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Child Abuse.
*Names have been changed. My friend ... lets call her Sara* is 17 turning 18 in a few months. Every day we sit together on the bus and lately it seems like she's been talking about her mom lately and how mean she is to her. I didn't think anything of this really. I mean, she probably did something wrong and her mom punished her. You know how teenagers are ... they tend to overreact sometimes. But today, when we got on the bus in the morning she seemed really upset so I asked her what was the matter. She started telling me this. Sara said it was her, her mother, and her little brother *Josh. So Josh was drawing all over the windows and Sara made the comment "How old are we now *Josh" And her mother freaked out, told her to shut the f*ck up, grabbed her by the hair and tried to pull her out of the car to make her walk home and was hitting her and stuff. And she told me how her mom makes her sleep in the garage and takes away her dinner and stuff for being bad. I feel really bad for her and want to help her, but she doesn't really want me to say anything because she doesn't want the police to think that shes the one like hitting her mom or something and she doesn't really want to move out since shes so close to being 18. I've told my mother, and my mother told me to talk to someone at school to get help but i'm not sure! Someone help me and tell me what you think is the right thing to do.
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Tell her to get a video camera and hide it, go in that room and show what her mother does. Then you can inist on making a duplicate of it. If he ever becomes sevear with her mom... show the police the tape.. but your mom should do something more that tell you to go talk to a counceler, ask her for more help:]
Your friend prob wants you to do something secretly if she keeps inisisting on talking about it.
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Something that struck me as unusual--if your friend isn't doing anything wrong why would she worry that the police would think she is hitting her Mother? I mean usually people that are innocent don't worry too much about trouble with the police.
I tend to agree with another poster, you are probably not hearing the whole story.
I would talk to the school counselor anyway. If your friend is mad at you for doing so, she is not really a true friend or making part of the story up. At least you will be doing your part and then you can leave it up to the professionals to sort it out and not feel so bad about things.
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Well you dont want to go and tell someone without telling your friend. She could be making it up to get attention, whihch she probably isnt, but if she is just adding more details to make it seem worse it may not be what it seems. Before you take any action you need to find out the WHOLE story.. And whenever you decide that it is serious, hopefully soon if she is in trouble, you will need to tell someone immediately! Dont wait when you ind out what is real.
Hope i have helped Kate ♥
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well i had the same problem except i was the one getting abused.. i told the police and all they said to me that was a parent has a right to hit a child if they need to. my mom was so small every time she would hit me she couldnt make a mark so i had no proof and looked like a liar. i think shes right about almost being 18 and to just let it go, you could also tell her to mancapate(sp?) herself which is soemthing where you become a legal adult before 18 im not sure how you do it but it could help.
i think its really great that your taking such a concern in your friends and i hope i was some what of a help to you if you need to talk to me just ask me anything you need to
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