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Q: To start yo off I have a BIG crush on this guy. Me and him are both kind of quiet, sweet, down to earth, and try hard in school but not the best grades. He's AMAZING, and I like everything about him. Honest - if you asked me what about him I liked and why I liked him, I could write 2 books on it.. Anyways...some boy I'm kind of friends with knew I liked him and he told the boy I like and some other people. Now, its okay if some people know but the boy I like himself... It ruined everything. Now I feel as if I try to talk to him, he will just think its because I like him and I'm trying to date him.

My friend is kind of friends with him and wants to say to him we are great together but I'm not sure if its a good idea, does it put pressure on him?

I wan't to go to the dance with him this Friday so bad. I haven't even ever talked to him before so is it weird that I like him so much? I constanly think abut him... also what should I do about the dance? I'm scared to just ask him sine I've never talked before, and it would be kind of weird to suiddently just start talking to him now after all this time.

i understand completely! dont worry..talking to him isnt going to make him think youre just talking because youre trying to date him..as long as youre just TALKING and not flirting excessively, that is. CONFIDENCE! know that he'd be very happy to talk to you and you have nothing to lose..and just start a conversation one day..you could just bring up something relating to school..thats a start..and then progress into other conversations. i dont think it would be weird to suddenly start talking to him and i'm sure hes wanting to get to know you as well! about the dance..i know its gonna be hard but you should definetely go for it..the easiest way is to casually mention it such as "so are you goin to the dance friday?" and if he says yeah and doesnt mention another girl you could say "me too..maybe we could go together if you wanna (or you could say "maybe we can meet up there"). Even if it doesnt work out,i dont think you should give up because going after what you want in life is important and who knows..he could end up falling for you! so just go for it.

Q: Hi. I am trying to upload a slideshow i made with Windows Movie Maker. [It has video clips, no pictures] I can't seem to upload it. I tried using www.onetruemedia.com but after a while it didn't work. It would say that it was sent to youtube but when I went to check nothing came up. I really REALLY worked hard on this! I don't have another movie maker and nothing I tried to upload works! If this helps I have Windows XP home edition and I have an Emachines.

Any Help Is Greatly Appreciated! ^.^
-Flaggal

MAKE SURE that you saved it onto your computer, not just saved it. saving it on your computer takes a few minutes and it involves a couple steps but thats the only way to get it into websites because otherwise the files too big. on the menu on the left that has the special effects etc,..it'll say save to my computer.

Q: This weekend at a church event, I accepted Christ. It was quite amazing, my leaders and friends helped so much, but now the weekends over and I'm not sure what to next. I talked to a few people who recommened baptism, but I don't feel like that is what I really should do, not yet anyways. I attend a church on occasion with my mom, but my family isn't religious, which makes me wanting to be a stronger Christian difficult. I havent told my parents about being saved yet, I'm unsure of their reactions.

So, what should I do now? How do I start to help my relationship with God grow? How do I explain to my parents whats going on? Is there anything I should know?

yay im happy for you! don't worry about what your parents think..this is YOUR life and you made that decision on your own and its a very good decision..just tell them that you became a Christian and it's the way you want to live your life. you can help your relationship with God grow by praying and talking to God just as you would talk to a friend..he is pretty much the best friend you could ever because he'd never turn his back on you..and just having faith in him and his word. at times you may question some things but thats completely normal..i hope that answers your question.

Q: ok so ive known this one guy for about 2 years now and i absolulty love him to death.the thing is that hes changed this year hes alot more into populartiy and himself..he told me he loved me and lead me on to think that we were going to be together and didnt even ask me out..recently we had a full week of no talking..no eye contact..it kills me inside to feel like he doesnt care about me like he said he did..now he wants to just be friends and i do too but he just wont talk to me about it.no matter how much i have tried he wont talk about it.and i have tried so many times to talk about it...he seems to be avoiding the entire situation as much as he can.i dont know if i should just be happy that i was the better person and get over it and just try to be his friend, just act like nothing happend or just move on and not talk to him anymore..any advice?

i second the girl below me! i love you to death and you dont deserve all of his bullshit..whatevers meant to be will find its way.

