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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I want flat boots that are cute. either brown or black
my prices only go up to about 25 dollars. and if you find something thats a few dollars more thats okay.
ive looked at forever 21 online, and wet seal. theyve got good prices, but i want to know what will be more in this fall and winter? short boots that are like 2 inches above the ankle like forever 21 has ? or those suede knee - high boots at wet seal? i want to have boots that last in the fashion world for my money. i know that sounds caddy, but i hardly ever am in fashion and i only have one pair of sneakers, so i need some more closed toed shoes! thank you! by the way, are oxford shoes cute? or are the short or long boots more popular? thanks!

All kinds of boots are in style. Short boots, knee highs, ankle boots, etc. Any of them would be acceptable.

I think oxford shoes are cute, but they're very hard to pull off. Not just anyone can wear them.

The other night my sister,her husband and I went out clubbing. We all got very very trashed. When we got home her husband was passed out cold. My sister and I had to dump him in bed. We continued drinking and talking in the living room. My sister soon passed out too. I was drunk,bored and horny as Hell. I went into their bedroom and had sex with her husband. I did the full deed on him. He was dead to the world and knows nothing at all about anything. I feel terrible now that I did that. Should I tell him and my sister what happened or keep my mouth shut? It will never happen again.

I think honesty is the best policy in this case. You need to come clean and let them know what you did.

Technically, you raped your sister's husband. Since he was unconscious and had no way of giving you permission, you pretty much raped him.

Be prepared for them to freak out, probably stop talking to you, and maybe even take some legal action against you once you tell them. This is something absolutely no one wants to hear, so they're not going to take it well.

Definitely tell them though. They have a right to know.

Hello my name is star im 16 years old I have a boyfriend named daniel and I feel that he's cheating on me with his ex girlfriend everytime he's on aim on my phone and I ask 4 my phone he quickly signs off I caught him twice calling her babe but he claims there just friends what should I do I really have feelings 4 him???

I think it's a definite possibility that he may be cheating on you. I may not be an expert on boys, but I do know that if a guy is in a relationship, it's unusual and a little uncommon to call other girls (especially their ex) babe. I've never heard it before, but every guy is different, so I really don't know, but that seems very off to me.

If you suspect he's cheating, you need to bring it up with him. Sit him down, tell him how you feel, and ask that if he is cheating, to just be straight up with you. If he isn't committed to being with you, then he should tell you now so that you can go about your business - as a single girl.

You don't deserve to be cheated on, and he surely doesn't deserve you if that's the case.

I was texting my friend as I was babysitting and I said to him "Temper tantrums suck." So he replied "Whom is throwing a temper tantrum?"

I told him the word "whom" totally didn't apply... that he didn't use it appropriately. Which of us is correct in this situation? And can you explain why?

Thanks!

I'm usually pretty bad with these who or whom scenarios, but I think you were right in this case.

I think it's "Who is throwing a temper tantrum?" rather than whom.

A whom situation is like when you tell your mom you're hanging out & she says "With whom?"

I could be wrong, but I really think you're the right one in this.

what are the adirondacks and poconos exactly?

Mountains.

I'm 19 yrs old and my boyfriend is 23. We've been going out for over a year now and he has some "rules" that are just ridiculous but he seems to always justify them somehow and make it seem like whatever he does is okay. Like, he says certain lougnges he doesn't want me going to. He's made if im out late (AND my curfew se tby my parents is already 3 am so its not like im out past then anyway). He's allowed to go to the Jersey Shore with his friends if he's invited but if I say ok would i be able to go? He says no b/c im a girl and guys are everywhere. He went to Vegas with a few guy friends when we were going out for a few months at the time. Now my friend invited me to vegas in October and my bf flipped when I told him. I said "if you went, why cant i?" He said b.c its crazy and he didnt know it til he got there.. which is a lie and I told him that - its VEGAS! so then he tells me "you're 19, if you go, you're going single...worry about me and you going on vacation..not you and your friends." What should I do?

Break up with him. He's setting double standards and is being a complete asshole. You can go to Vegas if you want, and you can go the shore if you want. Unless he is your parent, he has no business to tell you what you can & cannot do.

Kick him to the curb.

I was born in USA. so were the parents. I'm part scottish but that side has been in USA for a long time. My last name is scottish aswell. So if I want to go to scotland, would I need a passport? I wouldn't see why if I'm part scottish. Just curious, it looks interesting over there. Do I?

