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Am I too picky?
I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.
Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.
I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.
So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?
Please Help!
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He's probably lying to impress you because hes never had someone take a chance on him and get to know the real him and he wants it to last so hes doing everything he can to keep it and make it work. It sounds like an interesting relationship .. as long as his lying isnt about anything serious like cheating, or something like that then I say its completely harmless and I think you should keep dating him & see how things turn out. Dont be so quick to end something that might be good because you've figured out their flaws. You still have alot of time to figure out alot of other amazing things about him.. so dont cut that short. you could be even more impressed
as for the buying you things - sooo whaaatt. if he wants to do th at then let him. if it makes him happy then let it make you happy .. dont think hes trying to buy your love. some guys just like buying things for people they care about and dont expect anything in return =D
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if you already notice that he is lieing thats not a very good sighn. i mean its good that he is tring to impress you and everything but sometimes the whole jewerly thing gets cheesy. i think that its good you have high expectations but you might want to wait for a while to see if he is worth your time, and try to talk to him about how you feel.
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Well you COULD ease up a bit on what your man has to meet, but its good that you are evaluating them so that you dont get too connected and not be able to leav because the right man will pop in sometime sooner or later. But you have to realize that NO man i mean NOO man is going to be exactly what you want but will come close. Sooo before you lose all of the guys you should make a mental note of what you are looking in a guy and when a guy comes along that meets most of your expectations you need to try to stay with this guy and get to know him.
Kate♥
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If you really like this guy you need to tell him to stop lying just to impress you. In my opinion, any guy who does drugs, steals, and lies is not worth the time. Let him know that if his ridiculous behavior doesn't stop that you will stop seeing him. There is nothing wrong with having high expectations. You should. The fact that everyone is scared of your boyfriend should tell you something about his charachter, but it's your life and your decision.
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he sounds like a rockerr. and you sound like a kuttie. haha. but umm no i think this is fine he might love ya...
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well you can probably never find the perfect guy. because as you know no one is perfect. i think he is totally worth your time. if you like him alot then you should deal with the things you dont like. if you dont like him buying you things just tell him that you rather him not try to impress you.. you just like him the way he is. theres some things i dont like about my boyfriend and my boyfriend also has a bad rep. fighting,drugs,partying,juvinille,lakeside ect. but i love him and he has to deal with my diffrences too. just tell you boy that you like him alot and he doesnt have to impress you for you to keep going out with him.
hope i helped.
LOVE<333 KAYLA
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He might be scared that you will start to look at him in the same way that everyone else does, so he tries impressing you so you won't be scared of him. He just might be insecure because of the reputation he has.
Is he worth your time? That's up to you to decide. You can try talking to him about it, calmly. You can tell him that he doesn't need to try to impress you; That you like him for who he is.
The only thing I would be iffy about is the drug use and all of that.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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hmmm well first of all he sounds nice. if u like him stay with him, but if you dont think its gonna go anywhere i'd break up. He seems to notice you dont find him as atractive as before because he's showering you with gifts. thats a way of showing his insecurity of himself. so tell him that you dont need gifts to be happy.(if thats true) and i'm not saying your picky but girls just move on and want new things its perfectly normal, but just try to wait it out a little longer before you leave a guy. if he lies its again just trying to impress you. ok well tell me if i helped!
cab<3
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