I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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I saw my bf at the mall with another guy kissing him! Not just kissing but making out! What should i do? Should i confront him?!
HELP me please!
Thank you soooo much (link)
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Confront him just as if you saw him kissing another girl. Who cares if it's a guy OR a girl? He still cheated on you and deceived you! Don't focus on the fact that it was a guy because then he won't see what he REALLY did wrong- which is that he lied and hurt you either way.
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I need your advice...
Well, my friend(John)is gay and he just found out his bf was cheating on him. So, I invited him to see a movie to get his mind off of the situation. Well, of course he wanted to see Brokeback Mountain. So I went with him and what do you know? His ex bf was there with another guy. He asked me if I could pretend to be with him to make his ex jealous. I didn't know anyone in there so i agreed. I didn't think he would do anything extreme. Well during the movie he held my hand, and i felt akward. He even leaned over to kiss me and we actually started making out. I actually enjoyed it and I invited him over to stay the night. Well while were bed one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. The next day at school his ex started telling everyone that he saw me and john making out. Now everyone thinks i'm gay and they aren't being nice about it. Just because i had sex with a guy does that make me gay? And if i am should i try to have a relationship with him? He wanted me to, but i didn't know if i was ready.
Thanks
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Just step back from the situation a bit. Ignore those people getting into your business because they really have no place in it. If they ask, just ask them if they are back. They'll look at you funny and you can pull the "If it's so weird for me to ask you, then why would you ask me?" card. (Yeah you could be "mature" and say mind your own business, but I know that just doesn't always fly). I don't think you should get with him because he's probably just on the rebound. Hooking up to make someone jealous isn't the greatest way to start something. In the future, make sure not to get involved in plans to make someone jealous again. It almost always backfires. And if you don't want someone to spread rumors about you, probably not the best idea to make out with someone right in front of them. It's playing with fire.
And as for if you are gay, you don't have to confirm that now. Just go with who you like, regardless of gender. Feelings are what counts.
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okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!! (link)
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Who are you trying to convince, us or yourself? You repeat that you don't think you're a lesbian over and over. It seems like you're quite scared of the idea. You're most likely not a lesbian, but don't rule out bisexuality. Just because you don't have a crush on her and haven't really had one on a girl doesn't mean that it's impossible. Anyway, it's normal, and if she seems up for it... then go along with it. If she's made it clear that she's not interested in kissing you, then don't pressure her and move on. It's no fun trying to kiss someone that doesn't want to kiss you back.
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Is dance a sport? Now I don't need your opinions I need the facts, the proof that dance is or is not a sport, becuase I don't think it is, but I need to find out. Thanks (link)
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OH MY GOD. These people are so inept. *referring to the person below* CHOIR IS NOT A SPORT!
I suppose in some contexts dance could be considered a sport, but overall, no, it isn't one. Just because something involves physical activity, that doesn't make it a sport. Would you think of pilates as a sport? No.
Sure, dance can help people lose weight and make them healthier, but ultimately the purpose of dance has to do more with cultural expression, art form, etc.
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approximately a month ago my Boyfriend and I were foolin around and while we've never had sex we got a little carried away... to sum it all up he ended up cumming on my butt- we tried to clean it off as soon as possible but technically it is possible that some could have slid down to my vagina... does anyone think that I might get pregnant- I was off my birth control and havent had my period for two months (always been screwed up without my birth control) but he never penetrated me- what do you think? (link)
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I don't think you are but if you could always try asking people at this community.
www.livejournal.com/users/amipregnant
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ok so i am going to the gyno for the first time in a month...and i shave my pubes...so i was wondering if the gyno will expect it or if she will lecture me on not doing it? (link)
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Gynos don't care whether you shave or not.
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how early on can you tell if your pregnant..
&& what is the chance of getting preg on birth control. I Didnt take it how they told me to && I missed it a fiew times. I didnt know i was taking it wrong but someone told me today sense I didnt take it the right way it wont work fully.
