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Hello! I am a 24 year old male in seek of a female. I really need help with what to do and how to do it becasue everyone thinks that it is impossible for me to get one after several attempts of people trying to help me. I really want someone that I am compatable with and that will make me happy...ect. Does anyone have any ideas? Oh yea and does anyone know what to do with this situation... there are a lot of girls YOUNGER than me that have "crushes" on me and I dont know what to do and how to get them off of my back before I get in trouble for something that I didnt do! Please help
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Hey, I'm sorry! Lol. Try doing those online dating services. My brother, who's 19, did this and found someone. It didn't work out too long, but that's just because he's a jerk, lol. I'm 16, but I still know how you feel. I want to find that someone, too. Try going to different parties, or have one of your own, and tell your friends to bring all the girls they know! As for the younger girls, just tell them you're not interested or avoid them any way you can. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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ok, the other night, I stayed the night with my best guy friend. We have been flirting and hugging and things like that with no problem. But then we were laying together and we were doing a little rubbing and touching on eachother and then I started feeling weird like I...or we did something wrong?? I dont know why either....does any one know why that might be?

If it's the first time you've done it, it might feel weird. Or maybe you just like him as a friend. Try talking to him about it, and see if he felt the same way.
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♥ Erin

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Tomorrow is valentines day. Ive been going out with my bf for 2 weeks now and we havnt hung out once, just at basketball games. I feel kinda wierd when its just us two. I want to hang out with him tomorrow everyones saying how pathetic it is that we dont hang out but none of my friends can come because they are ganna be with their bfs. What should i do?

Just ask him to hang out with you! He's probably just shy. Ask him if he wants to go to the movies with you, and get him something, like candy. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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everytime a boy tries to put his arm around me or something i pull away, im really self conscious about my body, do you think that could be the problem? what can i do that won't make me like just pull away or something?

If a guy puts his arm around you, you should feel good, not worried, because he obviously likes you AND your body! You just need more self confidence! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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im 18 and ive been with my bf for almost a year. he doesnt trust me to talk to other guys because for some reason he thinks that im going to flirt w/ them or do something unfaithful... ive blown off so many of my guy friends just to make him happy and now its getting ridiculous. i love him to death so i dont want to break up w/ him. so how can i make him trust me besides just telling him that im not going to do anything bad, because that hasnt worked. please help!!!

I think the only way you'll get him to trust you is if you show him you're not unfaithful. Invite him and a group of your friends and guy friends and hang out together, like at the movies. If y'all have a good time and he sees you're not interested in anyone but him, he'll be sure to trust you more. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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One day my dog just started shaking all of a sudden and we didn't know why. It only lasted a few minutes and then he seemed fine but still scared. It's happened three times so far. My aunt thinks it was seizures, and was probably caused by the heartworm medication. Does anyone know what causes seizures in dogs or how to prevent them?

Aw, I'm sorry. I tried searching on Google, but couldn't really find anything helpful. I would suggest taking it to a vet, because it could have been a seizure. I really hope your dog is okay. Good luck!
♥ Erin

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I'm a 15/f and I me and my family are thinking of going on a cruise this summer. None of us have ever been on a cruise. I get sea sick pretty easily, but I heard that on a cruise since the ship is so large, you don't get sea sick. Is this true? Also, what was your experience like on a cuise and which cruise line did you take? Lastly, we are debating about where to go on the cruise (it's between Alaska and the Caribbean)... have any of you been on one/ both of these cruises, which one did you like more... or what was your experience with one of them. Also, are there more teenagers on one or the other. Thanks so much!!! I rate 5's for serious answers!

You don't get sea sick, because it's so large and it doesn't rock. I went on the Carnival Triumph and it was awesome! This one social host was so hot and everything, it was AWESOME! There's so much stuff you can do. There's free icecream and frozen yogurt machines and you can have as much as you want. Free drinks too. And the food is awesome! You're going to have so much fun. I would recommend the Caribbean. We went there and we went snorkeling and bought these cool island clothes. The weather is nice and it's soooo warm. I've never been on an Alaskan cruise, but I'm sure there will be lots of teenagers on either one.
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♥ Erin

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alright i am a 13 year old male and i am friends with this one girl. She already has a boyfriend but he goes to a different skool and she doesn't really get to talk to him. And i like the girl sooo much... What should i do ask her out??

I wouldn't ask her out yet, especially since you know she has a bf. Just flirt with her and get to know each other more. They'll probably break up, since long distance relationships don't usually work. Just be there for her when it happens, and then ask her out. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Please somebody tell me what crunches are and how you do them.

Don't delete cos i really need to know.

I rate 5 every time somebody answers

Crunches are like sit-ups, only you don't go up all the way. You put your hands behind your head or crossed in front of you, and lift your head, neck, and upper back up, then go back down and repeat. I would do 20-30 a day, then increase them once you get used to it. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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my brother got permanent marker on our kitchen table. its a finnished wood table.i need help fast please!!!!!!!or im in alotta trouble.

anyone know how to get it off? i will rate high!

Well, one time, I got permanent marker on my desk and my friend got it off easily with one of those click erasers. If you don't have one, try goo-gone, we have that and it works really good. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i have the abilty to get good grades and i already know that. the problem is that i can't seem to always do my homework and focus on my classwork. i need ways to help me focus and do my homework right when i get home.

