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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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Hey so I'm a sixteen year old girl in high school, junior year. I've been dating this guy for 18 months and he just turned eighteen, a senior. Something I've always kind of noticed about him are his very protective tendencies. When we first started dating it wasn't so bad, he was about as protective of me as he was his little sister so I knew it was out of concern and coming from a caring place. As we've continued dating, he's started to verge on the over protective side, and this I don't like. He get's so angry when guys make crude and dirty comments about me to him. Like, obviously joking comments. He plays football and all of the guys give eachother crap about everyone's girlfriend. It doesn't bother me, but it bothers him. And just last weekend he almost tried to fight some kid at a party who was being, I'll admit, out of line with me. The kid was grabbing and pulling me and wouldn't listen to me when I told him to stop and wouldn't let go. I appreciated when my boyfrined came over and told the guy to let go, but I didn't appreciate how he continued to threaten the other guy and how he completely escalated the situation. When my boyfriend does those kind of things I feel like he isn't even concerned abotu me at that point. I feel that it hasn't become about protecting me its become about HIM protection HIS "property". You know what I mean? Like he's doing it for himself and that just bothers me. Not only is it embarassing for me but its a little frightening too. We've had talks about it before but he I don't think he understands what I mean. Does anyone know what I'm trying to say here and how I should say it to him?? If so, please help!!
(Oh, by the way, on a side note. He constantly defends his over protective attitude by saying I'm too small to protect myself properly, which also extremely annoying. I know I'm physically little but that still bothers me that he doesn't think I can take care of myself. Any advice on how to handle that too? PLEASE don't tell me to break up with the kid. We've worked through so many bigger issues together, I'm not ending our relationship over this.)
Hmmm you say that you've already talked to him about this and that he doesn't understand you... well to tell you the truth you dont understand him. Theres two types of guys:
Guys who respect girls, and guys that don't
Unless he has no problem making dirty comments and putting his hands on girls that hes not with then hes one of the few that actually respect girls
He see's it this way; if a guy is going to disrespect my girlfriend ill teach him otherwise and for guys like us its completely understandable and right. YOU shouldn't have to deal with a boy putting his hands all over you or making you feel uncomfortable by the things he says; its childish, stupid, and to tell you the truth makes you look bad. Unless your one of the few girls that overflow confidence and can make a guy back off your boyfriend will defend you.
Let me put it this way.... You go to a party and a group of girls are all over your bf; telling him dirty stuff and touching him. You see that hes uncomfortable but cant do much to stop it. Your really telling me your not going to do anything about it? I dont think so.
The comment about you being to small to defend yourself, well i can see how you feel bothered by it but you shouldnt. Bad things happen to girls all the time (that im sure said the same thing); you think your bf wants to chance that with you?
Ive been through this with my ex but she liked that i stuck up for her, but the two of you are very different. Shes been through stuff no girl should have to deal with; and if she always had boyfriends like me and him she wouldnt have had to deal with it.
Im not saying that your wrong to feel the way you do; im saying your a girl and hes a guy. Theres things you probably will never understand about eachother. At the end of the day you have a good respectful guy and you should try to understand where hes coming from.
I had and sexual experience with a women and like
making her orgasum but I.m very much attractive to men. when I see another women having sex with another women I get really turned on. I went down on a women but she never went down on me. should I experience this?
Well from what you said i think you already experienced it and very much enjoyed it. If your asking if there's anything wrong with it the answer is no.
There are bisexuals who can love and be in a relationship with both men and women and then theres some who simply do it for pleasure. I think that is the real question you have
I think either way its not a bad thing or something that you should try to hide.
21 female
Last night me and my boyfriend started making out, which lead to us both being really horny. I took my shirt off and he started rubbing my boobs and licking my nipples. Then he pulled down his pants and I started touching his penis.
The thing is I've never given a hand or blow job before! So when i tried giving him a little hand job, it basically turned out horrible. My hands were clammy/sticky so my hand wasn't sliding right and it just seemed awful. Then I started feeling something come out of his penis and I thought it was cum, and it went on my leg. I freaked out a little bit because I made it clear I didn't want him to do that on me but then he said noooo it's not that I wouldn't do that to you. So I don't know what it was like pre-cum or what? So I basically made a fool out of myself and stopped.
