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I am of 16 and female....it my first love ever....i love him a lot and i know he love me too...but i dont what had happened to him, his reaction was changed suddenly....he always says i love u a lot and i cant live without u,u r too sexy, too beaution,amazing,etc.....i love him too...and i know i cant live without him....suddenly his reaction towards me changed and he started saying dont text me or dont call me by mistake also...i will change my no. And will never talk to u.....it hurted me badly....i love him madly....seeing his changed attitude made me cry....and made me to do hillarious things like cutting my hand with knife,etc.....i know he love me more than anything in the world but at the same time i cant bear his changed behaviour too.....please give advices....i need u all... Thank you! (link)
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first of all just becasue of your bf being a jerk dont mess yourself up! if your bf is saying all of these cruel things, in my opinion i dont think you guys ahould be together.
If you guys can work it out then that would be great! you guys should talk everything over, tell him how you feel before it's to late and he says stop talking to me or something!
you are your own person and don't let anyone take that away from you!
"sometimes the best way to get someone's attention is to stop giving them yours"
maybe ignore him for a little and if he really loves you, he will come back calling you and wondering what happening with you.
hope i helped and good luck!(:
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I'm always crying and my eyes are usually swollen, I've had a rough year, constantly getting bullied. My teachers just pretended that they cared what was going on in my life. My face is usually greasy + pimply, and I have a crush on a guy who will probably never like me back. I hate being 12. (link)
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don't cry, because no matter how hard you ccry your never going to change the facts of life, ive learned from experience when my mom passed away! and when your getting bullied stick up for yourself! even if your scared to death yell right in their face and say something like "im not scared to beat you" or something, because if they see your scared, they have won, but if you stick up for yourself and play around pretendong your tough, you might freak them out.
my face used to be greasy also,, theres these pads you can buy to wipe your face and all the grease goes on the pads, you can buy them at walgreens, ( thats where i bought mine)
and the acne, maybe ask your parents to bring you to the dermotologist ( its a doctor who takes care of the skin) or buy a very good face wash!
and dont say a guy will prob never llike you becsue you dont know that for sure! be more open and have a more fun life, find new friends, be funny, outgoing, hang out more.! laugh!!
"laugh as much as your breathe and love as much as you live"
i hope i helped and good luck, hope everything goes well, and start talking to that guy! let him notice you!(:
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My mom and I have always had a friend relationship and she has always left me for someother guy and doesn't ask to see me that much and she alway text me about her life and hardly asks about mine and just a few days ago me and her got in a fight and she cused at me calling me a B**** and that I was a spoild little brat and all I said is that I was made cus she left and has non of her kids and she still calls herself a mom and she always lied to me and tryed to play it off and i am feed up with it is it ok to hate your mom for all the shit she has put me in? Please help the more help I get the better.
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well she is your mom and you should try to respect her no matter what.
if i was in your position i would bring my mom out to dinner or something and talk everything over but dont tell or give additude because it will fuel the fire even mmore.
tell her how you really feel and dont make a joke about it. have good points on what you want to talk about, but no matter how much you talk you can NEVER change a person, be respectful and tell her how you feel.
i hope everything goes well, good luck!(:
maybe say something like this to her:
“The word “mommy” is not defined by whether or not a woman has a biological child. You can never produce a child and be a mommy, likewise you can have 20 kids and never be a “mommy.” A mommy is a woman who cares for a child’s both physical and emotional needs ahead of her own. A true mommy is hard to come by, but a truly special thing.”
i know i dont have much on this but i hope i helped, good luck!(:
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I'm twelve years old and my sister is fifteen years old. I also have two other sister.Me and my fifteen year old sister are always fighting she always teases me and then I yell at her. We just never seem to get along. How do I stop? I don't want to be hating her when I'm and adult. (link)
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i have the same problem as you but i learned how to deal with it. when your sister says saomething bad about you, i wouldnt even give a smart comment back, i would ignore her and walk away, dont yell back because if you do, shes going to know your getting mad and do it even more.
