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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles. I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!
I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.
I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.
I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.
I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!
♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥
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Have you noticed if a girl has sex they are called a slut and when a guy has sex they get more popular. I dont understand it please someone explain it to me or give your opinion on it!!
i rate high!
i dont understand it at all either...but the only logical explanation i can think of is that in the older days, guys were known to have power and then as time came along they were known to have many girls at the same time and be players ..that was considered cool...and now, thats what it evolved into. but girls were ALWAYS expected to be ladies and nice little girls. so by the way the world is now, with girls sleeping around and having sex...is considered discusting and slutty because thats not what girls were always looked at through time. get back to me and lemme kno what you think.
hi! i am having trouble with a relationship that I am going through!I really like this guy! But my friend likes him to. We both agreed that if he were to ask one of us out that we would be fine with it, but i wont! I don't know if i should talk to her about it or just forget about him! But i dont think I will or CAN get over him!I don't even know this guy but I cant stop thinking about him! I think im in love, but how?!? I don't even know this guy it sucks! I can't get him off my mind! And i can;t ruin a friendship over a guy! But i need some help! I can't lose my friend! PLEASE HELP!!!
first off, its a little confusing understanding this since you state that you dont even know the guy!! but by going on that, i think that a friendship isnt worth this at ALL. i know thats not really the advice you're lookin for since you probably already know that, so i also think that you should definately tell your friend that you dont know if you would be ok with her going out with him if he asks her. and on another note, if he DOES ask HER, then why would you want to be with him anyways? think this over, and make a decision that you would be happy and satisfied with in the end. take care and good luck. if you need more help, please ask.
-ash
hey okay i know this is gross. but ive never had sex before and i masterbate and like when i get an orgasm i get kinda wet but i never like cum.. why is that?
when you feel that wetness, that is your cum. cum is a wet feeling down there after you orgasm. it isnt going to be as noticable as men's cum. take care.
-ashlea
hey! sry i copied and pasted that and forgot to take that out! im so sorry! lol. YES!! i really need some advise. please help!
i think you shouldnt get in between him and his girlfriend cuz obviously he is with her for a reason. and obviously there is a reason you two broke up in the first place, so dont forget about that just yet. think this over, and let him know how you feel if you are still strong about this. good luck, take care.
i thought i should ask a guy for their opinion .. ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth!
i am a girl, not a guy. you said you thought you should ask a guy for their opinion, so sorry i couldnt help. if you want my opinion still, get back to me and i'd be glad to help. take care.
This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.
Thanks!
nothing but the truth.
-ashlea
ok long story short>>>i got caught shopliftin.....(my friends had nothin to do wit it)......**dont tell me anythin about the shopliftin like its bad or anythin bc i undastand everythin that happened**....but my friends mom is pissed at her bc she is the one i was stealin shit 4....but i still dont want her to take anypart of it ....and im only aloud over her house if i talk to her parents but how would i start up a convo wit her parents?
if you dont mention anything about shopliftin is bad or anythin like that ill rate high...thanx
i think you should just call your friends house and when the parents pick up say something like this:
hi mr(or mrs.)(their last name) this is (your name). i wanted to talk to you about this whole shoplifting situation. i know that you are probably mad at me and your daughter but i just wanted to clear it up that she had nothing to do with it. i know it was wrong to shoplift and i dont ever plan on doing it again. i dont know why i did it but i know it was a mistake. i dont expect you to have respect towards me anymore but i just wanted you to know that i learned my lesson and that your daughter had no part in it.
good luck, take care, and get back to me to let me know what happened.
-ashlea
I've gotten a couple ridiculous questions in my inbox lately- disgusting questions and some that, i just don't have any idea what to say to them. but i feel bad just not answering these people. does anyone else have this problem?
i agree that sometimes people will ask you questions in which you are uncomfortable answering. but the reason for this site it to be able to ask those uncomfortable questions that you may be embarrased to ask others in your life. if you dont feel comfortable answering anything, then you dont have to. but keep in mind that we are all humans and some questions may be a little out there sometimes but the people wouldn't be asking them if they didn't need the help. so, try and help them in any way you can. i hope this helped. take care.
