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ok well i have a friend but lately shes been pissing me off... last year she made out with this guy and all they did was kiss but she went around telling people that he fingered her... then this year she hooked up with him again but she says she doesnt like him anymore... she still like makes out with him and i guess its like the "friends with benefits" sort of thing but i get so mad at her because i know the only reason shes doing it is to be "experienced" so she thinks shell be cool... then she tells me not to tell anyone but she like advertises it all over her live journal thing... the rest of the people that know are annoyed by it too and i dont want to talk to her because everytime i talk to her about anything negative she takes it way to personally and gets all mad... help!
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Instead of taking a hostile/negative tone, try for a calm sort of tone. Something like, I don't really know what's going on and why you want to do this, in your own words, is laid back. If she snaps at you, tell her your curios as a friend as to why she wants to lie about doing all of that stuff and walk away if she can't calm down. She'll probably come to her senses and realise it's a stupid thing to loose a friend over. On the other side, she might be changing from the person you and your other friends knew her as, and you guys might not be as close anymore.
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The best thing you could do is tell her your opinion on this. If she doesn't listen...then this may sound cruel but, let her dig her own hole..and let her get out herself. She knows what she's doing...so just let it happen, let her make her own choices and all you could do is stay away and stay out of it.
Hope I helped. =)
-Gessyka-
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I think that you should talk to her and maybe tell her that there are other people who are annoyed about the things that she is doing. The rreason that she probably takes things so personally is because she knows that you are telling the truth but doesnt want to admit it. As her friend I think that you should try to help her and make her realize that she should respect herself because of what you told me she really doesnt care and the only thing she is doing is hurting hersel. Well I hope I could help you and give you the advice you need.
-poopie pants girly
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You need to talk to her some way and explain to her how you feel about the things she does. Well since she takes things personally when you talk to her in person, you should probably write her a note or email her, if she has an email address. In this note, explain that the things she says and does effects other people and how they think about her, especially you. Just give a lot of examples about the things she does and also write how and why you are her friend. You don't want this note to be bad so in it, just write the reasons on why you are her friend, like I just mentioned. You could also ask other people to do this as well she your friend knows that you aren't the only one that is annoyed by her actions. She is going to be hurt or mad at first but she will understand and will try to change for the better if she gets the idea of why people are annoyed by her. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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Try writing her a NICE note (since she takes things personally) or email. Tell her how you feel, but don't be mean about it. Explain it to her nicely. End with saying everything you like about her, so you won't leave her at a bad note. If she's mad at first, don't worry, she'll get over it. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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Hey, my friend id like that too. She just has the wrong idea of whaat's cool and what's not. Be lucky that she isnt smoking instead. If she gets all negative on you, then leave her alone for a while, and it'll die out. Becasue this isnt someting that you can help with.
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