Hello I am 13 years old and is going out with this really, really sweet guy. But now hes getting too attached and between us is getting a bit awkward now. I want to be just friends with him because whenever I hang around him we talk to each others like we were just mates. I mean now I love him but only in a friend way. And I tried breaking up with him and asked if we could just be friends but he didn't want it that way because he loves me a lot (which makes me feel HEAPS guilty). Besides I'm in love with this other guy. I don't want to break his heart but I just want to be friends. But he doesn't want to be friends. What should I do?
Well you should nevr stay with a guy just because he doesnt want you to leave. YOU are the one that needs to be happy in the relationship. I agree that you shouldnt do it over anything but person. make sure he understands exactly the way you feel and that you really want to be friends, but when you do break up dont automatically jump over to the other guy, give it some time so that he knows that you are going through the same pain that he is going through. Then he will realize what you did was for the best and he will sooner or later be happy about it because hw will realize taht youa re happy too! hope i have helped! ♥KaThErInE♥
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Well, I like this guy in my middle school whos really nice, funny, and hot. I told one of my friends, who likes someone else, and she said that he's been following her around lately. I've seen it too, and its kinda weird. Like once she was at her locker, and he just kinda stood there doing nothing, and then when she went back to the classroom he was right behind her. and she says he says stupid stuff to her in literacy, and when him and other kid play paper football, it usually hits her (purpose or not on purpose?) i dunno but im getting a little jealous.. could it be that he likes her? hes nice to me too, and hes kinda popular, so i dunno. maybe im just overanalyzing or something. HELP!
also, what are ways to flirt(subtly)/impress a 13 year old boy? like.. what do they like in a girl, generally.
well to me is sounds like he has no idea how to flirt with a girl but he sure does know how to freak one out. lol well he may like your friend but then it could ALSO be that he doesnt want to talk to you about it so he is trying to ask your friend but he cant get the courage to do it. Just remember though.. Guys ACT tough but really on the inside they have it just as hard as we do. But for the flirting advice, dont seem too needy and most guys like to play the game of cat and mouse. Make him work to get you, Because if he wants you that bad itll make him want you even more! hope i helped ♥ ~*!*~KaThErInE~*!*~
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Can anyone help me construct some questions to ask a guy if I was trying to get to know him more personally?
We're on sort of a personal level, so the questions don't have to be so general such as "What's your favorite color"
Thanks
well even though you are still on this personal level there is always room to know more about him! like who know i have been going out with my boyfriend for like almost three months and we are still asking questions like whats your favorite pizza topping? just like small silly stuff that could be useful in the long run soooo.... just anything, types of food, clothing, what he used to be like, nerdy? or just like what he used to do! i always talk about dreams and stuff like that because sometimes you can come across one that is hilarious and once you bring it up once he will bring it up EVERYTIME that he has a dream! then you gotta just sit back and laugh about everything thats happened with it all! just random subjects! you could also bring up what you want to be when you are older how you want your life and if you havent thought about that then just see what he wants! you can NEVER know too much about the guy! its even good once in a while to talk about the crazy stuff you do when your not around him because then he will figure out the real you and the more and more you talk to him the easier it all gets and you wont have to worry about what kind of questions or what your gonna talk about! conversation just flies! i hope i have helped! good luck!
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I told this kid that knows my boyfriend that my boyfriend poped my cherry and we had oral sex on a.i.m. So before i could tell him i was lieing he signed off! Now i'm scared he is going to tell my boyfriend. The only way i can think of to fix the problem is if the kid signs back on a.i.m and i tell him i was joking. What should I do? And what if he tells my boyfriend?
oh wow ok well Summerkiss was right about telling your boyfriend! he should know before he hears it from someone else! Just think about how mad he would be and how much harder it would be to explain that to him AFTER someone already told him than it would be to just come straight out and tell him before he knows! it would be a heck of a lot easier! but still you also need to try to talk to this kid that you told so that he knows that you were joking and doesnt still think its true because you never know who he might tell! but anyways my main point is tell your boyfriend and if you get the chance to talk to the guy you told then convince him it wasnt true! good luck!
