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About 2 years ago my mom and brother moved down south to live with my grandma to help her out after my grandpa died. I stayed here in NY because I wasnt ready to leave yet (friends, etc) and I was already going to college. I now have a job and still go to school 2 years later, but after visiting my mom I really do miss her and my whole family. I mean my whole family lives down south now pretty much. I live with my boyfriend up here but we're always on and off but I do care about him. And in NY everythings really expensive anyway,so I have been wanting to move down south. But, I think whats holding me back is the fact that I still do care about my boyfriend and all of my friends are up here. What should I do? Should I move down where my family is or stay here? (link)
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It's a difficult situation as you'll likely greatly miss being close to people whether you move or not, so I would try to take this feeling out of the equation and decide what you should do that would benefit your future specifically. Think about what you want to do with your life in the long run.
If you can do what you want to do in either place, maybe you should move. Afterall, there's no law against moving back if it turns out you were happier in New York.
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I know none of you are doctors but you might have some insight on this:
We are both 22, my boyfriend is healthy weight and healthy inside as far as I know, he doesn't have diabetes or high blood pressure or anything like that. But when we are in bed, he cannot stay hard. He has told me that he really wants to have sex with me but we have tried so many times and we still can't do it. I'm not mad because of the sex, it is just frustrating because I can tell he gets very upset that he can't do it. I don't know if there is anything I can do to help, I try so hard!
Do you think the problem could be erectile dysfunction? And do you have any tips for me/him?
Thanks (link)
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This is a form of Erectile Dysfunction. It's often psychological and I agree with others that he may want to see a doctor to narrow it down and determine if an underlying disease is causing it. But only if it's necessary as there's no test to really see what causes ED, to my knowledge.
As for suggestions, if it is psychological, he shouldn't think so much. Even anticipation of losing the erection may cause him to lose it. It's a vicious cycle. It might be impossible not to fear it happening again, but it might be good to at least try.
If he smokes, he should stop.
Eating blackberries and dark chocolate may help.
Exercise is said help as well. I would suggest a combination of aerobic exercises (walking, jogging, etc) and resistance exercises (weightlifting or something similar). And Kegels (a penis exercise involving holding the muscle used to stop a stream of urine for several seconds at a time. Not necessarily while he's peeing, of course) wouldn't hurt either.
Hope some of these tips are useful. If not, he might want to consider medications that stimulate blood flow, like Viagra.
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i have great feeling when i finger myself and it looks like i have a orgasim but in have nothing coming out like what comes out of a male when he has an orgasim (link)
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Females don't experience the same kind of orgasm as males. There's nothing wrong with you.
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I applied for classes in March. How long would it take for financial aid to come through and how do you get it? Will I get it before my classes start in march 19? (link)
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It varies widely and depends on your school. Contact your school's financial aid department to know for sure.
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My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 months. We have been dating 9 months. My boyfriend goes to church twice a week. He reads the bible. He visits his parents twice a week. He also has a bachelors degree and a good job. He is 26 and I am 21.
I found out I was pregnant in October, a month after we moved into an apartment together. (We have never used a condom and he knows I am not on birth control.) I found out he still has not told his parents about the pregnancy and he does not bring me to his parents when he goes to visit. He told me he wanted me to get an abortion but he never offered to pay for it or take me. (I don't want an abortion anyway.) He brought up marriage briefly twice, when he was drunk. He doesn't remember. He has been going out drinking with his coworkers and coming home at 3 AM on weekends, and he never used to do that. Since I told him I was pregnant, he hasn't felt the need to take me out to dinner or bring a pizza home, and we used to have a date night once a week. Its been about 3 months since he took me out. He spends about 3-4 days of the week sleeping here. We don't even go for walks to the park or the swap meet in our town anymore.
I don't think we are too young for marriage and we can financially afford a baby, but he still probably thinks his life will be ruined. My thinking is, he should have put a condom on if he didn't want a baby.
