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Alright, here's the deal. My best guy friend has recently sort of been brushing his hands up against mine and stuff, I don't know if it's accidental or on purpose, but it's been happening alot. I like him alot, nobody knows it. I want to hold his hand so bad, but i'm afraid that if I do i'll look like an idiot....like if what he has been doing is accidental, ya know. What should i dooooooo? It's killing me! Whenever he does it I get all nervous and giddy! (link)
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Look at him the next time he brushes his hand agains yours. Look at his reaction. His reaction will tell you if he's doing it on purpose or not.
That's the safest way to see if he really is doing it on purpose or it's accidental.
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what is some fun stuff that I can do to my boyfriend to make him feel good (link)
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Hi sorrie! I've been piled with tons of hmwrk and assignments!!!
Make him feel good meaning "kinky-good" or "positive-good"?
If it's positive-good I can help you but if it's kinky-good..ehh well...unless I know your bf well enough, which I guess is something you wouldnt want.
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I recently dropped out of a college course which was working with children, I was over half way though the course. Ive been looking for a job for a while and 2 job offer have come up. One is working in a store for less hours and more money but the other one is moving out of my parents home and moving in with a friend of my mums and being like a house wife and taking her daughter to school as she is on the road alot because of her job this is less money but i wouldnt have to pay rent or for the food but its more hours. The moving out job sounds more like the one i would enjoy. But im only 17 and have never spent more than a week away from my family. If i go with this job do u have any tips that would help me not to be so home sick? And which job sounds like a the better one? (link)
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Actually, I'd go for the job that has less hrs, more money and more family time. When you work for a close friend or relative, you tend to have to mind your behaviour more and be careful not to strain relationships.
Like for instance, relationships may get strained if let's say her daughter got lost while you were fetching her home from school. The responsibility that you have is greater. You understand what I'm saying?
When you're working in a enviroment with people you haven't met before, you are responsible more for yourself and the work that you hand in. In the case of working for you mum's friend, you are not only required to do a good job but you're also responsible for her daughter's safety and well being. Besides, you will feel the pressure of having to leave behind a good impression of yourself on your mum's friend, isn't it?
I would prefer an enviroment where there are no expectations I have to meet. I'd go for a brand new environment where I can meet new people who don't have any expectations bout me.
The thing is, it's hard not to be home-sick unless you hate your family. The moving out job sounds more fun but how would you know? You haven't tried out the other job yet. I would say that the moving out job sounds more familiar and comfortable rather than fun.
Sometimes, after a hard day at school, I'd feel better just seeing my family, talking and laughing with them or telling them bout my problems.
In life, we should make decisions based on whether we can handle it rather than whether it's fun. When you can handle what you're doing, you'll naturally like it.
Can you handle being away for long? Can you handle the long hours? Do ask yourself questions simliar to these.
But it's really ultimately up to you to decide for yourself. I'm a rather homely person and I'd miss my family loads if I'm away for long. So do think bout it carefully yea.
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I think I have hair on my nose! One girl even asked do I shave it! How do I get rid of it? It's only in like the bottom across the nose.
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I dunno where's the hair on the nose. I can't see anything. You can use a pore pack to remove it. You can remove both black heads and your nose hair at the same time. Cool right?
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16/F dating a 17/m for over a year.
Today, I had plans to meet up with my mom to go look at prom dresses after school.
I told my boyfriend, "I'm not waiting for you after school" because it takes him a minute or two to meet up with me after school. But when I don't have to wait for him (I've always waited on him unless he's absent), I can get out of the school pretty fast and manage to beat the school traffic. He gets upset and starts to ignore me.
A few minutes after telling him that, my mom sends me a text message telling me she was going to check me out an hour before school dismissal. Of course, I told my boyfriend. He still continues to ignore me.
After I got home, we were IMing each other back and forth with this conversation:
Him: :-\
Me: what?
Him: what you said when i last saw you
Me: what? that I didnt want to wait?
Him: yeah, that was stupid
Him: saves you a minute and a half at the most
Me: no no, 4-5 minutes
Him: it takes me 4-5 minutes to walk about 150 feet?
Me: no, but have you seen me walk fast? Yeah, I do that when I dont have to wait.
Him: just shut up
Him: even if you were going to save time, big deal
Him: what did you need to rush outta there so fast for?
Him: that dress might sell out before you get there?
