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I know im not a lesbian but.......
okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!!
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Who are you trying to convince, us or yourself? You repeat that you don't think you're a lesbian over and over. It seems like you're quite scared of the idea. You're most likely not a lesbian, but don't rule out bisexuality. Just because you don't have a crush on her and haven't really had one on a girl doesn't mean that it's impossible. Anyway, it's normal, and if she seems up for it... then go along with it. If she's made it clear that she's not interested in kissing you, then don't pressure her and move on. It's no fun trying to kiss someone that doesn't want to kiss you back.
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well, if youre so religious, then you would already KNOW that being attracted in ANY way to a person of the same sex is altogether W-R-O-N-G. so, i figured i should let you know, since youre just SOOOOO religious.
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It is 150% normal. People do this stuff all the time. If you ever watch MTV people admit to kissing the same sex. It's totally normal. If Sadie wants to practice on you as well, go for it and have fun. It is a good way to practice for your first kiss. Just try to keep it on the down low so people don't find out and expect things. You are definitly not a lezbian if you don't have intimate feelings for her. It's just a stage you are going through. If you want to talk more about this, IM me, xo mtin 33. Or drop one in my inbox! I'm on a lot!
Best of luck, Marissa <33 xox
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Alright first of all dont rate me if you feel like rating me low, i am giving my honest opinion. HAVING FEELING OR URGES FOR THE SAME SEX IS NOT I REPEAT NOT NORMAL, and however would tell you that is normal they themselves arent normal! you are very fortunate to not act on your urges, if ANYTHING go get urges with a guy its better than being tempted to kiss another girl. Dont you see what you are writing?! how does that sound "i am a girl and i want to kiss a girl" ok i am a guy mind you that was just an example. On one hand i am digusted and on the other hand glad not that what you do is any affect on me. Listen to me very carefully, you obviously have some serious major issues and you need to get help from a priest. Talk to any priest or pastor you know and talk to that person about the way you are feeling they can explain to you why it is wrong to act like you have been wanting to far better than i can. Feeling urges for the same sex is caused by too much time around girls and not enough around males, perhaps there is not even a male figure in your life? So do yourself a serious favor and follow my advice, you said yourself your not comfortable with this that should be your motivation to seek spiritual guidence. I Will guide you just ask.
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Don't worry it is perfectly normal. Almost everyone goes through that phase. There really isn't anything to do about just let it run its course. Pretty soon you will be over it but there really isn't anything you can do to change it.
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okay well this is a hard problem to face. This has happened to me before. Well what this urge to do something is, is just like a feeling of being deprived of intimacy with a guy or anyone that you really like. And you always love your friends as sisters or like really good friends that you wouldnt go out with. But you would pry go out with these people if they were the opposire sex. To deal with this all you would really have to do is just take some action and get involved with a guy before you do feel a really strong urge to do something with your best friends. but dont worry this is perfectly normal!
Good Luck
Kate&hearts
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