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I recently dropped out of a college course which was working with children, I was over half way though the course. Ive been looking for a job for a while and 2 job offer have come up. One is working in a store for less hours and more money but the other one is moving out of my parents home and moving in with a friend of my mums and being like a house wife and taking her daughter to school as she is on the road alot because of her job this is less money but i wouldnt have to pay rent or for the food but its more hours. The moving out job sounds more like the one i would enjoy. But im only 17 and have never spent more than a week away from my family. If i go with this job do u have any tips that would help me not to be so home sick? And which job sounds like a the better one?
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Actually, I'd go for the job that has less hrs, more money and more family time. When you work for a close friend or relative, you tend to have to mind your behaviour more and be careful not to strain relationships.
Like for instance, relationships may get strained if let's say her daughter got lost while you were fetching her home from school. The responsibility that you have is greater. You understand what I'm saying?
When you're working in a enviroment with people you haven't met before, you are responsible more for yourself and the work that you hand in. In the case of working for you mum's friend, you are not only required to do a good job but you're also responsible for her daughter's safety and well being. Besides, you will feel the pressure of having to leave behind a good impression of yourself on your mum's friend, isn't it?
I would prefer an enviroment where there are no expectations I have to meet. I'd go for a brand new environment where I can meet new people who don't have any expectations bout me.
The thing is, it's hard not to be home-sick unless you hate your family. The moving out job sounds more fun but how would you know? You haven't tried out the other job yet. I would say that the moving out job sounds more familiar and comfortable rather than fun.
Sometimes, after a hard day at school, I'd feel better just seeing my family, talking and laughing with them or telling them bout my problems.
In life, we should make decisions based on whether we can handle it rather than whether it's fun. When you can handle what you're doing, you'll naturally like it.
Can you handle being away for long? Can you handle the long hours? Do ask yourself questions simliar to these.
But it's really ultimately up to you to decide for yourself. I'm a rather homely person and I'd miss my family loads if I'm away for long. So do think bout it carefully yea.
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Firstly, I guess it depends on the reason for you dropping out. If it was anything to do with looking after children the job in the store would be the more sensible option.
If it was for any other reason there are a couple of ways you could decide.
1. Take some time to think a few months down the line on both jobs. How do you feel about the thoughts of being in either of them? Does the thought of the responsibility of the children, being away from home, little money and restricted frredom of movement still appeal? Does the thought of less hours, more money, more time for yourself, freedom of movement and living at home feel better?
2. Make lists of the pros and cons of both jobs - see which is the better list. Don't forget to add in the fulfilment factor, that is quite often better than money etc. In doing this, it should also help you to clear your thoughts and analyse the situation rationally.
Also, you could consider this; have you ever been away from home before on your own for more than a week? If so, how did it feel, did you cope? Which job offers the better prospects career wise? Do you want to work with children or does a different path call you?
If you choose to take the job with the children, you will probably be busy most of the time, but it can be very fulfilling. You might also be able to find the time to take something like a correspondence course to further your education. You could use msm to keep in touch with your family, or invest in a webcam. Everyone leaves home eventually, it is hard on all concerned, but if you go, you should be able to settle down fairly quickly. Also, if things don't work out, your family will still be there.
No one can really tell you which job to go for, only you can decide, it's your future. I would suggest though to go with your heart and everything else should fall into place. And if it goes wrong, don't worry, everyone makes mistakes and you're young enough to try something else.
Good luck.
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