iam 18 yrs old.male. my problem is that i need around 10 hrs of sleep everyday.and sometimes even more than that.and ive heard that people of my age shoul not sleep for more than 7-8 hrs a day.ive tried doing that but then im not able to stop myself from having a nap in the afternoon. please advice on how to decrease "10-12" hrs to "7-8" hrs of sleep.
Naps aren't a bad thing. Like the person before me, try to take short naps, like less than an hour. When I first started college, nap time came back big time. Kinda like your first year of grade school huh?
If you need the sleep, take a few minutes to rest up. But, if your just over-sleeping because of lazy teenager syndrome, thats not a good idea, and it will only make you more tired if you over-sleep. But, from the little that you've said, it sounds to me like you have no reason to decrease your sleep.
Honestly, I would think that 7 hours a day would be too little for anyone, but I suppose some people need less.
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Does anyone know why my cat hates me? She is a seven year old main coon. Everytime I pick her up she gets really mad and doesnt stop meowing very loud. Is this normal for a main coon? Or should I be holding her differently? I hold her on my hip, like a baby, but that is just the way Ive been holding her for all of her life, and it does not seem like it would be uncomfortable to her. But sometimes she will come up to me and rub against me but the minute I put my hand out to pet her she like hisses at me. Does she just not want to be loved?!?
This isn't a stupid question. And, as others have said, no, she doesn't hate you. She loves you, especially since she comes up to you and rubs against you. She just doesnt' want to be picked up. Some cats are like that. Especially the big burly Maine Coon cat.
(by the way, it's spelled Maine Coon, they are named after the state Maine because they were first bred to survive tough winters by having a big size and thick long fur.)
Maine coons are not lap cats like another columinst has already said, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like to be pet. She just might not like to be picked up, and she might be running away because she thinks you will try to pick her up every time you go to pet her.
Just give her time and don't try to pick her up, just pet her and give her love, and eventually she'll calm down.
We have a Maine coon at the vet clinic that I work at. He's very lovable, but as soon as someone picks him up, he start meowing and try to get away. But, he does love to be pet.
I doubt she's in pain, but if this is a sudden thing, then it could be that she is in some sort of pain and you might want to take her to the vet for a check up.
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i was wondering if anyone knew of any places in massachusetts where baby raccoons or flying squirrels were sold. I would greatly appreciate any help and guides. I have looked online on several different websites and searches but i have not a single success. Thanks, I will rate.
This may not help you very much, but I live in Maine, relatively close to Mass, and I knew a girl in my vet tech classes who owns a sugar glider, which is a type of flying squirrel. She got him from a place online, and they had him shipped to her house. But, you should know that she originally had a very mean one, and she had to have him shipped back and told they guy that she wanted a tame one. So, it might be a bit hard to find a very tame one.
I'm not sure where she got it, but if you search online you should be able to find more. Try searching for "sugar glider breeders" or "flying squirrel breeders"
I wouldn't advice getting a raccoon. They are wild animals and get quite big and dangerous. But a flying squirrel has been known to be a good pet.
But, you should know that both species are nocturnal, so they will be more comfortable sleeping durring the day and being awake at night. So, that might mess up your schedule a bit.
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My family and I own, 3 dogs. None of them have ever bothered this woman, nor her animals. Our past dogs might have, but not these.
A few minutes ago I herd someone shooting. So I walked out on porch and sure enough there she was aiming at our dogs or at least trying to scare them away. This has happened numerous times and since we live in a very rural area, there is no animal control. Nor, do the police care.
I went back in the house and told my parents. After that I walked back out on the porch and herd her say, "Next time you come in my yard, you'll be a dead dog!!". I mean, this woman is in her 70's. She has about two dozen cats and god knows that our dogs would NEVER bother them.
The last real problem we had out of her (or at least suspected her) was 4 of our dogs died. They were antifreeze poisoned and we strongly believed and still believe that it was her. This is beginning to be a problem and I, myself, can't solve it. Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be much appreciated.
Also- The gun she was shooting with was not a BB-gun.
I used to live in a very rural area where people tended to take things into their own hands like this old lady seems to have done instead of involving authorities. We had dogs who we let roam because we had a very large yard and they usually stayed around the house.