I am terrified to try this next time. I want to do it so bad but I feel like i failed miserably. Should I use some type of lotion or at least Vaseline to make my hand move more smoothly? How cam I make next time better, I have no idea what I'm doing! :\ A little embarrassing.
Im sorry about that but don't worry next time will be much better. Yes your going in the right direction with using lotion or vaseline, but instead of that you should just use lube. Before the next time your gunna do this again just swing by walmart and get normal ky jelly lube, it works fine and will make it alot easier to give him a hand job.
Other than that i would suggest you watch some porn videos with handjobs seeing as it would be kinda impossible how to tell you how to give a good one and even then it wouldnt help too much. Its funny but true that its like anything else you wont know what your doing the first time and just get better at it.
Tips:
. DONT try and grab it from almost the tip and go all the way down (unless hes like 4 inches it will hurt ALOT) and vice verca (no grabbing from the bottom)
. If your going to grab on tightish stay in the same area For example if your at the top before his head stay there, if your in the middle stay there, if your at the bottom stay there.
I recommended the lube because you dont have to worry about hurting him, youd be able to go all the way up and all the way down
Ummm i guess the last thing that most girls dont know is which parts are most sensitive (in a good way)
. when hes hard on the underside throughout his penis youll feel soemthign like a thick vein but its not.
. and second would be the underside of his head, if you make sure to hit this spot will you go up and down youll probably make him cum after a couple minutes
You said you dont want cum on you but there is nothing wrong with it, ha it doesnt stain you or anything, so dont worry too much about that
Im 15/F i never understand when people say he didn't finish in me or he used the pull out method. what does that mean!? like im guessing it when you guys fu*k and then he stops but i don't get it?
It means that before hes going to cum he'll pull out so he doesn't get any inside. At your age i heard about it all the time and even then i knew it was one of the stupidest things ive ever heard. Im 19 years old and i definitely know more about this stuff then anyone your age so DONT USE THIS METHOD. If you look it up the most trustworthy site that somewhat recommend it is planned parenthood and when i saw that i was shocked. There are so many other more safe methods to use; for example:
condoms
ocp's or birth control pills
the diaphragm
spermicidal products such as vaginal contraceptive film also know as vcf
The types you can pick up from walmart or heb would be:
condoms
spermicidal products (i recommend vcf for pleasure, and only should use this if your in a trusting relationship)
I wont get into being safe from stds that'll take too long and you can always look that up
long story short, i have a fuck buddy yea yea i no, neways we tried to fuck 3 times and he wont fit, im really small and he is not that big at all and is my first wen we get it in, wat do you think i should do, we can get it in just we have an inch to go, but it hurts so bad, wat should i do and i want it to work because i lik how me and his situation is goin, long story. and i dont want it to get messed up because im so small, so plzz help!!!
Hmm mostly likely its not that your too small its that he doesnt make you wet enough. So to fix this do some foreplay and tell him what you like, tell him what gets you going. And if you dont exactly know what you like (your inexperienced) then try new things. Alot of girls like being dominated so maybe you should try that, tell him to be rough with you. If all else fails just do oral before you have sex... if that doesnt get you wet then im sorry but hes probably not all that great. And i guess the last thing to do would be use lube. Go to walmart or heb or wherever and start off with the normal kind; then see if you like warming or tinkling. Basically try new things
If u have any other questions ill try to get back to you soon
Ok so i started my period about a year and a half ago adn i haven't had it in the last TWO months!! Of course i'm young so i haven't had any sexual activity... Should i be concerned and go and get it checked out?? Or is this normal for just starting your period??