Q: me and my friend Vanessa are really close(yes same friend from last question)but....things are slipping.Im becoming popular, hanging out with new,mature people, and she well isnt.I want her to fit in with my new friends but,whenever she does she makes a fool out of her self what do i do?Im not gunna ditch her, but i am gunna stay friends with the populars, cause theyre really nice to me!

popularity should have absolutely nothing to do with a friendship. if youre a true friend, you should accept her for who she is and always stay her friend no matter what. in reality, popularity is just a waste of time. having true friends and true happiness is billions times better.

Q: last night i was at a party that my girlfriend dropped me off at because she trusts me, but i got really drunk and cheated on her, now she doesnt know anyone that was at that party, and if i dont tell her, shell never know, but i feel guilty because she does trust me, but the whole reason i dont wanna tell her, not so im not the bad guy or not so she dont leave me, but because it will hurt her, and i really do love her so thats the last thing i want to do. overall im not a cheater, i was really drunk and would never have done it sober. should i tell her??

TELL HER. keeping things away from her is one of the worst things you can do..and she deserves to know..yes it is going to hurt her but if you apologize and make sure she knows you love her things might be okay..but seriously you need to tell her because relationships need honesty and trust and if she did eventually find out by somebody ELSE, which could very easily happen, she'd be even more hurt then if you had told her because she had to hear it from someone else. so i think you should tell her and let her know that you were drunk and unaware and you would NEVER do that again.

Q: My bff taylor had a HARD life. everytime she'd say something bad about her life i feel kinda whimpy because i start to complain about my life but i really dont have a horrible life. how can i relate to her?

complaining about your life may actually make her feel worse,because she wants to hear positive things, ya know? it's not necessary to relate to her completely..sometimes all that you need to do is listen and tell her that youll always be there when she needs someone. just try putting yourself in her shoes and then it may be easier to know the right things to say. just encourage her that for every painful experience there are a million amazing experiences to make up for it, and that everything will be okay in the end. complimenting her will also help her feel better. just support her and always listen. sometimes thats all a girl needs.

Q: how would i stand up for myself if it happened again?

ah sorry i didnt respond quicker..i havent been on advicenators in a while! well,if he says something like that again you could stand up for yourself by saying something like "when you say stuff like that it kinda hurts my feelings cause i like you.. so do you think you could be careful to not say things about other girls being hot when youre around me?"or simply"why would i wanna hear that another girl is hot? i like you, remember?" it may be tough to get out..but standing up for yourself will make you feel SO MUCH better! let me know how things are going with yall

Q:

ok so there is this guy i really like, and he really likes me. we spend hours on the phone every night and i can tell we both really like each other. today he found out i was friends w/ this girl and was like OMG YOU KNOW HER? YOU TALK TO HER? SHE IS SO HOT! AHH OMG! and so on. it really hurt my feelings and i don't understand why a guy would say that to a girl he likes/is interested in. can someone explain this to me? i wouldn't want to talk about a hot guy to him. i just dont get why he did that

i understand completely..don't worry..it was either a simple mistake and he wasn't thinking about what he was saying..or he's trying to see how much you really like him so he said something like that because he was wondering if you'd get jealous..personally i think its very rude but don't let it get to you..its YOU that he likes alot and not your friend..if he does it again stand up for yourself though! i hope everything goes well with him.

Q: 14/m

ok so my girlfriend and i have been going out for a couple months and i don't know what to get her for valentine's day. i don't have much cash so it can't be too expensive.

also, don't suggest burning a cd. i did that for her for christmas, and i don't want to look repetitive.

thanks

i think taking her somewhere romantic would be really good..like maybe a park or somewhere..and giving her something creative that you made that maybe is an inside joke between both of you..or a collage of pictures of you or a card expressing how you feel..things that come from the heart mean much more and also taking her somewhere and just cuddling always makes a girl feel good!

Q:
I just found out that my current boyfriend has eaten girls out before. He's done almost everything but have sex with a girl. I, on the other hand, haven't done anything. This creates kind of an uncomfortable situation. He knows that things have happened to me in the past to make me not want to do these things, and he also told me I didnt have to do anything I don't want to. But, I would like to do some things, just not.. a lot of them.