The most you can do in this situation is keep your dogs on a leash when they are in the yard and hope that she will realize that she has nothing to complain about. If at all possible make sure that there are never any containters or food products out there that she couldn't have planted with any kind of poison each time you let them outside. And, whenever possible go outside with them to make sure they aren't doing anything at all to upset her.
I know they probably don't do anything anyway, and the lady is quite crazy, but you have to go through these kind of things since no one seems to want to help you.
Where I used to live, there was no police, but there was a guy who acted as animal control. Are you absolutely sure there isn't an animal control in your area? If not, then try to contact an animal control around you, and see if they can help you in any way. Contact humane societies or shelters to see if they can offer any advice. Even calling a vet might get you some good advice as to what you can do in this situation.
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Does anyone know where to buy a hot dog costume for a daschund? Also, is it silly to put it on a dog that isn't even hot dog-colored?
I'm not sure if you're able to buy one online, but I found a website with some here http://dogbuns.com/index.html
Just search google for "hot dog costumes" to find more.
I think it's a cute idea. If your dog isn't hot dog colored then you can improvise. If he's black, just say the hot dog is burnt. Or, if he's white or tan (never seen a white or tan daschund, but maybe he is) then just say he's a coney. Or, maybe he's more reddish, just say he's a red hot, etc... The one's on this page are $38.
Other than that, look at any pet store or even some costume store in your area. I'd love to see the finished picture :)
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Why do they ask you if your pregnant when you get x rays? What happens if you are pregnant and you get x rays done?
Others have already said that x-rays will cause birth defects to unborn children. That is very true. I work at a vet clinic, and NO pregnant women are even allowed inside the x-ray room while x-rays are being taken. No one under 18 is even allowed in the room. This is because radiation has an effect on growing cells, and they can badly damage you.
This is State law in Maine, and it may be a law in the whole United States, but I'm not positive.
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i have a question is there a specific side on were i need to get my eyebrow pierced also how do i tell my parents that i'm mature enough.
There is no specific side to get it pierced, it depends on which side you think would look best. Do you have a prettier eye? sounds odd since they're supposed to be identical, but sometimes you might want to draw attention to one eye as opposed to another. I got mine pierced on my left eyebrow, but I've seen others get it pierced on their right. Just get it on your "good" side.
Now, you can't really tell your parents that your mature enough, you have to show them that your mature enough and let them realize that you can handle it.
First you should do some research on the different piercers in your area. Find the best one. See how clean they are and everything.
Next, research how to clean an eyebrow piercing. You need to know that it could get infected, but you should know how to take care of it if it does. Clean it often, 3 to 5 times a day, don't touch it without cleaning your hands first, don't turn it without cleaning all the goo off the ring first, etc... You should realize that puss will come out of it for a while, but that's normal, and don't freak out. You should know what to do when it gets too dry, by putting A+D ointment on it or even bag balm or something like that. Search online and find a good website to help you take care of it
Next, you have to realize that your parents may have some bad images of people who get piercings. Let them know that not all people who get pierced are "bad". I've seen many people who tasteful visible piercings who have very good jobs, even when it comes to working with the public. And, as you get older, if you choose to take it out, you can without a visible scar. I've got two facial piercings when I was younger, and took them both out, but no one would know it unless I told them because there are no scars. That is one of the missconceptions about piercings. If you go to a GOOD piercer, who does things right, then you will have a very clean piercing that can heal good if you ever choose to take it out.
Here's a website that I quickly found from the Association of Professional Piercers. Search through it and see what you can find for information.
http://www.safepiercing.org/
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ok my dad wasnt home so i snuck a reeses peanut butter cup, even though i wasnt supposed to have one and i dropped it and my dog ate it...is he going to die? please help me i am so scared right now...hes a wire fox terrior, 1 year old and weighs about 18-20 pounds if that helps...please help me danielle
Here are some FACTS about chocolate poisoning.
For a 20 pound dog, he would have had to eat about 5-10 ounces of milk chocolate to die. He probably would have started to get serious poisoning signs after eating 3/4 of a pound of milk chocolate.