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tell me what you think:
when i am in the car with my dad in the morning and he's driving me and my cousin to work.. like we have the music on. Now he likes rap music like i do.. so we listen to WAMO or 96.1 and like he taps his fingers on the sterrin wheel ALL THE TIME and it ANNOYS ME!!
like i can't even look at him doing it because it like makes me feel like i'm about to have a type of attack or sumthing and i can't hear it.. god forbid if i hear him tapping because it really gets to me
so i look out the window all the time opposite from him and i don't look straight ahead.. and i have my iPod full blast and then i have to position my eyes when looking out the window so i don't see his reflection of his fingers moving in the window..
and then!
there's this boy i talk to and like he chews gum and how he chews it makes me so mad because he doesn't chew it right to me and i can't look at him because i would just get mad or i would get nervous
like now it's like i feel like i get nervous after a while if the tapping or whatever that is annoying me insists. i get nervous like as if i was to see a spider (i'm really scared of spiders by the way..)
and i noticed before little things like that annoyed me but it never got to the point where i would have to look away because it made me nervous..
what do you think??
many people get this problem i am one of them but sorry to say but yours sounds different than mine. One thing that you are doing that is good is by trying to solve the problem without bothering or yelling at the people that are making you feel this way. Then again one thing you could try is to ask them to please stop and if they dont just explain the way you are feeling when they do that and well hopefully they will stop. But if they just forget that you asked them to stop and keep doing it then maybe you should try to think totally about something else that sometimes works for me. But if this keeps happening to you then you should just go to a local counselor. And you shouldnt worry about going to a counselor because it doesnt matter that you want help. You have already done the main thing by admitting that yoiu have a problem with your surroundings. Good Luck! Hope I have helped! Kate♥
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I'm 13 years old and I reallly like this guy at my school, more than i've ever liked anyone before. he has all the qualities i like and everything. But i really cannot tel if he likes me or not. guys are so hard to read. how can i tell if he likes me and should i make my move since i am so crazy about him?
OK wel first thing if you cant tell if he likes you do not make it obvious that you like him but you need to play along just like him but if you cant tell after about two weeks at the least then you really need to try to make the move. I mean you are also only 13 maybe you need to worry about being single and just keeping up on everything. You cant rush something until its ready to be rushed. Good Luck Hopie i have helped
Kate♥
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I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....
okay well this friend of yours really needs you to help her. you cant just sit there and not help her. If you believe and truly believe that her mom is the one causing it then she needs to get away from her mother. what you can do to help with this is by telling your mom and she will hopefully take your thoughts and turn them into actions. What your friends mother is doing is called mental abuse and you need your friend to realize that. You need to get her away from her mom and into a counselor if your friend keeps doing this then she will obviously ruin her life andd never be able to make it better. You need to show her what life is supposed to be like and show her that you dont need a boyfriend to make you feel beautiful you ARE beautiful no matter what anybody says. Its not the outside thats the beauty it is the inside and everybody has beauty. Good Luck Hope i have helped!
Kate♥
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My friends and I go to South Padre for spring break every year. Well this year, my boyfriend’s first baseball game of the season is 2 days after we leave. He said it was really important to him and that he can't come with us which I understand but going without him is just going to plain out...suck.
We've been together for 2 1/2 years and he's been able to go before because our spring break used to be the 3rd week of the month, now it's the first week this year. And there weren't any "big" games scheduled during that time so he could get out of them.
So now I'm not sure if I should go or stay. If I go I'd be thinking of him the whole time and might not be able to enjoy myself. If I don't go I'll be missing out with all of my friends. But there are other beaches we can go to around here but I don't think it'd be as much fun without EVERYONE. Oh the dilemma...
Well this is a tough one, but you have to think about what is more important. Staying here to be with your boyfriend and ONLY your boyfriend and missing out oon everything and then when they come back they will be talking about what they did and you will regret not going. But on the other hand if you leave and go to South Padre your boyfriend will have nothing except for the baseball games in his mind. He will also be busy all the time with his big games so he wont have much time to think about you. I think you should go but its up to you!
Kate♥
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Well my best friend and I went on a week long vacation together and I think were really annoyed with each other. I found out everything HAS to be her way; nothing can ever be her fault; and she thinks everyones in love with her.
Now I can't stand talking to her cause I realize all these little things about her that drive me insane. However, I feel so empty with out her! What do I do?
Well you should talk to her so that she knows what you are feeling. Who knows maybe you did dome things that drove her insane too. So the first thing you can do is talk to her about it because she should fix it or so that she could try a lot harder to not do those things!And if she didnt like something that you did then you should do the same and try a lot more to not do those things!
