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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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is it ok to masturbate if ur pregnant?

Yup. :)

im trying to figure out what to wear. because i will be going into middle school next year and i dont no what is in or out. so what should i wear?

School is not a fashion show. Wear what you like, and what you want. The approval of others isn't needed.

What does the song careless whisperer by seether mean?

http://www.songmeanings.net/songs/view/3530822107858759731/

It means next time go to www.songmeanings.net

EDIT

Maybe if you took the time to scroll down & look at the comments, you'd see that some people gave their interpretations. Dumbass.

I want honest answers because I don't know if I've turned into a crazy girlfriend or am I thinking right.

Over the summer me and my boyfriend have this unwritten rule that during the day he hangs out with his guy friends and then I come over around 4. Well recently he got a car and it needs work and he hasn't stopped working on it all week. Today I went shopping with the girls and he was working on cars with the guys and we agreed to meet back up at his house around 4 as usual. I get there and he wasn't there, so I hang around for an hour and there was no sign that he was coming home so his sister and I decided to go into town and shop around for an hour before all the shops close. One of the stores stayed open for us so we ended up being out for two hours. We came back and my boyfriend still wasn't home so I went to go watch tv alone in his room and after getting the third "I'll be home soon" text from my boyfriend I got bored and fell asleep. He woke me up at 8 when he came in and he had one of his friends with him which annoyed me the minute I woke up. He had the nerve to bring his friend back after hanging with the guys all day and I only had about an hour and a half before I had to go home and he knew that. So for an hour we went back and forth with the "What's wrong?" "Nothing" thing. I kept saying nothing because I was really annoyed and didn't want to start anything in front of his friend. Well he finally figured out that I was mad because A)I was only going to see him for 2 hours. B)he brought his friend with him. BUT! not long after he made that great discovery his friend called him (the one whos house he's been at all day) and he asks what time they were going out. Now this pissed me off and I'm going to sum it up for the sake of making this simple.
-boyfriend is with the guys from 10am-8pm working on cars
-has "time with me" that includes his friend
-boyfriend leaves at 9:30(his friends wont let him wait until 10 which is when I leave). and he goes to a underground street car show an hour away with the same friends he's been with all day.
-i go home and then at 1am get a text from him complaining that he barely saw me today.

Am I turning into one of those controling girlfriends or do I have a right to be annoyed?

This situation was the one that really pissed me off but I've been hearing about this car for weeks now. I'll start a conversation or talk to him about an actual problem that I have and he'll change the conversation out of the blue to talk about the car and for a while I actually showed interest.
And we haven't had a day to ourselves without one of his friends showing up in over a week.

Other info:
We're both 18. Been dating for 5 months.

I think you have the right to be annoyed.

He knew you only had so long to hang out, and he knew what time you guys were supposed to be meet up. He messed up on both ends, and then when you finally do get to hang out, his friend is present company. :( No thanks.

And then after all that, he has the nerve to text you complaining how you guys barely got to see each other.. Who's at fault here? Certainly not you.

I don't see you as controlling for being upset. You have every right to be mad over this because I'd be mad too if my boyfriend pulled this on me. I would sit him down and let him know how much this bothers you because this clearly can't happen again. He's entitled to hanging out with friends but to ditch you & then when he does see you, to bring a friend is quite rude. He's no way entitled to be complaining.

I've been dating this one guy for almost 8 months. We tell each other we love each other and all that stuff. I do love him, I suppose. It's just, one week I'm really into him and the other I'm just all 'blah..' towards him. I dunno. I feel as if the feelings have changed ? But there's this other guy. My boyfriends best friend. We used to talk a lot and flirt bunches when school was in. Which, I know was wrong, but I kinda couldn't help it. We connected instantly and he's real cool. I know he likes me, and I kinda have thing going for him too. A while ago, I considered breaking up with my boyfriend for him, but decided against it. And now there's this other guy. Hes a year younger than me. We talk all the time. We're pretty much best friends right now. I spent the whole day tubing with him, and we flirted.. A lot. He kept smacking my butt, and hugging me from behind and holding me. It felt really nice. He kept wanting to kiss me, but I told him not to. Since I'm taken and all. I don't want to sound like a slut, cause I'm not. I just, I don't know what to do. Some days, I want to break up with my boyfriend to go out with someone else, but then my feelings totally change. :/ What should I do?

You're already having feelings that you shouldn't be with your boyfriend & that's dangerous enough. It isn't fair to keep changing your mind about what you want, even if you haven't told him about this.

If you don't know what you want, it's unfair to keep your boyfriend in the loop & you need to end the relationship.