The darker the chocolate, the more serious the danger. There is a big change between milk chocolate which is mostly sugar and milk, and bakers chocolate, which is 100 % cocao. Bakers chocolate is much more dangerous and should never be given to any dogs even if it's just a tiny bit.
You will start to see clinical signs of chocolate poisoning in about a half hour if your dog has ingested enough chocolate. Signs start with vomiting and diarrhea, increased urination and nausea, and can progress to cardiac arrhythmias, and seizures. If you start to see signs, then get them to the vet immediately because it's much easier to fix within two hours, than it is if it's been longer than two hours.
I'm answering this, even though I didn't see it until now, because I'm sick of people saying "oh, don't worry, he just might get diarrhea" or "my dog ate a whole chocolate cake and didn't even get sick" Because chocolate poisoning CAN KILL your dog. And, just because one dog thankfully isn't allergic to it, doesn't mean that MOST dogs aren't allergic to it.
Also, before asking a question on this website, about animal health topics, I would advise you to at least call your veterinarian, because I guarantee that MOST of these people don't know what they're talking about, and if you listened to all of them, there would be a lot more dead dogs in the world.
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Sorry about the catergory. I have an oratory contest this weekend, Sunday. The woman in charge told me that it is not neccessary, but would greatly improve my score if I had my speech memorized. I have already submitted my speech, and it falls into their time limits - five to seven minutes.
So how can I prepare for this. I don't think I'll have too much trouble with memorizing the three pages. What would be the best way to memorize it or learn it. I need to stick to the speech if I did memorize it - so that would mean keep my ideas in order.
Also, I'm afraid that when it comes to actually speaking, I'll get stage fright (heart stomping out of your chest feeling). That always messes me up. Any ideas or suggestions? Things to remember for when I practice? How to practice? Thanks a lot - will rate.
Notecards work good. Get the large notecards and write your speech out in outline form. Go over it 5-10 times until you can go through it smoothly. Some people say that if you go over it right before you have to give the speech, then it will completely mess you up, so I'm not sure if I would suggest that. But it really does depend on the type of speaker you are.
You should also practice breathing. I know that when I have to get up and talk in front of people, I have an extremely hard time breathing and end up trailing off. So, if you practice breathing say, after saying every paragraph, just take a second to breath, then you'll feel better about taking a second or two without talking to just breath once your in front of the group.
So, practice the outline, and practice breathing. You'll feel much better when you get up there and you already have time to just breath durring your three pages of speech.
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okay so about two weeks ago my cat starting having diheria. i got medicine for him and its not helping! he has horrible diheria and is vomiting. he doesn't hold his food at all! and whatever he does digest he gets diheria. he use to be very heavy now he is soo light. i need help, what could be possible wrong with him? he is turning 10 years old in august. he acts like a kittin and is obsessed with string. he doesnt act or look his age.
i need help with this.
Diarrhea and vomiting is not normal for an old animal even for one day. You should bring him to the vet immediately. Or, if you absolutly can't, then call the vet and see if they can offer some kind of advice. They will most likely tell you to bring him in so that they can do some tests on your kitty, such as blood tests, urine tests, fecal tests, x-rays, etc.
It doesn't seem like he's bloocked because he is having diarrhea, and if he was blocked, then nothing would get through.
Where did you get the medicine that your giving him? It's not good to give a cat anything besides what your vet gives you (especially tylenol, acedominophin can kill a cat with one tylenol)
You can call your vet up and treat this as an emergency situation and they will have to make time for you right away.
There is no way for anyone to find out what is wrong with your cat until more tests are done. (also, it still could be kidneys because your cat can still pass urine with some kidney damage)
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My dog is licking people and my dad says "shes going through some hard stuff" and my mom said "yes her time of life" what does this mean??
i rate all 5's
um... That probably means that your parents are morons and you dog is acting like a dog acts.
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Background for reference. Disregard it if you only want to read the problem:
I met Ashley at Sam Goody. She kind of followed me around and talked to me a lot. Gave me hugs and flirted at random times. At first it was a little odd, she just seemed like a kid with a crush and I wasn't interested in the least. She quits work and I don't see her for the better part of that year. I don't miss her.