Kate♥
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i just want to know what kind of jobs a fourteen year old can get that wont interfear with me school because i want to start saving up a little money for gifts and things that may be important. please help
Well Babysitting is always a really big help at this age. But if you arent the type that likes to do that then you could work in a local cafe' or grocery store. You could also help out the elders. By like mowing their lawns and taking care of their house. You will usually get pretty good pay for that!
Kate ♥♥
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*Names have been changed. My friend ... lets call her Sara* is 17 turning 18 in a few months. Every day we sit together on the bus and lately it seems like she's been talking about her mom lately and how mean she is to her. I didn't think anything of this really. I mean, she probably did something wrong and her mom punished her. You know how teenagers are ... they tend to overreact sometimes. But today, when we got on the bus in the morning she seemed really upset so I asked her what was the matter. She started telling me this. Sara said it was her, her mother, and her little brother *Josh. So Josh was drawing all over the windows and Sara made the comment "How old are we now *Josh" And her mother freaked out, told her to shut the f*ck up, grabbed her by the hair and tried to pull her out of the car to make her walk home and was hitting her and stuff. And she told me how her mom makes her sleep in the garage and takes away her dinner and stuff for being bad. I feel really bad for her and want to help her, but she doesn't really want me to say anything because she doesn't want the police to think that shes the one like hitting her mom or something and she doesn't really want to move out since shes so close to being 18. I've told my mother, and my mother told me to talk to someone at school to get help but i'm not sure! Someone help me and tell me what you think is the right thing to do.
Well you dont want to go and tell someone without telling your friend. She could be making it up to get attention, whihch she probably isnt, but if she is just adding more details to make it seem worse it may not be what it seems. Before you take any action you need to find out the WHOLE story.. And whenever you decide that it is serious, hopefully soon if she is in trouble, you will need to tell someone immediately! Dont wait when you ind out what is real.
Hope i have helped Kate ♥
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id really like it if a guy could explain what he might really be thinking and give me some opionions and if some girls could answer this to.
ok so heres the deal. im 14 and my bf is 17. not that that really matters about this question but it might. so i have a bestfriend thats a guy. i love him to death. i hang out with him like 4 days a week. my boyfriend is getting very upset with that though. he doesnt like me hanging with guys, but can i help it if my bestfriend is a guy? i do hangout with my bestfriend alot but my boyfriend works alot and my bestfriend doesnt have alot to do so he hangs out with me. im never alone with my bestfriend so its not like we'd do anything. my bestfriend also has a girlfriend of his own and he loves her alot. so is it right for my boyfriend to tell me that i cant talk about my bestfriend around him and that he doesnt like me hanging with my bestfriend. i asked my boyfriend to meet my bestfriend and he wont. my boyfriend also said that he doesnt like me hanging out with my bestfriend but if i do just dont tell him about it. i feel really bad about that though. it makes me feel like im keeping something from him even if he told me not to tell him. help!?!?!
well you shouldnt just leave your best friend. You know what I say dont you? A boyfriend may leave anytime but a best friend is always there. Your boyfriend needs to realize that your best friend is a guy and you arent going to change just because he doesnt like you two being together all the time. You need to talk to him about your priorities and his too. If you think that you two are meant to be together then you should definately stick with him but if you dont get along that well then you should just let him go. So then you can hang out with anybody you want without upsetting your boyfriend.
Hope i have helped Kate♥
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My brother is 2 years and he has the flu! I am giving him medicine with my mom from a dripper like thing and he spits it out. How can I get him to drink it...
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the easiest way to give him the medicine so that he gets all of it would be to put it in his drink so then he doesnt know that he is taking his medicine and if it comes to it you could try to convince him that it will do something for him so that he sint sick anymore.
kate♥
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I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.
Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.
I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.
So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?
Please Help!
Well you COULD ease up a bit on what your man has to meet, but its good that you are evaluating them so that you dont get too connected and not be able to leav because the right man will pop in sometime sooner or later. But you have to realize that NO man i mean NOO man is going to be exactly what you want but will come close. Sooo before you lose all of the guys you should make a mental note of what you are looking in a guy and when a guy comes along that meets most of your expectations you need to try to stay with this guy and get to know him.
Kate♥
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I know my boyfriend REALLY likes me. To him, I am his number one priority and I even think he is ditching his friends so he can have more time with me.
