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how do you shrinka t-shirt?

It depends on the material of the tshirt. If it's cotton, it will be easy. Synthetics tend not to shrink.
Basically wash it in hot water, then put it in a dryer (hottest setting).
The hotter, the better, because high temperatures cause the fibres in the material to shrink.

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so. my friend and i are kinda in a big fight. and.. he's winning. i mean. he has a good reason. he called me a poser [[well, that's not the good reason]] for cutting and he said i cut to get attention or what'ev.. so like. he's really mad at me for cutting. and he posted this on my myspace.
"You're such a fucking idiot
I wish you'd fucking stop
You think you really are
But you're really really not.

You've got no-one fooled
So stop tryin to put on you're little act
Put your notebook on the shelf.
You're really fooling no-one, but yourself, in fact.

Cut the fuckin drama
I will no longer tolerate this stupidity
Seconds after reading this you'll be cryin to your mamma
I refuse to tolerate your imbecillity.


You're such a fucking idiot
You make me wanna shout
You're such a fucking idiot
Find a gun, and blow your fucking brains out.

Get out of my life
Leave me alone
Bitch, you're whack
Take that shit home."

and this....

"If you really wanna kill yourself that bad
Go a-fucking-head,
Put your finger on the trigger
Of a gun full of lead


The people close to you
Feel the same fucking way I do
Go ahead, do it, you'll fill out lives with bliss
I highly doubt you will be missed"
and it hurts
alot...

He's either:
1. RUBBISH at handling situations.
2. He's not the friend you thought he was.
Want to salvage your relationship? Stop cutting. If you can't stop, get help. Tell him you need him at this point in your life. If he sticks by you and apologizes for that atrocious "poem", all is well. If not.. then why the hell do you need someone like that anyway.
He may be "right" in this argument.. but he's going the wrong way about it for sure. For all he knows, you really could be on the verge of suicide and his little rhyme is certainly not going to help.

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13/f

Okay, so me nad this guy like each other. Sounds simple right? Just go out? One problem. I don't date because I have this thing where I DO NOT trust guys. My last relationships sucked, so... And, I don't know why he doesn't date. But, I know I can trust him. I mean, he's sweet. Nice and everything... I mean, perverted, but that's me too. We're both perverted. Like, ya know? Dirty jokes? No, I would not have sex with him even if I wanted to. *shudders* Anyway, I just want to know what I should do at this point. I mean, he knows I like him. I know he likes me. We're both aware of this, but what do we do? Can somebody NICE please help me?

p.s I mean nice as in, nice advice. And, no comments about being perverted. That's me, not you. I am me. :3

Just because your last relationship sucked doesn't mean it should affect your future ones.
Also, you are only 13, so given time, you most probably will change your views on the whole dating thing.
Don't push yourself to be in a relationship at the moment. Just continue to be as you are and see if anything changes. Or if it doesn't, there's no harm in giving it a go to see how things turn out, right? Because you both do like each other..
The ball is in your court.
P.S, is perverted the right word? If someone described themselves as perverted, I sure as hell wouldn't want to know them! LOL :P

Good luck anyway girlie. I'm sure things will work out for you both. :)

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I was talking to my girls after exams today, we were sharing clutsy guys stories, and I shared the story of this Italian fingering me roughly. It was painful! I didn't tell him to stop at the time because 1) I was enjoying the kissing part and 2) I dont speak Italian. Anyway, it did hurt, and I later noticed a few specks of blood on the inside of my dress, which I thought were just from...err.. stretching? I didn't think of it until today, as this happened over the summer-- did he pop my cherry?!?

17/f/virgin

Maybe. It could have broken before and the blood was just from him being too rough, though.

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15/f/freshman

kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.

another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?

i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =]

1. 3 months isn't long enough to truly know a person.
2. Just because he's your boyfriend, you don't have to tell him "everything" vice versa, until you're both comfortable doing so.
3. The point of a relationship is to get to know each other during - so I'd say you're on track.
To break your shell, just hang out with him more. Soon, you will feel comfortable to say anything on your mind. Don't worry about sounding dumb (even though I'm sure you won't!), because he's your boyfriend :) You shouldn't worry about embarrassing yourself in front of him - as weird as that sounds.
and you're right - having lunch of him is sure to help.
Just relax and be yourself. Good luck!