-Ashlea
what is a hicky exactly? I mean all I know is it's like, well I dunno! lol I mea n, I know it like leaves a bruise, but I don't know what it is...
a hickey is a blood clot. i know it sounds dangerous, but it is in fact a blood clot.
I have this problem because I have hair on my upper lip just a little bit kind of and what should I do about it?? I tried bleaching it should I try waxing it but I am afraid it would hert please help me (age 13 1/2) thanks!
easy solution..get Nair. the kind that says "for face" on it...itll take the hair right off and doesnt hurt one bit. its like a lotion type stuff and you keep it on for about 4 minutes...its harmless!! ...it works reallllyy good and leaves your skin smooth. hope i helped...i kno it will work so plz try it.
my boobs are really small and my stomach is really big. its like showing off my fat waaaaaaay too much! is there anything that can make my tiny boobs bigger
well sad to say there isnt really anything that can make your boobs grow bigger. the only thing i can think of is breast implants. but, there is something to do about this problem. you can make your stomach smaller. go on a diet and lose the weight in your tummy. so, instead of trying to make your boobs bigger, try and make your stomach smaller. do it the natural way, dont get implants or anything when there is something you can do healthier. good luck and take care. get back to me for anything else. bye hun.
-ashlea
There's this girl named Maria. She's a good friend of mine, and today she got in deep trouble with our Health teacher because she gave answers to someone else, and hes failing her for the marking period with a 50. She said she's tried to commit suicide before, and she's going to do it again. Should I tell somebody? Thanks. =]
you should definately tell someone. your friend may be mad at you for this but it will only benefit her in the long run. if you dont help her, or if you hold it off, it may be too late. think about this: your health teacher is failing her and THAT is making her want to kill herself again? if something like THAT makes her want to put harm to herself, then she really does need someone to help her. you cant do it alone. trust me...ive tried to help friends in your situation. you have to go to an adult that you can trust and let them know whats going on. she will get the help she needs and you could save her life. think it over please. its for the best and the best only.
take care and good luck to you and your friend. if you need anything im here for you.
-ash
Most of my friends are gettin pregnat and getting herpes it is scaring me ... All my friends I thought were so much smarter than me are stupid and having sex already . I know you want to but you need to hold back .... I am scared that in a way I am gonna be forced into it .... Can you help ?
noone should ever force you into doing ANYTHING..if anything, you should be learning from this. if most of your friends seem to be having sex and getting pregnant and so on, then maybe you need to reevaluate your friends...and if you really feel as if you love these people regardless, then be there for them. but if ANYTHING, you should definately be taking all of this as a lesson to be learned and it should only be making you wiser and more knowledgeable for your future and with the choices you make. good luck to you and your friends. get back to me please if you still want to talk. im here. take care hun.
-asherz
I didn't know what to put this under but i truley need some advice... i will rate rate you high even if you just try. I'm got in a fight with my teacher today and i got arrested and my mom picked me up at the jail a few hours later. I have court and that was my last strike so i am gettin sent away. this has been streesing me out all day , and i can't stop crying. The hardest part was seeing my best friend crying in my arms and telling my boyfriend.. ne ways what I'm asking is what should i do or say that will make everyone feel better including me.
well i can relate to both you and your friends/boyfriend because i have 5 sisters, and 3 of them were sent away. it is a VERY hard situation to be in. one of my sisters went away, and when she came back 3 years later, we were close as hell. we are now the closest we've ever been. being sent away only helped her to mature, meet true friends, and help her learn ALOT about life. she thanks God everyday that she is where she is today, and she is thankful for being sent away because looking back, she sees now that it has helped her, and in no way has it hurt her. it was hard being away from her and sure, i missed her when she was away, but i knew i would see her again ...and nonetheless, i did. and now, everythings okay again. so, my advice to you is let your friends know that you're scared and that you dont want to leave..maybe this is something you need THEM for and you need THEIR support instead of you trying to comfort THEM. just always remember this...if you really have a true friend and boyfriend...then you will have them in the end...no matter where life takes you. chances are you will probably meet tons of new friends and have a different outlook on life when you come out of there...for the better.