Should I ask him if he is going to marry me? We are Christians and I want marriage before this baby comes. I don't need a wedding, a private ceremony at a courthouse is fine with me. Having a baby will be hard to do alone, but I will sue him for child support if he leaves me. It's only fair. I did not become pregnant by MYSELF and I should not have to raise it myself but if I do have to raise it myself, I will need the extra income from him. Also, when should I tell his parents? I already told my boyfriends that if he does not tell them, that I will pick up the phone and tell them. I know it is not my place to tell HIS parents, but I said that to scare him 2 weeks ago, and he has not told them still. I think they deserve to know that their oldest son is having a child. I know that they would want to be in the child's life as because my boyfriend said his mom mentioned she wants to be a grandmother. What the heck do I do?! (link)
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Telling his parents about this without his consent will escalate this difficult situation.
Unfortunately, I think your boyfriend is now showing his true colors. I don't think you truly know someone until you live with them for a few months, when they slowly drop their guard and behave as they would when they're alone.
I would maintain a solid communication with him and let him know exactly what bothers you. Present yourself firmly and simplistically. Decide exactly what you need out of this and tell him. If he can work towards this, then let him try. If not, then it may be time to end it. But deal with him, not his parents.
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You may want to check the question, "my wife says she wants to sleep with other men" for the details leading up to this question. I told my wife "NO!" I told her that I loved her dearly and could not stomach the thought of her with another man. Additionally, I was thinking of our kids and careers with this response. Kids have to go to school with their friends and the black guy in question is one of their teachers. My wife also teaches in the same building. I am a principal in another building in the same district. Now my wife tells me that she is also thinking of our kids and careers and that I need to say "YES" because she was the woman that she described as having the affair with this black guy. Now she pees on a stick and tells me she is approaching 8 weeks pregnant and will soon start to show. My wife and I decided that I would have a vasectomy years ago after our last son was born. So, there is little question who the father will be. She thinks that there will be scandle if I do not stay with her. It is also likely that all three of us will lose our jobs and our careers might not recover from this. I see my only chance to salvage my career is to go public and cut ties with her. She obviously wasn't thinking of me when she was with him. Problem is I still love her and she tells me that she still loves me and that it was just sex with no emotional ties or commitment. Additionally, the kids are the victims no matter what I do. I am very torn about how I should handle this. On one hand I have always loved her very much and I love my kids and on the other hand I am very hurt! A marriage is based on love and trust. How can I ever trust her again? I know others have been where I am. Please, I am open to suggestions.
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The make-up sex has been great. She has been after me like a newly wed. I still love her and love sex with her but the cheating and I the whole time that I am making love to her I cannot get the image of another man crawling all over my wife out of my head. Does that image ever go away?
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Am I a bad person? I love having all the recent sex with my wife. She is very horny now. She says that I am her husband and that I am the one she loves. She insists on staying together; but, I am starting divorce proceedings. She won't give him up and wants me to come watch their meeting tomorrow after school. She thinks that if I see her with him that I would understand their relationship.Whether I come watch or not, whether I approve or not she is going to meet him. Then she wants to come home to me with loads of him inside her and screw me all night. The thought makes me very horny and repulses me at the same time. About the child, he told my wife to get an abortion. He wants nothing to do with fatherhood and raising a child. He told my wife that he is just in it for the sex! It is amazing to me how a woman with a Bachelor's and Master's degree can be so dumb! She keeps going back to him drooling like a puppy that has been beaten. What the hell does she see in him? If we stay together, my wife plans that at the end of the school year she will only be 5 months pregnant. She will tell everyone that she had a miscarriage and she wants to get away for a while.Which at her age is reasonable. Then she will have the baby in another city and return for next school year telling everyone that after losing her baby we decided to adopt. Thus explaining the interracial child. She is sneaky and has given this a lot of thought. One of my biggest fears is if I have the courage to divorce her what will I do for sex. I don't see myself being celibate The bar scene is not for me. And I don't see myself being satisfied masturbating to internet porn. I mean, I will be divorced, mid 40's and within spitting distance of 50, balding and 15-20 pounds overweight, who would want to be with me? I am only tall when I am standing on my wallet which I am sure lawyers, court fees, divorce, and child support will greatly reduce. So now what? (link)
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In my opinion, this isn't something you can sweep under the rug. When faced with a situation that could destroy a marriage and family, your wife decided to take that risk. I think the fairest thing to all would be to end it. And forcing someone to live a lie (the unborn child) their entire life would be devastating.
