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Sex + Stretchmarks = PROBLEM!
16 female
My guy friend wants to have sex with me and vice versa but the only thing thats stopping us(well me)is that im a little overweight and i have stretchmarks. they're really embarasing and i dont want him to see them
is their anyway to get rid of them almost completely? will he be turned off and disgusted at the sight of seeing them? and also will it hurt reallly bad my first time?(im virgin hes not)
Pleeeze help i rate 5s! thanx
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Hey well if you wanna do it with him well go head I really dont think there's nuthing wrong with doing it with a guy friend but you really have to ask you self if your not gonna reguetit becuz your vergenity is like the best thing a girl could have and you dont want to give it away to just anybody and well about the strechmarks well there is some loshin you can buy to get rid of them and well if that dont work well it really dont matter cuz if he likes you hes not gonna say anything and if you think he will than hes not worth giveing away your vergenity to
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I'm not going to sit here and lecture you to wait, because that probably gets really old after about the 6th time of reading it and you'll do what you want, however, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.
It hurt me very badly my first time because I was not comfortable with the guy, and therefore, my whole body was tense because I was mentally. Chances are, if you're all tensed up because all you can think about are those damned stretch marks, it will hurt for you, too. The pain only eases if you're relaxed. If you do actually go through with this, make sure there is foreplay and lubrication. Don't expect it to be amazing. A person's first time almost never is.
Stretch marks will fade over time, but your low self esteem won't unless you actively do something about it. Try to start thinking in a way that's a little higher of yourself. Low self esteem and good sexual experiences tend to not go together.
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Have sex in the dark....
If he really likes you, it wont matter.
Ill leave you with that.
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If you don't feel comfortalbe enough to have this boy see you naked, then you are certainly not ready for sex. If you can't trust him or worry that he is going to judge you, then why do you want to sleep with him?
Please wait until you are comfortable with yourself and the man before sleeping with him - especially if it's your first time. Otherwise you will regret it.
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your guy friend????? you want your 1st time to be with your guy friend????? come on now! your 1st time should be with someone special. you cant get rid of stretch marks you can only fade them with different lotions and creams. i had the same problem when i was younger, but i really want to point out, that if your self concious about this guy seeing you naked you shouldent have sex with him.when you have sex with a guy, you really have to trust that he will love your body,not to be harping at you but if your worried he wont like every bit of you it doesent sound like you trust him. sex is a big deal, and i understand these days its not always about love, but there should be trust, complete trust that theyll love your body and not see the flaws. i know its prolly not what you want to hear but i had to say it, you dident mention love, or even the title of boyfriend. now, no offence to your guy friend, but i think your virginity is a terrible thing to waste on your guy buds booty call,even if you guys do stay friends, it could have been a priceless gift to a man that really loves you.
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Stretch marks fade over time, although they never completely disappear.
You really shouldn't worry about it. Believe me, no normal guy is going to go over a girl with a magnifying glass, looking for flaws before having sex. Our brains just don't work that way. And in any case, NOBODY is perfect.
If you're underage I recommend waiting to have sex, by the way; and for most people, "underage" means under 18 or so. Not because it's illegal, but because most people under that age simply aren't mature enough to be really ready for sex.
Having said that, if you decide to do this, do your best to relax and enjoy it as much as you can. It's the only first time you'll ever have, after all. As for pain, some women experience some pain and others don't. It depends on how relaxed they are, how much lubrication (natural or applied) is involved, relative sizes, and (of course) whether or not the hymen is intact.
Whoops, almost forgot the most important part: TALK TO YOUR OB/GYN. You absolutely need to use birth control if you are going to have sex. And if you're not absolutely 100% sure that you're both free of STDs, use a condom - and read the instructions to make sure that you're using it right.
Good luck!
Follow-up: Sorry, but I missed two things. One is that you're 16, and I DEFINITELY recommend waiting. You're too young. And the other thing is that jbdreamer is absolutely right: if you're not comfortable with him looking at you naked, then you really don't trust him enough to have sex with him.
Sex isn't just a physical thing. It's emotional, too. If love or something really close to love isn't involved, it's not much more than mutual masturbation. You deserve better than that for your first time. And I think you'll be happier if you wait until you meet someone you really love. As long as you don't wait until you're 30, of course!
Please consider waiting.
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He will be turned off. There is no way to make stretchmarks go away and yes it really hurts the firt time. Your going to be very ugly in his eyes. He might even dump you because of it.
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I think personally that if he really likes you, and not just for the enjoyment, he won't care. I'm pretty sure there's nothing (that i know of) out there that can get rid of stretchmarks except for pills. But seriously, if he really wants you, for you, he won't care. But if he does care, that means that he's just going for sex. And that's really not what you want, do you? I think you should wait, but it's really entirely up to you. If you want, go ahead. Usually if you already haven't torn your hymen, it may hurt, but it's different for all girls.
*Make sure (even you) are both tested. Just a health risk/reason.*
Good luck!! ♥
Jessx3
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ask urself first if you are ready emotionally for sex. you might regret having sex with a guy who wont stay with you for a long time. afterall, you r only 16. also, do not trust completely on condoms because they are only 80-90% safe. i got friends that used condoms but still got pregnant.
stretch marks take a long time to erradicate. but a simple application of olive oil can strenghten ur skin, therefore reduces stretch marks. this is a daily routine, so maybe you could apply it everyday after shower.
plus, if he gets turned off then, he doesnt deserve your cooperation. :)
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There's no miracle cure that's going to completely get rid of your stretch marks anytime soon short of cosmetic surgery. Depending upon how old and severe they are, you might be able to use an otc cream (Retin-A) to help fade the color and make them less noticeable. But that is a gradual change.
Truthfully, if you two have a mutual respect for one another, I don't think your stretch marks are going to disgust or bother him. The fact that it'll be your first time and you're nervous about your body is probably just making a small problem that much bigger.
As for your first time, it can be a little painful but it's nothing terrible. Just some slight stinging that eventually fades. Just make sure that this is really something you want to do. If you're nervous and tense, it's going to make it a little more painful and difficult for you. My personal advice for the first time is to use some sort of lubricant (can help reduce the pain by easing penetration).
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