well good luck and i know you'll be fine. just remember this isnt the end of your life. you just have to go there and deal with it. and then when you get out you'll be free again. take it day by day and write when you get upset or mad. be good and dont act bad when you get sent away because it would only make it worse on you. be good and listen. take care and please get back to me if you need anything else. i'd love to hear from you when you get out or if you end up staying or what.
babyash1669@yahoo.com
-ashlea
i was 12 when i first looked at porn(it was an accidentaly discovery)and scince then ive kept looking it it(im one of those big computer geeks so i can delete history and all that stuff)then when i was 13 i learned how to cum (i did not care before)and ive dont it alot scince)
my questions are 1 is this normal at 14. 2 will can a doctor tell without taking testes like just by looking. 3 is there a way to breck this addiction.
help
lsc
lostscaredconfused
first off, it is very natural, healthy, and normal to masturbate .. at any age .. and second, no, the doctor will not be able to tell what you are doing unless you tell him/her. even so, it is nothing to be embarrassed about. if you really feel like this is interfering with your thoughts and like you really do want to stop looking at porn, tell your doctor (if you dont want to tell your parents) ... your doctor is one of the people in your life that you can trust. if you ask them not to consult your parents on the matter, then they wont. well, good luck and dont worry, everything will be fine. take care hun.
-ashlea
I'm in a relationship at the moment, and im really happy. Yet at the same time i kinda wish i wasnt. It's not like i dont like him or anything it's just I'm only 14 and i dont really feel like i need a bf. I was just wondering what do YOU think is the rite time to start dateing, and why. ane Please help me decided what to do. Thanks.
there is nothing wrong with dating at an early age..just be careful and take it slow. dont do anything you dont want to do and dont take it too seriously. dating early will only help you when you are older. it makes you wiser and stronger for the next time. have fun with this one but remember, you ARE young and need to have fun...so dont be afraid to hold off dating if you dont feel comfortable right now. hope i helped and please get back to me with anything you need. take care hun.
-ashlea
My bf and i are 17 and he's worried about his penis size its quite small about 4inches long
im not worried i told him not to worry but i think he's still shy we just started having sex
and he has trouble getting it up he gto embarrassed about it im not sure what to do or say
i don't want to make him feel inadequate what can i do?
i would definately try to make him feel more comfortable about the situation. let him know that you are not with him for his penis size, but that you are with him for who HE is. let him know that you don't think his penis is small(even if you do...). just reassure him that you care about HIM and not the size of his penis. and maybe the two of you could find some ways to help him get aroused easier. talk to him and find out what makes him excited. the two of you could have fun with that.
if you need anything else, please dont be afraid to get back to me. i hope i helped and have fun. good luck sweety.
-ashlea
I would rather stay anonymous but me and my x has been on and off lately and weve been off for a little while now .right now im at school. he is starting to get a big head cuz he wasnt really popular until i started going wit him and he told me i couldnt like him this week but i could next...what to do?
im not sure i understand what you're saying..did he tell you that YOU werent allowed to like him until NEXT week? is that what you are saying? get back to me....i wanna help.
ash--
hey. Last weekend my boyfreind put his hand down my pants and put his finger in my vagina but not the actual hole. Is that fingering? also, I had my hand down his pants and I stroked his penis. Is that giving head? sorry if its kinda gross for you to answer. Thanks so much
hey. well, it depends on what hole he put his finger in?? if it was your vagina hole then yes..it was fingering...any type of a finger entering a foreign body part is known as fingering. now what you did to him was called "jerking him off" . giving someone head is when you suck their penis. stroking it with your hand is jerking them off. if you have any other questions please dont hesitate to ask. take care and have fun. be safe.
-ashlea
Hey i need some info on teen pregnancy like web sites or hot lines i could call..or even to chat with someone who has been through it !! help me please!
you can always to go planned parenthood...they will help you with whatever you need and it is totally confidential...
here are some hotlines and info sites ive come up with:
http://www.thehelpline.org/
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/pregnancy.html
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/pregnancyhelp/
http://www.etters.net/teen.pregnancy.htm
http://members.tripod.com/xila/teens.html
if you need ANYTHING else...PLEASE get back to me...my sister has been through this. get back to me for anything please. good luck and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
-ashlea
ps. my email address is babyash1669@yahoo.com