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ex girlfriend is tutoring MY boyfriend.
i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months. we've been long time friends, and dated once before, but now its becoming more serious. lately, he's been getting tutored by his ex girlfriend. she goes over to his house, and he goes to hers all the time. they used to have a really close relationship, and now its getting back on track. he says i have nothing to worry about and he wont ever go back to her. i feel very jealous and insecure. i dont know what to do. please help.
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It's absolutely disrespectful for him to be spending time with his ex for any reason. Your feelings of jealousy and insecurity are not unreasonable. He has put you and your relationship in a very uncomfortable and unfair situation. This should have never happened and I'm so sorry that it did. Whatever his ex was tutoring him in could have been done by another tutor. Trust me when I say this was all just an excuse to have time with the ex. In relationships where your boyfriend/girlfriend matter you simply just don't put yourself in positions that would raise questions of being faithful. If he truly cares about you and your relatiosnhip he will let the ex go and focus on you. If I were you I wouldn't accept this at all.
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I agree with melissa123 but then again I would tell him to get another tutor because its not that you dont trust him its you shouldnt trust her maybe things ended for a reason but if their tutoring all the time theirs a reason no guy cares about their grades that much even if they are failing but if you trust him then stick with that its just my opinion but if he ever blows you off to learn their is a PROBLEM :-0
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what i would do if i was in your position is trust your boyfriend and don't be jealous, it was his EX girlfriend for a reason.(:
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There's two ways of taking this. 1, you can tell him how uncomfortable in makes you feel and that you'd like if they studied in a more public setting or with more people. Or 2, you can be laid back and trust him. Trusting him may be hard to do since it's an awkward situation but it will make him love you 20x more. The fact that you trust him and won't let something like that get to you will actually be sexy to him. Either option is acceptable. Do what ever makes you feel better. Personally I would let it be though because saying something could possibly push him into her arms. Hope I helped!
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well if you say something it might make him want to cheat if he isn't already. if it was me i would face to face ask him about it and if he says its not like that trust him. :)
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If it is making you uncomfortable you should definatly say something about it. But you also need to trust him.. If he says you have nothing to worry about than most likly you dont have anything to worry about.. I am sure its hard but you would want him to trust you if it were the other way around.. Dont feel insecure if he would do anything to hurt you or mess up your relationship it wouldnt be your fault at all... good luck
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