Him: doubt it
Me: to look at dresses?
Me: to beat hellacious traffic?
Him: you're ridiculous
Him: the whole thing was stupid
Him: waiting on me wouldnt have made you any late
Me: even your friend said it made sense
Him: he didnt care
Me: he said, "It makes sense", Andrew.
Him: and uh, i dont care
Him: forget what he said, it wouldnt have made a difference if you waited on me
Him: and it was ridiculous that you would argue with me about it and completely refuse to wait for me
Me: you're the ridiculous one who is currently overreacting. It doesn't matter anymore, Andrew. I checked out at 1:51.
Him: no, it doesnt matter that you checked out
Him: YOU WERE REFUSING TO WAIT FOR ME
Me: okay? So I could get out of there.
Him: that's stupid
Him: you're f***ing dumb as s**t f**k you im done good bye
He signed off at 7:42:29 PM.
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Hmm. Actually if it's just a minute or two, why don't you wait for him? But really, there's no need for him to be so angry. Maybe you should've talked to him bout meeting you earlier and telling him not to dilly-dally all the time.
Don't fight bout this. You should try to see it in a more positive way. He was fed up with you cos he wants to spend time with you. And come to think of it, imagine yourself in his position. How would you feel if he told you the same thing, that he doesn't wanna wait up cos you'd delay him a few minutes? Would you have been slightly insulted? Or not?
Both of you are wrong, in the sense that
1)you are a little too uptight bout the waiting time ( come on, it's just 5 minutes? relax, it's alright. It's always like this when you meet up with people. I get that all the time)
2)he's being very petty bout it and he should've at least offered to be earlier instead of scolding you.
I'd suggest you say something like : "hey, sorry to have just left you like that. But maybe you could try to be earlier a little ok?" Do talk it out.
I don't know how your relationship works but an apology might come from him after that. In a relationship, try not to be so calculative and measure things like who should start apologising first. The person who starts apologising is in fact at the winning end cos not only does he/she get an apology back in return, but it also helps him/her to be more forgiving as well. And that's a really sweet deal. =)
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i am 15 and its getting to that time where im feeling pressured to loose my virginity i feel that i have to loose before all the girls get to expeirenced what should i do? (link)
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Hey whoa. Losing your virginity just like that isn't something worth boasting or being proud of. When come to a time like this, always think - consequences. Ok let's say you've lost your virginity, and your friends know bout it
1) They might be awed and find you cool but then it only lasts for a while in their memory. It's just gonna be "oh wow, how does it feel? Was it great? You're so cool" and snap, it'll be gone from their minds after a while.
People always want to be pioneer in everything, but really, ask yourself, if you don't have sex yet, what will happen to you?
And if you had sex already, what will happen to you? Which option is safer and reversible? Sex is something that once done you'll never get back your virginity ever again.
Virginity isnt something that you should lose in a spur of the moment or heat of excitement. Think bout it, I'm dead sure that the good things bout losing your virginity now are only temporary. I can't name any at the moment but that is something I can instinctively guarantee you.
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I’m 14/f and my best friend is 14/m and gay. We’ve been friends for over a year which is the longest time my bff [let’s call him Chris] has kept anyone as a best friend. But anywhos, I have this very frivolous and talkative personality when I’m around people but that’s a problem…Chris doesn’t want to talk about serious things with me. He goes to 2 other people and that kind of hurts me. But then I can’t blame him but I still want to be the person he turns to when he has a problem and not just a person he sees as all talkative and clumsy. Is there any way I can maybe steer him to talk to me about serious things without actually sitting down and talking to him about it? Thanks =]
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The thing is, don't change those definitive traits of yours - which is chatty and outspoken. Just try to be more of an active listener instead of an active talker. It'll be good to have a mix of both traits.
When he starts to mention about serious things, listen attentively and genuinely. When you sense that he's starting to talk bout his problems, stay on topic and make him the subject of the conversation. You'll gradually lead him into telling you more bout his problems. Everyone likes to talk bout themselves at (maybe all) times.
Btw, I really don't see how him being gay helps in the question. Haha
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What is the most important thing when you look for love?
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sincerity
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im in 8th grade, in a really small school. there is only 8 guys in my whole 8th grade. there all shallow, and will only go out with "hot" girls. sometimes they say, "if you cant supply, we will deny." Is that true about all guys? (link)
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It's bullshit. They talk like that cos they're the minority and they know that. They see themselves as needles in a haystack. But really, not all guys are like that. I believe not all guys in your school are like that.