Yep. You need a passport to travel to any country (even Canada).

Sorry i just picked a random category but i had to ask you a question about your answer to someone elses question: You answered a question about being grounded and your answer was very illogical. You said the person could watch tv, movies, go on the computer, or have a friend over...how is that being grounded? just saying cuz when im grounded those are all the things i cant do...what do you think?

First, can you link me to that question? Because I really don't remember saying that people can have friends over when punished.

Second, how is it not logical? Every parent is different. Not every parent takes things away from their kid when they punish them. Whenever my parents punished me, I still had my TV, my phone, etc. Just because your parents take things from you when you've misbehaved doesn't mean every parent has that type of logic when it comes to disciplining their children.

Sounds pretty logical to me.

I'm going to be seeing Black Veil Brides in concert next month. My friend and i are going to be in front. I heard that they're concerts get pretty intense. I just don't want to be in the mosh pits,i don't know what to wear, i know it's going to be super hot and stuffy. I was thinking a band tee with skinny jeans, but i'm not so sure it's right for the humidity i'll be experiencing. Please help me

Since it's going to be warm inside the venue, and possibly outside since it's summer now, just wear a tank top and a pair of shorts with some sneakers or something. You should try and stay away from jeans when going to concerts unless it's winter-time.

If you're going to be in the front, you'll probably be pushed up against the barricade if people start pits, so just keep that in mind.

ok i need a job and i want to know some websites that will help me find a job in my area. can anyone help?

Definitely check out snagajob.com

You make a profile, put your info down, and then put in your zip code. It searches your zip code to tell you which places are hiring, and for what position. :) It also tells you how close it is to your house. :)

It's very helpful. I've applied to lots of jobs through that site.

Out of curiosity...

Are there any females or males who would get mad if their significant other were playing online games (like W.o.W. or S.U.N.)and flirting with people on it? What would you do? How would you handle it? Etc. Thanks!

For me, personally, it would probably upset me, yeah. I trust my boyfriend completely, but it would hurt me to know he was flirting with someone behind my back.

If I found out, I would definitely talk to him about it and let him know that it upset me, and I would try and talk out the issue.

I am 13 and a 7th grade girl. I have never gone out with a guy. There is this guy that I really like and I know that he likes me too because my friend asked him if he liked me and he said yes. He is always really sweet and I love to talk to him. I also like to talk to his friends. The only problem is that my friends think he is a nerd. He sort of is though but I'm ok with that because I'm pretty smart too.(straight A's) The only problem is my friends or other people will probably make fun of me for going out with someone in the "Nerd Herd". What should I do?

Ignore your friends. You can date whoever you want. They don't have to be around him, they don't have to kiss him or hold his hand, and they don't have to talk to him. They are not the one dating him, you are so your opinion is the only one that matters.

Be with whoever you wanna be with, and ignore your friends comments. The only time they need to step in-between you and somebody you're dating is if your significant other is abusive towards you and is a threat.

This guy sounds like he wouldn't hurt a fly. Go out with him. You like him, he's a sweetheart, and you enjoy his company. Do what makes you happy sweetie. Ignore those who try to bring you down.

OK...I was reading on the internet and somebody said there use to be repair shops for appliances like toasters. Is that true? If so, what else did people take to shops for repair? When was this? The only repair shops I know of are like computer repair or cars. What else do people repair?

Lots of things can be repaired - clothes, shoes, electronics, etc.

There are businesses like this all over the country but you never hear of them because they're unpopular. They do exist though.

Does anyone know where I can find a cheap digital camera? I want to buy my mom one for her birthday but I have limited
money (100) and she doesn't need anything fancy.

I saw a really nice camera at Target yesterday that was only $89.99. It was decently priced, small/compact and cute. :)

Check out their site, or even check out Wal*Mart. Try looking at Best Buy too and ask around.

I have an Ipod touch 2.2.1 version. I want to Jailbreak it so I can get apps. does anyone know how I can do it?

If you have an iPod touch, it should be able to download apps normally. There should be no reason to jailbreak it.

