songs but i really feel bad... what should i do?

You should feel like an ass for not joining the play for the right reasons.

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I am an 18 year old girl from Texas. I met this guy on a dating site and we started having phone conversations every night for 3-6 hours. After the second call we decided we were together. I thought I had fallen for him, but he's in for a much more serious relationship than I am. He wants to get engaged when we graduate high school in six months and get married six months after. He wants to go to the same college and live together. Every time I tell him I want to break up he talks me out of it. He's done really bad things related to drugs and crime and I am afraid he will do something to me. I am a good girl. I have a 4.0 GPA, I'm in varsity orchestra, varsity lacrosse, cross country, I work and I'm working on going to A&M. I've never associated with someone like him. He says I'm putting him in the right path and now I feel responsible. Please help...

You only know him on a phone basis. You could just not answer the phone anymore. Find a guy who isn't an obsessed weirdo. You don't need a guy who is into drugs and being a loser when you have so much going for you.

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I'm 13, and i have a really complicated love problem and really need help on this. So there is this girl, lets call her Susan, that i really like and shes beautiful and really fun to be with. I like her for a long time and then eventually asked her out but she rejected me! Then the next year i fell for two other girls( and people say that if you loved her for 4 months means she you really love her... it happened!) one is... daisy! and the other one is...Vicky! So i really don't know what to do daisy isn't the one people see me with and if i go with her they'll think I'm a freak, but Vicky and Susan then they'll think high of me... please help i don't know what to do!!!

You should realize that at the age of 13, you don't know love.

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okay soo . idated this guy for a year and a month. i broke up with him because we would fight all the time , and he changed dramasticly . he gets very very jealous . even though we broke up he would still call me and say he loves me and i would say it back . but one day he called and i finally told him that we cant do this anymore . i told him we cant tell each other that we love each other , or we will get back togather . and we cant be anything more then friends. then he told me he would always love me no matter what and he had gotten me a birthday present .. and it was this braclet that had my name engraved and had our date on it ..
sooo after he told me all that. we havent talked in while. then i find out he went to the movies with some girl and they kissed .
wooooow . im so heart broken. and i cant stop thinking about him . and i dont want to call himm or text him . but its werid he still has all our picturs on facebook and instgram. i dont know what to do . if he calls i dnt know what to say ?

Don't talk to him, don't think about him, and don't give a shit if he has your pictures on Facebook. You fought all the time, and obviously weren't going to work out. I'm going to assume you're both young, so it's not worth it. Just move on, find a guy you don't fight with.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months. We're both 15. We both believe we are in love with each other. A week ago an issue came up and he questioned me about it and I lied without thinking. He told me he lost trust in me d it absolutely killed me. We are still dating today. But another issue came up where I was talking to a friend and he was right there and he said something and I turned to my friend and said he was weird and I winked and said but I love him and he asked me what I said and I said nothing and he asked again and I said nothing and then he asked again and I said that I said I love him. Then he accused me of lying and has been mad and upset with me ever since. I've prayed and prayed that everything would be okay. I'd fall apart without him. And I just need someone to tell me it's going to be okay.

You made the mistake of lying and praying. You shouldn't lie to the person you're in a relationship with and God doesn't really give a shit about your stupid 15 year old relationship. You can either sit around AND NOT LIE and try to regain his trust, or just chalk that one down as a loss, and not lie to your next boyfriend. No matter how you dissect this one, you fucked up and you're going to have to pay.

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Hey guys, I am a freshman in college without a license. Before you give me grief, I did try for it twice, it's not like I'm not trying at all. The thing is; I can parallel park anywhere, there is a place at my local mall that is perfect practice that I can nail, I can do it in front of my house in between two cones.. but when I get in the car with the man, I fail the parallel parking. I can never get inside the barrels far enough. I think I get too nervous and I don't know how to stop that because I NEED my license. Long story short, the college I go to is pushing all returning students to live in off campus apartments or suites on campus which is so much more money that the traditional hall I am living in now. So, I want to get my license and commute.