They are saying that because they are very confident that you girls out there want them so bad since there are only 8 of them. Once they get out of your school, they're nothing.
Key point here: Not all guys are like that.
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I got my period, but I havent told my mom. Im shy and its weird talking to her. How should I tell her? (link)
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You yell : MUM! GET ME THE FREAKIN PAD!
But really, you don't have to tell her. Just go and get the pad by yourself. If she happens to see you taking the pad, she'll know. If she asks bout it, say "yeah isn't that great?"
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I am a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend and i broke up after a long time a few weeks ago. I really do love him and he told me "i used to love you." I messed up because i really hurt him and now I dont know it he is just saying he doesn't love me or if he really doesn't. There is this other boy who is really cute and he likes me. All of my friends are telling me it will help if I go out with him but I still love my ex. what do i do? should i keep waiting for my ex.. he calls me everynight and he always wants to talk... or should i forget about him and go for the new boy? (link)
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Go for who you really love/like. Don't go with someone just cos they like you. In this case, the feeling has to be mutual.
I know you must be thinking, yes in time to come I'd be able to adapt and slowly grow to love the new cute boy. Yes this works only if you don't have anyone else in your heart.
But for now, in this case, you have to go with who you really like. Your ex obviously misses you. So do choose wisely and listen to your feelings.
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okay, so i have known this girl for a long time, and i think she is the most beautiful girl on the planet, and i absolutely love her, but last year, i asked her out, and she said no and completely shunned me and the whole school makes fun of me now. i love her, and i would really like her to know that, and i want her to be my friend at least again, but she won't even talk to me since then. i even had to spend 2 hours with her during this group activity the other day at school, and she didn't say A WORD!!! not a single thing (to me, anyway). so does anyone have any thing that could get her to like me again? a certain charm, something to say, a style change, anything? it would really help...
THNX!!!!!
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Hey I know this question has been posted a year ago. I wasn't an advice columnist on this site at that time. I happened to chance upon it now and I feel that you aren't getting good answers. And I feel an obligation to explain why the girl is behaving this way. Besides, this info could be useful for you in the future.
Anyway, I don't know if your problem has already been solved? But I feel that I have to answer this question since I totally understand and I do at times behave like this girl.
First things first, you have to accept that she doesn't like you. And it'll be hard to get her to like you. You have to go step by step and get her to talk to you first and be your friend before proceeding on.
The thing is, she is avoiding you because you probably have shown too much affection to her. I don't mean to be MEAN but I have to be honest here : she feels gross about the over-affection and she doesn't like that feeling. Honest. THat's exactly how I'd feel. I can really feel very depressed about it if a guy I don't like keep chasing after me. I don't feel flattered at all. I know that's wierd. But that's just me (and that girl too). And I'd hate it if the boy continues to show any affection for me. Not all girls are like that. It's just that your friend and I happen to share the same trait.
Also, it could be that you look very pitiful everytime she ignores you or whenever the whole school makes fun of you. Don't. She'll hate you more for being pushed over easily. Don't give a pathetic look everytime she ignores you cos she hates that. We like tough guys. Be confident. If she ignores you , so be it. Don't look so forlorn because she's not gonna pity you. She's only gonna hate you more for being so easily pushed over. Be strong and act like nothing is wrong. Confidence is the key factor that attracts girls
So if you really want things to work out with her, or at least get her to talk to you again, leave her alone for now first. Yes, that's what I would want. Peace. As for saying a charm or casting a spell on her, please don't do that. You are experimenting with something you don't know and horrible consequences might result. Don't tamper with the supernatural or unkonwn realm. Be safe and just do what i tell you to do. Leave her alone and she WILL talk to you in time to come.
Once you leave her alone, she'll start to reflect and think about the things she's done to you and how bad she has been. She may or may not apologise to you but she'll gradually talk to you. Then take things slow from here and get to know her more. DON'T show that you like her yet. Just treat her like how you would treat a normal friend and go slow from there. Be confident and be yourself.
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okay so i am redoing my room and i am getting like this self thing on my wall ti out my books on and i had all the clique book and i told my firend she could keep for alittel bit. but now i want them how doi tel her i want them back now??or am i being mean? (link)
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Actually I don't see anything mean bout asking it back. It was from you in the first place. You only told her to help keep it for a while.