I see her working at a grocery store later on. She doesn't seem quite as interested in me, but she's still incredibly flirtacious. I eventually develop a big crush on her. I ask her out on a date, but what was implied was that her parents wouldn't approve. She was turning 18 later on this year before I turned 21, but the 20-17 year old age gap was too much for them. Shortly after, I pretty much lose the romantic feelings I have for her. They're replaced with pity, from the terrible things I find out happened to her (from someone who knows us both). Before five days ago, we never really talk much outside of her workplace.
What's key to know for the problem:
Sunday (five days ago). She gives me her new number and invites me to her new place that night. While there, I listen to her complain about her now ex boyfriend and how she isn't over him. He used her for sex after he dumped her, then left without saying a word.
Tuesday. I text her asking if she feels like doing anything that day. She said, "I made a huge mistake. Shannin called and asked to see me and I said yes." I told her she can use plans with me as an excuse to not see him if she feels she shouldn't, and that I didn't think she shouldn't see someone who recently used her. She says, "Thanks. I know I'm really stupid but I just still love him so much"
She calls me later that night, crying from what happened earlier. I asked her if she needed me to come over and she said she wouldn't be much of a host since she would just be crying, but she could use the company.
It takes me a little while to get there, and when I do no one answers the door. I walk in and find her in a room with depressing music playing. She has a blade in her right hand and her left arm is covered in blood. She cries to me telling me how stupid she is and how it seems she can't learn from her mistakes. I try to comfort her I tell her how common such a thing is and turn off her music. I have her choose from a few different movies I brought over and we watch one that is now one of her favorites. She says that she feels a little better now and asks me to hang out with her the next day.
Wednesday. We start hanging out in the late morning. We watch a few things and talk. I learn some things about her past, distant and recent, that don't reflect well on her, for instance, she's capable of stealing. We go out to eat and to a few different places, an overall good time despite my being quiet from drowsiness. I leave to give my mother a ride home from work, and she asks me if I'm coming back afterwards. She said she would like it if I did.
After I come back, we go to her father's place to watch a movie (her father's working on her house) and so she can check stuff online. I get a quick glance at what she types in an e-mail. It read, "...heart broken again...feel like maybe I should just kill myself..." An exaggeration of her recent mood, but it still alarms me. I ended up staying with her until she was almost falling asleep after midnight again.
My problem: I've been noticing a list of things I don't like about Ashley, but the biggest thing in that list is the fact that I now have feelings for her again (spending over 12 hours with someone and you'll know how you feel about them after you leave). It might be stronger feelings than before, since I can't get her out of my head. I can't date her because no matter what she feels for me, which probably isn't more than friendship, she still is so caught up with and damaged from her ex that she's thinking about suicide. No good can come from having feelings for someone like this.
I desperately want to help her. I haven't been getting more than a couple of hours of sleep a night worrying about her. In the past, I've tried to help friends (all female) by trying to convince them they shouldn't make mistakes like this, which lead to arguments. They end with them being pissed at me, then making the mistake anyway. I've learned it's better to just give your advice/opinion once and hope they'll listen to it. If they make the mistake, they make the mistake.
The thing is, I don't think she can afford to make this mistake again. I can't tell her not to, it's her life, her business. I already told her how I felt about everything. My best friend thinks I should stay away from her, and she might be right, but I can't turn my back on her when just spending time with her seems to cheer her up a little, especially since now I care for her more than I would a friend. I considered trying to convince her to see someone about this, but I know from experience that, despite the good intentions, it will driver her away. I can't afford that since it seems like I'm one of the very few things kind of helping her. I know for a fact that she would go back to this guy, and I don't want that to happen. It could literally kill her. So what can I do? How can I help her past this?
Yeah, that's not a good situation to get yourself into, or to stay in. It's always nice to have a positive additude like "Itz_your_luckee_day" but that isn't really logical.
You can't really spend all of your time worrying about someone as unstable as she seems to be. It would be better if she had a female friend that she could turn to. Although your one of the few things that seems to help her, and she's most likely going to gain feelings for you if you continue to help her, it would be much better for her in this kind of situation if she had a non-love interest to depend on to help her through this.