As long as your not sexually active then you have nothing to worry about. Like the person before me said it can be stress related but at your age it probably isn't. Teens have unusual cycles because they're bodies are going through all these changes and our consistent i guess would be the best way to put it, don't worry
I've never been on this web site before. Anyway. I am 13 and my boyfriend is 13. His brother is tremendously rood.The first time I met him he says hi sexy do you want to be my girlfriend of course I say no.His brother comes(my boyfriend) I tell him what he said to me.my boyfriend was so mad.One day I go to my boyfriend's house and his brother answers the door and I walk in he just starts grabbing my butt and saying I should go out with him. I don't like my boyfriend's brother at all. How should I tell him to leave me alone.
I find it really hard to believe that you told your boyfriend that his brother touched your ass and he didn't kick his. So you should tell him that he does that and how it makes you feel (uncomfortable). Its definitely something you shouldn't have to deal with so you have all the right to tell your boyfriend that your not going to his house unless his brother can stop acting immature and pathetic. That should take care of things, o and one more thing; if a guy touches you inappropriately you can kick him in a "specific" area. This is the second question ive answered today on a similar situation and im going to tell you the same thing.
Stick up for yourself!!!! If you let a guy that you dont want touch you it tells them that your either weak or a slut, and that is exactly why they keep doing it. So show him your not either with a kick to his... well hopefully you can figure that out
I have been sexually harrassed and i want to talk to ther girls who have similar experince with me
when i was on the bus there was a boy thrown condom at me first it looked like a balloom it wasnt. when i was in the swimming pool there is a boy grab my breast and bottom i told him to stop but he doesnt stop. when i got on taxi. taxi driver masturvate infront of me . i dont know how to deal with it and i want to know how it make them to stop
The reason why they do this stuff to you is because you dont stick up for yourself; you really think telling them no is going to work?
You need to get mad; yell and cuss at them, or humiliate them, you can even hit them. Making them feel stupid works the best, ill tell you how you should have handled each situation
1. The bus. You should have grabbed the condom shoved it in his face and slapped him
2. The pool. You should have screamed at him and kicked him in that "one" place
3. taxi. You should have made fun of how tiny he was and got out of the taxi (and obviously not have paid for it).
Your not the only girl that gets sexually harassed, and i have to say more girls do what you do (which is nothing) then stick up for themselves.
Your gunna get a bunch of answers saying to tell somebody but you should know by now thats not going to work, if you can stick up for yourself your going to show alot of confidence and things like this wont happen anywhere close to as much
Can anybody list me some anime shows like Elfen Lied that are dubbed in English?
This includes any similer story lines, romance, nudity, and any possible sex.
Thank you!
I love elfen lied
Well im pretty new to anime so i only know a couple.
. queens blade
. sekirei (one of my favorites)
. girls bravo
My friend who got me into it likes bleach alot so you could also check that one out
18/f
Just to tell you a little about my body: 5'9" or 5'10", 132 lbs, D or DD breasts.
When i was about 11 or 12 I was told I had scolosis and kyphosis caused by my vertabrae bring wedge shaped. I went to physical therapy for it, but it didnt really help. It causes me daily backpain and my upper back to slouch, even when i try to stand up straight. The pain and the appearance of it is starting to drive me insane. I think its called Sheuermanns disease from the research I did, and the only good cure was surgury. I do NOT want to do that because of time and money issues. Can anyone link websites for excersizes or other ways to help me? :( thanks.
Ok im sure you understand what scoliosis and kyphosis is but ill just go over it with you just in chase. Your spine is curved in two different ways; you have a side to side one and one in your upper back (thoracic region). You've only gone to pt (physical therapy) which confuses me, you've been to an actual doctor who recommend this right? If you somehow skipped that step its really important that you schedule an appointment.
What i know about these two curvatures is that they're both treated by either a back brace or surgery. So when you go to your doctor ask him what your options are and if he goes straight to surgery ask him about a back brace; chances are that if he does go straight for surgery its because its too big of a curvature for a brace to fix but it doesn't hurt to ask.
I completely understand how this would have a negative effect on your life and you wish it was gone; i see only one way of doing that which is to talk to a doctor about your options.