You can ask it back nicely from her, and say that she can borrow them again from u anytime she wants.
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Iam 20 years old and my bf is 21 years old. We have been together for 1 year now. My boyfriend is constantly leaving me then coming back to me. he tell me that he doesnt love me anymore, iam not pretty enough and he doesnt want anything to do with me but when i cut him out of my life and move on he says he loves me and he made a mistake and he wants me back. He wants me when he wants me. He downs me sometimes but then he will say the oppisite. He lies to me he never puts my feelings first. The question is should i leave him (link)
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Yes. He's a pile of garbage. He's using you. Can't you see? Get him out of your life ASAP and stop being so soft hearted.
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Hello! I really like this guy. Today I saw him, it was the first time in a while. He is 15, and I am 13. I know, you can't be inlove at 13. Everyone probley thinks it's just a crush, well, I am convinced your wrong.
We evacuated once, and we went to the same place, and we hung out a little. I liked him then, and I was 11. When he left, I was CRUSHED! I felt horrible.
Today he was on my float. He smiles at me, but I don't know what he means. After the parade was over, I feel WORSE then I ever did. I want this guy so bad. I even prayed alot of times. I might sound a little dramatic, but please, try and understand.
What are some promises I can make with God? If he helps me get over this guy? I might not ever have him, or see him again [ I probley will see him again ]. I just don't want to feel like this again. I felt like this the day my father died! Could God help him like me, or even be my best friend, just be.. you know.. closer too him. This guy is just AMAZING!
So, does anyone know any promises I can make with God, to help him help me about this problem. I have had crush's, and MANY boyfriends, but I have never felt this feeling.
Thank you.
BTW- for lent I already gave up junk food. I thought it would help me loose weight, and come closer too God. Also, I promised to pray every night, and morning. (link)
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You don't have to make any promises such as giving up junk food and giving him $1000 everyday. There's no such thing. You just pray to him and he'll help you if you really need that help. You don't have to lose weight to become closer to God. God accept us for whoever we are. All he expects from you is faith.
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From the age of five until the age of fifteen, I was seriously depressed. I didn't function normally and I attempted suicide frequently. I got help and for the last couple years I've been making constant progress--but that's created a new set of problems. The friends I once had to depend on to save me from myself don't know how to deal with me as a happier, healthier person and friends I've made more recently don't understand when I have an occasional relapse and can't be the bouncy, happy girl they're used to. I'm afraid that I'll end up completely alone and that I'll end up backspinning to the way that I used to be, but I don't know of any way to make people understand the changes I'm making. Any suggestions? (link)
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Your old friends aren't used to the idea of you being a happy person. Yea and you can't blame them for that. Give them some time to accept it. Don't immediately get antsy at the fact that they start feeling wierd bout the new refreshing you. Have you given them enough time? I doubt so.
Since they've been with you during your major life crisis, then they WILL definitely understand and accept you as you are and the changes that comes along within you. You just gotta give them a breather and let them adjust and fine tune themselves to the new you.
The thing is, do you at times fake yourself to be happy to the point where your old friends think that you're trying to cover up your sadness? So that's why they wonder if the happier you is really your new true self? As for the new friends you've made, yes, the same thing applies - they need time. I was in your position before. Whenver I tell them my problems, the either say "erm..hee" and give me a sheepish smile or they just look surprised. It's like that, don't worry too much bout it. Both sides will slowly accept the new sides that you are showing to them. Don't expect too much from them, just let it be. You prolly need to find the right time to tell your problems to your new friends.
All this knowledge comes with experience and you'll learn how to deal with such situations when the time comes.
I would be bugged by such problems but normally, I'd try to solve such problems by myself because I learn more things than when I ask people bout it.
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We have a couple. The man crosses the river to work. When he is supposed to come back home, he doesn t show up. The woman worries and tries to cross the river to find her husband. A cannibal offers to get her across the river ONLY if she has sex with him.
Who has the biggest share of fault in this story?
Go downwards for instance
1)Cannibal (Biggest Fault)
2)Man (Medium Fault)
3)Woman (Less fault).
There are no other variables. You dont know how long was the husband was late, or if he could communicate and didn t etc.
I will tell you what it means on my feedback. You ll learn interesting stuff about yourself just by answering this question.