Now, he is a pretty nice guy but he always wants me to kiss him or makeout with him. He's 14 and I know that at that age, boys hormones are racing! I can't blame him for wanting to because I know everyone feels that way sometimes.
But I'm not sure I'm ready for making out, especially in school. I don't think he is either. We both just got our first ever kisses this year. He is so nervous around me at school so he tells me to take the lead when kissing him. But I don't want to be the lead! I can't handle all of this responsibility because if I mess up, I'll feel stupid!
What should I do? Should I talk to him about this? What if he breaks up with me?
Well when a guy is always wanting to make out then you need to set him straight and make sure that he knows that relationships arent just about physical, that you need to feel it before you do it. You should wait to go any farther and make sure that you are on the same page. Then before you do anything like making out you should feel it. And you really cant mess up because he isnt experienced either so no matter what you do he will think is the right way to do something. And when you are ready to kiss it will just happen! Dont force anything always wait for the right time!
hope i have helped
kate♥
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When you kiss your bf?
Are you sopose to feel something?
And if you dont is that bad?
well when you kiss your boyfriend you should feel something the first time but after you do it for a while you will get used to it and it wont bring you that feeling anymore. To feel something again you should try and not kiss for a while and then the feeling should come back. No it isnt really bad unless you have never felt it. If you have never felt it then your chemistry between you two isnt what it should be and it will pry not work out, but if you had felt it then just do what i said.
kate♥
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There is this guy that probably use to like me cause he kept talking to my best friend about me and he told her that he really likes me. I thought it was kinda weird since he is like the really popular jock and I'm not that great looking at all. I assume that he probably got over it since itz been a while. why is it that the guys that flirt with a lot of girls don't really make a move on the girl that they actually like?
They always flirt with so many girls and not the one that they like because they feel more secure doing it that way. When they like a certain girl they always treat her different than the other girls that he talks to because he either doesnt want to make a fool of himself in front of you but he also might want you not to know that he likes you. Its kinda like when you are little the guys are always mean to the girl that they like. Maybe you should try to make the first move to show that you like him too and he doesnt need to be afraid of what would happen if he started to flirt with you.
kate♥
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okay well you see.. me and this kid // we'll call him louis =] okay well me and louis went out in the summer and i liked him just not as much as you usually should like someone when your going out with them.. but everything was fine untill me and his cousin got into a fight and to make a long story short i called my brother to pick me up .. i told him the story.. he flipped out on "louis's" sister and now we arent allowed to hang out and in any means go out probably ever again.. but me and him really like eachother and i actually like him a lot this time but the only thing that is holding us back from going out is the family situation. i know its not the best thing to do and i dont want a leture on not lying but we were just thinking of not telling our parents but what could i say to him to like make him relize its okay and then for us to be together? ill rate high =] by the way 14/f
okay well if you are happy together and you really want to be together then you're family should be alright with it and i am sure that if you would apologize (you would do it if you wanted to go out with "Louis") to the cousin and talk to the family about it enough and then show them what kind of a person that you are so that they dont think of you as a bad person. Then you could talk to YOUR family and make sure that they are okay with everything and you could have a TALK with your brother and he should say alright and go along with itr and give louis a chnce instead of going with not liking his cousin and also not liking him. Your families should let you to make you happy.
Kate♥
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i have a problem..i'm usually a pretty good student & we juss started new classes & i have a 73 in geometry!!! its because i had an 100% and failed the first test. on the quiz, i failed it!! idk whats even going on. i know the stuff but sometimes i mess up dumb things & when i take the test/quiz i blank out because the questions are worded differently than the worksheets. idk what to even do. i think a tutor might be pointless because i get the info. any advice??
thanks!!
You could always tell your teacher because if he knows what your grade average is normally then he should notice a change in your grades when it comes to tests or quizzes. Then he should be able to do something about it and if he doesnt then you could ask him to help you throughout the test. Idk if you have this at your school but at our school if you need help talking test there should be some people that are there to help you with your tests so that you can understand them.
Kate♥♥
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I really need to lose weight but I work from 4-9 so when I get home I eat which is bad. I can't eat on my break because it is only 15 minutes long so I can't eat that quick. Should I just skip eating dinner or what?
well you should probably eat a small snack so that you feel like you ate and not on an empty stomach and then when you get home you shouldnt be as huungry but when you do eat try to eat a good meal like without the junk food and all the food groups.
Kate♥
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