f sshe says something like " your ugly" then just laugh at it and say "thanks" and walk away but dont be rude and dont let it get to you
and thers always karma.
dont let her get to you and ignore her, you guys are 3 years apart, if she keeps bothering you and teasing you, shes the baby, be the older person and ignore her.
hope i helped and good luck!(:
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umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ? (link)
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well, your 13 and i dont think it's right to be drinking, i dont think its even right to be derinking at all for any age. all it's doing is messing with your brain! i don't think your a slut because that happened but i do think that it was your fault for all of that because of the drinking. try and lay off of it because you don't, you will be labeled one because it might keep happpening, and you dont know what can hapen at that point. maybe one time you can actually get pregnant, so try and stay away from the drinking, in my opinion.
i hope you listen to me and good luck, hope i helped(:
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how do i get a guy to noticee me ? (link)
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start to talk to him and don't be shy. talk to him regularly and maybr one day dont talk to him and see if he starts to talk to you, and if hes right next to you or somrthign in class look at the clock or something and if he looks there to, you know he was staring at you!
maybe ask each other for your numbers and start to text then maybe start to hang out haha,
hope i helped and good luck!(:
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I really want to die please can you help me find a fast painless way to do so I have been thinking about this for 2months and I am very sure. (link)
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do NOT do that, and DONT EVER think about doing that EVER agin! why would you want to do something that horrible...
when something really bad happens to me, the things i think about are the good things, what i have and what im thankful for and MANY people are WAY worse off then you! you have it WAY better then MANY people! and you should be thankful of that, and just because of one thing that happened or whatever that is, you should never think of thinking or doing something like that.
because i know someone who did something like that... and if you do that, you dont know how many people are going to miss you to death, cry there selves to sleep wishing you were here with them! you dont know how many things your going to miss on earth, and doing that would be a sin... a BIG sin. wait until your time comes and pray everynight to God.
you may not be able to see him or hear him but if you pray to him he will help you! God Bless You! and please dont ever do it or think about it!(:
hope i helped and got that all through your head and i hope you listen to me!(:
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I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old. I married him when I was 16. I know that I was too young to make a choice like that, but we were so In love. Everything was great until we got married after that he changed. It was like he had decided that he already had me so there was no reaso to try anymore. this june 22 was our 4 year wedding anniversary, we have two children our son is 3 and our daughter is 1. We both love our children very much, but I feel like our love for each other is slipping away. I have not been happy for a long time. He makes me feel so ugly and unwanted. But I am afraid to leave him. I have been with him since I was 15. I went from living with my mom to living with him. I have never lived on my own before. I am afraid that I cant do it on my own. I dont have a license to drive, I never had a job before, and I dont have a place to go. So I feel traped. I love him but like you would love a family member I dont think I love him romanticly anymore. He always puts me down like for instance we have not had sex in a very long time I dont even know when we had sex last, and I always come on to him and try to turn him on but he never wants it. So the other day I asked him why he doesnt want to have sex anymore and he said that sometimes he does get in the mood but then the thought of having sex with me turns him off and he doesnt know why. That hurt me so much. How pathetic and ugly am I if my own husband doesnt want me. I feel so alone all the time. I want to stay because I am afraid I cant make it on my own and I am afraid to be alone. But I want to leave because I feel unloved and he makes me feel ugly and He is very mean and aggressive with me. What should I do? Can anyone help me? (link)
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well if he's making you feel unwanted and ugly i dont think you guys should be together anymore.
but he is your husband and you made a vow to him "to death do us apart" and if you break up with him, think about your kids! how are they going to feel when they get older not knowing who their dad is...
maybe try to talk to him about it... but if that doesnt work, i would call it all off.
because you dont want to live your entire life like that, hopefully when you talk to him everything works out and he understands, maybe you guys go out to a nice dinner and talk it through or something.
good luck and i hope everything goes well!(:
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I'm fourteen and I am babysitting an eight year old girl and 5 year old boy for the next three and a half weeks. My first day was today, and I was already running out of ideas, which scared me to death! Any recommendations? (link)
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oh boy! there are a lot of things you can do with them, you can bring them out for ice-cream or make them an ice-cream sundae, have them bake something with you, play a board game, go to the park, play with a ball in the backyard, watch a movie, tell stories, go for a walk, sing songs they know and laugh together, do their hair and just mess around, dance and be weird ( so they laugh and you guys can bond), you can do a lot of things with them or maybe ask them or buy them something at the store and keep them accupied.
