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this girl...
okay, so i have known this girl for a long time, and i think she is the most beautiful girl on the planet, and i absolutely love her, but last year, i asked her out, and she said no and completely shunned me and the whole school makes fun of me now. i love her, and i would really like her to know that, and i want her to be my friend at least again, but she won't even talk to me since then. i even had to spend 2 hours with her during this group activity the other day at school, and she didn't say A WORD!!! not a single thing (to me, anyway). so does anyone have any thing that could get her to like me again? a certain charm, something to say, a style change, anything? it would really help...
THNX!!!!!
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Hey I know this question has been posted a year ago. I wasn't an advice columnist on this site at that time. I happened to chance upon it now and I feel that you aren't getting good answers. And I feel an obligation to explain why the girl is behaving this way. Besides, this info could be useful for you in the future.
Anyway, I don't know if your problem has already been solved? But I feel that I have to answer this question since I totally understand and I do at times behave like this girl.
First things first, you have to accept that she doesn't like you. And it'll be hard to get her to like you. You have to go step by step and get her to talk to you first and be your friend before proceeding on.
The thing is, she is avoiding you because you probably have shown too much affection to her. I don't mean to be MEAN but I have to be honest here : she feels gross about the over-affection and she doesn't like that feeling. Honest. THat's exactly how I'd feel. I can really feel very depressed about it if a guy I don't like keep chasing after me. I don't feel flattered at all. I know that's wierd. But that's just me (and that girl too). And I'd hate it if the boy continues to show any affection for me. Not all girls are like that. It's just that your friend and I happen to share the same trait.
Also, it could be that you look very pitiful everytime she ignores you or whenever the whole school makes fun of you. Don't. She'll hate you more for being pushed over easily. Don't give a pathetic look everytime she ignores you cos she hates that. We like tough guys. Be confident. If she ignores you , so be it. Don't look so forlorn because she's not gonna pity you. She's only gonna hate you more for being so easily pushed over. Be strong and act like nothing is wrong. Confidence is the key factor that attracts girls
So if you really want things to work out with her, or at least get her to talk to you again, leave her alone for now first. Yes, that's what I would want. Peace. As for saying a charm or casting a spell on her, please don't do that. You are experimenting with something you don't know and horrible consequences might result. Don't tamper with the supernatural or unkonwn realm. Be safe and just do what i tell you to do. Leave her alone and she WILL talk to you in time to come.
Once you leave her alone, she'll start to reflect and think about the things she's done to you and how bad she has been. She may or may not apologise to you but she'll gradually talk to you. Then take things slow from here and get to know her more. DON'T show that you like her yet. Just treat her like how you would treat a normal friend and go slow from there. Be confident and be yourself.
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She may be the most beautiful girl on the planet but that doesn't mean she has a beautiful personality or compassion. If she has ignored you and the whole school knows (who told them?), she obviously is not interested and you should forget her and look for someone who will appreciate you. You have to be yourself because it's not possible to maintain a front for ever, so don't try to change who you are. You seem to be a nice, sensitive person and there is someone out there for you, it's just not her. Best of luck.
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Changing yourself to please someone is just setting yourself up for failure. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then that's that. If you change & she likes you then, she only likes you for what you APPEAR to be & not who you truly are, & who wants that?
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Start a conversation, a question directly to her so that she has to answer. Don't be flirty, and tell her that the past is the past and you just want to be friends
♥ Kendall
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why dont you go uo to her and be like can i please talk to you! and just try to tell her like why she has been avoding you! and tell her i relize you dont like me but i mean cant we still at least be frinds! i mean do you really have to ignore me??
well yeah try to start a conversation with her!
hope i helped
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Silly question... why do you love her? If she was mean to you and isn't talking to you, I don't understand how you can love her!
There is no magical phrase or change in style that can make somebody grow up and stop being ridiculous (as she is).
Obviously, you're a nice guy, so don't stress too much over it. There are lots of girls out there who WON'T act like idiots if you tell them you like them.
:)
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I'm really sorry to tell you this, but this girl needs to just be left alone.
If she's not going to even talk to you, then why look for ways to start making her talk to you? She already said that she doesn't want to be with you, so you'll have to take that and move on.
It's really hard to deal with rejection, but you make it ten times harder when you start thinking about how you can change to the guy she wants, or think about ways to make her like you again. You are making this too hard on yourself.
I know this isn't the answer you wanted, but it's the honest truth, move on without her
-TheTeenGirl
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