If you decide to go the other way and attempt to salvage this marriage, I would suggest counseling. But if one of your biggest fears is not getting laid for awhile, I don't think the marriage is a sturdy one on either of your parts in the first place. And my guess would be your children will be far worse off when they witness the possible dysfunction that may result from this ordeal if you two stayed together.
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Super random question ha.
18/F not that it really matters.
So my dad went food shopping last week and got me 4 boxes of Souffers mac & cheese that you heat up in the microwave. He had gotten them out of the open freezer in our grocery store so he thought since it was open that it was actually the refrigerated section and put the 4 boxes of mac & cheese into our fridge when he got home.
It was no more then 10 hours later that I noticed his mistake and moved them to the freezer.
A few days after I did that my mom came to visit and I was telling her about it and she said it might not be safe to eat them now and that I probably should have just kept them in the fridge and cooked them at a lower time. She says it could go either way, they might be okay or I might get sick if I eat them so now I'm worried.
We don't exactly have money to be throwing around so I really don't want them to go away but I don't wanna find out they're bad by throwing it up (which my mom joked would happen).
So the question is, what does anyone else think? Do you think they're still edible? Our fridge I'd say is a little colder then most, if you put an open cup of water in it for an hour or so, the top layer of water becomes frozen, bread that wasn't completely wrapped tight becomes hard as a rock (compared to bread in zip locked bags that just gets cold, not hard) (link)
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What's the ingredients? Why does it have to be in the freezer, is it already cooked?
My guess would be that it's ok, but that's just a guess. Food is no longer safe when it's outside it's danger zone for more than 4 hours, which is to say if it needs refrigerated and it's been out for 4 hours, it's no longer safe. But it was in the fridge, so I'm guessing even if it needed to be frozen it still wouldn't be harmful. It all really depends on why it needs to be frozen in the first place.
If it's because of the dairy, I think you'll be fine. I can't imagine what other ingredients would be in mac and cheese that would be cause for freezing.
I just checked their site and it seems like it's 100% cheddar cheese and noodles. I think you're all right.
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So I'm a girl and don't talk to any guys.
Recently I was in a group interview and noticed how the other girls spoke to the guys with ease. I thought it was because they knew each other-but they didn't!
Its just idk i just think whenever I talk to a guy they'll just presume I like them like that. How do you talk to guys because this isn't healthy! (link)
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You think they'll presume something... Keep in mind it isn't your responsibility to keep them from presuming things. If they think you like them in that way and you never said you did and they bring it up, they are to blame, not you.
Just try to place less emphasis on the fact that they're guys. If you think of them as individuals instead of part of a group, in this case the group would be "guys", you might be more comfortable.
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I am a university student and was supposed to be meeting with my tutor tomorrow to discuss how my dissertation is going. I felt a bit under prepared but I didn't want to tell her that in case she thought I hadn't been working hard enough, so I emailed her saying I had to work and asked if I could see her on Friday instead. The email bounced back, so later on I sent her another one, this time admitting that I was under prepared. As soon as I'd sent it I noticed that my original email had now been sent, so now she will have two emails from me with two different excuses and she will realise that I have lied.
What should I do? I've looked into recalling it etc but it isn't possible. (link)
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Just wait until you get a response. If she calls you on it, just be honest about how nervous you were because you weren't prepared. There's nothing else you can do.
And what you did wasn't such a horrible thing. I can't count how many people I know that have done similar things, it's no big deal. You'll be fine.
