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I slept with this guy I'm in love with, and when we were together, he was perfect. I now found out that he isn't willing to give love or relationships a shot, but I've fallen for him hopelessly. I don't know what to do. Can someone please tell me how I can get out of this situation?
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I'm sorry this has happened to you. Now that it has let me try to explain the why so you can avoid it in the future.
Fact of life; men and women are wired differently. For a women to have sex she needs to feel love. For a man to have sex it is more mechanical. There is an old saying that a man can have sex with a knot hole if he needs it bad enough.
That statement is fairly true. A male needs little to no stimulation, a female does. A male does not need the security or comfort a female requires. Most of all a male does not need to be in a loving relationship in order to make love. Most women need all the above before they will have sex with anyone for sex for most females is an intimate act that requires a loving relationship.
How you get out of this situation is not to give into him by satisfying his sexual needs. You know he is just using you and is not willing to work at having a relationship. You tell him your not a booty call. If he is not willing to have a meaningful relationship to take a hike. There are more and better men out there then him who will respect you and cherish what you have to give.
Give yourself the respect you deserve by telling him your not his booty call then mean it. Then find the guy that will respect you. This guy is not right for you and he is far from perfect.
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Look, there is no magic solution for your situation - and believe me, most people have tried it. There is only one cure, and you have to be very strict about it. You need to break all ties with this guy and not see him any more. This is the only way your feelings will eventually go away.
Most people make the mistake of trying to maintain some sort of friendship or casual hooking up - both of these make things worse. You need to treat this like an addiction so that you can move on and find someone who shares your feelings.
Good luck.
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Don't have sex with him anymore.
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