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is it bad..
15/f/freshman
kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.
another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?
i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =]
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These things take time =] You went out with him because you were attracted to him right =]? Things will work, you've been going out for three months, Hell, I hadnt even kissed myf irst boyfriend at three months. Hehe -- but honestly with time, it will become so much better. Make sure you try and make interesting conversation, ask him questions about himself :P! Do not be afraid to meet up with him and talk to him :) He is with you because evidently you're a brillaint person he wants to be with, so you should have nothing to worry about :).
Watch a movie with him, this way you wont have to talk so much or meet him with friends.
In time it will get better
Good Luck
XxX
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1. 3 months isn't long enough to truly know a person.
2. Just because he's your boyfriend, you don't have to tell him "everything" vice versa, until you're both comfortable doing so.
3. The point of a relationship is to get to know each other during - so I'd say you're on track.
To break your shell, just hang out with him more. Soon, you will feel comfortable to say anything on your mind. Don't worry about sounding dumb (even though I'm sure you won't!), because he's your boyfriend :) You shouldn't worry about embarrassing yourself in front of him - as weird as that sounds.
and you're right - having lunch of him is sure to help.
Just relax and be yourself. Good luck!
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we don't know everything about each other yet. You've only been with your boyfriend for three months, you shouldn't know everything about him by now, if you did, there would be no interesting element of your relationship, you would have nothing to talk about. Sometimes what me and my boyfriend do is we will actually set time aside from our friends and jobs and stuff and we'll go get coffee and talk about ourselves and get to know eachother, like a date, but we've been in a relationship for a long time.
It's not bad to get into a relationship with someone you just met, chances are this wont be permanent, although I hate to be a pessimist, hardly anything lasts forever these days.
As far as being insecure goes, I have that same problem. I always feel like my boyfriend's going to judge me or think I'm stupid. Tell your guy how you feel, tell him you don't want to sound stupid, you never know. Maybe he'll think that's cute about you, or maybe he feels the same way. You say you guys don't know each other well enough. Just flat out tell him one day, "I don't know what to talk about sometimes because I'm afraid I'll sound stupid."
Insecurities are a derivative of fear. That is to say, you're insecure because there is some fear behind your insecurity. For me, I don't like to open up because I'm afraid the real me isn't good enough. I have to constantly remind myself that I'm good enough. Try doing that. Maybe write on your mirror "[YOUR NAME] You're Amazing!" It sounds cheesy, but it totally works for me and everyone I've advised to do the same. Sorry my response was so long. If you need any relationship advice, leave me one in my inbox. Take care and good luck love. Keep me posted. -Angel
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If your in a relationship it shouldent be that hard to trust him with the things that you havent told him. Once you do that and he does the same then you shouldent be so nervous around him knowing that it didn't make a difference to him about what you said (in a good way not like he doesnt care). About breaking the shell you just need to be more confident in the way you look and act. I know easier said then done but its worth a try. Best of luck
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Congrats on the new Bf ;] anyway, no, it's completly normal to not know to much about your bf. I know I don't know everything about mine. It's ok to be shy and I have the exact same problem with shyness. Don't worry about being yourself in front of him. If he likes you for you, then he won't care one bit. I mean, I had a bf that was nervous around me, so he never did anything. We didn't talk practically at all. Just be yourself around him, it'll be fine :]
Hope I helped
-Jessica- :)
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