18/f
lately my motivation to do anything has gone down. i have alot of confidence in myself and i think i'm a great person, but i don't pick the best friends.

basically my friends are all about themselves. they don't give a shit about me, they say they do, but they don't because i know when someone actually cares about me because they SHOW me. i always have to ask people to hangout and they're never there for me when i need someone to talk to and they are just all about themselves and i'm tired of it.

i usually have a boyfriend. i was dating a guy for 2 years in high school then we broke up and shortly after i was with another guy for like 5 more months(i liked them both, i didn't date just to date). so most of my high school years i was wish a boyfriend and he made me happy. now i honestly have no one to lean on. i have to do everything on my own. i use my looks to get boyfriends so i have someone to help me get through but there is literally no guys in my school :/ idk what to do anymore i have a long summer ahead of me..

If I were you, I would take the summer to gain a fresh start.

Concentrate on yourself instead of friends and relationships. You said that you have to do everything on your own, so take the summer as a chance to get used to the changes going on around you.

You're 18, so you're probably going to college sometime soon so that's also a great time to start over. Make some new friends, meet a new, cute guy at college, etc. Join clubs, try new things.

Re-invent yourself. Summer is the perfect time to start over. But also enjoy your summer. Go to the beach, an amusement park, hang out with family, go shopping, etc. Do some fun things for yourself and find out you are without a bunch of people around.

You don't always need someone around to lean on. Lean on yourself sometimes. You are always going to be your own best friend.

Compared to getting a tattoo, what is the cost of a cover up tattoo? I have a hatchetman tattoo and i am looking to get it covered with a rose or something... and the lyrics "life is ours, we live it our way...nothing else matters"
the tattoo is about 3 inches long and 1.5 inches wide.
black outline, colored in red.

We are not tattoo artists so we cannot give you a quote on a cover-up. You would need to call up a few tattoo parlors in your area and ask them. They might want to come in and check out your current tattoo so that they can give you something accurate.

Depending on the artist, it could be pricey and it could be cheap. But you definitely need to call them and get a price.

Anyways, I know you say that the song means a lot to you, but ICP once meant a lot to you - so much that you got the hatchetman tattooed on you, and now you want to cover it up so who's to say this won't happen with this lyric? Either way, it's your decision but try to take that into account.

I want a tattoo. I want it to mean something. I've been through a lot of things in life and all my friends think I'm a very emotionally strong person. I dnt want any stars, hearts, or flowers. I don't want it to be that visible because of work. I'm a female by the way. Thanks in advance :)

Is there by any chance a quote that is important to you that has really helped you get through your obstacles? I think that would be the best thing to get. You just have to think of what has really spoken to you - whether it be a bible verse or a quote from someone you admire.

As for placement, the best places to get a tattoo you want to cover with clothing are your back, your hip, your ribs, your shoulders, etc. If you usually wear your hair down at your job, you can get it on the back of your neck because the hair will hide it.

i've been seeing this other guy for about a month, but we've only hung out once, which was yesterday. most of our "relationship" has been through text and facebook.

my boyfriend was neglecting me and i needed affection, which this other guy offered to me. i thought i could do it without feeling bad about it. but after hanging out with him yesterday, i realized i cant. all we did was kiss and stuff but it felt wrong, the whole time. i went home and felt shitty as hell. i couldnt sleep last night, which, if you know me that's really odd. usually i'm tired all the time. i was tired last night i just couldnt sleep, i was wracked to the roof with guilt.

my only problems now are leaving the other guy and coming clean to my boyfriend. i've NEVER been a good dumper, i've always been dumped.

someone please help me, i don't want to do this anymore and i don't want to lose my boyfriend. how do i dump the other guy? thanks for any help. (and please refrain from calling me a heartless whore or whatever else you can come up with. i'm plenty aware, i just need advice.)

I think you just need to say that you realized that what you were doing with him wasn't enjoyable. Then end it. Delete his number, delete & block him on Facebook and go on about your life.

As for telling your boyfriend, sit him down. Tell him that what you're about to say is hard to tell someone and hard to be told. Then just tell him. Apologize to him, let him know that you've learned your lesson and that you won't do it again.

I have to tell you though that he probably isn't going to stick around. Nobody likes to be cheated on, and nobody in their right mind would stay with someone who can't be faithful.

As for the future relationships you go into, remember that if you're unhappy with the relationship, don't cheat. Just break it off.

whats the point of soap? its scrubbing hands together that is important, isnt it?

The point of soap is to kill germs and keep them from spreading.

There's millions of bacteria all over your body. You could rub your legs together or your arms together and not shower, but you'd still be dirty. Soap helps kill them off and it keeps you from getting sick. There's a lot of disease in the world and soap helps to prevent it.

You should always wash your hands. It's gross not to.

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