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i'm cheating and i want to stop.
i've been seeing this other guy for about a month, but we've only hung out once, which was yesterday. most of our "relationship" has been through text and facebook.
my boyfriend was neglecting me and i needed affection, which this other guy offered to me. i thought i could do it without feeling bad about it. but after hanging out with him yesterday, i realized i cant. all we did was kiss and stuff but it felt wrong, the whole time. i went home and felt shitty as hell. i couldnt sleep last night, which, if you know me that's really odd. usually i'm tired all the time. i was tired last night i just couldnt sleep, i was wracked to the roof with guilt.
my only problems now are leaving the other guy and coming clean to my boyfriend. i've NEVER been a good dumper, i've always been dumped.
someone please help me, i don't want to do this anymore and i don't want to lose my boyfriend. how do i dump the other guy? thanks for any help. (and please refrain from calling me a heartless whore or whatever else you can come up with. i'm plenty aware, i just need advice.)
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I think you just need to say that you realized that what you were doing with him wasn't enjoyable. Then end it. Delete his number, delete & block him on Facebook and go on about your life.
As for telling your boyfriend, sit him down. Tell him that what you're about to say is hard to tell someone and hard to be told. Then just tell him. Apologize to him, let him know that you've learned your lesson and that you won't do it again.
I have to tell you though that he probably isn't going to stick around. Nobody likes to be cheated on, and nobody in their right mind would stay with someone who can't be faithful.
As for the future relationships you go into, remember that if you're unhappy with the relationship, don't cheat. Just break it off.
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ADVICE FOR IF YOU HONESTLY WANT THE OLD GUY: Try to remember what it is that made you want this person over anybody else because obviously you forgot (no offense) and once you remember it will be easier to stop and be faithful. Also if your current bf doesn't know about it never hide your feelings for another person. let them know that you cheated on them and how you felt about cheating if you never say anything about it I promise you that you will most likely end up cheating again because you didn't get to see how much it hurt your boyfriend. Also since he is your boyfriend you guys must be really close so maybe he Aldo has advice for you about past experiences or maybe he used to cheat on you but got over it.
ADVICE FOR IF YOUR HONESTLY WANT THE OTHER GUY: when people cheat it's because they are looking fir something that they can't get with the other person now that does not mean they are giving you more.. for example if your current boyfriend doesn't want sex until he Is married but everything else is perfect you might go out and look for sex somewhere else thinkin that you are happier but all your really getting is sex and not the other happiness that thee original guy provides for you.
so I'd say just realize the reason why you are cheating and base your motivation on that.
Hope I helped
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I think you already know the answer. You need to dump the new guy, it may go bad it may go good. And even though it was only one date do the right thing and call him atleast (no texting).
Once your done with that call your boyfriend and ask him to meet you somewhere to talk; something like this you want to talk about in person, nomatter how hard you think it will be. It shows that he means a lot to you and your serious about making it up to him.
I think you did a heartless thing, but trust me your not a heartless person. Gl
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