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Attracted to bad boys
19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this?
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I don't know if this is really accurate but I had a friend who dated bad boys because she liked the thought of being able to change them or something like that. That may not be the case for you but but its a possibility.
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a lot of guys are jekrs and will hurt you. in my opinion maybe talk with his friend and see how he is or watch closely to see if he flirts with other girls. become friends first or just hang out for awhile before you date and see how the guy acts before you date him.
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Maybe you are afraid to be with the nice guys you know what to expect from the "bad boys" they will use you and then drop you like a bad habit, but you tend to be with them because you know what to expect and you stray from the good ones because you know they can make you fall for them and you dont want to REALLY get hurt hope i helped
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I have no scientific evidence to back this statement up. It is my guess you are an adrenaline junkie. You like the high you get from the adrenaline surge you get when going out with bad boys that you don't get from dating good guys. The thing is you know it is wrong, you know you could get hurt and you could even get in trouble. Yet you can't help yourself.
If I have described you correctly there is no magic pill that can fix this. Adrenaline junkies are just as hooked as people that get high on drugs. Fact is though getting help to control your need for the adrenaline high is far easier than for drug induced highs.
You have already taken the first step to fixing this problem. By asking for an explanation of why this is happening you are also asking for help to fix it. The next step is to get that help from someone that can actually help you. A therapist is that someone. You need to find out the what and the why of your need before you can understand and control your need.
My advice is to find a psychologist to help you find those answers. Your family doctor should be able to recommend one.
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I guess the only explanation for it would be the unpredictability, because they can be nice one time and mean the next but you don't know when or for how long. They're not like the 'nice guys' who are so predictable, send you flowers, sweet texts, stay clear of arguments. With 'bad boys' you tend to get more adrenaline pumping through you because of the heated arguments and if you are sexually active then the passionate sex. Just things like that that make you choose the bad boy over the nice boy. You just get more out of the relationship.
Hope this helps xx
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I am this EXACT same way, my first boyfriend was sweet and I got tired of him and dumped him for my friend who is a total pot head, shop lifts, parties, gets drunk, and would of course treat me like shit. He told me he loved me fucked me then kicked me to the curb for some other girl. I think it is the whole the girls want what they can't have. After we broke up on Christmas while on vacation and I swore off dating. I got back to my home town and all the nice guys would treat me great, they'd take me on dates bring me flowers and were nice. But I knew I could have them if I wanted and it made them undesirable, and low and behold the only guy who seemed appealing was the bad boy who didn't like me. Well I got him and he treats me like shit. I think it is the whole you don't know the bad boy and you wanna figure him out or try to get him to like you.
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16/M For some reason I have noticed that A LOT of girls are like this. I used to be "bad" But then I snapped out of brainwash and started avoiding trouble. Ever since then I get A LOT Less attention now. I find it really anoying when I'm in school and a really nice gal is with a prick. Its like that with a gal that I like, I was always nice to her, but she seems to like some other dude that has no manners and is disrespectful. So now I'm going to avoid her and not talk to her anymore. Maybe she'll realise. So now I have to meet another gal that is my type, which is very very rare.
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