She obviously needs to learn to be alone, considering that she can't be alone, even if it means being used by this guy. She isn't going to learn to be alone if she moved from depending on her ex for companionship to depending on you for companionship.
Don't you have mutual friends (this is one of the girls from the party, right) maybe they could help you with this one. Or, maybe there's a way for you to set her up with professional help (or someone else) in some way without her actually realizing that your trying to find someone to "fix" her, which, you say would only push her away and into her ex's arms.
It's also possible that her ex doesn't actually realize what he's doing to her. In that case, have you ever thought about going to him? It's could be possible that he doens't realize that him using her is hurting her as much as it is. But, I would be careful about that one since he might tell her that you talked to him, and she could get mad at you anyway. If that does happen, then explain to her that your just trying to help her and stick up for her... she'll either understand, or get pissed and understand later on... hopefully.
But, in the meantime, if you keep going the way that your going, your most likely going to eventually just get sick of her and she will become a burden to you. It will also suck you in so that you can't get anything in YOUR life done, which you also need to focus on.
good luck with it all
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my boyfriend told me he has a
crush on another girl,
and i don't know what to do.
he says he loves me and wants to be with me,
and that he just wanted to be honest with me.
but now i feel as though i'm going
to be paranoid all the time.
i dont like feeling like this;
but i can't leave him.
i love him too much..
and today he spent all morning with me,
telling me how he doesnt want this to
interfear with our relationship.
he said it was weighing him down
and that he needed to get it off his chest;
but now that it's off of HIS.
it's not been put onto MINE.
what should i do?
-L
Everyone keeps saying "at least he was honest with you"
To me, thats just not acceptable in this situation. He never should have put that into your mind. Thats just not fair. Yes, he was honest, and it's quite obvious that he would never do anything about his crush. But, why did he need to tell you. As you've noticed, that will only make you think about it constantly. Your probably thinking that your not as good as his crush.
But, that's obviously not true. He wants to be with you, not the other person.
It's normal to develope crushes, I'm sure you've had a slight crush on another guy while you were dating someone, but it really doesn't mean anything. As long as you respect the boundaries and don't act on anything, then you should be fine. As long as he still wants to be with you and not this other person, and doesn't try to act on his crush, then it should be fine.
Now... How do you get this off of your mind? hmm... It probably won't get off your mind until you realize that you have nothing to worry about. You have to realize that it's normal for him to have a crush, try to remeber when you thought someone else was cute or funny, yet didn't want to act on it while you were with him. Maybe if you can realize that you have nothing to worry about, you can keep some of the paranoia off of your mind.
I don't know if it would be a good idea to tell him how bad it made you feel that he told you about his crush. It all depends on if you want him to tell you about a crush that he has in the future. If you want him to tell you about his next one, then just thank him for being honest. But, if you would rather not hear about any harmless crush's he has in the future, then you should let him know that it didn't make you feel too good to know that he has a crush, and that you can't get it off of your mind now.
In my opinion, it was kind of selfish to lay this on you. Sure, it got it off of his mind, but he didn't really think about how it would feel for you to constantly have it on your mind.
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Hi All,
I am thinking about taking classes to become a dog trainer. I have a lot of hands on experience already, but I have the feeling that a certification will be important. Eventually I'd like to start my own business. There is obviously a shortage of qualified trainers and many people own dogs. So I see a need for this.
So what do you think, would you rather attend classes given by a certified instructor or a self taught person?
I can buy many books on the subject and it will be cheaper than the tuition for a coorespondence course.
How about personal consultations in the home? If you could afford it wouldn't that be better than a class with 20 people and their dogs?
I personally think that dangerwenches thinking is very flawed when it comes to this topic. Simply because there are so many so called dog behavior "experts" out there who don't really know what they're talking about. There are also many different books on dog training that teach many potentially dangerous methods on dog training.
It also depends on what type of training you are interested in. There are many different kinds ranging from positive punishment (add a shock when the dog does something bad) and negative reinforcement (subtract the shock when the dog does something good) to negative punishment (take away attention when the dog does something bad) and positive reinforcement (add treats when the dog does something good)
Different people will find differenty types of training easier and will look for someone who is certified in that particular field. While someone who is self taught might know most of these, there are many things that you will learn in a classroom that you can't find out on your own.