This is not like the usual dumb quizzes you find on the internet. (link)
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Man (biggest fault)
cannibal
woman (least fault)
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do girls like average looking, nice guys??? (link)
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I don't mind. As long as they're presentable looking, not fat and have very nice personalities I'm good.
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In response to your feedback:
Yes. Definitely. To heck with looks, it doesn't matter much to most girls. It's ok for guys not to look good. But its NOT ok for girls to NOT look good. Haha. Yea? Agree with me?
The impt thing is for guys to be confident and nice. I do have friends who go for looks and quite frankly speaking, they aren't the nicest people you'll meet on earth.
Oh, and wat's up with everyone getting the same rating and the same feedback?
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i have this guy friend named mark that likes my close friend ericka and my friend knows about it and she reaally doeesnt like him because she says hes stalkerish or obsessed.I gave him advice or cheering him up when he was hurt, he tells me a lot of secrets about it. And of course i dont tell my friend even though she begs me and asks me what he says about her. So one day my friend wants me to tell him not to talk about her anymore to people. and my friend is mean to him and told people that mark likes her.And it made him really mad. so we were chatting online and i told him to not to talk about my close friend and stuff after that i changed the subject and this is the convo.
me:so who pisses you off the most?
mark:guess
me:people who tease you?
mark:and people who tells other people secret
me: oh are you talking about ericka?
mark;sure
me:are u over her yet?
mark:no i was trying to but you brought up the topic
mark:thanks
me:noo i didnt
mark: yes u did
me:w/e start over
mark:dont talk to me anymore
me:why?
mark:dont
me:ok bye
and he signed off on me and he hasnt talk to me because of this i mean what did i do? its really small arguement but i dont get why he doesnt wanna talk to me anymore. Was he using me or what?
sorry its too long and my english is bad
im from Mexico (link)
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Don't apologise. Your english isn't bad at all. Mark is not pissed with you. He's pissed with erica and you happened to be present at the time when he felt horrible bout the whole incident.
He's just venting his anger out on you, but he's not angry with you. You're right in ending off by saying 'ok bye'. Leave him alone for now. Let him cool off first. His self esteem has just been crushed and its all thanks to erica. It's a horrid feeling. Imagine your crush telling everyone you like him and being mean to you. How's that?
I can't conclusively decide if he's talking to you SOLELY just to get close to this girl. But it could be one of his reasons for befriending you. Or you could start talking to him randomly bout anything. But NEVER ever start with "hey areyou still angry with me?" or talk about erica. Cos in both situations, it'll turn out awkward.
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OK, so i have known this girl since 5th grade (im in 9th by the way) and we became best friends in the past two years. lateley shes been getting on my LAST nerve. Usually we help eachother out with problems, or just talk like best friends do, but lateley all she wants to talk about is herself. shes obsessing over guys and everytime i see her she alwasys talks to me about that and only that. when i ask her to help me out with something she says *ANYWAY* and goes on talking about her boy problems. ussually she likes a new one evry week. i tried helping her through them, at first i thought it was a phase but its been 4 months. geez i feel that one day im going to explode and just say SHUT UP ALREADY> its not that i dont wanna help her its just that her boy problems are so immature! something like OMG HE LOOKED AT ME< WHAT DOES THAT MEAN> HE LIKES ME RIGHT> HE LOOKED AT ME SO HE HAS TO LIKE ME!!! its sooo annoying, help me, i really want her to go back to her old self when the talking was 50-50. i just cant talk to her about this because she is uber sensitive about boys so i cant say SHUT UP IT DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING> i try to be there for her, but ugh...idk i cant take it anymore. (link)
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Ah....yesyes, something that I have done AND experienced before. Maybe you should have a good talk with her? Seriously I know this sounds cliche but it's better than keeping all of it inside you. You won't know when you're gonna burst.
She's behaving this way cos she wants a bf. And since you're her best friend, she's at ease with showing this "desperado" behavior to you. Imagine, if it were you instead, would you go around telling everyone all these? People would think you're damn hard up for a guy.
You can tell her, hey, why do you keep talking bout boys? We hardly talk bout anything else already. I will be straight forward with her since I'm her best friend. And I don't like to beat around the bush cos usually, people don't get it when you beat around the bush. Even if they get it, they don't catch the gist of what you want them to know.
My advice is talk to her, you don't have to be straight forward if you dont' want to.
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