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Best friends?
Well my best friend and I went on a week long vacation together and I think were really annoyed with each other. I found out everything HAS to be her way; nothing can ever be her fault; and she thinks everyones in love with her.
Now I can't stand talking to her cause I realize all these little things about her that drive me insane. However, I feel so empty with out her! What do I do?
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sometimes after being together for so long you can get sick of eachother. this is normal so dont worry.
you might need to take a little break from her. once you start missing her even more those little things might not bug you as much. you need to compromise with each other.
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Well you should talk to her so that she knows what you are feeling. Who knows maybe you did dome things that drove her insane too. So the first thing you can do is talk to her about it because she should fix it or so that she could try a lot harder to not do those things!And if she didnt like something that you did then you should do the same and try a lot more to not do those things!
Kate♥
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You have 2 basic choices:
1 - Figuratively speaking, move away from this friend.
2 - Attempt to reconcile your issues with this friend.
I think the real issue is your inability to make a decision given that either course of action is will cut off the possibility of the other. Its the terrible nature of free will, but its what makes you human. Just pick one and roll with it.
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I understand completely where your coming from. Friends are good to have, but sometimes you need space. Try taking a break from her, I am Not saying stop being her friend just give yourself some time to breathe and relax. See how you do for a week without being with her every waking moment. Friendships are priceless and should not be wasted just because of an uncertainty. If you have any siblings you would know, that you guys fight alot and annoy each other, but would you ever trade them for anything ina world. Same goes for a friend. Maybe try hanging out with new people, but do not lose touch with this friend, just don't make her your only friend.
so basically just take a break, dont tell her because she might get upset. Being stuck with someone for a long time can bring out someone flaws, but that doesnt mean they are always like that. Remeber what qualities that are good about her, and you friendship. Just take time to relax and hang out with some new people, just try not to lose touch...you might never find a friend like her agian.
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It's common to feel annoyed with someone you are travelling with. After all, in 'real life' you only spend a certain amount of time togther - because you choose to. When you are travelling, you are forced to stay in close quarters with someone for an extended period of time.
This could highlights her faults, but by no means is it a reason to automatically end the friendship. You need to think about how you feel about her when you AREN'T travelling. Do these same things bug you to the same degree? If not, you might want to chalk this up to experience and move on with your friendship. After all, chances are that you annoyed her quite badly while you were on vacation, too!
Best of luck.
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Sounds familiar! I broke off a friendship with someone like this. Her self perceived perfectness drove me nuts too!
You feel empty because you miss the person you thought she was (before your vacation together) When people cohabitate they often find out the truth. A friendship is a relationship, and when relationships end (or no longer have the same impact on our lives) there is a greiving process.
Since you have discovered the real her, even if you were to continue the friendship in the same manner as before you will never feel the same. Her narcissitic behavior will now be amplified because you are more aware of it.
My advice, if you decide you can overlook the things she does and says, continue the frienship on a casual level. No more vacations or spending great lengths of time together.
Otherwise just find other interests and make new friends.
In otherwords, you probably won't be able to change her, but you can change yourself.
I am not diagnosing your friend...but this link describes my friend who sounds a lot like yours.
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