In your case, having experience with obedience training, along with a certificate will help greatly. If you plan on owning a business, the masses will look for someone who is certified (while that doesn't necessarily make you better, the masses will always go for someone with a title rather than the every day person)
I am just getting done with a class for my bassett hound puppy. While I didn't actually learn anything in the class, considereing that I'm already experienced enough with training and animals to teach my dog to sit, lay, come, leave it and go putty outside. The class did help me, because I went to a class with 6 other dogs (not 20, 20 is way too much) My dog was able to get socialization with other puppies and other people on a regular basis that she might have not gotten otherwise. In that instance, and classroom setting with other dogs is what matters most. While the one on one training technique is good for individual behaviors such as aggression, housetraining, etc, I think for an over-all class, it is best to have a small group of people and animals. That way, you can still get individual attention, but you can also get the distractions and socializations that many dogs need.
So, no, I don't think that a personal consultation would be better. One of the huge problems in this country, along with lack of training, is lack of socializing dogs. Good dogs can get very aggressive to new things if they aren't socialized with them properly.
I agree with the other columnist that said that obedience training should definately be a requirement to owning a dog.
So, my advice is to get certified.
Also, I'm curious, what kind of training do you use? and if you have a column here, can I see it?
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my mom and dad are together. my mom is an alcoholic and my dad works full time. my sisters dysfuntional and my other sister is in college so i can never talk to her. i bond with my dad all the time over sports which i hate to play anyway i just do because if i dont ill be so fat & out of shape. i cant talk to my mom about anything because shes so ridiculously stupid and makes the most unreasonable excuses why she cant come to my games and stuff. now my sister had a baby and my parents are always paying attention to her and they dont give me the time of day. my grades in school have been dropping drastically and i cant afford a psychiatrist. any suggestions?
The following suggestion will not fix your problems, but it might make you feel a little better.
Stop doing sports that you hate, and find something that can keep you in shape and that you can actually enjoy. Think about different things like yoga, gymnastics, cardio workouts, tea bo, dancing or skating. There are a lot of different possibilities. But if your playing sports to stay in shape, but you hate playing sports, then it's not a very good hobby. It might help you if you had something to do to stay in shape that you could have fun doing.
Also, try calling your sister in college if she is something that can talk to you.
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Everynight I sit in bed for about 2 hours before I fall asleep. Its not a big problem staying awake but the stress I go through trying to fall asleep is terrible. It's been going on everynight for about three weeks. I told my mom there was something wrong with me and that I needed sleep pills but she blew it off. So I began taking tylenol PM (without her knowing) and it put me to sleep within 30 mintues. But this weekend I ended up exposing alot of my secrets to her (that I have been drinking, etc) and told her about the pills. She believes me now and is going to take me to the doctor but she take forever to set up an appointment and I hate bringing it up. So Im going to probably end up taking them again. My question is, are all of these problems I've been having signs that im depressed? To me, it seems like what every kid my age does and that I shouldnt be worried.
Have you thought about making the appointment yourself? Perhaps that will get her to realize that your more serious about it. She might already realize that your serious, but since she isn't the one that actually has to go through this, then I doubt she thinks about it as much as you do.
As others have said, it's not a good idea to take sleeping pills every night. Try reading homework. Take your most boring class (for me, it's pharmacology) and read something that you haven't even started learning yet. That way, it will already be borring, and, it will be something you've never heard, and most likely won't really understand, and eventually your eyes will start to drop.
Good luck
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My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?
Thanks
You should ask about getting porcelain braces. That way, you won't have any metal in your mouth except for the tiny bar going across. The porcelain will blend in with your teeth, and you can get bands that are the same color.
Otherwise, the silver blends in the most and makes it look like you have less in your mouth. Don't get grey, grey tends to look greenish, but the silver blends in with the metal.
Porcelain braces are 200 extra dollars, at least at my ortho. But, 200 extra isn't much considereing how much your parents will already be paying for braces, and it will make you soo much more confidant about having stuff on your teeth because you can barely tell they're there.