So, this question is, I guess, asking how I can calm my nerves and pass next time? You'd think I would know what to expect and wouldn't get nervous again but I still have. How can I just get in the car with the man, do everything up to par and pass so I can have my license? Because this is just getting ridiculous now. Thanks.

Practice.

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I can't stop thinking. I'm going on 22 years old and I've never had any experiences with love or sex. The past few months have been a roller coaster of emotions, many extremely positive ones. New changes, particularly significant weight loss have given me confidence I've never experienced before. Having been insecure and somewhat shy, experiencing major confidence for the first time is a remarkable feeling.

In very basic terms, I'm often desperate for male intimacy. I've gone on a couple dates, mildly physical with with one guy, but long story short, we didn't click. I never act on my emotions when things are risky. A lot of my friends engage in sexual behavior with people they don't know but I don't do this. Some of my friends are in amazing relationships so I guess those girls were lucky enough to have feelings for someone in the right place at the right time.

I am absolutely out of this world crazy about a close friend of mine. I can't have him because he's taken. I know we have a connection. I don't make any bold moves, just let anything that is meant to happen happen. And so, the status quo remains. We stay close friends and nothing more than that, because he has a girlfriend of course and I wouldn't have it in me to sabotage a relationship even if I tried to.

I feel a sense of positive sexual/emotional tension when we are in a room together but in the end these thoughts are merely product of speculation. He could be crazy about me, or have no interest at all. I know he really likes me as his good friend and quite possibly more, but there's no way to know for sure.

Around him, I remain calm and collected but only on the outside. Inside, I'm the total opposite. I honestly barely have words to describe how I feel when I'm with him. Pure elation and excitement. I block out what's going on around us. Afterwards I'll have a soaring "high" for hours. It's the sweetest feeling ever, one of them at least. I can't tell if it's obvious how I feel. I have trouble, and often feel uncomfortable with showcasing my emotions externally so I know I haven't been blatantly obvious about it. But still, I give him more attention than most girls do and smile a lot and stuff when I'm with him.

But then I get back to reality and the sadness kicks in of what the situation actually is. As long as there's another girl, I will not have a chance. Even so, I can only speculate that he'd have feelings for me. I have tried SO hard to let go of this and I can't. I feel like it's a burden I'm carrying around against my will. Intelligent, sensible people (including my mom) keep telling me that one day the right person will come along.

You know what? The right person HAS come along but I can't reap the benefits of these amazing feelings because of boundaries. So I guess I will spend my life drooling over one guy at a time who I may or may not be able to be with. I have friends who are absolutely loving the casual dating/sex lifestyle and friends who are loving their relationships.

I'm very open-minded. I try to mingle with guys all the time. I smile and have fun and while I don't have a flirty or seductive personality, I do little subtle things to try and "seduce" them. For one, I don't do enough for it to actually work and two, I'm realizing that this instant sexual gratification type of relationship that so many guys seek does not align with the person I am.

I don't feel comfortable being romantic/physical with a guy I don't have a connection with in a friendship sense. I'm the type of person who takes a while to open up/get close with people. Do I try to change this or accept that this is part of who I am? I tried that route with the one guy I went on a couple of dates with and felt uncomfortable with our mild physical encounters, simply because I didn't know him very well.

So the casual thing is not my thing. Or maybe it is, who knows. I guess the relationship route is my thing but maybe I get too passionate and involved... No answers exist and that's why this is so damn frustrating. A million thoughts are running through my head. I don't know what I want or what to do. The status quo remains and everyone else has excitement with guys while I watch. I do know that I want SOMETHING. and something positive. Right now I feel like I have nothing. I want both love and sex desperately. I want my friend desperately. I cannot stop thinking about him. I want it to stop. I'd rather not want these things as they are affecting me negatively. I just want to be with him!! and if not that, have the feelings I have for him for someone else. I just feel like I'm not going to really start this stuff until I'm 35-40 (almost 22 now) which is depressing.

I'd like to focus completely on my education but this is intruding me. WHY do other girls get their chances but not me? I don't want to get married I just want a connection with a guy. I feel like I'm walking in the dark with this...any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My computer restarted in the middle of answering this, and I felt I really had something to add, so I rushed to come back here and give you my advice. So here goes....again.