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I read one of the comments on a matter like this, Im also 21, the mother of the child is also 21, I did not mind her going ahead with an abortion, if it was 1 month back, but having a month were all she has been saying is that she is not sure, im growing attached to the little one, and i know being a parent will be a challenge, and i know it will change her body, and i know there are risks, but a father should have more rights, i hate the idea that she owns him/her, look my baby, my future is in her womb growing, and i really hate this arregant woman attitude, i understand if it was an abortion straight away i was happy with what she wanted to do, cause that would make her happy, i put my feelings aside, but now its gone past the point, now im thinking of the baby, and its safety, i know now this will destroy me, she should of done it sooner, she goes from saying she may have the baby, then not wanting to talk for a few weeks, we even spoke breifly about names, then she turned all 'i don't care about anything' attitude, im running about, doing everything, given that i did disapear for a couple of days, just to see some family, let my head balance out, and thats when i come back and she says shes going to the doctors tomorrow, and she doesnt want me with her, i said im going, i cant let her do this alone, if she does do it, obviously i will have to put up with it, i did once say i'll never bring a child into this selfish world, but now its going to be hard to let this one go. so the question how can i deal with this, give me a new outlook on life please, this is making me feel like a bullet in the brain is the best option. at this point it seems like murder. (link)
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It can be devastating for the guy in such situations, but it's certainly not unreasonable that a woman have such rights to her own body.
Going to a lawyer would be a mistake, I think. It would drag out a process that's painful for you. Only putting such a situation behind you will help you at all.
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I saw a movie when I was a little kid, and I remember some of the scenes. I've been wondering what this movie was for years and years.
Okay, so the first scene I remember was when the family in the movie were driving and the little girl says she needs to pee, so the mom takes her behind a sign and she says, "Look at the bunnies!" And then this big blue monster comes out of the woods. He is tall and has long dreads with a loincloth and a spear and he has three scars on his stomach that have teeth.
I remember the monster chased the dad and ate the little boy, and the little boy's arms were hanging out of the monster's stomach.
Does anyone know what this movie is?!?! (link)
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No, it isn't Night of the Lepus. Not sure what that movie is though. I haven't been able to find anything.
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So I'm in a bit of an unusual situation. I'm 26 years old and am still a virgin. It's not for any moral or religious reasons, it's just that I've always been highly independent as well as very introverted and those two kinda mix to result in me, a fairly attractive woman who has never had sex.
For a while I thought something was up with me like maybe I was gay or something and just didn't wanna be. But lately all I can think about is sex! I feel like a teenage boy or something. The upside to this is that I'm def. not gay! (no offense to gay people). I find myself checking men out more than I ever have before. Maybe I'm just a late bloomer or something? I dunno.
Is this normal??? (link)
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Completely normal.
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Talking to my boyfriend the other day and I told him I'd like to start putting some money towards rent since I spend more then half my time there eat/sleep/shower/tv he laughed and agreed and said it was like I was pseudo moving in?
Not sure exactly what he meant? (link)
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He meant that with you paying rent because you spend so much time there, it seems like you're moving in while you literally aren't. A "pretend" move in, if you will.
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I am a female, 13 going on fourteen. It's been about a year since i've seen this kid. He was the only reason I'd look forward to gym. But ... He was a special ed kid, still is. He never talked, hardly said a word to anyone. You'd think he was a fifth grader (then I was in seventh grade) but he was too in seventh grade, and we were the same age. He was small, inaudible, socially awkward, child-like, innocent. I was very attracted to him and because of that, it made me feel like bursting into tears. I know, I know, in a sentimental mood... But I felt like I loved him and now that I left that school (currently homeschooling) I miss him so much and i cant get him off my mind. I utterly regret never speaking to him because, yes what a big surprise, I was really nervous. And yes I'll admit it to the world, I really adore this special kid, and I'm very afraid I will never see him again. I am stuck. What should i do? Thanks. (link)
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First, I'd like to compliment you on how articulate this question is. It's rare on this site.
Unfortunately, my advice is to accept that you won't be with this kid in a relationship setting. While the future is undetermined, it would still be in your best interest to try or continue to try to get over him. Try to stop dwelling on regret and put forth effort to look forward. Your only other option is to go on a mission to contact him, but I fear that'll only end in disappointment.