Take some time for yourself. Do not jump into a relationship immediately after breaking up with your boyfriend because that will not only look slutty, BUT it'll also look as if you never loved him. I've been in that situation where the guy did that to me, and it really hurts to be on that end of the situation.

But break up. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve the short end of the stick and this relationship just sounds like a waste of time if you're not completely committed anymore.

I am fifteen and i'm a girl. first of all, i know watching porn** is wrong... but i did it just to try it. apparently it jacked up our computer and my mom found out. she emediately pointed the finger at my dad who surprisingly told her that it was him. they got into a fight but they made up. i'm pretty sure my dad knows that it was me...but he hasn't said anything to me or even acted weird around me? my mom still has no clue that it ME who was watching porn on our computer and shes making my dad pay 200 dollars in repairs for MY mistake! now i feel so guilty and its awkard just being around him.. should i confront my dad about it or pay for the repairs? or should i come clean that it was me to my mom? or should i stay quiet and hope it all blows over? :)
-avingeline

I would talk to your dad about this. Ask why he covered for you, and why he's willing to take the fall for something you did?

I'm sure he's doing it out of love, and will probably turn down your money, but I'm pretty sure that if he pays the $200 that it's only fair you find a way to pay him back.

I understand you're curious, but next time wait til you have a computer of your own so that you can look at that type of stuff.

Does anyone know where i can download free ringtones for my cell? I really want the song Whatever Will Be by Vanessa Hudgens but the site i usually go to -phonezoo.com- doesnt have it. I have also looked it up on my phone to buy it but Verizon doesnt sell it.

I usually go to myxertones.com

I've recently found out that one of my ex boyfriends want me back. We were together for around 5 months and then he left me on my birthday for someone else. I'm not sure what to because he says he is sorry and that it is the biggest mistake he has made in his life. Just today he said he loved me. I could tell by his voice that it was totally serious. I said i loved him too, but was worried that it would send mixed messages. He said he still thinks of me and that he has learned from his mistake. I admit i still like him and somehow I have forgave him. Should i go out with him or just tell him to be friends, evem if he says he wants to be more?

I would just be friends with him. While he realizes he made a mistake, and you kind of want him back, acting on this would not be smart.

Chances are that if you decide to take him back, you'll eventually regret it. It's okay to forgive him, but it's not okay to take him back.

Alright, so I'm going to be a junior in high school next September, and all these college guys are hitting on me through Facebook! Its really weird. Like, they graduated my high school a few years back and friend me, even though I've never heard of them (but we have mutual friends), then message me saying we should hang out to get to know each other better. I don't know how to reply! I don't want to date a college guy because I know that all they want is sex and I'm abstaining. But all they're literally asking is to "get to know me better." Of course I know what that means but it would be making assumptions to guess that they wanted to hook up, right?

What do you think? & how should I reply?

thanks :)

I would either ignore the messages, or just message back and let them politely know you're not interested in anything other than a friendship.

I have been going out with my current boyfriend for two months. We both attend a boarding school- I'm a day student, but he boards, so we're separated for the summer. At the end of the school year, I met a guy through a friend. He really likes me, but I don't know him very well. I suggested that we hang out sometime. We went to see a movie, and we made out. I had a really good time, but I felt like shit. I want to see this guy again, but my conscience is telling me to cut off all communication with this guy. What's the best thing for me to do?

PS- this guy has a gf, and is a close friend's ex-boyfriend.

You are both taken, and this is a messy situation.

I strongly advise you to cut off communication with him. He is no good for you, you know nothing about him, and you went too far. Cut ties with him.

You need to tell your boyfriend what happened. Be completely honest with him, and keep in mind that he probably will not take it well and that the relationship will probably be over.

If he does decide to end the relationship, you need to stay single for a while. Do not crawl back to the guy you hooked up with, and leave your boyfriend alone. You really need to evaluate what you want in your life, because it clearly isn't your boyfriend and it clearly isn't this guy either.

my name is Rachel Strickland and iam 20 years old and my friend that I have bein friends with since 5th grade and then we both started high school we became best friends and I cried more at her viewing than I did at my dad's funeral and I don't understand why I would cry more at a best friends viewing not funeral than a parent's actual funeral and I was so upset that I couln't even bring myself to come to the funeral. my parents were divorced and I only got to see my dad every other weekend and some vacations and two weeks in the summer if that helps. I've been crying myself to sleep every night and I've been screaming at my mom and everybody in the house and I normally don't yell at my mom why would I do this when my bestfriend died? please help me!