He's going to do 1 of 3 things
. back brace
. surgery
. send you to a specialist
. Or do some tests if he cant tell whether a brace is an option (probably a scan)
I saw that a neurologist or neuro surgeon was recommended in a previous answer and i would have to disagree; go to your family doctor and have him send you to which specialist he thinks is best. I hope i was of some help and if you have any other questions feel free to ask
I'm a 13, almost 14 yearold girl, going into the 8th grade and I haven't had my first kiss yet. I have a lot of friends, girls and guys. But I rarely hangout with guys, girls more. One if m best friends has kissed a bunch of guys and she won't be 14 for another 6 months. I feel stupid cause I haven't had my first kiss yet. how can I get it? I want it, but I'm very nervous. What if I'm not good? But the question is, how do i get it? Please helpp! All advice and tips are goood! Thanks. :)
Ok... I know your young and you think your first kiss is going to be really great and something your probably gunna remember forever, and yes thats right, IF! you wait for someone you really really like.
I know i could tell you what you need to know to get your first kiss in the next week but i wont.
Im 19 and i had my first kiss when i was 16; i waited for someone that made me really happy and i really enjoyed spending time with. We waited about a month after our first date and the kiss was amazing; it was more than i thought it would be.
While i was your age kids were kissing someone new every week and it never interested; i waited and ive never for a second regretted it.
So you have a choice to make; you can go to a party or kiss any guy that shows some interest in you, i doubt he will be complaining, probably even ask to do it more. Or your can wait till you find someone that makes you feel happy and special; and share that experience together
can i get pregnant if my boyfriend fuck me from back side ?not to my front hole?
chances are slim but technically yes you can get pregnant. Did he "finish"; well if he did it can seep into your vagina and that would be how you can get pregnant. Before doing this i wanted to make sure it couldn't happen so i did some research even asked a friend thats in the health care field and its a yes. If you and your boyfriend want to have anal i would recommend you get on birth control just encase it does seep or he slips (more common than youd think) into your front, or use a condom for both. Be careful and if you dont take my advice and one of those things do happen you NEED to go to a pharmacy and ask for a "plan b" pill; its very expensive (45 dollars) but it has a good success rate
what and how is a easy way to die quick without pain if u wont tell me sumbody else will
Im sure you could have just looked it up, i cant say i know what you would get when you put something like that in google but just encase you are suicidal ill take this question seriously. And if aren't serious and think that it would be fun... well when your older and grow up you'll see there isn't 1 thing funny about suicide.
I dont know what your situation is; if your family smothers you with love or you dont have a family so im gunna leave out the selfishness behind what that would have been, and ill tell you what you have to look forward to in life.
Im not going to lie and say im 50 years old and my life is perfect and ive been where youve been because thats just not true.
I'll tell you that im 19 years old, ive gone through alot of stuff, and the reason why i have never been where you have (suicidal).
I've found my place in this crappy and beautiful place we call earth. Im not leaving here because i havent finished what Ive started. I'm going to be a surgeon in... 7 years. Im not gifted when it comes to school, im definitely no genius but i put alot of work into it. Theres millions of people that dont agree with what im about to say but its the way i live my life.
Im going to spend years of my life studying and working all to save lives, and if i just save one life with all those years i would be ok with that.
Your suicidal, most likely have been depressed for a while but your not alone. Im depressed as we speak and i will be for quiet some time but ive found my place, you need to go find your place. Go find it and when you do no matter how depressed you get you'll never want to do what you said in your question
In the mean time talk to a friend, from personal experience it helps; i know i would have lost my best friend a month or so ago if i didnt spend over 24 hours just talking to her
How do you responde to someone who tell you they love you. I have had boyfriends that say I love you early in the relationship and i dont know what to say because i dont know if i do love him. What do i tell someone? How do i reply to him when he says i love you and im not sure what i feel?
You haven't been in love before and that's alright; so when a boyfriends tells you that they love you you tell them how you feel about them.
That is what they're doing (by saying they love you). So if you really like them and they make you happy then tell them that. I hate to tell you this but when you love someone you know it
17/f
Me and my boyfriend will be celebrating our 10 month anniversary on the 6th of this month. He always takes me out and this time, he told me its my turn to surprise him! what can i do, or where can i take him that will be romantic, and will actually interest him? Help please!!