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Is it ok to love your cousin? I dont mean everyday love love i mean like in love with him?Would I ever be able to have a normal relationship with him? (link)
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in my opinion i dont think it's right to love your cousin in that kind of way. he's family... you know? i would stick with nonfamily relationships.(: hope i helped.!(: and good luck try to stick with non family haha.:)
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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with? (link)
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it means that the guy is a jerk and you should dump him so some other guy can take his place and treat you better, because i guarentee you or the person your talking about is WAY better then that guy and should be treated WAY better also!(:
hope i helped(:
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I really want a tattoo, nothing huge, but I want something really meaningful in one of my languages but I don't know what to get. Any ideas? (link)
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maybe do a little thing on your ankle, i think thats cute!(:
you can do quotes, insects (butterflies) animals, a word, a number...
i know i dont have much info on that but i hope i helped!(:
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http://i117.photobucket.com/albums/o50/maureenroxs/MEEEEUGLY.jpg
I am skinny, yet my face is chubby, Hair cut advice, its looking dull and flat.. and makeup advice? thanks How old do you think i look in this picture? (link)
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your really skinny(: im jealous haha.
if i were you for my hair i would either get highlights or cute your hair shoulder lenghth
makeup: i would put eyeliner, masscara ( good black one so you can see your eyelashes good(:
maybe some lipgloss
in my opinion i wouldnt put the liquid foundation on because im pretty sure it clogs your pores. if you want to use coverup, i would go with the powder.
but don't get me wrong because you are really pretty and i bet a lot of guys will go after you just the way you are(:
hope i helped(:
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19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this? (link)
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a lot of guys are jekrs and will hurt you. in my opinion maybe talk with his friend and see how he is or watch closely to see if he flirts with other girls. become friends first or just hang out for awhile before you date and see how the guy acts before you date him.
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at my daughters school next year,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls? Also, why are boys allowed to be shirtless in the presence of girls? Why is no sense of modesty maintained (link)
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haha swimming with the opposite sex is normal. and if she is in 9th grade she probably know right from wrong, so if anything happens, she knows how to handle it. Just think about it as a public pool, all different sexs' are in there and all different age groups.
hope i helped.(:
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18/f
I believe in karma, I really do. And that's why it scares me. I'll start off that in 7th grade, I liked another guy while I was dating someone else. But I chose to stay with my boyfriend during that time and forgot about the guy I was crushing on. And after we broke up, I got cheated on 3 times in a row by 3 different guys (not at the same time of course). So that's what gets me so scared now. I LOVE the person who I'm with right now, after all the people I have dated... He's different. I really like him, and I really want to stay.
But lately I've been really paranoid of him liking another girl or having some interest or whatnot. The reason why was because 6 months ago, I had a coworker who liked me. It was obvious, he showed some interest but he knew that I had a boyfriend. The thing is, I started to like him and I hated that about myself. Every day I went to work, he was working with me and then when I get off my boyfriend picks me up from work. I felt so guilty, but I never let my sight off of my boyfriend. Did I cheat? No. There were friendly hugs like bye, but that's it. Nothing more.
My boyfriend knew that he liked me. Later on, I told him how I felt because I never liked hiding anything from him. And he was hurt. But the thing is, I stopped talking to my coworker because he eventually quit, and now I only ask how he's doing once every... 3 months?? But because of that I'm so paranoid that the guy that I really like, what if he likes someone else?
