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Best Friend- Last Nerve- HELP!
OK, so i have known this girl since 5th grade (im in 9th by the way) and we became best friends in the past two years. lateley shes been getting on my LAST nerve. Usually we help eachother out with problems, or just talk like best friends do, but lateley all she wants to talk about is herself. shes obsessing over guys and everytime i see her she alwasys talks to me about that and only that. when i ask her to help me out with something she says *ANYWAY* and goes on talking about her boy problems. ussually she likes a new one evry week. i tried helping her through them, at first i thought it was a phase but its been 4 months. geez i feel that one day im going to explode and just say SHUT UP ALREADY> its not that i dont wanna help her its just that her boy problems are so immature! something like OMG HE LOOKED AT ME< WHAT DOES THAT MEAN> HE LIKES ME RIGHT> HE LOOKED AT ME SO HE HAS TO LIKE ME!!! its sooo annoying, help me, i really want her to go back to her old self when the talking was 50-50. i just cant talk to her about this because she is uber sensitive about boys so i cant say SHUT UP IT DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING> i try to be there for her, but ugh...idk i cant take it anymore.
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Ah....yesyes, something that I have done AND experienced before. Maybe you should have a good talk with her? Seriously I know this sounds cliche but it's better than keeping all of it inside you. You won't know when you're gonna burst.
She's behaving this way cos she wants a bf. And since you're her best friend, she's at ease with showing this "desperado" behavior to you. Imagine, if it were you instead, would you go around telling everyone all these? People would think you're damn hard up for a guy.
You can tell her, hey, why do you keep talking bout boys? We hardly talk bout anything else already. I will be straight forward with her since I'm her best friend. And I don't like to beat around the bush cos usually, people don't get it when you beat around the bush. Even if they get it, they don't catch the gist of what you want them to know.
My advice is talk to her, you don't have to be straight forward if you dont' want to.
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Wow. She's sensitive? And selfish? Impossible combo. If she was sensitive she would've helped you out.
I've dealt with A LOT of people like this. Be truthful is what you have to do. She doesn't seem like a good friend... so don't be one to her. I know the whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing, but seriously, what else do you do?
The next time she's blabbering about a guy, go "Umm... no offense, but he doesn't look like he cares. Really. Actually, it's kind of obvious. And, I have something else to tell you, you've been a total conceited person the past 4 monhths., I've tried to put up with you, but all you do is talk about YOURSELF. And you don't care that I don't care," and explain the problem. If she breaks down crying, ask out loud, "Hmm, my best friend is crying. Should I help her out like she'd never do anymore? Or should I just blabber about myself?" ...Or comfort her. Up to you. But while you do, you have to go sonmething, "I didn't mean to make you cry, but you really are self-centered."
If she gets mad, then leave her. She's the one who needs someone to talk to. Go, "Bye! Hope you have a friend that'll listen to your endless guy problems with! Okay?" Act like you don't care. Or just stay silent and ignore her for the rest of the day. Do NOT go after her and go, "Wait. I'm sorry. I didn't mean it." because then she'll think that she's worth all the trouble. And she's not. You deserve better.
Have a Happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C
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