Ohk, so apparently to him, girls dont give good handjobs unless their experienced, Im obviously not experienced and he knows that, but, I dont know, thats one thing I would consider doing if I didnt know he thought girls without experience were bad at it.

Also, (sorry I know this is long) how can I become more comfortable with myself and my body?
Thank you so much!

Okay..never do ANYTHING you are not completely comfortable with or do not want to do..sexual things are actually a negative impact on a relationship sometimes..because your emotional connection is weakened..if things have happened to you in the past to make you not want to do those things..don't do them..your boyfriend obviously likes you alot and if he is a good guy..he will understand and never ever force you to do anything..if he does..then you deserve MUCH better anyways..and as for becoming more comfortable with yourself and your body..guys are not how we think they are..they dont pick apart each flaw of a girl..they look at a girl as a whole and appreciate their beauty and im positive your boyfriend probably thinks youre beautiful in every way..just be confident! confidence shines through a person and its a very good quality..i know sometimes its hard to be completely comfortable but just relax and know that your boyfriend is probably thinkin right now"wow she looks really pretty".focus on the things you like about yourself and don't ever put yourself down..don't think about flaws.. imperfection is beauty anyways..and inner beauty is 100 times more important too..well i hope i helped!

Q: 17/M

This is gonna sound really wierd, but my girlfriend of four years, has arranged for one of our mutual friends, a cute girl our age, to have a threesome this thursday...i dont know what i want to do... i mean, this IS kinda every guys fantasy, but i dont know if its RIGHT...you know? should i go ahead with it? i know my girlfriends not bi, and that shes probably doing it for me, but she seems so enthusiastic about it, and so does the other girl...and even if i go ahead with it, if the other girl is doing stuff to me, is it okay to show that i like it? would that make my girlfriend jealous? im just looking to try and enjoy this (i do WANT to do it) and not offend anybody i can...i love my girlfriend with all my heart, and shes the light of my life, i dont want to hurt her...ANYTHING you have to say will be helpfull...thanks...by the way im looking for girls opinions too...

in my opinion, it would ruin the relationship. definetely talk to her about it and find out the real reasons she suggested it. you seem to love her alot..so i dont think you should go through with it..but that's just my opinion.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of relationship problems lately. All of his family doesn`t want him to be with me. Two days after Christmas he broke up with me, then he felt bad for breaking up with me, so then he got back with me. =]

We decided to start to take things slow, because we were so dependent on each other. Last night I got upset because he didn`t answer his phone and I was worried. I started crying and he broke up with me again, claiming that I made him feel guilty all the time.

So today, we saw each other. He felt bad so we made a pact. We`re dating, but we only see each other on weekends and only talk on the phone two times a day for ten minutes each.

Mutually, we both think that this will be good for our relationship because we`ll be able to spend more time alone. But, do you think it`ll really help? Thank you!

the same thing happened to my ex boyfriend and I, but I was the one who broke up with him then got back together with him because I felt bad..and to be honest..I think alone time will just make things harder because your relationship is already having troubles so communication is really important right now.If both of you care about each other ALOT and want to be with each other no matter what the circumstances, then go for it! But since you got back together because of his guilt(which by the way,doesnt mean he likes you any less) and youre having doubts..you two should talk about it some more and try it out for a while and see how things go. I'm sure everything will be fine!

Q: Im a 14 year old girl. i just recently [about a month ago] tried to commit suicide. but before i could my friend steped in a took my to my school counciler. from there my mom was called in and she was crying.. blah blah. mk well i was fine after that. me and my sister got back on track with each other. about two weeks later i started to cut myslef. in one night i had cut all the way up to my elbow. after that night i stoped. the next day i was happy. i dont get why all of this is happening. i am happy one day then i feel like slicing someone open and i have all this anger. no one ses this side of me. only my family and i am so mean to them its un real. but i hate that after the fact. after screaming my head off and wishing they would die i feel so low; so horrible. i write my feelings down in poems and other ways. i hate when i am in this mood but i dont kno how to ask for help. i tried once and they blew it off like teenage hormons and i let them. now im afride that one night i will have no control and go that extra mile. which i dont want to kill myslef but when i get in that mood i have lost all control and another me is showing... i am never this way with my friends just with my family; when the littlest thing ticks me off. i want so badly to totaly forget my family and leave. let me put it this way; i would rather be put in a mental intitution instead of live in this house. [i dont get betten i just dont conect w/ any family member]
please someone; how can i ask for help without directly asking for it. no one sees me hurting becuase i get this way when i am alone and i feel so emberrsed when i get this way. i dont kno what to do. im so confused.