Ha Ive been there. Your definitely over thinking this if you have to come on this site for ideas (no offense). You two love each other right? I know its VERY cliche or however you spell it but its completely true. Your going to have a great anniversary don't worry, just think about things he likes to do, if hes happy with renting a movie and picking up a pizza on the way home then go for it. I dont know how you two are on gifts, you know in some couples only the guy gives a gift or whatever but we like them to ha. He might not be the kind of guy to admit he likes when you tell him how you feel about him but he does, so if its been a while write him a letter. I would take a letter over anything bought
Your going to have a great anniversary, again you don't have to do something amazing, just like you he doesn't care what you do just that your together
So I have a problem.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now (our anniversary is monday) and I absolutely love him! We had a rocky past but everything is going great now. Our past was rocky because I caused some trouble by still being in contact with my ex, and my boyfriend found out and thats when things got worse. But I fixed them and no longer in contact with any exs. However, a few days ago I found out that he's still facebook friends with his ex. I know nothing is going on between them because the last time he spoke of her was the beginning of our relationship and I trust him and know he wouldn't cheat on me. But I can't stop thinking that he has some kind of connection with his ex, even if it is just facebook friends. I don't know why but it just bothers me so much. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for the past few days. And i've noticed that whenever I do think about it, I get a sickening stomach ache feeling. It makes me a little upset that he's still facebook friends with her. I'm not facebook friends with any of my exes.
In fact, one time I had some pictures of me and my ex (it was prom pictures) and my boyfriend got jealous/mad and was uncomfortable with the pictures. It gave him bad memories of our past. So I was kind enough to delete those pictures because I knew he felt uncomfortable with them. Now i'm uncomfortable with something (him still being facebook friends with his ex) but i really don't know what to do.
I feel like this is so juvenille and childish... to get uncomfortable that he's facebook friends with his ex. Am I making this a big deal when its not? Should I talk to him about it? Another thing you should know is that my boyfriend can get angry very easily. Like I said earlier- our 1 year anniversary is coming up on monday. I'm scared that if I bring this problem up, he might get angry because its so juvenille and then our 1 year anniversary would be terrible because he would be mad at me. So i'm not sure if I should mention it or not because I guess it is a little childish problem but it still bothers me.
And another thing, if I didn't talk to him about this, I think it would really get on my nerves. I'm not the one to "forget" about something like this.. I think it would haunt me and especially on our anniversary, I wouldn't get as pleasant feelings. I guess i'm just scared to bring it up because I fear that he will get angry because its such an immature problem. I don't know what to do :( I love him and don't want him to get mad at me over something like this. But still it irritates me that he is facebook friends with her.
It doesnt matter whether the problem is childish, its having a bad affect on your relationship and you should do something about it. Now here is where it can be childish or mature, the way you go about talking to him about it. Don't bring up your ex and the prom pictures and how nice you were to have taken them down, that wont help anything. Go up to him and say you wanna to talk about somethings thats been bothering you.
Tell him how you feel, that you feel childish about it because you do trust him completely "I trust him and know he wouldn't cheat on me". And that you dont really know why it makes you feel uncomfortable but that it just does, maybe even squeeze in a sorry. And lastly (if he doesnt already bring it up), ask if he can remove her.
I've personally never had this problem but this is the right way of going about it, you cant tell me you've never heard "communication is key in relationships" right?