I thought that maybe the karma was the first time my boyfriend broke up with me. I was devastated and we got back together a couple of months later on. And now I'm afraid of him breaking up with me again.
Do you think karma will hit me? Or do you think the first break up was actually the karma? (link)
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well it's a good thing that you realize what you did wrong. if you know that you have already won. try and change it now. you never know when karma is going to hit you, nobody does, all you can do is be the best you can, don't lie and if your talking to some guy and starting to like him... that's normal, that happens to a lot of people, but at least you didn't chheat on your boyfriend.
when your talking to you bf you can say something like " at my work there was some guy i was talking to and he was pretty cute" or something and if your bf looks at you all weird you can say something like "but not as cute as you, and give him a kiss or something." haha
but the moral of the story is karma is karma and you never know when its going to hit you, try and do the best you can.!(: hope i helped.!
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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months. we've been long time friends, and dated once before, but now its becoming more serious. lately, he's been getting tutored by his ex girlfriend. she goes over to his house, and he goes to hers all the time. they used to have a really close relationship, and now its getting back on track. he says i have nothing to worry about and he wont ever go back to her. i feel very jealous and insecure. i dont know what to do. please help.
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what i would do if i was in your position is trust your boyfriend and don't be jealous, it was his EX girlfriend for a reason.(:
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I'm a twelve year old girl and need cash...fast.
I owe:
$29 to my mom for not returning books borrowed from the library using her card
$6 more to my mom for breaking her compact powder (I'm clumsy)
$10.65 to library for books not returned
I also need a lot of extra cash because we're taking a trip in five days. My mom deprived me of $50 (birthday money I just got yesterday) because of the $35 I owe her. Add in all those expenses and that leaves me with... negative $90.35. ( I have $5) I also need to buy summer clothes (my closet is full of sweatshirts and long pants). Help!!!!!!! :( (link)
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if i waas in your position right now i would talk to my mom and say " mom you know i cant make all this money" and see what she says and try to make a deal with her! maybe for everything you do around the house she can pay you, an allowance, ( i know she wont be getting the money back because shes paying you and your giving it right back) but at least your being resposible and trying to help and do the right thing. tell your mom how sorry you are and it will never happen again ( and make sure it doesnt so she doesnt yell at you or anything haha)
or maybe help your grandparents, or any family members and they an pay you. hope i helped and good luck(:
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i'm eighteen years old.was in a relationship for the past four years.everything was absolutely fine..till my bf decided it had to end(a week back).i kinda understand why he had to do so..and totally know he did the right thing..but i'm not able to let go..though breaking up was the most practical thing to do, i'm not able t accept it..and the thing that makes it even more complicated is that we had been doing more than just hanging out.so after all this..i feel like i've been used and cheated..i'm not able to tell my parents about it cuz i'm feeling guilty.. have already attempted suicide twice but it didn't really work..i have no idea what to do,, every little thing in my life reminds me of him..i wanna hate him but am really not able to...
and knowing that he's moved on is only hurting me more...i don't know what to do and i need all the help i can get...not to get back to him..but to let go of him..... (link)
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this happens to everybody after a relationship! its not only you! and i mean everybody! soon enough you will move on. and i guarentee at leats a couple things he does reminds him of you! everybody moves on and soon enough you will forget about him... and if you dont want to you can always be friends with him! but DONT commit suicide, please! you should never even think about it just because of your boyfriend! you are very special and im sure some other guy you will like will love you... and if you would have done that, you would never have got thagt chance, but please dont EVER try again!(:
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my skin isnt sentive but ive feel like ive tried everything to get rid of acne. it works the first dayy but then fails. any ideas on what i should use? ps kinda poor so i cant afford expensive treatment anything you can find in a store? (link)
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im not sure if this works but my sister used to have acne (it didn't go away all the way) but she stopped washing her face and it looked a little better, im doing that right now also. im not sure if thats going to work, but i hope it does. (we only have bumps/zits on our forehead) so im not sure what you have... but goodluck!(:
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