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Long distance
So I have a twitter account, to get away from my normal crowd of people on facebook, and one night I was having a funny conversation with a bunch of girls, but there was one girl that really stood out to me. She was beautiful, first thing I noticed were her eyes... By the end of that night she was my twifey (twitter wife).
Time went by and we got really close. Messaging like everyday, and flirting. I would say about 4-5 months into it, we said that we loved each other. I mean, I believe I really love her. She makes me feel special, like no one ever has.
**side note** We know A LOT about each other, and talk about almost everything because we're comfortable doing that. We message each other EVERYDAY now, and we have skyped, and I've sent her signed magazine by one of her fave actresses etc. We do stuff like a couple, only, we're not together. And also, she lives in the U.S, and I live in Canada. (9 hours difference). She is 19, and I'm 16.
So now it's 8 months into this whole thing, and I'm still crazy about her, but all I want to know is if it's really love. Is it weird over twitter? Like, she plans to comes visit me the summer coming up, and if all goes we'll, I'm moving to the U.S with her when I finish high school. IS THIS LOVE?
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You're going to have to ask her what her final intentions are. You're essentially asking us to read her mind. It could just be she is doing this as a titillating dalliance with an American guy that she has no intention of following through on (especially given that she is three years older than you and how much more mature she probably is than you right now) or maybe her feelings are indeed sincere. It's hard to determine.
I used to go on Second Life and this stuff happens there all the time, too. People meet, start dating virtually, get married (again, virtually) and then get divorced. Meanwhile, they may have real life mates they have zero intention of separating from. It's just an escape. I'm not saying that this is the case with your interaction, but you have to have that possibility in the back of your mind. That means that you don't ignore potential opportunities that may be available immediately around you.
Thus, the tack to take is have fun with it and see what ultimately happens, but don't make it the be all and end all.
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In my honest opinion? No. It's infatuation. But does that mean you shouldn't go through with these plans? No. And it certainly doesn't mean that your feelings are very strong.
Love isn't something that just clicks when you meet someone and it's not even found after months into a relationship. I don't think you fall in love with anyone until far into a relationship, possibly years. You fall in love with someone when you look at them after so much time has passed and you still aren't bored with them. It's when you can look back and notice that infatuation is gone and molded into a oneness and almost complete understanding of one another.
That's my take on it anyway.
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