I dont think im preg actualy im like 99.9% sure im not..
but you can never be to safe && sure (link)
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livejournal.com/users/amipregnant
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i am only 14!! and i am having a baby!! and my ex broke up with me before he even found out! and he's still there for me and we're going back out now! but idk how to handle it! (link)
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I'm pretty sure talking to someone online isn't the way to go. Please get help from a trusted adult if you cannot go to your parent(s). A teacher, a counselor, or someone like that.
1-800-550-4900; Teen Pregnancy Hotline
These web sites might help you.
http://plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/files/portal/medicalinfo/pregnancy/pub-pregnant.xml
http://community.livejournal.com/amipregnant/
http://community.livejournal.com/realteenmoms/profile
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I am 17 years old and have never had a bf. People in my senior class make fun of me behind my back because of this. I even heard one rumour that I was a lesbian. I'm not a lesbian, I do like guys but I'm really shy and most of the guys in my class are really immature and just want sex, not a meaningful relationship. I've also made the decision not to have sex, or make love until I get married. Some of the girls in my class have slept with over 14 guys, and act like it's no big deal. Sometimes I get so depressed I feel like crying. The fact that tomorrows Valentines day is just going to make me feel worse. Do things ever get any easier for girls like me? Or does it just get worse when I go to college and into the work force? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the only person left with values. (link)
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I think you'll be fine. Because you aren't afraid to be yourself the right guy will come along that has similar values to yours. However, these people who have slept around seem to think they are above you, correct? Well...don't do what they are doing to you in return. Don't bring yourself to their level. When you say you feel like you're the only person left with values, that says to me that you hold yourself higher above those people because you aren't promiscuous and they are. In doing that, you are being just as intolerant as they are...just try to stay away from doing that. Just because someone has different values from you does not mean they lack values completely. I wish you the best of luck in your search for a guy who respects you. You'll only have to deal with these nasty people for a few more months and then you're free. People in college are a bit more mature. :)
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Everytime I makeout with my boyfriend I try to go further, so I start with kissing his neck. Everytime I do this he is like "Wow you really like my neck" and then just starts making out with me. Why doesn't he get what I'm tryint to do? What does he mean when hes is like "Wow you really like my neck?" (link)
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He's just awkward because it's not like he has years of experience doing this, I assume. You could try talking to him about it, or just ignore him when he says that and just do what you were going to do anyway. If he pulls you away from doing that or tells you to stop, then obviously he's just not comfortable going further yet. People just say strange things when they aren't used to new situations.
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what did you mean by pulling a "carrie"
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http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0074285/plotsummary
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I am a 17/f in my senior year in high school. I am not very popular, and hang out with the loser, or nerd crowd. The few friends that I have are not very nice to me, but I put up with them because I would rather have some mean friends then none at all. Well last week, one of my "friends" told the most popular guy in our class that I was checking out his butt. ( This wasnt true, but because my face went red they all assumed it was). I was mortified and just walked away. All my friends laughed at me, and the guy just looked uncomfortable. There was just me and my two friends, and him. He had none of his popular friends there to witness this. Well anyways, the next day I kept catching him staring at me. When I would look at him he would look away. This would also happen in our english class. Well on friday, we had a grad council meeting in the cafeteria. He was there, and when no one else was looking, I had to walk by him. This is when he gave me a huge smile, in kind of a sexy, flirtatius way. I was shocked and never said anything. Anyways, my question is: do you think he may really like me? I find it hard to believe because he's the class valedictorian and jock, and can have any girl in school. I also heard he doesnt have a gf right now. Or do you think he's just playing a trick on me? (link)
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Just let him approach you. I don't mean to stereotype but he could just be pulling a "carrie" on you. (Not saying that you're like carrie, it's just possible that he's pulling your chain). If he's really interested he'll come to you eventually. In the mean time, let him keep on smiling.