It'll certainly suck for awhile, but I'm guessing you'll slowly think of him less and less and eventually get over him. I suggest trying to occupy your mind with other things, keep busy for awhile, develop some new hobbies, art, music, writing, etc. I know it won't drive him out of your head, but it should at least help distract you.
I'm not sure if this'll help you get over him or not and for all I know it'll offend, but since you never spoke with him I would guess that you loved the thought of him, not him. You can only see so much on the surface, so you can't really know someone you never talked to. So you aren't troubled with thoughts of him, you're troubled with your own imagined thoughts of what he might be.
And perhaps the fact that he's in special education makes you feel a bit troubled by your adoration of him? I'm not assuming, but I feel it would be understandable to feel this way and you make an appoint to mention his special needs, so it's a possibility. If you are a bit unsettled, it might make getting over the adoration harder. I just want to reassure you that there's nothing wrong with being drawn to someone of special needs. We don't choose who we're drawn to. The best we can do is let them fade away when we can't be with them.
It'll get better with time.
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I am going absolutely crazy trying to make this decision. When I first started college, I wanted to study psychology. I didn't want to be a psychologist, but I wanted to study psychology, at least starting off. Then, something happened. I came to the realization almost halfway through college that I wanted to be a teacher. Since I started college, I have been through quite a few things. The day before starting, my parents told me I was adopted and this year, my cousin, who was more like my brother, passed away at 19 from cancer. I have also lost two pets. Those of you who have pets can understand that it's quite difficult. So, last semester, all I wanted to do was finish school. I just wanted to move on to grad school or go to another university. I just didn't want to be there, at my school, longer than I had to. And, switching my major to education at that point would have added an extra year on to college.
I'm sure that if the death of my cousin would no thave occured, I probably would have stayed with education. Looking back, I actually loved the classes and have a strong passion for being a teacher. But, I was very, very depressed. I just didn't even want to deal with school anymore and wanted to be done with it all. I just know myself and I know I would have stayed. My cousin was also so excited and proud of me becoming a teacher that he would have encouraged me to stay. Before he passed away, he told me about how proud he was about me becoming a teacher and that he knew it was the right choice. I feel like in those couple of months after his passing, I was in a trance. I was just on autopilot. Now that I'm starting to see things clearer, I know that this is the path I want to go on, but I'm somehow deterred. I hope that you all can tell me what you think I should do.
I decided that psychology would have me graduating this coming summer. For me, that was too long at the time. With Sociology (and minoring in psychology), I would graduate this Decemeber. So, I decided to do that. Now, I regret it because I have no passion for sociology. At least, with psychology, I felt like was doing something for myself and had an interior motive. So, the following are my options.
A) Finish and graduate with sociology this December. Get a second bachelors in psychology and receive another diploma this summer. Then, start grad school in the Fall for elementary education (a masters program that leads to teacher certification). Nobody is rooting fo this, except me, because I feel like if I finish psychology, I won't feel like a failure since I'm doing what I planned on doing in college (undergrad) in the first place.
B) Forget about psychology. Just start grad school this spring for elementary education, that leads to certification. I have already been accepted to this program. I can decide if I want to start this spring, summer, or fall. This is the program that my boyfriend, grandparents, and aunt think I should do.
C) Forget about the master's program. Just do another bachelors in elementary or early childhood education. Forget about the masters for now, and do it later on. But, maybe getting another bachelors will be a good idea. My mom likes this idea. She thinks it will be cheaper than going go grad school. She isn't paying for this, so don't base it on that! I don't like this idea too much because it's going to take longer than the masters program and I need to make up quite a few pre-requisites that are level 1000 and 2000 courses and I just see that becoming more frustrating. Psychology would be a semester or 2. This would take like 3 more years!!!
Thoughts??? PLEASE TELL ME. Some of you can speak from experience and I just need another person to give me advice. (link)
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First, you aren't a failure if you don't do what you originally set out to do. The only way to fail is to not be happy with the final outcome. People do things they regret out of fear of feeling like a failure and in that, they fail in some way. Believe me! Don't let that voice in your head that says, "You'll have failed!" dictate your future. It's not always right.