Get the fuck over him. It's not fair to him, his girlfriend, and quite frankly, yourself to be like this. How do I know this? I've been head over heals before. I was in love with a girl for 2 years with pretty much zero chance of us being together. It was terrible. I let it get to me, I basically shut down as a person.

Is that what you really want?

I doubt it. You have a close friend, let them be a close friend. One of my best friends since I moved across the country told me she liked me, we got into a relationship, and it ended due to "personality differences." Now, I don't even have one of my best friends because of stupid feelings and dating.

You said that you're 22. You're young and I'm sure you're an attractive girl who can find someone. Find them! You said you mingle, that you've been physically involved with guys. Take that to people who aren't this guy friend.

You also mentioned education. Don't let anything get in the way of your education. Ever. Especially not a guy. Education is the most important thing you can do in your life. Aim for that.

If you want someone to talk about this, feel free to "ask me a question" and I'm all for helping out.

Phew, I don't know if I've ever spent this much time on advice before, this is actually kinda nice.

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Ok my situation is unique. Im a 17 year old guy. There's this girl that I've met a few times, and I've texted her for almost two years. She used to like me, but at that point in time I didn't like her. Now our positions are reversed...I told her that I like her but she said she doesn't feel the same. She's sending me a lot of mixed signals, saying "if we hung out more I might like you" but then when I said "unless you think there's any chance of us being together, I'm going to take a break from texting you", she said ok. Do I move on? Do I hang out with her more? Or do I take a break and just be her friend? She isn't someone I want to give up on, but I've been rejected so many times by other girls that I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. And I'm not antisocial, and I've been told I'm pretty handsome, but what am I supposed to believe if girls just aren't interested in me?

Your situation isn't unique. You are every worrisome teenage guy ever. If all she had to say was, "okay," then fucking move on. She's not worth your time and effort if she cannot put the time and effort into giving you a better response than, "okay."

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Hi i'm a 13\F
I just got out of a long distance relationship with my 16 year old now ex, boyfriend.
I didn't really wan to, but he isn't Christian, and i am, which is the reason i broke up with him.
To some of you it may sound silly, but the Bible has a say in that type of relationship.

SO my question is,

How can i keep my mind off him, and deal with this heartbreak easily?

You could stop letting the bible rule your life. If you like the guy then date him for Christ's sake.

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so I went to my OBGYN and got a regular pap smear and i got my results ending up being abnormal and now i have to go back and see if i need to get a biopsy im scared im angry im confused i dont understand i'm only 20 i got HPV shots when i was 13 14 years old i guess its not full proof protection, but also i dont whore around.. which i know still doesnt mean anything. :( i just need to know the girls who also had to go through this what is it like what were your results... My family doesnt have a history of this so what are my odds.. please ease my mind im stressing out

I don't think family history matters when it comes to HPV. Just find something you REALLY enjoy and get into it until you figure out what it is. I'm obviously not talking from my experience from having an abnormal pap smear, but I can talk about my experience from having abnormal medical problems.

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sooo i was datin this guy for a year , we broke up , now im heart broken and dont know how to move on ! i feel like guys dont want to talk to me because i was with this guy for a long time, i would shut down anyone who would try talk to me . and now idont know how to get back in the gaaame! what should i do ?

Shit, I was in a relationship for a month and I don't really know how to get over it. I mean, I knew her for a while, but that doesn't matter. You get over it when you get over it. Just date guys, don't look for a relationship.

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i did sex with my girlfriend but didnt cum inside her. i ejaculated my sperm outside. she missed one of his periods ...kindly let me know is she pregnant and if yes how can we opt for abortion. her last day of menstrual was 23.11.12

You could also kindly get a pregnancy test done. There is literally no way any of us can know.

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I'm a girl and I haven't shaved in my area for a really long time. Right now, I have a bush but everytime I try to shave, it hurts and the hair doesnt seem to get off. Got any tips? Thanks.

A nice bush is sexy as hell, keep it.

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