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does anyone else find this strange? My bf moved to another province 3 months ago for a job. He said we'd stay in contact via email, and even gave me his old computer for this. I got the internet hooked up because of him. Well I had tried sending him emails but they all got returned. I phoned him 6 weeks ago and actually got a hold of him (he works 12 hours shifts two weeks straight before he gets a break). I asked him why my emails were not getting answered and he said that (in an annoyed voice) he hadnt hooked it up yet. Well that was almost two months ago that I phoned him and it still isnt hooked up. And this is a guy that used to check his email religiously. Does anyone have any idea why he would do this? And is it possible that his internet is hooked up but he changed his email address? (link)
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What a freaking coward. This guy is a loser and I suggest that you move on. I've never understood why people are so non confrontational so I can't clarify why he'd not just straight out tell you that it's over, but I think this is his fucked up way of saying that it is. He's obviously not interested anymore because he's not exhibiting any signs of taking the effort to talk to you.
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Quick! How do you write a parenthetical citation for a source if the source is an essay? (link)
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typically its the authors name and then the page number...
"blah blah blah" (Smith 3).
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there is this girl that i realy like
(she is in 8th grade and i am in 7th)
the only problem is that our parents are going out... what should i do? (link)
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If it turns out she's interested, date her anyway. It's not like your parents are married. And if they ever did get married and you guys are still dating, who cares? You aren't related by blood and it's not like you grew up together.
P.S. It is not incest if you two did end up living together. That's really melodramatic. It's only incest if two people who share the same genes participate in sexual activity.
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Im 14.. im anxious...im a size 36C but i want bigger boobs!! Is there anything that will make them grow faster?..or when are they going to start growing again cause it seems like they stopped!!!! (link)
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I hear herbal supplements sometimes help, but who knows about that. I have friends whose boobs have grown after they were on birth control pills for a few months, but that's very hit and miss because those react with everyone differently. Some have breast growth, some have weight gain, and some experience no change at all. Some people go through growth spurts around 16, and definitely when they are pregnant and nursing (but hopefully that won't be for a while!) ... The only for-sure thing are breast implants, and for the sake of our sanity, please don't get those (even though they probably wouldn't do that procedure on a 14 year old). 36C's aren't worth all of that time and pain; it's a pretty good size as is.
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im hopeing we can get to know each other really well bcause ur the first i saw on my list after a while ill tell u my name talk to me k
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You're free to IM me on AIM at raincoateaster or e-mail me at aqueousremedy@hotmail.com
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16 female
My guy friend wants to have sex with me and vice versa but the only thing thats stopping us(well me)is that im a little overweight and i have stretchmarks. they're really embarasing and i dont want him to see them
is their anyway to get rid of them almost completely? will he be turned off and disgusted at the sight of seeing them? and also will it hurt reallly bad my first time?(im virgin hes not)
Pleeeze help i rate 5s! thanx (link)
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I'm not going to sit here and lecture you to wait, because that probably gets really old after about the 6th time of reading it and you'll do what you want, however, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.
It hurt me very badly my first time because I was not comfortable with the guy, and therefore, my whole body was tense because I was mentally. Chances are, if you're all tensed up because all you can think about are those damned stretch marks, it will hurt for you, too. The pain only eases if you're relaxed. If you do actually go through with this, make sure there is foreplay and lubrication. Don't expect it to be amazing. A person's first time almost never is.
Stretch marks will fade over time, but your low self esteem won't unless you actively do something about it. Try to start thinking in a way that's a little higher of yourself. Low self esteem and good sexual experiences tend to not go together.
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I wrote and performed music for twenty years. Had fun, played with great people. I'm now 43, don't want to perform or write anymore, but don't know what to do next. I'm still an intellectually curious type; read all the time (which is thoroughly enjoyable up to a point) and listen to underground rock, old jazz, newly discovered classical, all that, but I NEED focus. I sit around all the time, and still use mind alterers, and don't know what the hell to do with myself! Any suggestions? Please, no religious freaks. Let me rephrase: no religion-oriented suggestions whatsoever. That includes AA.
Otherwise, advise away!
-Jack (link)
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Jack, not Jim? :)
You could always take up a new hobby by taking a class at a community college or something of the sort. They tend to offer random stuff that can be really fun.
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Is it gross or weird for a girl with very dark and coarse hair to shave her arms? (link)
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No, a lot of people do it.
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