i think you should tell one of your parents that you really do want help..and that this isn't just hormones..i know it may be hard, but talk to them and make it clear what you're going through..dont be ashamed to directly ask for help..its human nature..everyone needs help and support from others to get through things..when you get angry..try releasing your anger in lots of different ways and surround yourself in positive atmospheres as much as possible..even just alone in your room.youve got your friends and friends are pretty much a second family and i know they all care about you!! so just be brave and talk to one of your parents..and hey by the way..in 4 years you'll be able to move out! dont give up..do whatever it takes..and find strength within yourself because its definetely there!

Q: im 14/f.
i used to get headachs all the time and i couldnt do anything they kept me out for hours. my mom would get so mad when i would ask for advil. i dont kno wyh tho. i hide when i get hurt and i try to handle things on my own becuase she always gets mad. if the hurt was my fault or not. something is worng with me now. not physicl but mental. i dont know how to tell her this and ask for help. i tried once by atempting suicide but my friend stoped me and she blew it off as teenage hormons. now i cut myslef but i cant control it. she doent notice and i dont want to die but when i get in my moods thre's no telling what i will do. how can i show her what i am going threw and ask her to please help me, without her screaming her head off. any hintS?

first of all..cutting will not help you whatsoever..i know it may be hard but if you could just try as hard as you can to stop..thats a step right there.overcoming things will bring you so much happiness and you should never hurt yourself. okay as for your mom..you need to talk to her IMMEDIATELY..tell her that you need her to listen to you and what you're going through is serious..shes not going to yell at you when things are this serious..hopefully she can get you help..just stay strong and remember that lots of people out there care for you! youve got so much life ahead of you! tell her you really want to get help..shes your mom so obviously she loves you and wants to see you be happy and so does everyone else around you! even if the talk starts out rough..keep going..getting help will be the best thing for you for you right now. everythings going to be fine just stay strong..let me know how the talk goes!

Q: theres this kid in my class that constantly gets picked on. i feel so bad for him.. I mean I thought at first he had autism, but my friend said he was just real stupid. Even though he made fun of me once.. really stupidly. then my friend shut him down. but i cant be mean to him! i just think its wrong.. cuz hes a person too. but like nobody else seems to care but me. i mean.. these are the people who do the high school shootings! i dont want to be his friend.. but like.. I dunno. I dont like seeing people get made fun of like that.. I dont even know if he takes it personally.. cause hes really weird... but....... AHH! why am i so nice?

you dont have to be good friends with him..but honestly..you should talk to him ..say something nice to him..make him feel appreciated..even just asking how hes doing and smiling everyday can make a difference!little things would mean alot to him.. i promise you that..WHY ARE PEOPLE SO MEAN?! ugh! next time you see someone being mean to him you should say something to stop them or at least distract them..dont worry about what people think about you!! their opinion means nothing! being nice to him will make you feel really good about yourself also, because unlike the people being mean to him, you made a positive influence in his life. youre caring and thats a very good quality and i think you should always embrace it! by making him feel cared about, you could seriously change his life.. i know that sounds dramatic but i've learned from experience cause a guy i knew was the same way. you have a good heart and thats definetely something to be proud of

Q: Well i need help fitting in at my school. I dont have the kind of popularity like the other kids do. So if you can help me to fit in please help!!!

you know what?fitting in isnt important..standing out and being an individual is so much better! but as for ways to make more friends(and by the way..people who arent popular are MUCH MUCH better friends and wouldnt you rather have people who accept you for who you are?) well basically..just talk! be caring and try to make others feel good, because you feel good in return..and everyone wants to be around someone whos nice. introduce yourself to people,smile often,get to know people and be confident with who you are because confidence is a great quality..popularity isn't something to search for..having amazing friends and being able to be yourself and have fun in any situation will provide you with more happiness than "fitting in" ever will.

