Member Since: June 29, 2011
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I am almost positive I was raped but I am not 100%...About a year ago I was with my well now ex boyfriend and we had been dating for over a year...One day we ended up at his house and we were doing stuff...Well I always got really scared and wanted to cry so I was asking my "sex expert" of a friend what to do and she thought I was ready to have sex. I told my boyfriend this and he started pushing me to do so. He used everything he could to get me to give in from family, to religion, to friends, to if I really loved him...Even though before he said he would wait as long as I needed...Especially since from the start of the relationship I told him that I didn't want to have sex until marriage and he was perfectly fine with that. When I told him to give me to the next time I saw him so I could make sure I was positive and make it hopefully more romantic he got mad at me and was yelling at me that I was going to do what I normally do and back out then accused me of blue balling him all of the time and how it wasn't fair on his part. Eventually I screamed fine then went to the bathroom and cried a little then went back to his room and just gave in...Is this rape? We were fighting and I know he pressured me but I don't know what it is legally considered...I absolutely hate myself for what I did.
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hm, this is a tough one. I dont think you were raped, but i think you think you were raped and right now this is what we need to focus on. Every girl is entitled to a secret or a few, but i believe talking to your mom or maybe a sister about this could possiby result in a much better answer. obviously he is your ex for a reason.
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I really want to die please can you help me find a fast painless way to do so I have been thinking about this for 2months and I am very sure. (link)
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NO. Trust me, there is much more to live for. Think about what you'll do to your family and your friends. I think suicide is the most selfish act anyone can think of. I recently had a friend's mom attempt suicide. Trust me, it get's better. Everything will get better. I think everyone has those moments. When they feel like no one helps, or even listens. Be smart about this, and DON'T do it. There's more to life, and it's not fair for you to end yours so dramatically and unecessarily.
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So, I dated this guy for a few months but I've known him basically all my life. To put it simply, he's a horrible person. He loves to fight- I mean LOVES it. We didn't live in the same town so when he would go to parties on weekends without me (I had to work), he or his friends would call me saying I need to calm him down because he got into a fight literally EVERY WEEKEND. He would always instigate it, and he'd always win. He also was easily angered by me, and would call me a slut or accuse me of things I didn't do. So here's my problem: Although I broke up with him several months ago, I've noticed I have a horrible temper now. I think because I was always having to defend myself, or pretend I didn't care, or act like I was strong when I wasn't.. now I don't let anybody in. I don't know how to start caring more about the people around me. I used to think it was a good thing that I didn't take crap from people anymore, but now I'm starting to realize I've become cold and when somebody does something I don't like, I tell them. And when little things happen, I get way more heated than I should. How do I learn to calm down? And how do I learn to have better relationships with people? (link)
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Try and remember how you felt when his friends would contact you, and remember how much it hurt you when he verbally abused you. try and force yourself to go back to how things used to be and if that doesnt work maybe consult a therapist or talk to a family member about your issues
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i lost my virginity when i was 13 with my first ex boyfriend. at first i was afraid of doing that act, but he really wanted to do it with me.. i couldnt resist him because i love him. so we had sex. we did it 3 times. but then i broke up with him. because i felt he really did not love me and he's just using me. i regret of letting him use me:( now i can't resist having sex with boys i like. at the age of 17 i already had 11 sex experiences. i always regret when i think about it. im so sad, i think im a slut but i dont want to accept it. im so sad:( i dont know what to do.. im afraid and hate to accept than no other guys would love me because of these past experiences. i wanna die :(((((((((((((( (link)
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just because you've had 11 partners doesnt make you a slut. trust me, you'll find that special someone. make sure to get to know the person before anything really happens. i think you'll be ok.
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I've had boyfriends and guys who liked me that I liked and there's a guy that I like that likes me too. I'm a 13 year old girl and I really like him. we text a lot and stuff and I wanna kiss him:) ive never made out or kissed anyone before. he has. he barely knew the girl and wished he hadnt kissed her. He said he wished he kissed me, he would of and that he would date me but he knows I don't want a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to date the boy I like that likes me back? but any tips and or advice on kissing really would help. :) (link)
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nothing is wrong with that. if the time cmes and you wanna kiss him then GO FOR IT. you dont need to be together to kiss someone else. its not a lifelong committment.
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Hey guys, I was wondering how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend. When me and my boyfriend first went out we spend almost everyday together. We do spend time together, but like every other day, like 3 to 4 times a week now. We been together 5 months. And I just want to hear from other people how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend? (link)
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i think that if you want to be with each other and hang out, then do it. who cares how much time you hang out with each other.
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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with? (link)
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if he's ashamed of you, you clearly deserve someone way better. trust me. it's not worth it
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