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I'm going out with this guy... Its been two days, and we haven't kissed outright... However, he likes to kiss my neck. He touches me in these little ways that turn me on, and I didn't even know I could feel like that. :) But still... is there anything weird about that?

Not in the slightest.

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my boyfriend has recently been avoiding me, he walks away when he sees me, and when i walk by him or he walks by me he never smiles anymore, it seems like hes almost glaring at me...what could this mean? is he nervous?does he hate me?
thanks:)

Ask HIM. Not us.
We don't know what's going through his mind.

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hay im chris and im 17 i need i bit of advice my gf said i dnt make her feel special and i thought i was doin everything but im not cn u give me adive on how to make her feel special plz...

Hey Chris, thanks for your question.
Well, I guess people have different definitions of special, so I really think you should ask her.
Then she will be able to tell you what you can do more of, or do better.
I guess if I were in your shoes right now, here's some things I would do:
-Send txts telling her what she means to you
-Leave her notes
-Flowers
-Listen to her
-Tell her she's beautiful
-Kiss and hug her for no reason


It's the little things that matter :)

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do you think it's possible to have a friend that is attractive and never ever have any romantic feelings for them?!..if so why or why not?!

Yes.
People can tell whether other people are attractive or not. It's just how it goes. It doesn't mean because someone's attractive you're going to have "romantic feelings" for them.. if that was the case, you'd be having "romantic feelings" for many, many people right now! You also don't know what the person is like. Just because they're attractive doesn't mean they're nice - they could be total asses.

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i've been dating this guy for a few months and he hasn't said "i love you" to me....when do you think he will? :/

17/f

A few months isn't long at all, but it doesn't really matter how long you've been with him for, because he will say it when he's ready and when he means it.
It's impossible to say when he will say it - IF he will at all.
Remember, telling someone you love them for the first time is rather scary.
Don't feel like you're doing anything wrong because he hasn't said it. It's quite a big step to take.

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k. 15/f i have heard that some of my friends have their dogs like their va jay jays. how bad is this for u? i mean. isnt a dogs mouth cleaner than a humans? so isnt it cleaner if a dog eats u out and not a guy?

I can't even be bothered to give a decent answer, so in short:
Just..
no.

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Hey so I'm thinking of getting a nose ring but I'm on poms so I'll have to take it out for competitions and stuff. So, I'm wondering how long is it from when you first get it until you can take it out? And I'd just be taking it out for 12 hours at the most.

It can take up to a year for your nose piercing to heal. 12 hours is way too long to be taking it out for.. Even 1 hour is.
You're supposed to leave it alone as it's healing. Not keep taking it out and trying to push it back in again - it will never heal at that rate.
I had 2 failed attempts at mine because they closed up when I was out and I didn't have spare jewelry with me.

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whats a good name for a metal/rock band with three guys and a girl bass player/singer?
we play stuff from beatles to metallica

It's always best to come up with the name yourself.
To help you along the way, grab a dictionary, turn to a random page and point at a random word. Repeat. Do this until you find 2 words which go together that you all like. (Or however many words you want)
Examples I just did;
Claim Error
Toxic Universe
:)

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are you supposed to make the guy hard before you give him head?

If he's not, he probably will be by the time your mouth's on it...

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I recently pierced my nose myself (last thursday)
Since then, it hasn't gotten infected, it's just a little red (obviously)
I would like to keep it this way- I hear dial soap is good- should I continue using that? I've also been using alcohol- but I think that's drying out the outside of the piercing.
any tips on the best way to keep it clean and possibly make the redness/dryness go away?
thanks in advance ! (:

Nooo, don't use dial soap, or any antibacterial washes. They dry it out, making it red and sore and can clog up the piercing.
All you need is a teaspoon of sea salt and a cup of warm water. Clean your nose and hold a warm, salty compress onto it for about 10 minutes, twice a day.
I've had mine done 3 times (unfortunately for me I was careless and they fell out on boozy nights out =/) and it worked a charm.