First off, I'm sorry for your loss. I understand what you're going through with losing your best friend. I've had that happen & it's very hard to deal with, and very shocking.

With that being said, your behavior is normal. The reaction to her death is normal. It's okay to be mad, and shocked and sad and confused all at once. It's okay to scream at everyone (most will say it isn't, I say it is), and it's okay to cry.

You are more than likely very confused about her death, and with so many questions that won't get answered, you're mad. That's understandable.

I honestly advise that you seek counseling. A psychiatrist will help you sort your feelings so that you can see things clearer on this. Just remember that what you're feeling is normal & okay, and that crying helps.

14/f/high skool freshman in sept

i was txtin my boyfriend normally, you know just flirtling and stuff, when he started to ask me questions the first one said: "what would you say if i was cheatin on u? (im not)"..ok easy so i answered truthfully and then he hit me with another: "What would you say if i wanted to break up? (im not lol)" i answered this truthfully again then he replied back and said "i guess cuz see me and matt want to join the marines after high school." Thats where the problem rolls in...
i asked him how come and he just told me that he wanted to and i cant change his mind. i wasnt plannin to, i knew he was thinkin about joining but so early?? i support him eagrly, but i dont want to let him go. i truly love him with my whole heart, and i want a strong future with him, question is: how can i support him if i dont want the same as him?

Honestly, you're 14. This relationship probably will not last. Relationships at that age usually never do, and it's hard to see happen. With that being said...

You can want something different for him, and you can want something different for yourself, but you can still support him. I'll be honest. Supporting something you don't really believe in is tough. I had a boyfriend in the Marines, though he joined while we were just friends. I begged and pleaded and couldn't change his mind, but because he was my friend, I supported him.

You just kinda have to suck it up. There's really no other way to put it. However, it's VERY possible that before high school ends he'll change his mind about joining. I'm not saying it'll happen, but that it's possible.

Hey guys, thanks for reading. I am starting a prank war with my friend. Recently he got all of my friends, and my mom's help and they strung yarn ALL over my room, and attatched bells and cute little notes all over it. I was really surprised, and I thought it was really fun!

NOW! I need to know how to get him back! I don't want it to be messy or gross, just BIG. What should I do?

The following sites have ideas for pranks. Take a look and see what you find:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_are_the_best_pranks_to_pull_on_people

http://www.zug.com/pranks/ideas/

http://www.school-survival.net/comic_relief/classfun.php

http://funnyprankideas.com/

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/prank-ideas.html

I hope you find what you're looking for. Those sites have tons of ideas. :) Just remember that if it's something that involves his home to get his parents permission first & maybe ask them get in on it as well. :)

I want to have a baby early. My boyfriend and I are going to start trying to get pregnant as soon as we graduate highschool. I know babies are expensive, but I don't know exactly how expensive. And I know they are hard to deal with, but I don't really know how hard.

Anyone who is a young mother, or was a young mother, can you give me any advice? And please don't tell me to not have one or to wait. Because I know I'll be a good mother. I just need some answers for my questions.

Thanks in advance!

I 100% advise against this. Babies are lots of $$, and lots of work. Missing out on college because you rather give up your life to become a young mother is really stupid. College pretty much makes or breaks you.

I can tell you from experience (I'm not a young mother, but I have cousins who are still teenagers & have kids) that this is a bad idea. My 2 cousins are sisters. Neither of them have jobs. One has a 2 year old, and one has a 4 month old. My aunt is raising their kids, not them.

Babies can usually cost about $150,000 a year. That's just an estimate, so please don't take that as exact. Young parents struggle to raise children. Both of my cousins are no longer with their boyfriends, and the fathers of their children do not claim the kids as theirs. I'm not saying all guys are like this, BUT most are and will absolutely run away from a situation as soon as it gets tough.

They only want to deal with the fun part, and then when it gets tough, they run away like children. And you know why? Because you and your boyfriend are children yourself.

You don't know what goes into caring for another person along with yourself. You need a job, a place to stay, and lots of other things. Jobs are hard to come by right now, and so is housing. Shelters can only keep you for so long. Trust me when I say it is very hard & that you should wait.

Go to college, get a career and get your own place THEN worry about having kids. Right now, it's not the thing to do, so please refrain from it. Children are lots of responsibility that no kid in high school can handle.

How does ovulation occur? And how can I determine when I am ?

If you rather not Google search, I'd see an OBGYN & see what they say. :)

My mom is 38 years old now and she works at night. My mom usually gets home from work about 3am. I have been waking up for close to 2 months now probably because I hear voices coming from the living room. Well, for the past few weeks now I've been sneaking into the living room to check out who my mom has over or whatever so late. It appears that she is talking to herself though!

