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Doubts about a threesome
17/M
This is gonna sound really wierd, but my girlfriend of four years, has arranged for one of our mutual friends, a cute girl our age, to have a threesome this thursday...i dont know what i want to do... i mean, this IS kinda every guys fantasy, but i dont know if its RIGHT...you know? should i go ahead with it? i know my girlfriends not bi, and that shes probably doing it for me, but she seems so enthusiastic about it, and so does the other girl...and even if i go ahead with it, if the other girl is doing stuff to me, is it okay to show that i like it? would that make my girlfriend jealous? im just looking to try and enjoy this (i do WANT to do it) and not offend anybody i can...i love my girlfriend with all my heart, and shes the light of my life, i dont want to hurt her...ANYTHING you have to say will be helpfull...thanks...by the way im looking for girls opinions too...
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Just about any girl would get jealous. What I think you should do is to sit down and talk with her. Make up a compromise. You want to be loyal to her, but you want to like her idea as well. Tell her that you don't mind watching her with another girl at all [unless of course you do mind], but that because of your love for her, you want to be faithful to her and not do anything with the other girl. There are ways it can work out, such as your girlfriend doing stuff with you while the other girl does things with your girlfriend, ect. You'll figure out something.
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okay if you wanna do it and your girlfriend wants too then thats fine but I think before you do you should sit down and have a talk with her first just be sure she is doing it cause she wants to do it as if she doesnt then u guys could end up in splits ville. If you do go through with it then obv ure girlfriend will want you too enjoy it but just make sure you spend more time with her than her friend so she nos that she is youre no1.
This is the only advice I can give you and also gd luk
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Believe it or not your story doesn't sound weird [at least not to me :)] Just so you know - I am female and i am also bisexual.
I have been in this situation with my boyfriend and a mutual female friend of ours. I know that previously (a long time ago) my boyfriend had a mild crush on this mate of ours (she is straight) so i got her to agree to a threesome - an idea we were both eager to try out for a laugh. My boyfriend was eager too though he expressed these same concerns to me in confidence. It is natural to feel that by doing things with another girl you are going to hurt your girlfriend or make her jelous..talk to her on her own, tell her exactly how you feel and all of your concerns - leave nothing out! I am sure that after expressing these feelings to her you will both be able to make a mature decision on whether or not to go ahead with the arrangement. Even if you just decide on some boundries to the threesome at least everyone will know where they stand and what is and is not acceptable.
I hope i have helped!
Please write back if you need further advice, or if my advice has helped in any way!
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in my opinion, it would ruin the relationship. definetely talk to her about it and find out the real reasons she suggested it. you seem to love her alot..so i dont think you should go through with it..but that's just my opinion.
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It's difficult to tell what your girlfriend and this girl's reasons for even suggesting doing this are. I would proceed with caution there as something does not sound right about that and about everything.
Think about it for a moment how many people do you know of with girlfriends who have a friend that they would even mention the idea to let alone someone who wants to do it? Is there any chance both of them could be having you on to prove something about your character and what you would actually would do and or think about such sexual matters?
If this makes you feel really weird or unsure of things do not proceed with it and tell them that it's not something you want to do and not to reintroduce the idea ever again.
Going through with it can split up relationships and lead to major problems there. As far as I'm concerned you ought to stay a one woman man and make sure that neither you or your girlfriend associate with this other female. She might have a hidden agenda by trying to do this. Bottom line: Don't, in my opinion proceed.
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I think that maybe you need to talk to your girlfriend. Ask her what she's comfortable with. Set down some rules, you know? Both of you should voice your concerns to eachother and let eachother know what's comfortable for the both of you. She probably is doing this because she loves you, but she also is enthusiastic about it because she wants to experiment with you. That's a good thing. It doesn't mean that a girl has to be bi to do that sort of thing. Me and my fiance are doing the same thing. We laid out some rules of what we felt would be right and what would be wrong during a threesome. He looks for a girl for us and I look for a guy. We do this because we love eachother and are comfortable enough to want to try this. If your girlfriend is comfortable with a threesome then she loves you very much and yes it is ok to show that you enjoy it. That's the whole point! Good luck and let me know what happens!
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well, your girlfriend could be bi or just curious, you can't just assume, but that doesn't have anything to do with how much she loves yo. I think you should have a serious conversation with her.
Tell her everything you just said, that she's the only one you want to be with. If she is doing this just because she thinks you'd like it, then she will be so happy to know that all you need is her. But there isn't much more you can do without finding out whats behind this decision of hers. If it turns out she's just in the mood to do something crazy and spontaneous then go along with it, don't hold back when ur with the other girl, just make sure you show your girlfriend as much or more attention.
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