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ok so in november i got a puppy from the animal shelter...she was 19 weeks when we got her...she deffinately has terrier in her and we think beagle and maybe a little greyhound...but she bites like crazy and she is very wild...does anyone know like what we can do to train her...because we bought books but nothing has really helped...
She's a puppy. She is most likely play biting? I'm guessing because you didn't say. Here's advice on what to do when your puppy bites too hard when they are playing.
First, tie your dog up inside, to a chair or something sturdy.
Next, play with your dog. As soon as she bites hard say "OUCH" and turn around and ignore her for 30 seconds to a minute. Make sure that she doesn't have any other toys or fun things to do durring this time. After that time, go back to playing with her, but when she bites hard again say "OUCH" and turn around and ignore her.
You'd be amazed at how well this works. The puppy is just playing, and doesn't realize that she is hurting you. When you show her that play stops after she bites hard, then she won't want to bite hard anymore because she wants play to continue.
After she gets this down, then start to yell "ouch" and ignore her after she bites a little softer, and then a little softer, until she does nothing but mouth at you, if that. It will take a while, but if you work with her like this every day, then she'll definately get the hint sooner rather than later.
If she is biting because she is scared or aggressive, then you have a whole other problem and should call a veterinarian or an animal behavioralist.
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my dog is a maltese and turning 2 years old [ i guess 14 in dog years ] and lately has been barking a lot at night. he used to when he first got here but stopped. about a week ago he started to bark after everyone goes to sleep. so i have to keep going down stairs and wake up and either hit his cage or take him out to the garage for him to run around and come in...but he keeps barking a few minutes after i go up. what should i do? should i try to tire him out by running with him or something right before we go to sleep? or will that have an opposite effect and have him wanting to play more? please i'm desperate - i havn't been able to sleep at all because i'm the only one who is willing to go downstairs. thanks in advance.
Shock collars do not work, neither does banging on his cage. Really, giving him any attention at all while he's barking will just make him realize that barking gives him attention. That's what he's looking for, so he'll continue doing it because he knows he'll get attention.
You should definately try to tire him out before going to bed. Take him for a walk, a run, just play a bit with him. He is bored, therefore he is barking to get someone to come play with him.
If possible, then let him out of his cage at night. If he has a little more room, then he may be able to find stuff to do himself, and won't have to wake the entire house up to get somthing to occupy his mind.
If he isn't potty trained yet, then keep him in the cage and try putting a blanket over it, so that it is more of an enclosed "den". It tends to work with my puppy. Once the blanket is over her cage, and she has a darker "den" then she will fall asleep.
After you have tired him out before bed, if he still continues to bark... then ignore him. Sure, your going to have a few more sleepless nights, but once he realizes that barking doesn't get him any more attention, then he will soon give up and just go to sleep.
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17/f. My boyfriend and I are very close and have a very loving, trusting relationship. We don't argue at all, he's not pushy in any way. Sometimes we joke around with eachother playfully, just saying sarcastic things, like the other day he came over when I was just getting out of the shower and was standing at the bottom of the steps playfully saying things like "Come on" "hurry up" "put some clothes on so I can see you," just jokingly telling me to hurry up. Well my mom picked up on that and didn't understand the joking tone, and now she's somehow thinking that he's being controlling or obsessive. I tried to set her straight, but I'm not sure that she gets it. I know that she's kind of looking out for me, because I've been in a controlling relationship before, but this one is /not/ like that in any way and I want her to understand that. She didn't want me to mention any of our discussion to him because she's afraid that he'll take it the wrong way or think that she hates him, and she doesn't. She's not terribly concerned and she likes him, but I just want a way to let her have no doubt in her mind that he's not controlling. Any suggestions? Thanks.
To me it sounds harmless right now. Your mom says that she doesn't want him thinking that she hates him, and that she does like him. So, as long as she really does like him, then you don't have a whole lot to worry about. You do need to explain to your mom that you know she's just looking out for you, but he is not controlling you, but I think a little bit of concern on her part is normal, and helpful.
I know, it's annoying, but a mother is always going to be concerned that her daughters boyfriend isn't as good as possible (even if he is the perfect boyfriend for you)
As long as she doesn't actually try to break you two up, and she isn't rude to your boyfriend then you don't have a whole lot to worry about.
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