Communication and honesty is key for me but i guess those two go hand in hand, I hope you have a great 1 year anniversary
19/f
hi. so this is a really long story but i'm gonna try to make it short. i dated my boyfriend for 7 months. we hooked up during the first week of college and we were together the whole year. we hung out all the time, i slept in his room every night, we woke up every morning together, we live in the same dorm building, basically it felt like we lived together. anyways, 2 weeks ago i had a date event for my sorority and he was texting his friend the whole time making fun of girls in my sorority that he thought were fat/ugly and telling his friend he didnt wanna be there. of course this created a huge fight between us and i broke up with him because i was so mad. he apologized and said he didnt mean to hurt me and his texts had nothing to do with me and he was drunk when he sent them. we got back together the next day and then were fine until the weekend (even though i was still mad at him). on friday he broke up with me for no reason when he was blacked out and was being a huge dick. i got so mad at him and was so drunk that i went and hooked up with some other guy. let me make this clear: the guy kissed me. i just let him kiss me and then i freaked out because it felt so wrong and went to go find my boyfriend.. well we weren't actually together at that point but whatever. so anyways the day after we were fine and he didnt even remember what happened but i had to tell him that i hooked up with that other guy. he was angry of course but he broke up with me a day later telling me that he couldnt stop thinking about it and couldnt believe i would do that to him. i thought he was just trying to push me away so i would beg for his forgiveness.. so thats what i did. for 3 days i tried to get him back but he kept pushing me away and crying and telling me it felt like i cheated on him. (we do occasionally break up when were drunk and both know that were gonna get back together in the morning, so i know what i did was wrong). he asked me for space so eventually i stopped trying to show him i cared about him and left him alone. we havent talked in like a week but ive seen him around because we live in the same building. he has a dance on friday and hes taking another girl (theyre just friends, but still). ive just been so miserable the past week, literally i cant function. i just dont know if i should just not talk to him and wait and see if he wants me back or if i should go talk to him. because when we were fighting during those 3 days, the second i told him he was right and we should break up he freaked out and wanted to get back together. its like he wants me when he cant have me. usually im good with this stuff but i love him so much that its clouding my judgement. i dont know if i should just try to get over him because usually how i do it is by hooking up with other guys and i know that would completely ruin any chance i have with him but i cant stay in this state of confusion anymore. help?
I dont know what he's thinking but if he wants to get back together with you he just wants to know that you love him. Write him a letter telling him how much your sorry, how your feeling, and especially how much he means to you.
Theres no way to prove that you love him but you still need to try, tell him that your not asking for his trust but a chance to earn it back.
Good luck
i have been having sex for bout a 2yrs now an just bout a couple of days ago me an my boyfriend were having sex an i felt a pop my hymen popped. An i am asking why did it just barely popped? An how long will it bleed for?
Im guessing your boyfriend now is bigger than your past boyfriends? Same thing happened with my current girlfriend, her ex's were alot smaller than me.
It should only bleed for that day, if it was at night you might find a little in the morning, but that should be it. If its been longer then that and you know your not on your period you should go to a doctor.
ok so i have had my period and i humped my bed and im rly rly rly rly rly scared can i be pregnant????plz help u dont understand!?
Im gunna take it your reeealy reeeealy young, so no you cannot get pregnant from anything other then a boy
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Hi I am a junior in high school and I am wondering what studying in college is like. I do well in school now but I want to know what I need to do to do well in college, I am leaning towards an engineering major at the moment. Any first hand experience or study techniques would be helpful, thanks.
It really depends on the course
Science: i learn very well with powerpoints (if my teacher doesnt go off of powerpoints ill make them myself) or filling out outlines if they have them
Math: DO THE HOMEWORK! Its as simple as that. If your like me and are "ok" at math you have to do the homework to pass. Some teachers wont give you an end of the semester grade on it but you still need to do it.
I took a math course last semester did very little homework and ended up having to drop the class. This semester im taking the same course and im ranked 1 in my class and have a 97.5 to a 100 in it because i do ALL of the homework.
English: Taking notes during class is a good idea and do not procrastinate on essays
Everything else: Is just what you learn with the best. If you like reading printed powerpoints then put the info in one. The last piece of advice i can give is to make sure to study atleast one thing everyday. And when tests are coming up to schedule when you will study each chapter and a review day.
Engineering majors should look into joining a program. In one of my classes we had a presentation about a company called "proctor and gamble" who offers paid internships over the summer (you should look into that). To find out about other programs there should be someone that is incharge of engineering programs for that college. Ask your teachers, somebody should know who he or she is.
Good luck