It looks like my mom is talking to someone right across from her. She is looking straight ahead and everything, every time I have seen her! The weird thing is that it's basically dark in there. There is enough light for me to see the figure of my mom decently (including where her gaze is projected) and know that there isn't anyone else in the living room. She usually speaks quietened down, a little lower than her regular voice--sometimes down to almost a whisper.

She's really starting to scare me though. I've asked her on multiple occasions now about her night chats. She has, time and time again, responded with, "What are you talking about?" She appears to have COMPLETELY forgotten about it.

Should I be worried? What should I do?

I agree with the person below me. Your mother could very well be talking on the phone & you wouldn't know because the lights were off. However, if she's not on the phone, something could be wrong.

I would recommend you get her to a psychologist so they can see what's up, but if she's not willing to go, you cannot make her. Maybe see if there's someone in your family you can ask about this? Maybe someone would be willing to take you to a doctor so you can acquire some information about this and get some better input.

I am turning 16 years old and on my birthday my parents are letting me get a tattoo. I want a quote that is meaningful, inspirational, etc etc I want it to be short but be able to get something out of it. Also along with the quote I would like to be able to have a small picture relating to the quote. Any ideas of good quotes with a picture OR without a picture too. thanks

Here's what I found on Google:

http://www.tantalizing-tattoo.com/tattoo-quotes.html

http://www.quotegarden.com/

I would suggest looking through there & see what you find. If you happen to see something that really speaks to you & moves you, then it's best to go with that.

I know your parents are paying for the tattoo, but I would like to say not to get a picture having to do with the quote simply because it'll cost more because of detail, and size and such. I know you probably don't care about cost because it's not coming out of your pocket, but you should care because money is tight these days & your parents probably don't have a lot to blow on a tattoo.

I agree with Melody on the fact that Chinese symbols are a nice tattoo, BUT they're also very risky & I would advise against them mainly because you can never be sure if the meaning is correct. Someone could tattoo a completely different meaning on you, and if someone of Chinese origin saw it, they'd be confused & ask. So, I would try to refrain from anything in symbols.

Ok so i want to by sims 3 but im worried that it wont work well on my macbook. Has anyone used it yet on a macbook? Is it slow or does it work well? I also have an external hard drive which i could store stuff on but it sometimes doesnt work that well.. thanks

Sims 3 was made to work well with both PC's and Mac's I believe, so I'm sure it should work fine. Just remember it takes up a lot of memory so your external hard drive should be kept near because it will come in handy if you have a lot of things on your macbook.

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hey i wanna wear high heels to school! BUT NOT STRIPER KINDS LOL like more WEDGES (little ones)

should i or should i not? I wear them in public when i am not @ school but i dont @ school.

I don't see why not. If you like wedge heels & have a nice outfit that you think they would go with, I would certainly wear it to school for a nice change! However, be sure to bring an extra pair of shoes (maybe flip flops or flats) because heels can really make your feet hurt.

Michael Jackson apparently died at age 50 from cardiac arrest. Elvis died when he was like 42, I think, and they claimed (at first) that he died of something called cardiac arrhythmia. Turned out that Elvis actually died of a drug overdose.

So, I'm thinking...wow, 50 is REALLY young for someone to die, especially when our average lifespan is something like 75 or so. Maybe Michael Jackson didn't REALLY die of cardiac arrest and his death is being covered up by somebody!

Did Michael Jackson actually die of cardiac arrest or could it have been a possible drug overdose or some sort of suicide? Could he have been murdered and nobody know about it yet?

Anyone have any clues or opinions they'd like to share about Michael Jackson's death?

Michael Jackson has a lot of health problems, and just because he's 50 doesn't mean that he died of something other than natural causes. While that could be the case, and I'm not eliminating it as a possible one, it's best not to assume he went out like Elvis.

It is very much possible to die of natural causes related to ones health at a young age. A girl I went to high school with died at about 15 or 16 in 2007 or 2008 (I'm unsure). She'd be going into her senior year if she hadn't died. From what I've heard, she died of natural causes.

The autopsy is being done (today or tomorrow, depending where you are) and the results may or may not be released because the Jackson family has asked for privacy. There are other options such as murder, suicide, overdose, etc BUT as far as we know now, it was a cardiac arrest.

Please do not assume that everyone who's famous has to die of something that isn't natural. While many stars have kicked the bucket due to drugs, suicide, or murder, etc, that doesn't mean all do. No jumping to conclusions.

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