Wow, I'm in the same situation, lol! What I'm PLANNING on doing, and hopefully I will, is to make yourself a snack or whatever that you can eat while doing your homework and listening to music you like. Both will get you in a better mood. Don't watch TV, it'll distract you and you won't get anywhere. Then when you're done, call a friend, watch TV, go on the computer, or whatever you like to do, as a reward. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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ok first i like this guy named jesse ok things ere going just fine and then he holds my hand and then he kisses me i was like yes finnally then my friend decides hmmm he so hot so then he likes her they go out and then i decide oh whatever i move on to a guy named wesley who i met at worlds of fun things were going great untill my friend kendra decides hmmm i ike him they start talking and then they like eachother i couldnt even get him in a week and she just met him 5 min ago and i really lik wes but kendra said she wont date him but if he decides to like me i cant date him cause it will make her mad im like so in love with him though.

Try spending more time with Wesley, so he'll get to know you better. Make plans to do something over the weekend or any other time, and that'll give him less time with Kendra. It's nice that she won't date him, and it's really nice of you to think about your friend. I was in the same situation and I ended up getting the guy. Just talk to your friend about it and make sure it's ok with her. If it's not, don't go out with him, because you don't want her to get mad at you. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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ok well i have a friend but lately shes been pissing me off... last year she made out with this guy and all they did was kiss but she went around telling people that he fingered her... then this year she hooked up with him again but she says she doesnt like him anymore... she still like makes out with him and i guess its like the "friends with benefits" sort of thing but i get so mad at her because i know the only reason shes doing it is to be "experienced" so she thinks shell be cool... then she tells me not to tell anyone but she like advertises it all over her live journal thing... the rest of the people that know are annoyed by it too and i dont want to talk to her because everytime i talk to her about anything negative she takes it way to personally and gets all mad... help!
-i rate 5s for good answers

Try writing her a NICE note (since she takes things personally) or email. Tell her how you feel, but don't be mean about it. Explain it to her nicely. End with saying everything you like about her, so you won't leave her at a bad note. If she's mad at first, don't worry, she'll get over it. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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Its really hard for me to ask but my dog just died this week n i got her for x-mas so u can say she was not a year old. so ya. and i am getting a new puppy on sunday. but do you have any ideas how to keep my mind off of her becasue it is really hard to.

Oh man, I know how you feel. I had a dog for 7 years and she just died on Friday. It's really hard. I'm still crying over it. She was the best dog ever. She was smart and loyal and GAVE HUGS! I miss her soooo much, so trust me, I know how you feel. What really helped me is just talking to your friends or family about her. I know you didn't know her that long, but maybe it'll help. After school today, I didn't feel as bad, because all my friends cheered me up. Being busy with other things really helps. But no matter what, you're going to be sad, and it's going to take time to get over it. Good luck with everything!
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♥ Erin

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I have really really wavy hair and I was wondering how to straighten it and keep it straight for the day without drying it out or causing it to break or start dandriff. Any suggestions?

You can use a straightener or get it permed straight at a salon.
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♥ Erin

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what do i do when i cant make myself happy ne more... im at a point where i battle myself everyday to see if im goin to do the things i love... the things i love arent even makin me happy... and i just got broken up with by the one i guy i really thought i could trust and found out that all i was to him was some chick he could own... how do i get through... where am i suppose to turn to... how can i make myself happy... when i cry over everything that is goin wrong? what do i do? who can i turn to when my best friends dont know waht im going through?

Don't worry, eveyone goes through this, unfortunately. Try talking to your mom, you'd be surprised at how much she can help. Try hanging out with your friends, like going to the mall, that should cheer you up. What's better than friends and shopping?! Good luck, feel better!
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♥ Erin

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what happens to the soul who commits suicide? what is life after death?

I heard you go to hell if you commit suicide, cuz that's not how God wanted you to die. Life after death is when you go to heaven (trust me, that's what you want!)
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♥ Erin

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ok what are some good stores that have cheap semi-formal dresses? ive got a dance coming up and i cant find anyting! thanks!
i rate 5s for every answer that doesnt piss me off

JCPenneys! I bought my Homecoming dress there, and I looked hot! :P Here's the link:
http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/default.aspx
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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I don't have a lot of guy friends because i get really shy around them and barely talk to any boys. I want friends that are guys but i don't no how to talk to them. Is it a bad thing that i don't have boys as friends? How can I be myself around them?

You just have to be calm. I know it's hard, but the more you talk to them, the less nervous and shy you'll be around boys. To solve the problem, you just have to face it! That's how I overcame it. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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well lets see im 14/f and i like this kid and i dont know if he likes me... i mean ive known him forever.. and i dont no how to comfront him and tell him how i feel and that ive felt this forever.. i really need help with this. i mean hes hott and nice and sweet and everything and i think hes the one.. when i talk to him i get butterflies help me please!!!!
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brittany*

Aw, that's sooo cute. Ok, if you want to know if he likes you, try this. Tell him your friends keep bugging you about how you'd be so cute together, and then ask him what he thinks about it. If he says yes, then that's awesome! If he says no, don't feel bad. It just wasn't meant to be. But I really hope things work out! Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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