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Mom isn't understanding...
17/f. My boyfriend and I are very close and have a very loving, trusting relationship. We don't argue at all, he's not pushy in any way. Sometimes we joke around with eachother playfully, just saying sarcastic things, like the other day he came over when I was just getting out of the shower and was standing at the bottom of the steps playfully saying things like "Come on" "hurry up" "put some clothes on so I can see you," just jokingly telling me to hurry up. Well my mom picked up on that and didn't understand the joking tone, and now she's somehow thinking that he's being controlling or obsessive. I tried to set her straight, but I'm not sure that she gets it. I know that she's kind of looking out for me, because I've been in a controlling relationship before, but this one is /not/ like that in any way and I want her to understand that. She didn't want me to mention any of our discussion to him because she's afraid that he'll take it the wrong way or think that she hates him, and she doesn't. She's not terribly concerned and she likes him, but I just want a way to let her have no doubt in her mind that he's not controlling. Any suggestions? Thanks.
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As long as you are still sure that your mom likes him, I don't think you should worry too much about it. Idon't think you need to mention any of it to him because it might put doubt in his mind, but if you want to sit down and reassure your mother about the relationship, that could be a good idea. Just tell her that you fully trust the relationship and never expect him to be overbearing or demanding, and that she can trust your judgment. Good luck! :)
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To me it sounds harmless right now. Your mom says that she doesn't want him thinking that she hates him, and that she does like him. So, as long as she really does like him, then you don't have a whole lot to worry about. You do need to explain to your mom that you know she's just looking out for you, but he is not controlling you, but I think a little bit of concern on her part is normal, and helpful.
I know, it's annoying, but a mother is always going to be concerned that her daughters boyfriend isn't as good as possible (even if he is the perfect boyfriend for you)
As long as she doesn't actually try to break you two up, and she isn't rude to your boyfriend then you don't have a whole lot to worry about.
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Next time you are both together with mom close by...boss him around like he does you. I think she will see then that it is joking.
Sorry its short but don't want site going down on your answer! :)
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