Q: my mom and older brother constantly tell me how i was a mistake and how i was the worst one and im only here because the condom broke. my mom even said if there was a chance to save my life, and the 2 dogs life, she'd save the dogs. my brother is constantly calling me names, ugly, etc. and when i was younger he used to hit me when my mom went to work. not like little hits, like punching. now he just verbally abuses me. my real dad isnt in my life, the memory of him is fading in my mind considering i only saw him one time. my stepdad is extremely lazy and is annying. i used to just accept what they said to me, and how my brother hit me but i cant anymore. i fight back-ish. i'd rather have my mom hit me than talk to me like that. i kinda edge her on to. such as her: "dont get that attitude with me, i'll back hand you across the face." so i just say "do it". she has a couple times.

everytime i hear my friends talking about how mean they're parents are by calling her "weird", but she really is weird. so im thinking "shut up." or "ohh. howww horrible" and its annoying.

after my mom usually says mean things to me and same with my brother i got in my room and cry secretly and listen to music. then like i think about everything and my wrists feel extremely weird like they are screaming "CUT ME" but i dont. i usually hurt myself some other way to release everything, but something that doesnt scar, like scratching, hitting myself, i just cant help it.

is it bad/mean how i cant stand my mom, and brother? and is it like bad for me to hurt myself other ways to relieve everything?

i cant talk to my mom about it, i dont talk to her at all about anything. same with the rest of my family. and its not like im a horrible person. my family doesnt really even know me, like at all besides facts like birthday, etc. and i get really good grades and try my hardest, im not doing drugs or anything or even in a bad crowd.

i mean like, do u blame me?

sry it was long, ANYTHING could help.

i dont blame you for not being able to stand them...but you know what? you know for a fact that NONE of the stuff they tell you is true!youre here for a reason and mean alot to many people so when your brother or mom say those things,stand up for yourself! they have no right to treat you that way but if you stay strong and find ways to release your frustrations in ways besides hurting yourself, i promise it will be alot easier on you. try out some things that release your feelings and if any of them help,stick to that! hurting yourself may seem like an answer..but its NOT because you are so much better than that than to do that to yourself..if you show them that youre confident and able to be happy..youll feel amazing..and when you turn old enough to move out..youll be ready to face anything..just go to your friends whenever you need advice because friends are always there for you and never wanna see you down..everythings gonna be okay i promise..just keep your confidence and find a new release..do things that make you happy and no matter what they tell you..NEVER BELIEVE IT
i hope i helped

Q: i broke up with my boyfriend but i think he wants us to be bf and gf again and my friends think i still like him and the days go by and i get stupid and go back together with him i dont know what to do can someone help me please

who cares what your friends think..do you stil like him?? if you still like him alot and are completely sure you want to be in a relationship with him then give him another chance..DO NOT get back with him just because he wants to and you dont wanna hurt him..trust me i did that once and i regretted it..if you still like and want to be with him again then listen to what your hearts telling you and just go for it.

Q: ohk. i have this thing where when a guy goes into kiss me i pull away. its not that i want to pull away i just do. i have madeout before but im afraide to make out again. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. does anybody have any idea how i can get over this hump. i just met this amazing guy but i dont want to disapoint him in any way but i dont know if i can get over this hump. please someone help me. give me some hints as so i dont pull away next time he goes into kiss me..

dont be afraid!! its very easy especially the more you do it..just slide your tongue in his mouth and move it around on his..hes not gonna judge you on how good you are cause every guy likes to makeout..if he likes you, he wont be disappointed no matter what..itll be the opposite! a kiss is a great way to connect with a person so just be confident in yourself and when he leans into kiss you go for it..i promise you wont regret it and obviously he won't either.

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hey all you pretty people out there.my names susan but i love to spell it Soozin..im passionate about helping people and making people laugh and just being weird..i believe that anybody has the power to change the world and love really is all we need. ask me anything you want i love this site its kickass!