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About 5 days ago, my boyfriend and I had sex. We used a condom, but when we were finished, we noticed it had slipped off and was still inside of me. I immediately pulled it out of me but my boyfriend says it was empty. And I know my boyfriend ejaculated, he said he did. However, I've been on birth control for about 2 years and I also took an emergency contraceptive, "the morning after pill" about 4 hours after we had sex. The pill I took was called Plan B and required me to take 2 pills. One immediately, and one 12 hours later, which I did. Lately, I have been feeling extremely nervous and hungry, even after I have just eaten my stomach feels empty again. Also, my heart beats appears to be beating faster lately. I am not supposed to get my period for another 2 and a half weeks either, so I cannot take a pregnancy test any time soon. But my question is, how likely is it that I am pregnant? The condom also had spermicide on it by the way. Please help! I'm 17/f.

Listen.
Relax, OK?
You took emergency contraceptive and you're on birth control.
Your heart is beating faster because you're anxious - it happens to me and everyone else, too.
The risk of you being pregnant is very small. Just be more careful in future if it scares you that much, or perhaps take a break from sex untill you get over it.

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People ask me for my msn.
does that mean main screen name? or like, something else. I'm confused.

It means the email address you use to sign in MSN with - IF you even have MSN.
Example:
advicenators@hotmail.com

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ok well im gona be giving my boyfriend a blojob soon or i think im gonna and well ive heard many rumors that you can get pregnant from swallowing cum is this true?

and like is it ok to just keep doin my thing while it comes out or will it like idk and is it gross?


Think about it. How can it even be slightly possible. Is your mouth a vagina? No.
and.. yes.. carry on and "do your thing" if you want. As for the taste, well, you decide. Spit or swallow.

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so heres the deal

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off.. im really in love with him and this weekend was crazy.. friday we stayed in a hotel 2gether.. and we hang out all the time.. i live in missouri and he lives in illinois. he comes and picks me up all the time.. he calls me his shawty..

the thing is, hes bout 2 b locked up.. hes turnin himself in about 2 weeks.. im waitin on him.. hes not going in for something real bad, it was a big misunderstanding and hell be out real quick.. should i stay with him????/
thanks=]]

Depends what this "misunderstanding" is. I sure wouldn't want to be associated with anyone like that.. but then again, 3 years is alot to throw away.
It's your decision girly. You're the one who knows him. Not us.

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okay.i know this is gonna sound really bad,and keep mind i usually dont do anything like this.but this guy basically got me drunk and took advantage.i didnt want to but was 5oo drink to really say or do anything.it was my first time,and i already asked questions cause i was hoping i was too tight for him to get it in all the way,my hyen didnt break or hurt or bleed or anything.so if this is true,could i still be considered a virgin?
also,if it didnt go in all the way and he wore a condom,can i still get pregnat?
if so,is ther anyway to tell really early on?

and if true,is there abortion places that you can get it withouot a parent?
please help,all ive been doing is crying and hoping otherwise

*Firstly, you cannot keep this to yourself. You must tell someone.

*If his penis entered you, you're not a virgin - even if you were too tight for it to go in all the way. Also, are you sure your hymen isn't torn/broken? It could have been done long before the drunken incident.

*If he wore a condom CORRECTLY and there were no rips/holes etc, you won't get pregnant. but remember, NO form of birth control is 100% effective. So if you ever have sex, there's always that very small risk you're going to take.

*It depends when the incident happened, so it's impossible to say whether you'd be getting pregnancy symptoms right now.

*I know here you can get abortions without parents, but again, I can't be sure for you because I don't know where you live. But don't worry about abortions and that for now. TELL SOMEONE and you will be guided through everything and given pregnancy/STD checks etc.


Remember, this isn't your fault. and noone will be mad with you, okay?

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