Second, I imagine putting off something like a masters degree makes it more more difficult. The longer you put something off, the harder it is to will yourself to accomplish it.
Having said that, I'm not going to tell you what the best option is as you only know that. Just look at where you'll be at the end of school and how happy you'll be with yourself then. Ignore everyone else and ignore how much time/effort it'll take. Go with what you think will benefit you the most and will make you happiest.
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hi please answer! i need help please i\'m sorry is to long!
ok well i\'m in 7th grade nd i like this really cute guy that i think he likes me because he stares at me allot! so like i tough he really liked me i asked my frend if se could ask him so she did she asked do u like her? nd He said its not of your business is beetween me nd her Nervous soo den 3 days passed nd a frend told me that she heard that his brother that\'s on a grade more than him told him that i told him if he liked me two last year so my crush said ohh ok so i\'m not going out with her nd den 2 days passed nd he stared at me with like sad like thinking i don't knoe how to explain it nd that same day my frend told him the same nd he said no with his head down nd kinda sad nd den when she left another of my frend told me that she heard him telling a guy saying stupid girl o my gosh I can\'t believe he said that! it\'s cause i think he really likes me but is scared that he would be hurt i think he doesn\'t wants to go out with me because of what his brother told him nd yeah i asked his brother! omg i should\'ve not asked him but last year i asked him nd my crush is new to this school he wasn\'t here last year i didn\'t knew they were brothers nd yeah i understand that his big brother doesn\'t want him to get hurt but i really like him! how can i knoe the true? Please help i\'m sure i really like him nd i think he likes me to! Please help! (link)
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The only way out of this is to sit down and talk to him. Putting people in the middle complicates things, as you can see. Don't ask a friend to do it and don't wait to rely on what you've heard from other people. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and find out how he feels.
Maybe a relationship will come of it, maybe it won't. Either way, you'll know for sure and you'll either have what you want or it'll be easier for you to move on.
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Hello! 18/f
Ive been running for a little over a year. Since Im 18 I think I'm kind of in my prime, or just past it. So Ive been feeling a little discouraged about my race times.
My best time for racing, what I'm racing now, is between 26 mins flat, and a 26:30 for a 3.1 mile (5k) distance.
My goal is to be at a sub 20min time by my senior year in college. Ive been working so hard and sweating so much and sacrificing a lot of time but I just don't seem to get any better, even though I have a coach and I'm constantly pushing harder and harder.
So is it possible that I could still make that goal, or is it impractical do you think?
Wouldn't I have been able to run that fast by now if I was ever going to?
Thanks guys, all answers appreciated!
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Bodies are strange things. Each is different with different limitations. The truth is you never know. With the right training and diet you can always improve, especially at your young age. I wouldn't say you were at your peak and you should have reached your best time by now. But is it possible for you to improve your body as much as you'd like in the time you want to do it in? That's impossible to say.
In the end, I wouldn't say it's fruitless to try though.
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So I have a twitter account, to get away from my normal crowd of people on facebook, and one night I was having a funny conversation with a bunch of girls, but there was one girl that really stood out to me. She was beautiful, first thing I noticed were her eyes... By the end of that night she was my twifey (twitter wife).
Time went by and we got really close. Messaging like everyday, and flirting. I would say about 4-5 months into it, we said that we loved each other. I mean, I believe I really love her. She makes me feel special, like no one ever has.
**side note** We know A LOT about each other, and talk about almost everything because we're comfortable doing that. We message each other EVERYDAY now, and we have skyped, and I've sent her signed magazine by one of her fave actresses etc. We do stuff like a couple, only, we're not together. And also, she lives in the U.S, and I live in Canada. (9 hours difference). She is 19, and I'm 16.
So now it's 8 months into this whole thing, and I'm still crazy about her, but all I want to know is if it's really love. Is it weird over twitter? Like, she plans to comes visit me the summer coming up, and if all goes we'll, I'm moving to the U.S with her when I finish high school. IS THIS LOVE? (link)
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In my honest opinion? No. It's infatuation. But does that mean you shouldn't go through with these plans? No. And it certainly doesn't mean that your feelings are very strong.
