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me and my friend Vanessa are really close(yes same friend from last question)but....things are slipping.Im becoming popular, hanging out with new,mature people, and she well isnt.I want her to fit in with my new friends but,whenever she does she makes a fool out of her self what do i do?Im not gunna ditch her, but i am gunna stay friends with the populars, cause theyre really nice to me!
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no one ever said that you could have two kinds of friends, make time for both of them and spend time with both of them! you can never have to many friends, but it is mportant to treat all of them right.
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Popularity has no comparison with friendship i think what the easiest thing you should do is accept her for who she truly is and still can be friends with the populars
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popularity should have absolutely nothing to do with a friendship. if youre a true friend, you should accept her for who she is and always stay her friend no matter what. in reality, popularity is just a waste of time. having true friends and true happiness is billions times better.
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the people i look up to and like the most are the ones who talk to and chill with all kinds of people..not the same people and not the ppl who isolate themselves to oone group. the diverse people who are friendly to all kinds of people are the people who seem to be least hated. so continue to be this girls friend..and also persue new relationships. a good balance is the best idea
:) -melissa
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that's really nice of you to continue to try to be her friend despite her differences. but if she's not cool, you might wanna consider just keeping your space with her a little bit. i mean, it's not like everyone gets to hang out with cool, popular people everyday.
she might just not get it... like the concept of "pop people" so maybe you wanna try talking to her? like "hey me and some girls are hanging out later today. wanna come?" try to include her once in a while. it's doubtful that the popuular people will last forever without saying something mean about her.
in the end, if things are really getting rough with your other friend and the popular people, decide who you'd rather have [ or neither if they're both being immature! ]
i hope i helped. and remember, hang with people who treat you right, respect you for who you are and what you look like, and won't judge you. that's what friends are for, popular or not.
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Hmm.. maybe you could have a variety set of friends.
Don't ditch her. Maybe you could try and talk to her.. reason things out.. you know youve been acting a little odd around my friends.. could you possibly try to tone it down..
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Still have her as a friend but she doesnt have to hang out with your other friends.
Maybe the two of you could possibly find a group of your guys own. So she can fit somehow.. and you can too.
If she doesn't calm down to your standards then possibly hang out with her friends and still be friends with your other group..
But still hang out with your friends (the popular one's.. if that makes you happy)
Possibly have more than one type of social group
(like a variety of friends.. thats always fun)
Hope that made a little sense...
X3 Liz and i hoped that helped a bit
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Hm, try having a big outing (movies, bowling, sleepover) and invite vanessa and your new friends, and then play games so they can get to know her too, so then she can't make a fool of herself. Or, try having your new popular friends make her feel more welcomed.
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