Love isn't something that just clicks when you meet someone and it's not even found after months into a relationship. I don't think you fall in love with anyone until far into a relationship, possibly years. You fall in love with someone when you look at them after so much time has passed and you still aren't bored with them. It's when you can look back and notice that infatuation is gone and molded into a oneness and almost complete understanding of one another.
That's my take on it anyway.
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(Its a bit long but please bare with me) My case is a long distance relationship so i just wanted to see what you can make out from this and give me your opinion & advice on how to make us get together again:
We were in a long distance relationship for 15months, me (22) and him (35). I am a student, I am Indonesia but currently live in Malaysia doing my degree, my ex BF is English, working&living In England. we had a big arguments a week ago and he stopped calling me, I called him why and he texted me with : the arguments got him to think that our relationship isnt a proper one.He doesnt think that he wants a relationship where He only see someone 3-4times a year.Because he said that he's missing out on a normal life during the rest of the year,and he cant do normal things in weekends and cant go on his own holiday(bcoz he thinks that all his days off should spend for me, no other options).And he said that we have fun but dont really have anything in common. We're 13hrs away by flight and he went down to see me 3 times (once he stayed with family) and I flew over there for 3 weeks on my holiday (aug-sept2012)to stay with him and his parents.I really think we are something and distance shouldnt be a problem. I dont want to lose him because I love him so much. I think he's the one. He's great! But he said that he's not happy. It makes me sad but i feel like i do not want to give up. I am having hard times, ive been crying for over a week. and it really bothering my study.I dont like it because exams is coming soon after mid sem break. So, I have an idea,I still have the visa and some savings where I can put all the money (and maybe borrow from some friends) to get a flight tickets to see him in england for my next mid sem break (in 2 weeks time).I really want to see,hug him and have good time with him. I miss him so bad! and hopefully he will change his mind to be with me again after he see me fly over to england for a week just to see him. I want to tell him that we strong enough to make it works! its only 1,5years to go before I complete my study. Then Ill do anything that I could do to get any jobs where I can be close to him (because he is not willing to move to Asia) . He just need to be atience enought.But eventhough if he still not change his mind (still want to break up) then I think Ill be pleased to leave him in a good way (not texting). Im sure Ill feel better after and I can do well for study and exams.I love him so much! and I could tell you that he still loves me.
Do u think its necessary to do my idea? Or shall I just accept the reality to lose him and try another way to be not sad (But I cant figure out how)? I really need advice. I have a week before if I have to book my flight! Pls help me :( (link)
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The person you should ask this is him. No one else can know what he's thinking or how he'll react. Hell, he might not even know. Talk it over with him.
But if you're planning on surprising him with this trip, don't.
In my opinion, he really sounds like he wants out of the relationship. The distance isn't the only excuse he gave, there's more to it than that. You have to consider what's best for him as well. I would move on.
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I need you guys to help me.I have a boyfriend who I love very much;he's my baby and the reason I'm happy everyday. Then,why do I feel attracted to other men as well?Since me and my boyfriend have very good sex.Last week,I was at my best friend's house and when he approached me to hug me,I felt sexually aroused when he pressed his body against mine:( This isn't correct.I know it,but I just don't know how to make it stop.Help?Thanks!! (link)
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This sounds crazy, but my girlfriend and I both went through the same thing and are now in a committed, open relationship. It's certainly not the common solution and is likely frowned upon, but it works for us.
As for your case, I think you need to make a list of priorities and figure out what's most important. Is your boyfriend worth this guilt? It sounds like he is. If not, leave him. If he is, are boundaries well defined? What would make him jealous? What's over the line? If these are well established, then concentrate on not crossing these lines. It'll help with the guilt. Unfortunately, physical attraction isn't a choice. It's something we just have to deal with. Sometimes we can work around it, perhaps by spending less time with the men you are attracted to, but it's still going to be there until attractions naturally change, if they do.
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